What Should I Expect from a Provider on a Multi-Day Hire?

[FaustOust]

If hiring someone for multiple days for travel, what should I expect in terms of time spent together, frequency of sex, etc.?  Is it too much to ask him to be helpful in assisting with plans, baggage, or activities? Should we spend every moment together? How can I be assured that his attention during that time is only focused on me?  I appreciate suggestions from both the provider and client perspectives. 

[wanderlust307]

Just one fundamental piece of advice: Meet him first.

[rvwnsd]

7 hours ago, wanderlust307 said:

Just one fundamental piece of advice: Meet him first.

If there was a way to auto-respond to topics about overnights and multi-day sessions, this would be the auto-response.

[FaustOust]

26 minutes ago, rvwnsd said:

If there was a way to auto-respond to topics about overnights and multi-day sessions, this would be the auto-response.

This is not our first meeting at all but would certainly be the longest.  There has been much discussion here about overnights, which we have done, however I am asking about more detailed provider and client experiences over a longer period of time.  

[pubic_assistance]

36 minutes ago, FaustOust said:

There has been much discussion here about overnights, which we have done, however I am asking about more detailed provider and client experiences over a longer period of time.  

I think the overarching principle is that everyone agrees on is that you need to provide some down-time for your friend to be "off the clock".

Yes. You're paying him to be attentive, but you're hiring a human, not a robot. We all need time to decompress and disengage from others.

All the rest should obviously be discussed up front so there are no feelings of your expectations being dashed. But communicate what you would LIKE, not what you EXPECT.  Let your friend have some input about his limits.

[56harrisond]

Some previous discussions 

 

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

6 hours ago, FaustOust said:

This is not our first meeting at all but would certainly be the longest.  There has been much discussion here about overnights, which we have done, however I am asking about more detailed provider and client experiences over a longer period of time.  

Careful. When you spend more time with someone, you might notice personality traits and habits you don't like, which flows both ways.

Give a lot of space, take a lot of space. Set rough times when sexual activities are on the menu. And don't expect to spend every second with him. You won't like it either.

[+ ThroatCummer]

As someone who has travelled out of the country with a few guys and had it go really well, here's some questions you need to discuss before you go anywhere: 

1. What time do you normally wake up and go to sleep? Are you a morning person or night-owl?

2. When do you generally like to go to the gym, mornings, mid-day, afternoon?

3. Do you eat three square meals a day or just one huge one and when is that?

4. What interests you about [travel destination]? Is there something you want to do there? 

5. Should I take the lead on making all the plans or do you want to be a part of it? 

6. Do you have a contact in case anything bad happens to you? (This is crazy important; I went to a really disconnected mostly third world country with one of my guys -- a place where if he was put in the hospital I couldn't even make a phone call without making it a huge issue)

 

Those are just some to get you started. There's more, but it's a good base. 

[wanderlust307]

Guys I envy you. Envy in a good way, because you can spend so much time together with someone. My attention span is minutes. My upper cap of companionship is a couple of hours. To sleep with someone, is like marriage. 

I cannot see myself glued with someone for days and even worse pay for it. 

Edited August 21, 2024 by wanderlust307

[desertguy1954]

The important part is to talk about the expectations you have in hiring him, especially about what you want sexually.  Find out his interests how they match with yours.  Also, find out how much time he needs during the day to check on emails and texts.  

I have hired only twice and it was the same person.  First time was an overnight and it was fantastic and the second time was for three days.  I picked a place that I wanted to go and also that he had never been.  The second time was better than the first.  

I would hire him again if I ever get the chance.  The name of this great guy was Tyger.

[Thelatin]

Having done this many times.  My suggestion is to not do it.  Book yourself a nice place, and do multiple hires.   You will only get hurt. 

[KrisParr]

Many years ago, after coming into some unexpected $$, I treated myself and a provider to a week at a resort. I’d known him quite a long time and we were very compatible. He suggested the game plan and it worked beautifully. 

• Separate but adjoining rooms
• Breakfast together for about an hour
• Then we went our separate ways during the day
• Reconnected around 8 pm each night for dinner/show/entertainment; took turns selecting the restaurant 
• Hooked up each night before bed
• A couple of days we did a little shopping and sight seeing for a short while
• Absolutely the best time, ever

Indeed, the key is plenty of space for you and him. Yeah, it cost a bundle, but I’d do it again without question.

[Thelatin]

I’ll take my reply back somewhat - I am doing it but with a guy who is bringing his boyfriend.  We did this last year and it worked out great.  And no confusion about being in some sort of “relationship”.

We actually spent all day every day together and it was very chill.  Doing a 7 day trip next month.