Looking to spank in NYC

[Eddie Morales]

I asked this a while back, but who in NYC doesn't mind their ass turning nice and red? Thanks!

[Eddie Morales]

Is it too early to bump this?

[Eddie Morales]

Anyone?

[Eddie Morales]

No one else looking to spank?

[+ KensingtonHomo]

If you look for escorts who are into S/M, you’ll find a few. I’m not a spanker but I’ve seen a few into it. 

[Your Man in Arlington]

I think this is tough ask. Back in the day (30 or so years ago) when I was a provider, I took a job that involved getting spanked. The client was so genuinely messed up and genuinely sadistic, that I swore I would never take a job like that again.

I would think/hope that providers will want to have a conversation—more than do you mind getting your ass turned red—before taking a job that could quickly pivot from a known, consensual scene to one that leaves visible physical damage and/or devolves into emotional abuse.

That said, there are 68 profiles on RM in NYC with position "Bottom" and "Spanking" listed as what they are into; or 8 profiles with the keyword "sub" and are into "Spanking". I would start a conversation with those providers about exactly what I'm looking for.

[Bokomaru]

31 minutes ago, Your Man in Arlington said:

The client was so genuinely messed up and genuinely sadistic, that I swore I would never take a job like that again.

I’m really sorry that this happened to you. Limits can take a tremendous amount of discussion and hiring does not usually involve extensive communication. 

I would like to point out that “genuinely sadistic” is not really a problem if both parties are in agreement about what could happen. I am genuinely sadistic, however, I wouldn’t think of hiring someone for an SM scene that would mark the bottom.  I agree, (anything more than playful) spanking is a big ask. 

 

[Your Man in Arlington]

9 minutes ago, Bokomaru said:

I’m really sorry that this happened to you. Limits can take a tremendous amount of discussion and hiring does not usually involve extensive communication. 

I would like to point out that “genuinely sadistic” is not really a problem if both parties are in agreement about what could happen. I am genuinely sadistic, however, I wouldn’t think of hiring someone for an SM scene that would mark the bottom.  I agree, (anything more than playful) spanking is a big ask. 

 

Thank you! My intention was not to kink shame, and a poor choice of words on my part.

My meaning was that my client's intention was to not respect my explicit boundaries, and violating those boundaries was really what he was looking for when engaging me, on top of not fully communicating the scene he was aiming to create. You seem smart, experienced, and aware that these scenarios require a good understanding as to what will happen and both parties to stick to that. Many clients are not that self-aware, and I think there's a greater risk for providers in these sorts of jobs when being hired as a sub.

Still, best of luck to the OP!

[BaronArtz]

4 hours ago, Your Man in Arlington said:

I think this is tough ask. Back in the day (30 or so years ago) when I was a provider, I took a job that involved getting spanked. The client was so genuinely messed up and genuinely sadistic, that I swore I would never take a job like that again.

 

I am sorry to read this happened to you.

Very often clients forget that escorts are real people with real feelings.  I hope you found your inner peace after that experience.

[Guest]

I mean, I've been a part of scenes like this, feel free to shoot me a RM message or dm sometime

[Your Man in Arlington]

On 6/3/2024 at 2:36 AM, BaronArtz said:

I am sorry to read this happened to you.

Very often clients forget that escorts are real people with real feelings.  I hope you found your inner peace after that experience.

Thank you! Fortunately, I didn't was able to reflect on it, not take it personally, and turned it into learning experience moving forward.

[DznNYC]

On 6/1/2024 at 1:25 AM, Eddie Morales said:

I asked this a while back, but who in NYC doesn't mind their ass turning nice and red? Thanks!

I've done some S&M sub work, including impact play, and it's been a really hot time.  I've only ever had good experiences doing it!

[handiacefailure]

Try boicalvin in NYC if you like asian Twunks.   He is really into a lot of kinks and has spanked me hard both times I met him and told me he likes to receive it just as hard   

[MikeThomas]

Bump

[DznNYC]

It's funny on this kink...  I see it listed on a LOT of guys profiles, including my own.  Few things make me feel as submissive as a spanking scene.  And am definitely not afraid to be reddened and bruised.

But it's been a VERY long time since I've had any inquiries about it in either direction.  Seems it's a very mainstream common kink on Recon, but not on RentMen. 

Am I wrong?  Are there spanking top clients out there? 

[Bokomaru]

The problem with engaging on Rentmen for something like this is that it’s difficult to negotiate the terms of the scene. Consent can get blurred since there’s a transactional element. This is one of those scenarios where you want the provider to actually be into it, not just putting on a show for the client. Otherwise it would be quite easy to cross the line. 
I strongly prefer to keep my dom activities as less complicated hook ups, non-paid. 

[+ nycman]

21 hours ago, DznNYC said:

Are there spanking top clients out there? 

You rang?

As a rule, I pretty much never involve spanking on first meeting someone. Even though I tend to have a dominant sexuality, I’m very sensitive about stepping over someone else’s boundaries. It takes a lot of time and trust for me to open up my more aggressive side. There are a handful of guys out there who are just naturally submissive. If I get a whiff of that on the first hire, I quickly ask if they’d be open to a more intense experience in the future. Some are. Some are not. For me it’s cool either way, there’s more to sex than Dom/Sub play. 

[Chilltime]

I agree with that.  I also have a very dominant personality and I prefer to hire for more vanilla sessions.  I never quite understand the consent matrix with cash involved.  It is easier to scratch that itch without cash. 

[MikeThomas]

For first hires I tend towards more vanilla scenes (still a fun time).  If the meet goes well and we are enjoying each other’s company and chatting away, that’s when I bring up the idea of future kinkier play.