Overnight with an escort

[savantsav]

17 minutes ago, 56harrisond said:

You had one short overnight session, what did he do the other days when he wasn't with you?

We had a 3hr session on Thursday, we didn't meet Friday, then had the overnight Saturday, we saw each other Sunday evening as the "make up" for and he checked out Monday. I paid for Thursday-Monday Hotel. He did agree on meeting me a couple of hours earlier on Saturday as pay from the room.

16 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

I really think you’re right to pause and reflect here. To be blunt, it does feel like there was some taking advantage and definitely a lack of appreciation. You flew him business class, put him up in a Beverly Hills suite for four days, that’s not just generous, that’s extraordinary. Was there ever a conversation about whether you’d see him during the rest of that trip? Because my guess is he structured those extra days at your expense so he could line up other clients. That’s a hard pill to swallow when you were the one footing the bill.

What really strikes me is the level of care you showed: the airfare, the accommodations, the effort. That’s the kind of generosity that deserves to be matched with attentiveness, effort, and respect on his part. Instead, you got a dismissive comment in the morning and a make-up session only after you voiced disappointment. Honestly, the follow-up was the bare minimum given what you invested.

I’ve seen guys give so much more for a lot less. Communication is absolutely key going forward, but the bigger point here is you have every right to expect not just the physical time, but the energy, attentiveness, and appreciation that reflects what you put in. Anything less is just taking.

Yes, we met on Thursday for a 3hr session (1450) then Saturday for the overnight (4k) and Sunday eve after I told him I was disappointed. I paid the tix and hotel for Thurs-Monday so he was free to see other clients Friday and Saturday/Sunday during the day. I know it's the business so I don't care if he's seeing other clients as long as he makes it up to me but still felt disconnected. 

Here's the exchange we had after the overnight over text after he asked me if I was OK:

Me: "Hey! Personally yes of course. I had a great time last night for sure the dinner and our time together after was amazing ♥️. I did feel bummed that I had some expectations that didn’t get to happen, I mentioned I wanted to sleep with a load in me and you had said yes and I also thought we would have some play in the morning as well even after adding a couple of more hours but you said you were not a horny morning person and that’s OK. For me is just now adjusting my expectations you know? Probably we would just have 3-4hr evening sessions and not do overnights as it’s a double rate."

He said: "Ok, I’m sorry, I do understand the way that you feel. I do want you to know that I always want to get off but it’s not always possible. I couldn’t even stay hard after the pain from the blue balls was setting in and as you know if it doesn’t happen, I can’t force it. 
As for the morning sex, I apologize but I feel like I’ve mentioned it a lot that I’m not a morning person in any capacity. I do feel very bad that you aren’t happy overall with how things went and it makes me feel like I’ve not given you what you’ve asked of me. Particularly understanding we’ve been trying to perfect this time together as much as possible. I think that might have gotten in the way. Everything isn’t going to always be perfect, which is why I’m willing to ask, listen and work towards it being better for next time. 
If you feel like I’ve slighted you in any way, we can spend a bit of time together later too. I just don’t wake up ready to rock and roll. I figured with the concept of you wanting boyfriend time in the morning would be us just waking up together kissing cuddling and then having breakfast etc. like we mentioned previously. Truly, and genuinely, I enjoyed our time together more than you know. I’d hate to have you feel this way after how much effort we’ve both put into our connection"

There's more but this is the gist. I was already telling him that it would make no sense for us to continue doing overnights if that was going to be the plan and I had expected things he didn't deliver. Yes, I'm aware there are guys out there that will do much more for way less but TBH I've searched in Los Angeles of all places and I've yet to find someone high quality to have this with, 90% of the guys in here are on onlyfans, insta thirst traps, porn and I want something with someone a bit more discreet.

 

[BoyGeorgeandMarilyn]

On 2/28/2025 at 2:56 PM, cany10011 said:

One of my best overnights was a Russian guy I met in Stockholm. He woke up before me, rinsed in the shower and gave me a wonderful morning "send off" instinctively... I didn't even know to ask for it, but he just did it. He's wonderful and I met up with him again last year in Warsaw. 

Who is he?

[BenjaminNYC]

Yes, inquiring minds want to know!

[cany10011]

1 hour ago, BoyGeorgeandMarilyn said:

Who is he?

He's someone I met on Planet Romeo when I was on a Baltic Cruise. I don't think he's online anymore as he's working at a real job these days. 

[+ ApexNomad]

2 hours ago, savantsav said:

We had a 3hr session on Thursday, we didn't meet Friday, then had the overnight Saturday, we saw each other Sunday evening as the "make up" for and he checked out Monday. I paid for Thursday-Monday Hotel. He did agree on meeting me a couple of hours earlier on Saturday as pay from the room.

Yes, we met on Thursday for a 3hr session (1450) then Saturday for the overnight (4k) and Sunday eve after I told him I was disappointed. I paid the tix and hotel for Thurs-Monday so he was free to see other clients Friday and Saturday/Sunday during the day. I know it's the business so I don't care if he's seeing other clients as long as he makes it up to me but still felt disconnected. 

Here's the exchange we had after the overnight over text after he asked me if I was OK:

Me: "Hey! Personally yes of course. I had a great time last night for sure the dinner and our time together after was amazing ♥️. I did feel bummed that I had some expectations that didn’t get to happen, I mentioned I wanted to sleep with a load in me and you had said yes and I also thought we would have some play in the morning as well even after adding a couple of more hours but you said you were not a horny morning person and that’s OK. For me is just now adjusting my expectations you know? Probably we would just have 3-4hr evening sessions and not do overnights as it’s a double rate."

He said: "Ok, I’m sorry, I do understand the way that you feel. I do want you to know that I always want to get off but it’s not always possible. I couldn’t even stay hard after the pain from the blue balls was setting in and as you know if it doesn’t happen, I can’t force it. 
As for the morning sex, I apologize but I feel like I’ve mentioned it a lot that I’m not a morning person in any capacity. I do feel very bad that you aren’t happy overall with how things went and it makes me feel like I’ve not given you what you’ve asked of me. Particularly understanding we’ve been trying to perfect this time together as much as possible. I think that might have gotten in the way. Everything isn’t going to always be perfect, which is why I’m willing to ask, listen and work towards it being better for next time. 
If you feel like I’ve slighted you in any way, we can spend a bit of time together later too. I just don’t wake up ready to rock and roll. I figured with the concept of you wanting boyfriend time in the morning would be us just waking up together kissing cuddling and then having breakfast etc. like we mentioned previously. Truly, and genuinely, I enjoyed our time together more than you know. I’d hate to have you feel this way after how much effort we’ve both put into our connection"

There's more but this is the gist. I was already telling him that it would make no sense for us to continue doing overnights if that was going to be the plan and I had expected things he didn't deliver. Yes, I'm aware there are guys out there that will do much more for way less but TBH I've searched in Los Angeles of all places and I've yet to find someone high quality to have this with, 90% of the guys in here are on onlyfans, insta thirst traps, porn and I want something with someone a bit more discreet.

 

At the end of the day, if you’re comfortable paying out and settling for that, that’s your choice. But from the outside looking in, you deserve a lot more for what you’re putting in. Gratitude and attentiveness don’t cost a dime, and they should never feel like too much to expect.

The provider sounds very careful with his words, apologetic on the surface, but always spinning it just enough so the blame shifts back to you “adjusting your expectations” instead of him stepping up. That’s not appreciation, that’s deflection. You’re a top paying client at this point! Not a 2 hour appointment. This is a different level. I’ve done many of these to know.

For the level of generosity you showed: business class flights, a Beverly Hills suite, and top dollar rates, the bare minimum should’ve been making you feel valued from start to finish with no excuses. 

I don’t know what you communicated beyond what you’ve shared here, but honestly, the whole exchange feels off. If you felt that high connection in New York, I understand wanting to chase it, but looking at what you invested versus what you got back, it’s clear he’s the one who came out ahead.

[savantsav]

23 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

At the end of the day, if you’re comfortable paying out and settling for that, that’s your choice. But from the outside looking in, you deserve a lot more for what you’re putting in. Gratitude and attentiveness don’t cost a dime, and they should never feel like too much to expect.

The provider sounds very careful with his words, apologetic on the surface, but always spinning it just enough so the blame shifts back to you “adjusting your expectations” instead of him stepping up. That’s not appreciation, that’s deflection. You’re a top paying client at this point! Not a 2 hour appointment. This is a different level. I’ve done many of these to know.

For the level of generosity you showed: business class flights, a Beverly Hills suite, and top dollar rates, the bare minimum should’ve been making you feel valued from start to finish with no excuses. 

I don’t know what you communicated beyond what you’ve shared here, but honestly, the whole exchange feels off. If you felt that high connection in New York, I understand wanting to chase it, but looking at what you invested versus what you got back, it’s clear he’s the one who came out ahead.

Thank you for your words and reassuring me about this. Do you mind if I DM you for some advice? I don't want to make it all public but could appreciate some advice.

[+ ApexNomad]

10 minutes ago, savantsav said:

Thank you for your words and reassuring me about this. Do you mind if I DM you for some advice? I don't want to make it all public but could appreciate some advice.

Absolutely!