"Chit Chat" Regarding Provider/ Client Action

[ICTJOCK]

So I work with out of state clients   (both when I am  "out of state"  and locally for those that travel to my locale and like most providers,   have a contingent  of "regulars"  that are more local and are repeat clients.   Some of the local clients know me in more detail and because of that familiarity,  tend to "chat chat"  about service  to other clients they may know that book me.

Now let me say,  I don't talk about other clients,  what I do with them and tend to be rather abrupt about the topic,  usually responding that,   "I don't talk about anybody,  their business or what I do",   usually pointing out that what "we"  do  isn't discussed in any way.

A client had asked me about my views regarding a friend of his who had also booked me.   The gentleman has a lot of tattoos and is quite well endowed.   I didn't give my opinion on either and changed the subject after explaining why.    The client wasn't upset.

To ignore that philosophy  is to invite a hornet's next and to behave unprofessionally.      

Thoughts?

[+ azdr0710]

the rules about discretion have been well-established here in the forum for years........I'm sure your longtime regulars feel they know you well by now and are very comfortable chit-chatting with you in a much more open and friendly way, but your continuing to be professional and not talking about others is, of course, the way to go.......

I'm certain there are other providers (and clients!), even very well-known and respected ones here in the forum (!), who DO, in fact, chit-chat with their trusty regulars about other providers and clients, but that's a decision they make........probably not a surprise......

thanks for your discretion! 

[Luv2play]

I tend to be a chatty person and that extends to my encounters with escorts. However since I see multiple providers in a year I have always found it best not to discuss my time with one with another unless I am arranging a threesome. Then it is necessary to make sure we will all be compatible. 
 

That being said, I won’t get into subjects which are not germane to what we have planned. So if one provider has told me things about his private life, I don’t share that with the other provider even if we all going to play together. 
 

I have even kept to myself a provider’s real name from another in a threesome situation and used his professional name in the presence of the other provider. This takes some work to keep focused on not slipping up. 
 

One area where a provider may talk about another is in regard to drug usage. I don’t like being around drugs or people when they are using them. So in a few cases a provider has alerted me to someone using them when it wasn’t obvious or apparent in their ads on RM. 

[big-n-tall]

To the OP, I think you're doing the right thing by keeping the conversation professional and not engaging in some ot the talk amongst your clients in common.

In my experience, I have had long term providers tell me a lot of stuff. Things like deeply personal stuff; their dealings with potential and current clients; and their dealings with other escorts. I don't repeat what they tell me to anyone. Inturn, I usually don't go into great detail about my encounters with other providers. Even after specific providers shared all this info about whatever, I resisted doing so for a long time.

The one time I decided to share info, it lead to one provider recounting information inaccurately to another. I believer that ultimately caused a riff between me and one of my long term providers. I mean it wasn't the only thing, but this provider kept bring back up this info even after I told him it was inaccurate. He just never seemed to want to let it go. I think from that point on our working relationship went down hill.

Since then I have gone back into not sharing my encounters with other providers. If I do share any info it's extremely vague and I never share the escorts name. I truly believe, although some providers are genuinely interested in hearing the exploits of their clients, there are also those who get offended or maybe even jealous hearing the info. So it's best to keep that info very surface.

 

Edited February 19 by big-n-tall

[Jamie21]

I never talk about other clients with clients! Strict rule - absolute discretion. I’m fine to discuss other providers who I know, to give my perspective on whether the client would like the guy. I think the general rule I use is that if you can’t say anything nice or positive then don’t say anything atall. 
 

[Simon Suraci]

I chat and share here and there, but nothing that would identify a particular client or compromise their privacy. Sometimes clients ask about what my other clients are like. I give them aggregate, approximate data based on my observations of many. Nothing specific about a single client. I think that’s fine.