What happens when I break my deposit policy:

[+ Pensant]

On 3/18/2023 at 2:23 AM, DWnyc said:

And of course one of the biggest reasons for not paying a deposit is not knowing if the provider will actually show up or deliver. 

That’s happened to me a few times, twice with R/T airfares for which I thankfully secured refunds. I’ve only had a few $50 deposits result in no-shows. 95% of the time I’ve never been asked for a deposit: but, of course, this topic has been discussed ad nauseam, and here I am contributing to it yet again!

[TallMuscl37]

On 3/19/2023 at 5:50 AM, Pensant said:

That’s happened to me a few times, twice with R/T airfares for which I thankfully secured refunds. I’ve only had a few $50 deposits result in no-shows. 95% of the time I’ve never been asked for a deposit: but, of course, this topic has been discussed ad nauseam, and here I am contributing to it yet again!

In your defense, it sounds definitely like a bad batch…but I’ve seen first hand situations where clients have told me about getting burned, and then I see why.

I had to tell one guy who kept having unfortunate luck with guys he was flying in: don’t be flying in escorts you haven’t met yet. I know people do it but, at the end of the day you don’t them and they don’t know you. The was pretty jaded but I’m like: RentMen isn’t as professional as one may think. They aren’t an employer and we don’t have bosses to report to so, each person is going to have their own definition of doing biz. 
 

I don’t let clients fly me in, I go on tour or will plan a visit to a city with a deposit…but providing my own transportation and accommodations. If it’s small market, they’ll be my only client but larger markets I’ll try to stick around and book others. 

Now earlier tonight I did see someone without a deposit: but it was an Outcall and the guy was pretty adamant he didn’t know how to do it (only God knows, right?) In which case, I made an exception.
 

However…most times my intuition steers me in the right direction, and so many people want bookings but don’t want to confirm with deposits. I was watching a news segment earlier about employees and the changing workforce, and someone said, employees don’t want to work the way they used to (before Covid). They want work from home/this and that etc etc.

And I’m feeling the same way. I don’t want to keep doing it like I did back in 2015. My face is there, my nudes is there, my reviews are there, everything is there. For some faceless, anonymous, can’t write in complete sentence fucking guy to tell me “he’s not comfortable” or “Doesn’t do Deposits” Is bullshit. Guys have to learn to approach each provider differently.

Saying someone is a scam or thinking they are a scam because of a deposit, is like me saying a client is likely scam because they want me to host, or want late night, or ask my rates on RentMasseur despite it being displayed. I’m sure most wouldn’t think of that being very nice. So likewise, can’t say someone asking deposits is either.

Edited March 21, 2023 by Jarrod_Uncut

[kingsley88]

i recently watched this interview yesterday of a straight female escort in nyc and she also insists on having a deposit and even asks for a selfie pic with an ID.  Skip to 11:11 to listen to her stating her reasons for requiring a deposit nowadays. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B_Bn_39L6WU

[Guest]

On 3/17/2023 at 1:23 AM, Jarrod_Uncut said:

....If I have to continue to fight this much, I’m just going to stop touring and hosting....

 

I feel a song coming on.

 

[Marc in Calif]

On 3/18/2023 at 8:12 PM, Jarrod_Uncut said:

(where in the Sandhill he came up with this assumption idk)

Sand Hill Road is about 34 miles south of San Francisco.

Now "Sam Hill" is an entirely different story... 😘

[TallMuscl37]

On 3/22/2023 at 9:18 PM, kingsley88 said:

i recently watched this interview yesterday of a straight female escort in nyc and she also insists on having a deposit and even asks for a selfie pic with an ID.  Skip to 11:11 to listen to her stating her reasons for requiring a deposit nowadays. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B_Bn_39L6WU

Good points!

I’m currently in the SoCal area and there’s so many liars and bullshitters. If people didn’t lie and bullshit so much, I wouldn’t have to ask for deposits. But, until that happens…approximately the same time that hell freezes over, I just have to continue.

I had a hot young 21 year old college kid send me a deposit for a booking, over the weekend. At this point: nobody has any excuse. I’m done with excuses. Any excuses means the person just wants to exercise a power trip over me, is likely racist, Flake, fake, or full of shit. 

Edited March 27, 2023 by Jarrod_Uncut