fantasy questions

[jackhammer91406]

I have hired escorts for a couple of years now. I have become good friends with a few and no longer have a professional relationship with them, so I have never brought this up with them.

 

But one thing I haven't done and not sure why, is ask an escort to help me explore the only fantasy I have. Since it involves the escort being loosely tied to a bed, I guess I have been reluctant to bring the subject up and as a result, the fantasy has remained just that, a fantasy, never acted upon. I know that some escorts advertise about "make your fantasy come true" but I always assume that means hire me, I am a hot guy.

 

So for those pros who read and participate, what are the protocols for bringing this subject up. I would guess if I were a new client, there would be a good deal of hesitation on the part of the escort. But the scene I am talking about isn't about pain at all. Lots of licking, nibbling, and even tickling. But still I feel uncomfortable mentioning it. I guess I am still working through some issues. But when I think about this fantasy and imagine the physical type of guy involved, I get so hard, who needs pills?

 

Any thoughts? Please, Save the rants and put downs.

[SAdler]

>Since it

>involves the escort being loosely tied to a bed, I guess I

>have been reluctant to bring the subject up and as a result,

>the fantasy has remained just that, a fantasy, never acted

>upon.

 

How loosely are we talking here. Using sheets? Handcuffs with personal releases, etc.? Being specific when bringing it up is probably the second most important part.

 

>So for those pros who read and participate, what are the

>protocols for bringing this subject up. I would guess if I

>were a new client, there would be a good deal of hesitation on

>the part of the escort.

 

You hit the nail on the head here with the MOST important part. Trust.

 

Unfortunately, in this community clients and escorts alike have given each other reasons not to trust each other. For instance, I require airfare and a portion of payment in advance for new clients when traveling. When they ask if they can really trust me my response is “I have reviews, you don’t.” How they respond from there tells me volumes about them. It can be anything from their lack of trust gives me an indication they’ve been burned in the past or are themselves in a shady business. I can always understand apprehension on the part of a client paying someone in advance. Likewise, they can understand apprehension on the part of the escort when there is a potentially dangerous scenario being proposed to them.

 

If you were a first time client suggesting this I’d probably tell you that I’m not comfortable etc. If you were a second time, third, etc. Who knows. I’ve until recently thought myself a good judge of character but some con-artists are really good at concealing their lives and creating INTRICATE lies to play a game with someone, it’s quite disturbing. In contrast, there are people that once you have become a part of their lives and vice versa that trust is there enough that using some faux handcuffs wouldn’t be a big deal.

 

>But the scene I am talking about

>isn't about pain at all. Lots of licking, nibbling, and even

>tickling.

 

Hmmm….I’d be ok being tied up by someone I was comfortable with…. But the tickling sure as hell aint happening

 

>But still I feel uncomfortable mentioning it. I

>guess I am still working through some issues. But when I

>think about this fantasy and imagine the physical type of guy

>involved, I get so hard, who needs pills?

 

Nothing to be uncomfortable about. Anyone that considers this a deviance is just a sheep of society and criticizing people because they’re not completely comfortable in their own sexuality.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Advise And Consent

 

The best advice I ever got as a young man is the advice I generally repeat to anyone, at any age, who asks me about being an escorts (or, for that matter, coming out). Never do anything that you are not comfortable about. In my own life, this has included turning down clients, turning down weekend hires and other, non-escort related events (or, more precisely, non-events) in my life.

 

Most people, whether they are sex workers or not, would be reluctant to place themselves in a position where they might perceive themselves as highly vulnerable. The young men I knew who regretted doing adult films did not feel remorse over the nudity or taped sexual activity - it was specific acts or specific partners or, perhaps not suprisingly, that an agent or director mislead them about what would or would not happen. To my knowledge, none of these situations involves restraints but would simply add another element in a relationship where trust and consent play a major role in making both parties comfortable and making the experience enjoyable.

 

If you (or anyone else) wished to pursue such a fantasy with an escort, one who has experience in such activities would be a better bet, and providing as much clear, concise information and communication throughout the process would be the best options for success. However, I believe most escorts would decline this, at nearly most any price, with a new client.

[+ deej]

And to think earlier you said I had all the fun.... }(

[jackhammer91406]

heheh,

hey I am trying.

 

I appreciate the responses of Scott and Franco, both of whom I have met. If they say they would refuse (and they know me) then I have little hope.

 

For the record, the restraints were going to be some really ugly old neckties.

 

Anyway, thanks for the responses.

[+ deej]

Well, to be honest they know you but they don't "know" you. If you get my drift.

 

This is a scene that would require a lot of pre-established intimacy and trust. You can't develop that level of intimate trust over a few Hooville dinners.

 

And old neckties? Honey, I have a few tasteful sarongs you can borrow! ;-)

[Rick Munroe]

>If you were a first time client suggesting this I’d probably

>tell you that I’m not comfortable etc. If you were a second

>time, third, etc. Who knows. I’ve until recently thought

>myself a good judge of character but some con-artists are

>really good at concealing their lives and creating INTRICATE

>lies to play a game with someone, it’s quite disturbing.

 

Funny you should say that. I didn't have time to post earlier today but I had planned to write something similar.

 

I've been escorting for 5 years now (yikes! it was only supposed to last a few weeks) and 99% of the experiences I've had have been fun, exciting, and satisfying. However, there is that 1% that were what one would call "horror stories" but I'm actually glad they happened because (a) they were learning experiences, and (b) they'll make great stories someday when I'm sitting with the grandkids (hmmm...I'd better start having kids now...one more thing to add to my to-do list).

 

One of the bad times involved a guy who only wanted me to pose for him (nude) in all sorts of creative poses, while he'd sit in a chair, watching (he never even took his cock out; just rubbed it through his pants). Very easy, very safe, and my ego sure loved it. We did this about 4 times, and then at start of the 5th encounter, he asked if we could do something a little kinkier to keep it interesting for him. Well, by this time, we had established trust so I said, "Sure, whatever you want to see."

 

What he wanted was to handcuff me (ankles and wrists) to his spiral staircase, with my hands above my head. The idea got me hard and I let him do it. Then, minutes later, this mild-mannered man I'd come to know for the past few weeks suddenly started smacking me in the face...backhanded...really hard. At first I was stunned, then I started screaming for help. He got nervous that his neighbors would hear and uncuffed me. I collected my fee and never returned.

 

What did I learn from that experience? If I'm going to be tied up, I want Derek there with me (or at least in the next room, if it's an in-call). Nothing beats having your own bodyguard.

 

I have not, however, allowed that one (and a couple other) bad experiences to stop me from trusting new clients and forming relationships with them. But, it did teach me to never put myself in a position where I could be in danger.

 

Btw, we have had a few other clients who wanted to tie one of us up and tickle us, and it was fun. That was how we discovered that Derek is extremely ticklish and hence, very easily tortured. It is so funny to see this macho top man laughing and begging for mercy. }(

[jackhammer91406]

Thanks for the sarong offer buddy, but those loud prints, well they do nothing to set off my eyes.

 

And one of the escorts I have spent a week with in a strictly social situation, but you're right, time and building trust would be required. or else I have to find a boyfriend.

 

thanks Rick for your reply and sharing your story. Loved the part about Derek being ticklish. }(

[Bilbo]

I seriously think that Rick has the best idea on how to do this, when he talks about having your own bodyguard there. It is the only way that either Maverick or I would be comfortable doing this scene for pay. And, as Franco said, (to paraphrase) if it ain't comfortable, it ain't happening. As we in Body Electric teach, good sex, even BDSM, isn't about endurance.

[Steven_Draker]

Jackhammer,

There are people who are really turned on by being tied up.

You should check some non-escort sites related to bondage. Good luck !

 

Steven Draker ~

http://www.hotsexystud.com/uk

[SAdler]

> I appreciate the responses of Scott and Franco, both of whom

>I have met. If they say they would refuse (and they know me)

>then I have little hope.

 

Pookie. I NEVER said no to YOU, just someone who I wasn't comfortable with. Hell you tried to get me drunk and didn't take advantage

 

>For the record, the restraints were going to be some really

>ugly old neckties.

 

I'll compromise and bring my own silk ones

[N.N.]

Rick Munroe wrote:

 

>I've been escorting for 5 years now (yikes! it was only

>supposed to last a few weeks) and 99% of the experiences I've

>had have been fun, exciting, and satisfying.

 

Escorting must really rock.

 

The friends who I've compared notes with about

unpaid sexual encounters have all reported a

dud rate of decidedly more than 1%. Of course,

they weren't getting the extra thrill of money

handed to them at the end.

[SoCal]

Speaking from experience....knit ties work the best - the little bit of "strechiness" helps! Problem is, who has (or admits to having) any of those around anymore? :-)

[nate_sf]

Could you stand to play out your fantasy in a (semi)-public place? A number of times when I've gone out to sex clubs here in San Francisco I've seen bondage scenes set up. Some of these places are set up for just this kind of thing with dungeons, jail cells, and the like, and the bound guy can know that if something goes wrong there are people nearby. Of course, you'd have to be OK with the possibility of being watched, but some people would find that a bonus!

[jackhammer91406]

.knit ties work the best - the

>little bit of "strechiness" helps! Problem is, who has (or

>admits to having) any of those around anymore? :-)

 

 

Uuh, that would be me. The ties I had planned to use are mostly knit.

[+ deej]

>.knit ties work the best - the

>>little bit of "strechiness" helps! Problem is, who has (or

>>admits to having) any of those around anymore? :-)

>

>

>Uuh, that would be me. The ties I had planned to use are

>mostly knit.

 

Yes, but do you still *wear* them???? }(

[jackhammer91406]

>

>Yes, but do you still *wear* them???? }(

 

 

YOU BASTID!!!}( :+