Client Questionnaire?

[TJM]

I was checking out some escorts in a city I'll be visiting soon and emailed a couple of guys. Both of them sent back the following "Questionnaire." I'm not sure what I think about it. Definitely have mixed feelings:part of me feels like I'm the one being interviewed to be hired...on the other hand, it could help to clarify expectations. Most of this is information I normally talk about anyway. It doesn't seem like either escort is open to talking until they receive the form back. I was just wondering what some of you escorts thought about this practice. Here's the questionnaire:

 

Please answer these quick questions, as it is my process in screening my clients, to make sure I am the right professional companion to fit your needs.

1. Please tell me briefly yourself? (I.e. describe yourself height, weight, work, where you’re from, current location)

 

2. What do you like to get into?

 

3. Have you ever hired a professional escort?

 

4. Why do you choose to hire a professional escort, from my experience in this business most men have various reason I.E. do it for convenience- easier , hobby, don’t go out to clubs, very discreet, fantasy fulfillment, 1st time experience with man to man sex? Tell me your reason?

 

5. If your answer #3 was yes, how has your experience been in hiring professional escorts good or bad? If bad it’s ok to elaborate on what happen in the situation. (Not necessary name the particular escort or escorts involved )

 

6. What is your expectation in session w/ escort, or even with me?

 

7. If interested in pre-booking appointment please list at least 3 possible dates an window of time available, also provide a confirmation telephone number.

[BobbyThompson]

It is unorthodox, but really interesting. The escorts haven't asked any unreasonable questions, and they are likely to come up on their own, anyway. The only thing that would bother me, as a client, would be the question of height/weight and what I do for a living.

 

The escorts are probably just trying to make sure that you two are compatable together. I sort of like that idea (though I won't be implementing it, don't worry.) It doesn't seem like a bad idea to make sure there's this degree of compatability before time and money is wasted.

 

Best of luck. I'd answer them for a lark and see what happens.

[+ deej]

Did I read you right? TWO escorts sent back the same questionnaire?

 

Seems odd, but maybe they're friends. Or maybe there's a "service" involved, or any number of things.

 

I agree with Bobby that it's a good idea to communicate and properly set expectations, I just find the idea of a "standard form" questionnaire a little curious. We are talking about a business where one size does NOT fit all.

[+ Charlie]

This sounds too much like going to see a doctor for the first time. Maybe the professionalization of escorting has gone too far.

[Lookin]

Maybe it's professional, but it doesn't do much for the ol' libido.

[TJM]

These are some of the same thoughts I've had. Yes deej, sent back to me from TWO escorts from the same city, but I don't think an agency is involved...both seem independent and are very well reviewed on HB. Charlie, I agree, the process is rather clinical...that's where some of my ambivalent feelings come in...I feel like I'm going to a doctor for the first time for a prostrate exam rather than to a hot mysterious fantasy man for a good fuck! Any more escorts have any thoughts?

[flguy]

TJM, Well, please tell us who they are to see if any of us have been with them before. I certainly haven't had any escorts return email like this before. However, they both answered and that may be a new record.

[Steven_Draker]

> Any more escorts have any thoughts?

 

Well, for a first meeting I only want to know what the client enjoys and what he likes to get into. I don't ask for height, weight or calves size ... and I certainly don't ask what he does for a living. That's not my business.

 

The idea of a questionnaire is probably good for escorts who don’t like to see a certain type of clients (if they’re not comfortable with a certain type).

 

Steven Draker ~

http://www.hotsexystud.com/uk

[VaHawk]

Man, send a reply with the stupidest, nastiest responses that your imagination will allow! Sounds like tons of fun to me, as they are both, imo, clowns, so why not amuse them with your replies, and at the end of the survey, post a pic of the fickle finger, while you find someone else? :7

[Guest]

>1. Please tell me briefly yourself? (I.e. describe yourself

>height, weight, work, where you’re from, current location)

>

> 2. What do you like to get into?

>

> 3. Have you ever hired a professional escort?

>

> 4. Why do you choose to hire a professional escort, from my

>experience in this business most men have various reason I.E.

>do it for convenience- easier , hobby, don’t go out to clubs,

>very discreet, fantasy fulfillment, 1st time experience with

>man to man sex? Tell me your reason?

>

>5. If your answer #3 was yes, how has your experience been in

>hiring professional escorts good or bad? If bad it’s ok to

>elaborate on what happen in the situation. (Not necessary name

>the particular escort or escorts involved )

>

>6. What is your expectation in session w/ escort, or even with

>me?

 

IMHO, discussing your expectations from the escort is a good idea. I wouldn't discuss specifics unless I was sure the escort wasn't a vice officer, but if they've been reviewed a number of times here, you're safe on that score. Questions about your employment, birthplace, or physical appearance are pretty out-of-line. So are questions about why you hire an escort (whether it's for convenience, because you have special preferences, because you're ugly, need discretion, etc.) are not the escort's business to know. I wouldn't mind discussing what made some prior escort experiences good and what made some bad.

[noviceny]

I filled out that questionnare for a traveling escort who came to NYC. I really like to fill out questionnares so it was no problem for me.

 

I can understand how people might not want to fill one out, but I can tell ya that the escort I saw is not hurting for any clients and states clearly that he sends out this questionnare.

 

Shit, any thing to make the escort feel more comfortable with me beforehand cause I think it makes for a better experience. Of course you could also ask some of these questions over the phone, but its probably easier to send out the questionnare as it probably weeds a lot of people out.

[VaHawk]

Spare us all!

 

"I can understand how people might not want to fill one out, but I can tell ya that the escort I saw is not hurting for any clients and states clearly that he sends out this questionnare."

 

Good for his prima donna butt! There are always people out there, who like to worship an escort, and who, in turn, will gladly pray to HUMPADICK, the god of escorts, to be selected as worthy enough to heap riches on one of HUMPADICK's apostles.

 

"Shit, any thing to make the escort feel more comfortable with me beforehand cause I think it makes for a better experience. Of course you could also ask some of these questions over the phone, but its probably easier to send out the questionnare as it probably weeds a lot of people out."

 

Ooooooohhhhh, me too! I want to subjugate myself to one of HUMPADICK's apostles, to prove my worthiness to be a doormat! It's all about the escort's comfort and ease, and I apologize if my $300/hr offends the escort, as I only want to please the escort, and want them to "bless" me with their "holy" presence. Their mere "presence" in my life is all I hope/pray for, and nothing else, and as such, it is worth any and all of the prescreening processes that I have to go thru to prove myself worthy of their "holiness"!

[Luv2play]

RE: Spare us all!

 

When it comes to giving personal information IN WRITING to another person, I am always careful since I have little or no control over it once it is offered up. Giving extremely personal and sensitive information to an escort I didn't even know would, IMHO, be foolhardy. Even if the escort had only the best of intentions, I would have no way of knowing if that information would fall into the hands of a third party, say the police as one example.x(

 

As for the questions themselves, I find most to be irrelevant from the standpoint of what the escort needs to know in advance of a first meeting. If there are some points that he feels need to be addressed first, then I would phone him and discuss them over the phone, which is a protected medium in the eyes of the law (recording the conversation would be illegal without permission). As an example, why does the escort need to know where I come from, where I live (unless I am asking for an outcall), what kind of work I do etc? I am the one doing the hiring here, not him.

 

In any phone discussion, I would respond, if asked, as to my appearance and size as I feel this could an issue for some escorts and I don't mind conveying this information in advance (after all, I have checked out his pics and if they do not include a face pic, I will ask for some details in the conversation).

 

I also like to give a summary of the things I like to do or have done to me, either to confirm what I have read in reviews or ads of the escort or to fill in blanks. If the escort is not willing to get into this on the phone, I pass as I am suspicious of vague replies.

 

I would not discuss my experience with other escorts but would convey the info that I have had extensive experience, as I think he has the right to know he is not dealing with a newbie. In summary, if confronted with a questionaire such as this, I would pass.

[Guest Merlin]

RE: Spare us all!

 

I find it offensive and would tell the escort so. I would suspect that an escort who needs to send such a questionaire has been having a lot of rejections and unhappy clients, which are more likely to be the fault of the escort than the clients. Successful escorts have never felt the need to send them. Most escorts say they want to work for "upscale" professional and executive types, but those are the ones least likely to put up with the questionaire. If this becomes common, clients will get the idea of sending a questionaire of their own: Can you prove that you are only 29? How many clients do you see in a week? What was the last time you were tested? Have you ever had a client refuse to pay? What reason did he give?

[TJM]

RE: Spare us all!

 

I agree Merlin...I've actually thought about sending my own questionnaire back to them...maybe ask some things like real age?, American citizen and if not country of citizenship and are you green carded and able to work in the US?...

[Guest mbarz]

RE: Spare us all!

 

>"I can understand how people might not want to fill one out,

>but I can tell ya that the escort I saw is not hurting for any

>clients and states clearly that he sends out this

>questionnare."

>

>Good for his prima donna butt! There are always people out

>there, who like to worship an escort, and who, in turn, will

>gladly pray to HUMPADICK, the god of escorts, to be selected

>as worthy enough to heap riches on one of HUMPADICK's

>apostles.

>

 

You're right VaHawk...it's kind of like the freaks that worship Benjamin Nicolas....the ones that defend him no matter what he does, praise his greatness and act like he's a god....you know the ones....don't you.

 

 

>"Shit, any thing to make the escort feel more comfortable with

>me beforehand cause I think it makes for a better experience.

>Of course you could also ask some of these questions over the

>phone, but its probably easier to send out the questionnare as

>it probably weeds a lot of people out."

>

>Ooooooohhhhh, me too! I want to subjugate myself to one of

>HUMPADICK's apostles, to prove my worthiness to be a doormat!

>It's all about the escort's comfort and ease, and I apologize

>if my $300/hr offends the escort, as I only want to please the

>escort, and want them to "bless" me with their "holy"

>presence. Their mere "presence" in my life is all I hope/pray

>for, and nothing else, and as such, it is worth any and all of

>the prescreening processes that I have to go thru to prove

>myself worthy of their "holiness"!

 

Well...there was that one time....better be careful with what you say....you may not get a second time.

[SAdler]

RE: Spare us all!

 

>I would

>suspect that an escort who needs to send such a questionaire

>has been having a lot of rejections and unhappy clients, which

>are more likely to be the fault of the escort than the

>clients.

 

Can you explain your line of reasoning on that one? Being proactive and going out of his way probably indicates that he has the time and resources to be selective. Why on earth would he be asking questions like that if he was getting rejeted so often? People are peculiar ... by asking if they'd had bad experiences and why, he's probably just seeing if the client has any particular quirks that bug him to help or just simply prevent the session.

 

>Successful escorts have never felt the need to send

>them. Most escorts say they want to work for "upscale"

>professional and executive types, but those are the ones least

>likely to put up with the questionaire.

 

I'd like to consider myself successful for argument's sake. Yes, the upscale closeted hot married guy is everyone's ideal client. A lot of them are very open to talking about their thoughts in advance while some others, yes, are extremely closeted and would be scared by this.

 

I've never sent out a questionnaire per se but one way or another I've asked all of those questions in the time of one or two emails. It reallyi s just simple business. I just don't like to be as impersonal as a generic questionnaire but I believe something like this would be a VERY useful tool.

 

>If this becomes

>common, clients will get the idea of sending a questionaire of

>their own: Can you prove that you are only 29? How many

>clients do you see in a week? What was the last time you were

>tested? Have you ever had a client refuse to pay? What reason

>did he give?

 

LOL. That's all well and fine. When it comes right down to it you can ask whatever you like within reason. It's also our right to tell you to take a hike as it is yours to tell us you don't want to fill out the questionnaire. But if you look at the questions the escort asks versus the ones you're asking, he's just trying to help and make the session best as possible for YOU. YOUR questions are trite and irrelevant to you, specifically designed to stir the shit.

[Yeswell]

RE: Spare us all!

 

I think Scott's approach is more sensible. I'm often surprised by how little escorts want to know about me so I'd have no objection to answering those questions, or most of them, but I wouldn't fill out a questionnaire (even though I also like filling them out). In return, it would be good if escorts could demonstrate that their pictures are recent. The thing about whether they're American citizens or have green cards is rather odd. As prostitution is illegal in your country, why do you want them to prove they can work legally? Or is there a special green card that allows illegal aliens to perform sodomy?

[Lookin]

RE: A matter of style

 

Scott and Yeswell make sense to me. I'm all for full disclosure, if it happens in friendly conversation. But a written questionnaire makes me think more of a loan officer than a play pal.

 

Although if the guy printed it on his dick and had me fill it out in spit I could probably get into it.

[Guest Merlin]

RE: Spare us all!

 

The questionaire must have prompted by a preponderance of negative experiences rather than positive ones. An escort who is rejected is likely to blame the client rather than himself.

[noviceny]

Spare us all!

 

Another reason I like the questionnare is cause I dont feel like Im getting hustled...how many times will you send out an email and never get a response ? After I answered the questionnare, I got back a detailed response to my answers and I felt very comfortable with hiring this guy. I knew that he read my answers, unlike some guys who you ask a question and they respond "Im ready when you are" That doesnt tell me anything and the questions are usually not answered.

 

When I was really closeted I didnt even want to log on to this site. I was scared I could be tracked or some shit, or that my girl would find the address blah blah blah. If thats the case, then I understand. If ya dont want to put down personal info, I also understand. If ya dont want to take the time, I understand. I can understand most reasons for not wanting to do it, but my reason for doing it is cause I feel we both have a certain level of understanding with each other that comes from the communication.

[woodlawn]

RE: Spare us all!

 

>I find it offensive and would tell the escort so.

 

A former escort who has also written one of the best known books about the world of male escorts (notice I said "best known," not "best") once recommended on this board that an escort agency with which he was associated ask a similar list of questions of clients who call. I don't find them offensive, but there is no way I am going to allow an escort or agency to treat me as if I'm applying for admission to one of New York's most exclusive coop buildings or private schools. No escort is worth the trouble.

 

> Most escorts say they want to work for "upscale"

>professional and executive types, but those are the ones least

>likely to put up with the questionaire.

 

Agreed. For one thing, clients with money have more hiring options and find it easier to choose someone else if an escort does or says anything they don't like during the initial contact.

[Guest Merlin]

RE: Spare us all!

 

From the escorts point of view the best reason not to send the questionaire is that the prospective client is likely to think the escorts is attempt to weed out those who are not young, slim and handsome. He is likely to miss a lot of clients. If he has too many already, he would be better off to raise his fee.

[Epigonos]

RE: Spare us all!

 

I must say I find the whole idea of a questionaire presumptuous after all I'm doing the hiring. Now with that said I will readily admit that on the second or third email I excahange with an escort, I am interested in hiring, I provide just about all of the information requested in the questionaire. I hate unpleasant suprises and sincerely believe that goes both ways. I expect accurate photographs and information from the escort and I believe he is entitled to information about me. After providing that information I state -- "If after reading the above you are still interested in getting together let me know and I will give you a call to make final arrangements". This allows the escort to opt out if, for example, he isn't interested in getting together with someone 65 years old or someone with my sexual requirements which he doesn't choose to accomodate. So far this seems to have worked very well. BUT as the person doing the hiring I remain in control and that is exactly how I want it.

[BradBoyd]

RE: Spare us all!

 

I use the same approach as you, Scott. I have a list of things in my client encrypted client files that I've been developing to answer while qualifying a client.

 

I believe it's our responsibility, as escorts, to make a reasopnable effort to ensure that we will be able to serve our clients ih the manner that they are seeking. For me to determine that, I need to pose the question (of course, the prospective client can decline to answer the question...which may or may not influence my decision in accepting them as a client).

 

The use of a questionaire, however, is questionable most because escorting is a personal service. If I were a prospective client, I would expect a boy I was considering hiring to be of service to me to fill out his own damn paperwork, thank you very much!

 

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