Do you work with or turn away high maintenance/unavailable clients?

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I’m beginning to feel a need to stop accepting many of these types. It seems troublesome to try and book visits. No offense to anyone who fits these attributes. I’m referring to the ones who  can’t compromise on time, always busy with work/travel/family affairs, can only ever offer one limited option to meet, despite me willing to being flexible (usually just have 1 day at 1 time available, etc). The “I can only meet between 1 and 2 p.m.” types.

Ran into this with a return client I haven’t seen in awhile. Partly because most times we try to meet, it’s always something he has to work around. We were trying to meet in the same city, and he gave me 2 date possibilities in 2 different cities. But no confirmation of either. When I contact a few days to follow back up to see what’s he considering, he’s like: “I’m going to xxx tomorrow, and I have a room booked”. I’m thinking, WOW that’s a day earlier than planned (and I couldn’t leave that same day because I had doctor visit/packing to do).
 

I thought he would check with me first, and coordinate which day/location would be best. But because of something that changed on his end, he decided to go earlier. Long story short: he gets to the city before me, and then can only stay 1 night only. I’m like, okay…but it’s going to need to be no pressures on arriving by a certain time. However, he seemed impatient like he can’t meet too late, and wants to get on his way home first thing in the morning. On the way, I end up with a punctured tire: which equated to a 3 hour delay. Of course he canceled. I ask if he can stay an extra day, he started being a bitch about it like he can’t, blah blah blah.

I’m thinking to myself: this is just too much drama. I like clients who are flexible, aren’t always trying to cram a million things in and book an escort at the same time. Sure they have things to do but if I miss them one day, they’re always open to extend to the next or following. 
 

High Maintenance clients often seem to be under the erroneous impression that booking an escort means it should be easy as in: making them revolve around their schedule. Some like to say, “this is more complicated than I thought”. No…you are unavailable but expecting to include another life and schedule to work around it. THAT is complicated. Then, they get attitude at me and make me feel like I’m to blame, when in reality: they never had the basic courtesy to ASK ME and work with each OTHERS schedule in the first place. They just expect to plan things haphazardly, on their time, and expect it to all work out. It doesn’t.

I understand this isn’t all clients, and I know this is especially common with the married clients. But: how am I to plan and be ready for something, that I’m not being given sufficient notice to expect to begin with? I texted my client from earlier: “If you trying to meet in a different city, it’s not going to work if everything is only on 1 person’s time demands. You’re not just dealing with 1 person.” Unless of course, a person wants to go f**k theirselves 😆 
 

Edited December 2, 2022 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Jamie21]

50% of guys who try to book me are unsuccessful because they assume I’m sitting around all day doing nothing just to be available for anyone who asks. It’s unfortunate but the ‘available now?’ clients usually end up disappointed. 

Client: “hey, are you free later today at 3?” (This is at 1pm).

Me: “sorry no I’m busy today”

Client: “oh, I’m in town only today and was hoping you were free”

Me: “ah ok that’s different then, I’ll cancel the things I was doing and book you in”  (this could be me being sarcastic 😉). 

Client: “great thanks I’ll get back to you in a bit when I know my schedule….”

That does really happen…like ‘reserving’ the time but not booking!

I’m not a train timetable with services at set times. I’m a restaurant table booking; If all the tables are full you won’t get in. I’m open every day but all the punters who were organised enough to book ahead get the day / time they wanted. The ones who aren’t organised end up eating at McDonalds. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

On 12/2/2022 at 2:42 AM, Jamie21 said:

50% of guys who try to book me are unsuccessful because they assume I’m sitting around all day doing nothing just to be available for anyone who asks. It’s unfortunate but the ‘available now?’ clients usually end up disappointed. 

Client: “hey, are you free later today at 3?” (This is at 1pm).

Me: “sorry no I’m busy today”

Client: “oh, I’m in town only today and was hoping you were free”

Me: “ah ok that’s different then, I’ll cancel the things I was doing and book you in”  (this could be me being sarcastic 😉). 

Client: “great thanks I’ll get back to you in a bit when I know my schedule….”

That does really happen…like ‘reserving’ the time but not booking!

I’m not a train timetable with services at set times. I’m a restaurant table booking; If all the tables are full you won’t get in. I’m open every day but all the punters who were organised enough to book ahead get the day / time they wanted. The ones who aren’t organised end up eating at McDonalds. 

Or worse: go to bed hungry! lol

And what really got me was: this client was like, “well I told you yesterday I was traveling to xxx city today”. Ummmmmm, sir, you only told me, when I contacted you first. And telling me the day before, for a location in another STATE is not ample notice. Especially when he told me Saturday he could be in 2 different cities on 2 different days, and waited until Wednesday to say which one. Like Gordon Ramsay would say: GTFO 🦶🏾 out! 
 

Last week Thanksgiving weekend (it’s an American thing, that once had a dark colonial beginning but now everyone expected to be happy and cheerful around annoying family members they don’t always like…still don’t know why they do it 500 years later lol), but anyway yeah; it’s a 4 or 5 day holiday in America. I had 3 clients, made decent money but: they all wanted to meet the same day they contacted. BUT, they gave somewhat decent notice and weren’t pushed for time. One did push us to the next morning, due to weather and I was okay with that. 
 

However, one was like: “hurry”. I said no: I asked you hours ago to confirm and send the deposit and you didn’t. And I told him, I’m not even getting dressed until I receive the deposit or room information. He understood.
 

 

 

Edited December 4, 2022 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Guest leftbench23]

If a provider and I cannot mutually agree on a time and place, I just move onto the next provider. I usually chat with two or three when I’m looking to book, and I’ve given up on many providers that I have never succeeded in booking.

[Midtownguy99]

I feel for you guys. I view this as a service industry and an appointment should be made in advance similar to anything else you’d set time aside for. Sometimes I’ll book a week in advance with a paid deposit if his travel schedule is posted. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

On 12/4/2022 at 12:28 PM, Midtownguy99 said:

I feel for you guys. I view this as a service industry and an appointment should be made in advance similar to anything else you’d set time aside for. Sometimes I’ll book a week in advance with a paid deposit if his travel schedule is posted. 

Right, and even beyond a service industry: it should also be viewed as similar to planning things with family and friends. I know most wouldn’t accept some lousy half assed invite without raising a brow. 

Especially the person in the original post, it’s like why bother to inform me of plans if you’re just going to do everything your way with no input from me? And then get upset when it doesn’t work out. I know some things can/can’t be avoided, but shitty invites, leads to shitty planning. 
 

Luckily I had 1 sponsor and another regular who was able to make up for it. That client has been permanently filed to the shit pile 🚮

 

Edited December 5, 2022 by Jarrod_Uncut