Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your size?

[SexualAlchemist]

After years of fantasizing about it, and an equal number of years spent avoiding it due to sheer terror, I'm seriously considering hiring for size. Or maybe I should say "hiring for SIZE!!!"

 

I've had a few very nice 7-inchers in antrum, and am not unfamiliar with Doc Johnson's 9X6 pleasure toys, but I'm awfully tempted to graduate to something more substantial, let's say on the order of 9.5X7, or 11X8. This is quite a jump ... around 20% one way by 30% the other (for those of you endowed with the power of statistics). I guess I'm not so much terrified by the size alone, after all a 9X6 dildo is hardly insubstantial and I've found a bit of 420 and a snort or two of poppers to be a great help in getting into the groove; it's the guys who own those tempting water-buffalo sized cocks who are the scary part. My dildo is completely under my control, but Mr. Water-Buffalo is another story. No matter how much he's trying to make me feel good based on what he sees of my reactions, ultimately he's only got his own interpretation of what's feeling good, and -- if my own cock is any indication -- so does his own mammoth meat.

 

I know the near-godlike virtues of being squeaky clean for a penetrating encounter, and the importance of deep breathing, but still I feel nervous. Am I just being silly in wanting to stretch my limits? Reviews of encounters with the truly gargantuan leave me squirming with desire, but maybe it's just their rhetorical eloquence. It often reads like those on the receiving end are having the time of their lives, and I'm missing out on an unforgettable experience. And it looks so damn good in the hyper-fake medium of video pornography!

 

What am I missing out on, if anything? How should I prepare? But more importantly, how do you prepare your nervous clients for an encounter with SIZE that will leave them quivering with pleasure and smiles on their faces?

 

If you're passing through Toronto and want to demonstrate your skills first hand, feel free to tempt me.}(

[+ Lucky]

With both hands.

[VaHawk]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

With sincere aplogies to Bilbo, but doggone it, I'm tired of waiting for an escort to reply! Besides from what I've seen the only regular escort who posts here that could respond is STJ, and even he can't respond to 11x8.

 

LOL! If this isn't the funniest post I have ever seen here. Man regardless of what kind of response you are seeking remember to never lose control of your own hole.

 

>I guess I'm not so much terrified by the size alone, after all a 9X6 dildo is hardly insubstantial and I've found a bit of 420 and a snort or two of poppers to be a great help in getting into the groove;

 

If you've been fucking yourself with a 9x6 dildo, then I don't see why you would have a problem with a real cock of the same size, if you "gasp", communicate with the other guy on how to proceed. Add a few lines of coke to your retinue above, or some crystal meth, and I bet you'd find that you could take a whole freight train up your butt, starting with the locomotive and finding yourself begging for extra cabooses.

 

>its the guys who own those tempting water-buffalo sized cocks who

>are the scary part.

 

LMAO! I haven't seen any human cock that is big as a water-buffalo's.

 

>My dildo is completely under my control, but Mr. Water-Buffalo is another story.

 

As I stated above, you have control over the situation at all times, just by opening your mouth and telling the escort what you are feeling!

 

>-- so does his own mammoth meat.

 

Damn dude, your post reads like tired, cliched porn from the 50's.

 

>Am I just being silly in wanting to stretch my limits?

 

Damn, did I miss something, I thought it was your asshole that you wanted to stretch. Go for it and when you've mastered this, you can further stretch your "limits" by moving on to fist fucking and then you could move on to giant zucchinis, traffic cones and telephone poles -- the sky's the limit!

 

>What am I missing out on, if anything? How should I prepare?

 

Well you will be missing out on bleeding and hemmorhoids for one thing. Prepare yourself by having a cockail or two, smoking some pot, snorting a few lines of coke and/or indulging in some chrystal meth, grease up with a handful of Crisco (keep the can handily near) and snort some nasty poppers until you feel like your head and lungs are going to explode, and buy the biggest tube of Preparation H on the planet.

[theDCeBOY]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

crisco will melt the condom, won't it?

[Guest Love Bubble Butt]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

Good grief! You sure seem to have a lot of advice and experience to give on this subject:

 

>remember to never lose control of your own hole.

 

I guess that's sound advice. But it also seems kind of obvious to me. Unless, of course, the advice is coming from someone who did indeed lose control of his own hole at some point. I guess it's good that you don't want him to make the same mistake you did. That's really big of ya!

 

 

>Add a few lines of coke to your retinue above, or

>some crystal meth, and I bet you'd find that you could take a

>whole freight train up your butt, starting with the locomotive

>and finding yourself begging for extra cabooses.

 

That's a very vivid description that could have only come from someone with repeated experience in this.

 

 

>... you can further stretch your "limits" by moving on to

>fist fucking and then you could move on to giant zucchinis,

>traffic cones and telephone poles -- the sky's the limit!

 

Ugh!! Now that's a mental image I could have done without. And I've always suspected that you have had many things shoved up your hole. But I never dreamed a traffic cone or ... gasp ... a telephone pole! It does explain a lot though.

 

 

>Well you will be missing out on bleeding and hemmorhoids for

>one thing. Prepare yourself by having a cockail or two,

>smoking some pot, snorting a few lines of coke and/or

>indulging in some chrystal meth, grease up with a handful of

>Crisco (keep the can handily near) and snort some nasty

>poppers until you feel like your head and lungs are going to

>explode, and buy the biggest tube of Preparation H on the

>planet.

 

Again, such a vivid description that could only come from someone with actual experience. Only you vahawk. You are indeed one disgusting individual. After reading all of your "advice," I can't help but wonder: Just how big is YOUR gaping hole?

[Guest Love Bubble Butt]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

Better yet, vahawk. Since you're such a dickhead, why don't you just offer to stick your head up his ass?

[VaHawk]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

:7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7 :7

 

NOPE, no rise yet, but you keep trying sweetie, as it seems to get your cock up and off!

[Luv2play]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

You raise an interesting question, which is of particular interest to any dedicated bottom such as myself. The question is, is there pleasure to be found in getting fucked by a huge dick even though it causes pain or some discomfort?

 

For the average bottom, taking a 9X6, as you state, is not inconsiderable. But when you graduate to 9X7, or 9X8 or to 10X7, that is quite another story! In my experience, the width is what makes the real difference, once you are dealing with a nine incher in length.

 

IMO, the difference between 9 or 11 inches in length is really just incremental and you will not really feel much difference once that boner is buried beyond your second sphincter. It is the extra inch or so up from 6 inches around that will really stretch your hole. And this is what you will really feel!

 

The biggest I have taken (in terms of length, I've had a few 10 and 11 inchers but not as wide) from an escort is 9X8 (real inches) from Jean-Claude, an escort who works part time in New York and the rest in Europe. He is NOT cheap, $500 an hour. And he is strictly a top. What is great about him is that he is fully aware that he is super-endowed and he takes special care to try to make his invasion as painless as possible. In my case, I don't take poppers or any other chemical enhancements, so I experienced the full range of feelings and emotions as he entered my "virgin" territory. I cannot say it was unalloyed pleasure; there was some initial pain and after I got used to it, I still felt completely stuffed!

 

The upshot was that I enjoyed it so much as an experience, that I saw him two more times!!! But each time, I knew I had been truly fucked for several days afterwards as I had a very tender butt!:+

[SexualAlchemist]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

>Damn dude, your post reads like tired, cliched porn from the

>50's.

 

 

[smirk]

[SexualAlchemist]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

Ah-hah! ... width not length factors most (within reason I guess). This is good information to have at my disposal.

 

J-C at $500/hr. is maybe a little pricey, but I suppose I'd rather have a true gentle man behind the fantasy than someone more interested in getting my money, getting himself off, and then getting the hell out as fast as possible. Ouch! That's really what I'm trying to avoid.

[eastbayguy]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

>Ugh!! Now that's a mental image I could have done without.

>And I've always suspected that you have had many things shoved

>up your hole. But I never dreamed a traffic cone or ... gasp

>... a telephone pole! It does explain a lot though.

 

This time of year, I have this recurring fantasy involving one of those giant municipal Christmas trees and my own version of "The Twelve Days of Christmas".

 

--EBG

[AdamSmith]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

>And I've always suspected that you have had many things shoved

>up your hole. But I never dreamed a traffic cone or ... gasp

>... a telephone pole! It does explain a lot though.

 

"Arnold Horshack got 'ranked' a lot. At my high school, when you disliked someone, you 'ranked' them. 'Ranking' generally consisted of telling them to insert an object into one of their bodily orifices. The most common rank was, 'Up your hole with a Mello Roll!' A Mello Roll was an ice cream on a stick.

 

"The more you disliked someone, the bigger the object. With Horshack, it was the Empire State Building, or the Louisiana Purchase..."

 

Gabriel Kaplan, "Holes and Mello Rolls" (LP of standup act)

[Bilbo]

RE: Yo, Vahawk!

 

Did you notice how quickly this thread would have died out, er, bitten the big one, if we had waited for the superendowed escorts to answer? As you pointed out, SmallTownJohn could have were he not ignoring our flame wars. DCeBoy could have answered, and in a way did, but answered in one of the shortest posts I've seen out of him in a long time and said nothing substantive. Is it possible that the super well hung guys don't want to be identified with frightening clients? Or, perhaps, that they felt a bit too objectified in the original posting? My search for sexual enlightenment has really had nothing to do with a search for size. It's been more of a search for what's inside of my partners and myself.

 

I've long known that I can't fit comfortably (for both of us) anywhere which can't take three of my fingers at once. I imagine that the biguns have a similar method to tell when one's relaxed enough to take them.

[+ Lucky]

RE:Inside!

 

"It's been more of a search for what's inside of my partners and myself."

 

Me too. I like it when a guy sticks his fist in me and searches around!

[theDCeBOY]

RE: Yo, Vahawk!

 

>DCeBoy could have

>answered, and in a way did, but answered in one of the

>shortest posts I've seen out of him in a long time and said

>nothing substantive.

i'm not big enough to answer. he wants something larger than 9x6. i'm ONLY barely more than 9" long & barely more than 6" around... not even enough to justify adding a fraction. i do think it is substantive that folks are advocating that the guy use chemicals and crisco... seems like they're just taking it for granted that things will be unsafe. in any event, the situation isn't one that interests me. beyond that, i don't meet his specifications.

>Is it possible that the super well hung

>guys don't want to be identified with frightening clients?

that's a pretty good possibility.

>I've long known that I can't fit comfortably (for both of us)

>anywhere which can't take three of my fingers at once. I

>imagine that the biguns have a similar method to tell when

>one's relaxed enough to take them.

from my limited experience bottomng, i can say that i HATE fingers! don't EVER try poking around my ass with one. don't bring any plastic toys or lawn ornaments either.

there are ways of getting someone prepared that don't involve amateur proctology.

[OneFinger]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

>...grease up with a handful of Crisco...

 

I wouldn't suggest the use of Crisco since it is a shortening. :+

[Guest lookin4lust]

RE: Super-endowed escorts: how do you do handle your si...

 

I agree with Ethan. I've never been crazy about fingers or dildoes up my butt. Only a tongue or cock feels good, preferably a big cock.

[Luv2play]

RE: Yo, Vahawk!

 

IMO 9X6 is a VERY nice sized dick for most bottoms that are also "size queens" }( Let's face it, on the scale of average size of the male appendage, it is on the high end.

 

That being said, if a bottom is comfortable with that, and it does take time to become comfortable, then for the size queens amongst us, the challenge is always to see whether someone larger can be "accomodated". Often the fantasy, and it is a fantasy, and the reality are two different matters. As I said in my previous post, the width is particularly challenging, and there is a HUGE difference between 6 inches and eight, much more than the same difference in length.

 

There are relatively few escorts who sport these dimensions and in my experience, they tend to be in the large urban centers such as New York or London where they can command the highest prices for their services. They cater to a relatively small number of gay men. The more experienced of these bottoms know what they are doing and know how to deal with a large dick. The days of using Crisco are long over for these men. There are many suitable products on the market today to aid in effective lubrication and protection. As for chemical enhancements, well, what can I say. Well I just say "NO" to that.:+

[Guest laverite]

RE: Yo, Vahawk!

 

>The more experienced of these bottoms

>know what they are doing and know how to deal with a large

>dick. The days of using Crisco are long over for these men.

>There are many suitable products on the market today to aid in

>effective lubrication and protection. As for chemical

>enhancements, well, what can I say. Well I just say "NO" to

>that.:+

 

That may well be true, but what of the big-dicked clients, where do we find the escorts who have been suitably trained in the finer arts of receiving? It's a mixed bag unfortunately, and the necessary extra hygene requirements are unfortunately not always part of their schooling!

[Bilbo]

RE: Yo, Vahawk!

 

Love to hear what some of your other methods are. Though I might know them already, since fingers are hardly the only method I use. It's just that if I can't get an ass relaxed enough, by whatever method, to put three in, I know I won't fit well enough to get to stay in there. But I also know other ways to know whether three would fit besides putting them in. So, why in those cases do I think of it as three fingers instead of as my cock? Well, the fingers don't take it as personally as the cock does if the answer is no. They don't stand in front of the dressing room promising that this time they really can fit into a size 8, when we all know they're really more of an 18.

 

And am very surprised that your cock isn't big enough for even the most complusive size queen. I guess maybe when I look at your picture I'm underestimating how short and skinny you are?

[SexualAlchemist]

RE: Yo, Vahawk!

 

I don't think I'm looking for Big Cock for enlightenment (I'll stick to lamrim, lamdre, mahamudra, or dzogchen for that), but just one of its poorer cousins -- fantasy fulfillment, which is, I think you'll allow, one of the legitimate relations clients can establish with escorts. If fantasy is not a legitimate relationship, then I daresay that almost anyone who seeks out an escort would be excluded because it's a rare individual indeed whose mind turns to enlightenment, let alone who engages in any serious practices designed to attain it.

 

In other words, isn't a guy allowed to seek out fantasy solely for the sake of enjoying its fulfillment?

 

Please! Bilbo, do not perceive my words as being any sort of criticism of you or your comments, but merely a slight redirection of them. You're the very breath of perceptive understanding and always have something worthwhile and positive to contribute to any discussion.

 

Fantasy is simply that, fantasy, and there are certainly any number of fantasies clients are after, for any number of reasons. Around here, there generally seems to be a larger number fantasizing about twinks (sometimes with effusive -- and rarely challenged -- comments about So-and-So being just barely of legal age but looking so much younger) than about hypertrophic bodybuilders (a specialty at http://www.muscleservice.com), or about hyperorchidism. Had my query been more in line with "What about super-cute, really young-looking twink escorts?" I don't doubt that all kinds of advice would have been forthcoming ... that's simply the ambient energy here. In that light, comments regarding traffic pylons, haemorrhoids or telephone poles are entirely unsurprising as applied to my fantasy.

 

I don't think that merely having an object of fantasy necessarily reduces the person fulfilling it to a mere object. At least no more so than an escort charging $200/hr. reduces me, the client, to the psychospiritual status of an ATM. As a public figure myself, I truly enjoy the friendly relations I have with clients for reasons that go far beyond the pitiable hourly wage my profession nets me, and can assure you that my relations with escorts are equally friendly and realistic. Escorts I hire are first and foremost fellow sentient beings, with all the joys and challenges that that entails, as well as professionals providing a very special service. Although my fantasy certainly has its peculiarities, it's no more outré than those looking for "that special twink", and deserves just as much respect.

 

It's amusing too, in a disturbing sort of way, the amount of effort many put into mutual denigration and the lofty disparagement of escorts, clients, and even of sex and sexual desire itself. Partly this is just for comedic effect, dictated by an environment that establishes witty/bitchy come-backs as being preferable to gentle openness and thoughtful discussion ... but it can sometimes be a subtle manifestation of self-hatred and disgust with one's own sexuality, or anything different from one's own.

 

Again, Bilbo, do not take these words as being even the slightest criticism of you or your words! I reduce the essence of appropriate sexual relations (paid or not), to a little pith statement: "Do not cause suffering through sexuality." If I reduce an escort I'm hiring to the status of a human dildo, that will generate a certain kind of suffering, so I strive to enter into friendly human relations with him even as he strives to fulfill my fantasy. Conversely, I'd like the same back; a certain basic friendliness towards me in his fulfillment of my fantasy, even as I hand over the $1000 for an extraordinary evening of participatory sexual theatre.

 

Oooo. Just look at the snowstorm raging outside my window! Maybe I won't go to church this morning, having been preachy enough as it is. ;-)

[trilingual]

RE: A PRIMER FOR THE SUPER-SIZED AND THEIR BOTTOM ADMIRERS

 

Being one of the world's greatest size queens (but the unfortunate owner of one of the world's tightest asses) I've faced my share of, um, challenging situations. The following is the fruit of more than 40 years of experience as a "practicing" homosexual (and I've certainly practiced, guys!). If this doesn't help a super-sized guy with an inexperienced (or virgin) partner, I doubt much will!

 

1) For reasons I can't fully figure out, being fucked by a big cock has usually been less painful than a small cock (and I include thick cocks in the definition of "big"). One reason, though, is that larger cocks tend not to slip out as much, requiring fewer uncomfortable/painful re-penetrations.

 

2) Good lubrication is a prerequisite! (The kind that doesn't damage condoms, of course, and I don't mean just spit!) So are comfortable XL condoms. Your partner won't relax if he's worrying that the condom will slip off or burst because of your size!

 

3) Sex being as much in the mind as in the crotch, if not more so, successful penetration of your partner with your huge dick depends on getting him really hot, bothered, relaxed and NEEDING you inside him! You can do that by using a number of techniques, many concurrently, so you're ahead of the game, stud, if you're capable of walking and chewing gum at the same time! One of the most important and often overlooked techniques is to be VERBAL (not necessarily gross or demeaning or domineering, unless your partner seems to be turned on by that, and you are, too). Tell your partner how hot he makes you, and how good he feels, and how good you're going to make HIM feel when he's got all of you inside him. Keep telling him that as you prepare him to take your oversized cock!

 

4) Foreplay is critical. While (or between) telling your partner the stuff in Number 3, kiss him and stroke him and play with his nipples and his cock. Suck his cock, finger his ass gently, rim him, etc. Get him really excited but really relaxed.

 

5) G-d gave you fingers and a tongue. Use them! Especially those fingers. I'm with Bilbo on this: when you can slip at least three fingers inside your partner without resistance, you know your partner's ready for the main attraction! If your partner's clean and well-prepared, there's nothing yucky about using your fingers, and there's nothing about it that a little soap-and-water afterwards won't take care of! You can also shower together, taking advantage of that to soap up his crack and start slipping those sudsy fingers inside him. However you do it, DON'T JAM your fingers inside him! Stroke his anus gently with your finger (try little circular motions with soapsuds or lubricant) until it relaxes and starts opening of its own accord! (You can also try doing this with the head of your cock!) You can help this along by accompanying the assplay with a tongue slurping at his ear, or the back of his neck, or other sensitive spot! Not to mention some more hot talk! Before long, Mr. Tightass will be looking like a candidate for the Mr. Holland Tunnel award!

 

6) When you've gotten your partner open and relaxed, experiment finding an initial position that he finds the most comfortable. (In my own case, I find that lying on our sides, spoon-fashion, has been the easiest.)

 

7) Patience is the paramount virtue. DON'T RUSH and DON'T PUSH! Your partner won't relax and be able to take you until he's completely confident that you want him to feel good and you're not going to hurt him with your huge cock! Once you've managed to get the head of your cock inside your partner, the best thing to do is to let HIM to all the work. Coach him to back up or slide down on the rest of your cock at his own pace until he's got every last inch inside him. Keep up the hot talk and the kissing and playing with his nipples/cock while he's doing this. It'll keep him excited and wanting to take all of you.

 

8) When you're entirely inside him, encourage your partner to start moving his ass around your cock to find strokes/speeds that feel good to him and, with luck, also massage his prostate, which will drive him absolutely wild! Keep letting him do the work. That way he can feel in control of the situation, which will also help him relax and lose his fear that you'll hurt him. When he realizes he's got all of you inside of him, without it having hurt or even being very uncomfortable, he'll be all yours!

 

9) Be ALERT and RESPONSIVE to your partner. ASK him if what you're doing feels good, and does he like having your big cock inside him, etc. Take your cues from what he says and does. If he's crying in pain, STOP or slow down and let him relax around you until he's ready again. If he's thrashing around on your cock all by himself and moaning in pleasure, you can move on to the next steps! :-)

 

10) Keep stimulating your partner while you're fucking him, and help him to get off, too. Just because he's a bottom doesn't mean that he doesn't want to climax! This isn't all about YOU, it's all about BOTH OF YOU having a thrilling experience. So keep using those hands and tongue, and the hot talk if that's turning your partner on even more and pushing him closer to the edge!

 

11) Once your partner is fully relaxed with all of you inside him and he's no longer fearful that you'll hurt him you can try changing positions/speeds to find ones that are more exciting for both of you. In my own case, I never thought I'd manage the missionary position with an over-hung partner, but one guy I still remember steamily taught me otherwise. (Not only was he hugely hung, he was also 6'10" or 2,08m tall!) By practicing all of the tricks in Numbers 3 thru 10, he managed to turn me around on his cock and get me under him, legs over his shoulders (here in Brazil, BTW, that variant is known as "frango assado," or the "roast chicken"). By the time we got there, he'd gotten me so relaxed and turned on I was just a quivering jelly underneath him. He was pounding away with his huge cock and there wasn't a bit of pain; it was just pure bliss, until I had probably the biggest, most shuddering climax I'd had until then!

 

So, as you can see, even if your partner is initially fearful and all tightened up, with skill, practice and PATIENCE you can get that whopper inside him and have him begging for more! And for repeats!

 

And just for the record, there were NO drugs or alcohol involved in any of these experiences! Just hot talk and roaming hands and lascivious tongues and sweaty body contact and the stimulus of knowing a huge, hard cock was just dying to get inside me!

 

Guys, I'm sure you've got more suggestions and techniques for getting inside your partner with an oversized cock. Here's the place to post them! Please share your wealth of experience! :9

[theDCeBOY]

RE: Yo, Vahawk!

 

>It's just that if I can't get an ass relaxed

>enough, by whatever method, to put three in, I know I won't

>fit well enough to get to stay in there.

but that's not true. if there's someone like me who DETESTS amateur proctology, there is NO WAY you're going to get ONE in, much less three. period. end of story. that has no bearing on receptivity for a penis. fingers cause instinctive clenching with me.

>And am very surprised that your cock isn't big enough for even

>the most complusive size queen. I guess maybe when I look at

>your picture I'm underestimating how short and skinny you

>are?

it is 9x6 (a smidge over in each dimension). he wants something larger. he's welcome to it. beyond that, yes, i'm short, and skinny.

[theDCeBOY]

RE: A PRIMER FOR THE SUPER-SIZED AND THEIR BOTTOM ADMIRERS

 

>5) G-d gave you fingers and a tongue. Use them! Especially

>those fingers.

use the tongue. keep the fucking fingers to yourself.

>You can

>also shower together, taking advantage of that to soap up his

>crack and start slipping those sudsy fingers inside him.

>However you do it, DON'T JAM your fingers inside him! Stroke

>his anus gently with your finger (try little circular motions

>with soapsuds or lubricant) until it relaxes and starts

>opening of its own accord!

soap inside the ass is a bad thing. soap will dry out the sensitive tissues, leading (possibly) to tearing and discomfort.

>(You can also try doing this with

>the head of your cock!)

with the head of your properly sheathed (no, not talking foreskin here!) and lubed penis?

You can help this along by

>accompanying the assplay with a tongue slurping at his ear,

am i the only one here who can't stand wet willies as a form of sex play?

>6) When you've gotten your partner open and relaxed,

>experiment finding an initial position that he finds the most

>comfortable.

best advice so far!

>the

>best thing to do is to let HIM to all the work.

agreed

>10) Keep stimulating your partner while you're fucking him,

>and help him to get off, too. Just because he's a bottom

>doesn't mean that he doesn't want to climax!

and don't whine if some of us can't manage to get hard with something up there.

[trilingual]

RE: A PRIMER FOR THE SUPER-SIZED AND THEIR BOTTOM ADMIRERS

 

I used to think I couldn't get hard with something up my ass until I was proven laughably wrong by some incredibly skillful lovers.

 

If fingers aren't your thing for loosening up your partner, use something else: the head of your dick (yes, properly sheathed and lubed if that makes you feel more secure, but I'm talking low-risk pre-penetration stimulus here) or your tongue or a dildo/vibrator the size of three fingers or so. The nice things about fingers (for the non-squeamish among us) is that they're a built-in graduated dilator: First one finger, then two, then three. . .

 

If "wet willies" don't do it for you, let your partner know what DOES do it for you! Different strokes, you know, but the point is to get so turned on (yet relaxed) that you feel you could take on the Queen Mary! A skillful partner will get you to that point.