Brian Kevin Posted May 20, 2022 Share Posted May 20, 2022 *** please for the integrity of this post leave the pervert in you at the door for a minute Theoretically.... I have had my lgbtqia+ teenage brother for a year+ now. I have been balancing this thanks to my 7 year fiancé/partner. We just got the parents removed in court due to them not showing up or making any attempt to better themselfes in over a year. I was then approved to adopt. Having onlyfans and been in porn, I am hesitant to come forward and being transparent about this to the adoption agency and our lawyers have said I am a "stay at home maker" If this comes out, is it the end of all for someone in adoption? He is 2 years away from 18, courts are ion board with him staying with me adoption or not. Meaning, I have to fulfill parenting classes (half way done) and they're easy and straight forward. By completing the classes I become a legal adoptive parent and it opens up more benefits and finicial help to offset a teenager cause lord knows neither parent helped. If I do not get approved they will let him stay but I'll be limited to the $306 my state offers for kinship placement... I'd do this for free cause no kid deserves a shitty childhood! Does anyone have any experience, insight etc ? PS: this explains my crazy and hectic tour dates. I had to cancel on my last leg of the PNW last month due to court and classes so thanks everyone for staying patient and understanding with me. Thanks for your advice/input in this sensitive topice. Luv2play, Marc in Calif, + Charlie and 1 other 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ FrankR Posted May 20, 2022 Share Posted May 20, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, Brian Kevin said: *** please for the integrity of this post leave the pervert in you at the door for a minute Theoretically.... I have had my lgbtqia+ teenage brother for a year+ now. I have been balancing this thanks to my 7 year fiancé/partner. We just got the parents removed in court due to them not showing up or making any attempt to better themselfes in over a year. I was then approved to adopt. Having onlyfans and been in porn, I am hesitant to come forward and being transparent about this to the adoption agency and our lawyers have said I am a "stay at home maker" If this comes out, is it the end of all for someone in adoption? He is 2 years away from 18, courts are ion board with him staying with me adoption or not. Meaning, I have to fulfill parenting classes (half way done) and they're easy and straight forward. By completing the classes I become a legal adoptive parent and it opens up more benefits and finicial help to offset a teenager cause lord knows neither parent helped. If I do not get approved they will let him stay but I'll be limited to the $306 my state offers for kinship placement... I'd do this for free cause no kid deserves a shitty childhood! Does anyone have any experience, insight etc ? PS: this explains my crazy and hectic tour dates. I had to cancel on my last leg of the PNW last month due to court and classes so thanks everyone for staying patient and understanding with me. Thanks for your advice/input in this sensitive topice. I took in my godsons when their parents passed. They were 15 and 16 at the time. Did not adopt, so I cannot speak to that, but I applaud you for stepping up. It was a big change and some of the adjustments werent easy so I know what you are going through. Take it one day at a time and follow the advice of a good family lawyer. Edited May 20, 2022 by FrankR thomas, Shoedog112, Luv2play and 3 others 3 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brian Kevin Posted May 20, 2022 Author Share Posted May 20, 2022 3 hours ago, FrankR said: I took in my godsons when their parents passed. They were 15 and 16 at the time. Did not adopt, so I cannot speak to that, but I applaud you for stepping up. It was a big change and some of the adjustments werent easy so I know what you are going through. Take it one day at a time and follow the advice of a good family lawyer. You are a super power flower child taking in your godsons!!! So I return the applaud to you as well! It definitely isn't easy or cheap and it kills me both parents are still alive but have "better things" to do. Thankful we were both able to intercept our family members before they ended up in the system with complete strangers, even if that means putting other aspects of our live on hold. I want to close this message with I received some insight from someone who is knowledgeable in that field. + Charlie 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 28, 2023 Share Posted March 28, 2023 On 5/20/2022 at 1:04 AM, Brian Kevin said: ...Having onlyfans and been in porn, I am hesitant to come forward and being transparent about this to the adoption agency and our lawyers have said I am a "stay at home maker"... I don't understand why you'd need to specifically state you do OF and porn. Why not follow your lawyers' advice? I guess you could admit to being a "movie extra" if you need to explain something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted March 28, 2023 Share Posted March 28, 2023 On 5/20/2022 at 4:04 AM, Brian Kevin said: Having onlyfans and been in porn, I am hesitant to come forward and being transparent about this to the adoption agency and our lawyers have said I am a "stay at home maker" First to answer this question properly a LOT depends on the state you're in. A liberal State will be more tolerant a conservative state will make a big stink. But overall...in my experience most state's family court systems are overwhelmed so the likelihood of you being discovered is small. So I see no reason to get into discussions about your line of work. They will want to see tax documents showing income not videos showing your best angles. Discretion is the best way to proceed. marylander1940 and + Pensant 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloKyle Posted March 28, 2023 Share Posted March 28, 2023 10 hours ago, UmanUa said: Regarding your hesitation to come forward about your past work in the adult industry, I understand that it can be a delicate matter, especially in the context of adoption. Your past work should not automatically disqualify you from adoption, and there may be ways to address any concerns or questions that may arise. I was waiting for a lawyer's name and number at the end of the post 😂 + azdr0710 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ APPLE1 Posted March 29, 2023 Share Posted March 29, 2023 (edited) The best advice I see so far is to ask your attorney. Even in highly blue or red states, it very much depends on the family judicial district/region adjudicating the issue. Even more so, the specific judge and their stance is significant. Any family attorney, worth their weight in salt, should know local judicial attitudes for the general area, as well as for specific judges. While I recognize that knowing local judicial attitudes may give you huge peace of mind, my assumption, is that your attorney will likely tell you keep quiet unless it's brought up by another. Court rarely has to do with the truth. It's more about which side spins a better and more believable story. I have a friend who is a DA. One of his regular, infamous lines is: "my job would be nearly impossible if criminals would learn to keep their mouth shut. " And don't misunderstand. I am not saying you are a criminal. I am highliting the importance of not sharing things you are not asked about (other than with your attorney). Edited March 29, 2023 by APPLE1 RadioRob, Brian Kevin and pubic_assistance 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ azdr0710 Posted March 29, 2023 Share Posted March 29, 2023 (edited) Just FYI, Brian has not logged in here in nearly a year. All this more recent well-intentioned advice may not get to him. It appears a troll/bot resurrected this thread. Edited March 29, 2023 by azdr0710 MikeBiDude, BabyBoomer, pubic_assistance and 2 others 3 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ The Big Guy Posted March 29, 2023 Share Posted March 29, 2023 Several people have mentioned following your lawyers advice. Seems like the right answer. A friend of mine is a judge and when discussing how to navigate the legal system one time he just said “it’s all about your attorney - the best lawyer usually wins”. Brian Kevin 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brian Kevin Posted January 26 Author Share Posted January 26 We were able to win custody Hen, rvwnsd, mike carey and 13 others 2 14 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 11 hours ago, Brian Kevin said: We were able to win custody Congratulations. You are a truly good and kind person for stepping in and taking on this responsibility. Wishing you continued sucess. Luv2play, Brian Kevin, liubit and 2 others 1 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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