Can’t perform with a condom

[Cliff]

Recently, I’ve hired 3 different escorts who cannot perform/stay hard while wearing a condom. What frustrates me most is that I am very upfront before we meet about wanting to be fucked but having a condom requirement and they quickly agree to it but then once they put on the condom, they shrivel up. So they can’t fuck me and I end up just sucking and rimming them so I can cum but of course they still want their $300. I have paid the full price each time and left quietly and like a gentleman but frustrated and pissed off. I feel like these guys should have a disclaimer in their ads that says “Can’t stay hard in a condom,” the same way that other escorts give fair warning: “ No bareback.” Anyone else experience this? 

[dbar123]

I’ve encountered this a bunch of times. Look for escorts that specify safe only. It increases your chances

[KeepItReal]

3 hours ago, Cliff said:

Recently, I’ve hired 3 different escorts who cannot perform/stay hard while wearing a condom. What frustrates me most is that I am very upfront before we meet about wanting to be fucked but having a condom requirement and they quickly agree to it but then once they put on the condom, they shrivel up. So they can’t fuck me and I end up just sucking and rimming them so I can cum but of course they still want their $300. I have paid the full price each time and left quietly and like a gentleman but frustrated and pissed off. I feel like these guys should have a disclaimer in their ads that says “Can’t stay hard in a condom,” the same way that other escorts give fair warning: “ No bareback.” Anyone else experience this? 

The only time I have seen this happen was when the condom was too small and restricted blood flow. Do you provide the condoms and are they big enough? 

May I also suggest you try changing from latex condoms to non-latex like SKYN brand - it changes the sensation dramatically. 

It's the best advice I can offer - it does come from an old slut; that has to count for something! 😉

[Jn8028]

4 hours ago, Cliff said:

Recently, I’ve hired 3 different escorts who cannot perform/stay hard while wearing a condom. What frustrates me most is that I am very upfront before we meet about wanting to be fucked but having a condom requirement and they quickly agree to it but then once they put on the condom, they shrivel up. So they can’t fuck me and I end up just sucking and rimming them so I can cum but of course they still want their $300. I have paid the full price each time and left quietly and like a gentleman but frustrated and pissed off. I feel like these guys should have a disclaimer in their ads that says “Can’t stay hard in a condom,” the same way that other escorts give fair warning: “ No bareback.” Anyone else experience this? 

Had a situation not totally the same but somewhat related happen last summer…he wanted to go in BB and while I was horny enough to do it, my brain prevailed. He put it on and stayed hard BUT finished in no time at all. He actually blamed the condom which kinda went against any experience I’ve ever had before lol. He was in his 20’s and was able to go again with some assistance so it wasn’t a lost cause but definitely a lot of guys these days are pushing to go without one.

[ChasingGirth]

I had a talk with an escort that had the same problem. He argued that he is on prep so it’s safe but I told him that he can still get serious STD’s if he doesn’t wear protection. Selecting a guy that play safe only doesn’t garantie he will be able to perform as some say they are safe only for marketing purposes. 

[Gymowner]

Girth... std's can passed on even if condoms are used. That is not a true safety measure. Oral, anal and even genital transmission is possible even when condoms are used. Only real safety is no sex. So if fear of catching an std is the factor then no sex at all should be attitude.

[Cliff]

10 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

The only time I have seen this happen was when the condom was too small and restricted blood flow. Do you provide the condoms and are they big enough? 

May I also suggest you try changing from latex condoms to non-latex like SKYN brand - it changes the sensation dramatically. 

It's the best advice I can offer - it does come from an old slut; that has to count for something! 😉

Yes, I hire only guys with big dicks so I buy Trojan Magnums. Thanks for the suggestion about SKYN, though. I remember Mike Gaite told me about them a few years ago. Hopefully SKYN comes in an XL size so the escort can’t claim it’s not big enough.

[KeepItReal]

7 hours ago, Gymowner said:

Girth... std's can passed on even if condoms are used. That is not a true safety measure. Oral, anal and even genital transmission is possible even when condoms are used. Only real safety is no sex. So if fear of catching an std is the factor then no sex at all should be attitude.

Consistent and correct use of condoms dramatically reduces the risk of contracting many STDs, especially those that are spread by fluids.  It is not an absolute safety measure but it is a true safety measure (reduce odds of STD transmission by up to 90%)

https://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/brief.html

Edited May 31, 2021 by KeepItReal
Clarify

[+ Pensant]

A solution that works for me is to use a rubber penis extender, both when I top and bottom. There’s something hot looking down at a thick nine incher. 

[Cliff]

3 hours ago, Cliff said:

Yes, I hire only guys with big dicks so I buy Trojan Magnums. Thanks for the suggestion about SKYN, though. I remember Mike Gaite told me about them a few years ago. Hopefully SKYN comes in an XL size so the escort can’t claim it’s not big enough.

Skyn does make a large size and I just bought a pack. Hopefully they are as large as Magnums and allow more sensation.

[+ FrankR]

10 hours ago, Gymowner said:

Girth... std's can passed on even if condoms are used.

True - but the risk of transmission is highly reduced.

10 hours ago, Gymowner said:

That is not a true safety measure.

False - as @KeepItReal pointed out above, condoms are a trusted and proven safety measure.

10 hours ago, Gymowner said:

Oral, anal and even genital transmission is possible even when condoms are used.

True - it is possible but the risk of transmission is highly reduced.

10 hours ago, Gymowner said:

 Only real safety is no sex.

False - Herpes, for example, can be transmitted by skin to skin contact without anything sexual happening.

10 hours ago, Gymowner said:

 So if fear of catching an std is the factor then no sex at all should be attitude.

False - most of my providers do not use condoms because they are afraid.  They use it because they care and don't wish to contract OR spread STDs in the community. 

Those of us who pay attention are aware that STD rates have been rising - mainly due to people no longer using condoms.  In the words of that great philosopher, Van Wilder:  Don't be a fool!  Wrap your tool!!

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/08/why-are-stds-on-the-rise-if-people-are-having-less-sex/568909/

[Trick]

5 hours ago, Cliff said:

Yes, I hire only guys with big dicks so I buy Trojan Magnums. Thanks for the suggestion about SKYN, though. I remember Mike Gaite told me about them a few years ago. Hopefully SKYN comes in an XL size so the escort can’t claim it’s not big enough.

Magnum has a Bareskin variant

Trojan Magnum Bareskin Lubricated Large Size Condoms https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00R3UKU64/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_BB6ZQ6FRWRBAF7KXGBF9

Edited May 31, 2021 by Trick

[rustyrex]

I understand the frustration, but in reverse....I was with one provider that insisted on protection, so I suited up and couldn’t cum.  I warned him....this can go on non stop for at least 40 minutes.  After I didn’t cum, he said when he tops with a condom he doesn’t cum either...for the whole condom sensation reason.  I asked....how does your hire feel if you don’t cum, especially a bottom or sub guy?  He didn’t answer....but he did get his money.  I haven’t seen him since.  Nice guy but if I have to suit up then there better something else that can make me climax...dirty talk, piggy play, WS or boyfriend experience.  Some guys do more than make up for the condom thing...others do not....it’s trial and error.

[marylander1940]

19 hours ago, Cliff said:

Recently, I’ve hired 3 different escorts who cannot perform/stay hard while wearing a condom. What frustrates me most is that I am very upfront before we meet about wanting to be fucked but having a condom requirement and they quickly agree to it but then once they put on the condom, they shrivel up. So they can’t fuck me and I end up just sucking and rimming them so I can cum but of course they still want their $300. I have paid the full price each time and left quietly and like a gentleman but frustrated and pissed off. I feel like these guys should have a disclaimer in their ads that says “Can’t stay hard in a condom,” the same way that other escorts give fair warning: “ No bareback.” Anyone else experience this? 

I remember a time before PrEP when condoms were mandatory and having sex without them was an act of madness only similar to playing Russian roulette. Obviously PrEP has changed the game.

Review them in a negative way in RM and in the other site when is running again, you should warn others about them not being good tops. They could have taken half a pill instead of the usual 1/4 young men take to get it and keep it up. 

[marylander1940]

1 hour ago, Cliff said:

Skyn does make a large size and I just bought a pack. Hopefully they are as large as Magnums and allow more sensation.

Magnum aren't only bigger but they have a safety ring and they're easier to put on. Even guys who don't need them use them because they're comfortable.  

 

[Cliff]

4 hours ago, rustyrex said:

I understand the frustration, but in reverse....I was with one provider that insisted on protection, so I suited up and couldn’t cum.  I warned him....this can go on non stop for at least 40 minutes.  After I didn’t cum, he said when he tops with a condom he doesn’t cum either...for the whole condom sensation reason.  I asked....how does your hire feel if you don’t cum, especially a bottom or sub guy?  He didn’t answer....but he did get his money.  I haven’t seen him since.  Nice guy but if I have to suit up then there better something else that can make me climax...dirty talk, piggy play, WS or boyfriend experience.  Some guys do more than make up for the condom thing...others do not....it’s trial and error.

I guess I have been lucky up until now because I have found A LOT of hot, big-dicked escorts who have no problem wearing a condom and stay hard the whole time. In other words, pros. 

[Cliff]

4 hours ago, rustyrex said:

I understand the frustration, but in reverse....I was with one provider that insisted on protection, so I suited up and couldn’t cum.  I warned him....this can go on non stop for at least 40 minutes.  After I didn’t cum, he said when he tops with a condom he doesn’t cum either...for the whole condom sensation reason.  I asked....how does your hire feel if you don’t cum, especially a bottom or sub guy?  He didn’t answer....but he did get his money.  I haven’t seen him since.  Nice guy but if I have to suit up then there better something else that can make me climax...dirty talk, piggy play, WS or boyfriend experience.  Some guys do more than make up for the condom thing...others do not....it’s trial and error.

I think it would have helped if you had talked about it before you met him so there would be no surprises. In my case, I’m always very clear about it in advance. 

[Alexphilly]

Heh I always stay hard in condoms I just like magnums because I can be comfortable and creative. 

[+ WilliamM]

4 hours ago, rustyrex said:

I understand the frustration, but in reverse....I was with one provider that insisted on protection, so I suited up and couldn’t cum.  I warned him....this can go on non stop for at least 40 minutes.  After I didn’t cum, he said when he tops with a condom he doesn’t cum either...for the whole condom sensation reason.  I asked....how does your hire feel if you don’t cum, especially a bottom or sub guy?  He didn’t answer....but he did get his money.  I haven’t seen him since.  Nice guy but if I have to suit up then there better something else that can make me climax...dirty talk, piggy play, WS or boyfriend experience.  Some guys do more than make up for the condom thing...others do not....it’s trial and error.

Thanks. A very thoughtful response, a bit unusual in this particular discussion

[marylander1940]

2 hours ago, Cliff said:

I guess I have been lucky up until now because I have found A LOT of hot, big-dicked escorts who have no problem wearing a condom and stay hard the whole time. In other words, pros. 

 

no, in other words "they took Viagra"! 

[CuriousByNature]

16 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

 

no, in other words "they took Viagra"! 

Or perhaps @Cliff is all the viagra they need 😉