Are you Hiring your Younger Self?

[orville]

Connections are easily made when there are things in common.

 

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I already knew I'm biased towards Latin men (despite me being white / dark hair) but I believe I rarely hire blonds because ... I think we would look weird on the street? I also think I gradually distanced myself from the younger (18-25) and now being in my 50s I find myself hiring more guys in their late 20s and 30s. I might also be picking my permanent or seasonal go-to providers if they remind me of my younger self. I'm not talking about looks or ethnicity but paths and decisions made in life.

 

Is this also your case, or you experience it differently?

Edited July 21, 2020 by orville

[MscleLovr]

No, not at all. For me, it’s about similar interests and activities as well as similar characteristics.

 

When I hired, I always went for younger men...typically 21-32, but the age-range expanded upto 40 as I myself aged. Blond, brown, black or red hair made no difference.

 

Fascinating idea tho @orville

[socurious]

I think I look better now.

[orville]

Fascinating idea tho @orville

Thank you @MscleLovr ☺

[Daverwr]

I’m certainly not. I think I hire what I would like to be but never could be.

[Guest]

First of all I love the pic, damn he's still sexy. As someone who has body dysmorphia and hate the way I look I never considered someone attractive who looked like me. I always wanted to be with the guys who I wished I looked like, blonde, long hair, lean build, the kids I grew up with. But as I've grown older I've become attracted to a wide range of body types, hair color, etc. I remember being in my 20's and thinking I'd never be into bears but now I'm all about them and well honestly, growing into one lol. I think that's one of the best things about growing older, your tastes change/grow and you don't have a limited view of what you find attractive. I often laugh at how, when I was a teen/20s, body hair was a turn off, now it's a huge turn on. Still like smooth guys too, lol.

[Guest]

No, not at all. For me, it’s about similar interests and activities as well as similar characteristics.

 

When I hired, I always went for younger men...typically 21-32, but the age-range expanded upto 40 as I myself aged. Blond, brown, black or red hair made no difference.

 

Fascinating idea tho @orville

 

I'm still obsessed with gingers though... lol.

[orville]

First of all I love the pic, damn he's still sexy. As someone who has body dysmorphia and hate the way I look I never considered someone attractive who looked like me. I always wanted to be with the guys who I wished I looked like, blonde, long hair, lean build, the kids I grew up with. But as I've grown older I've become attracted to a wide range of body types, hair color, etc. I remember being in my 20's and thinking I'd never be into bears but now I'm all about them and well honestly, growing into one lol. I think that's one of the best things about growing older, your tastes change/grow and you don't have a limited view of what you find attractive. I often laugh at how, when I was a teen/20s, body hair was a turn off, now it's a huge turn on. Still like smooth guys too, lol.

I mostly agree with you @Woofiecmh I'm far away from being tall, lean, or muscular which is the kind of physique I like in a provider but there is definitely something that attracts me more if during conversation the young guy has had a life path similar to mine, or if our mindsets are alike, beyond bed.

[orville]

I'm still obsessed with gingers though... lol.

Me too! Not many of the type I like though.

[Guest]

I mostly agree with you @Woofiecmh I'm far away from being tall, lean, or muscular which is the kind of physique I like in a provider but there is definitely something that attracts me more if during conversation the young guy has had a life path similar to mine, or if our mindsets are alike, beyond bed.

 

I agree 100%! We tend to focus on looks and sexuality but honestly it's nice when you have a connection with a provider. Alex Hawk is a perfect example, what an amazing guy to just sit and talk with by the pool. I still kick myself that I didn't hire him at the Daddy's weekend in PS a couple of years ago. And we all know my affection for a certain ginger porn star. Nicest guy, very successful career outside of the profession.

[Daverwr]

I agree 100%! We tend to focus on looks and sexuality but honestly it's nice when you have a connection with a provider. Alex Hawk is a perfect example, what an amazing guy to just sit and talk with by the pool. I still kick myself that I didn't hire him at the Daddy's weekend in PS a couple of years ago. And we all know my affection for a certain ginger porn star. Nicest guy, very successful career outside of the profession.

That’s what is unfortunate and so limiting with RM and the other sites. It’s all so physicality-based. You have a very brief intro with the profile, but little of their personality is shown. It’s very probable that we pass by some profiles simply because the pics weren’t eye catching. But, if you had a chance to get to know them, they might be the most attractive person on the site.

[big-n-tall]

Am I looking to hire someone who reminds me of my younger self? Definitely not. Lol!!

Besides me having way less hair and a few more wrinkles, I still look like my high school picture. In fact, I’m the same weight and size I was my senior year.

 

As I have recounted before, I tend to initially gravitate towards muscled men (athletic to bodybuilder). However, I am into to all types and have hired almost all types. The age range goes from 22 being the youngest and the oldest, mid 50s. Some of the men I see regularly have changed drastically, physically since we first met, but my attraction for them has never waned. Although people’s bodies change, the core of what I find attractive about them (I.e. their personalities, how much fun we have together, how they kiss, how they respond to me) rarely does.

[big-n-tall]

That’s what is unfortunate and so limiting with RM and the other sites. It’s all so physicality-based. You have a very brief intro with the profile, but little of their personality is shown. It’s very probable that we pass by some profiles simply because the pics weren’t eye catching. But, if you had a chance to get to know them, they might be the most attractive person on the site.

 

That’s why I read the interviews on rm as well as the ad copy. Some times you can tell more about the guy from his interview section. It mostly hasn’t steered me wrong yet.

[orville]

Am I looking to hire someone who reminds me of my younger self? Definitely not. Lol!!

Besides me having way less hair and a few more wrinkles, I still look like my high school picture. In fact, I’m the same weight and size I was my senior year.

 

As I have recounted before, I tend to initially gravitate towards muscled men (athletic to bodybuilder). However, I am into to all types and have hired almost all types. The age range goes from 22 being the youngest and the oldest, mid 50s. Some of the men I see regularly have changed drastically, physically since we first met, but my attraction for them has never waned. Although people’s bodies change, the core of what I find attractive about them (I.e. their personalities, how much fun we have together, how they kiss, how they respond to me) rarely does.

This is great @big-n-tall ... To know that everyone lives their hobby in a different way is enlightening. In your case, because your main focus is on muscle, this allows you to meet with guys from all backgrounds with different experiences in life. It doesn't really matter as long as they are muscled and I am going to assume this enriches your experience because it gives you upfront an immediate connection. You and your providers are connected by their muscles and your worshipping. Then I suppose good part of your interaction with them has 'muscles' and 'muscle-building' as a conversation topic? It removes most of the guessing trying to match personalities and opens the doors easily to the most intimate part: how they respond to you, and the kissing ?

[orville]

That’s why I read the interviews on rm as well as the ad copy. Some times you can tell more about the guy from his interview section. It mostly hasn’t steered me wrong yet.

Just out of curiosity, what do you look for in the interviews? What is a good sing, and what is a dis-qualifier?

[big-n-tall]

This is great @big-n-tall ... To know that everyone lives their hobby in a different way is enlightening. In your case, because your main focus is on muscle, this allows you to meet with guys from all backgrounds with different experiences in life. It doesn't really matter as long as they are muscled and I am going to assume this enriches your experience because it gives you upfront an immediate connection. You and your providers are connected by their muscles and your worshipping. Then I suppose good part of your interaction with them has 'muscles' and 'muscle-building' as a conversation topic? It removes most of the guessing trying to match personalities and opens the doors easily to the most intimate part: how they respond to you, and the kissing ?

 

Muscle tends to get me in the door, as it were. However, it’s usually their personality and interactions with me that keep returning. That’s what truly enriches the experience. Muscle is icing on the cake. Also as I stated it’s not purely about muscle, especially after subsequent meetings. I have oft told the story on the forum about a provider, whom when we first was muscled. He stopped “juicing” and became a bit chubby. He was afraid that I wouldn’t want to see him any more. ...to the contrary. I still see him because he’s still handsome, he’s still an amazing kisser, he’s still has a sexy deep raspy voice, he still responds to me sexually the way he did before, and we still have loads of fun together in and out of the bedroom.

 

Just out of curiosity, what do you look for in the interviews? What is a good sing, and what is a dis-qualifier?

 

I just look for information where they directly state some of the things they like outside of escorting. I also look for how they generally respond to the questions. Sometimes a guy sparks my interest but when contacting them they seem a bit distant or gruff in response. Then I’ll see additional things like video from their twitter page, that shows you more of their personality (and I’m not just talking about their sex vids lol). A prime example of this is the escort Coleossus. I was very attracted to him physically and I liked what he said in his rm interviews. So I contacted him. He was very upfront and polite but something about his response kind of cooled my desire to see him. I didn’t rule him out, but I diverted my energy to other escorts. Eventually I discovered his twitter page. He seemed so enthusiastic and ready for fun in a lot of his vids, my interest flared again. Besides that fact, he doesn’t seem to take himself too seriously and has a sexy voice. So when the pandemic subsides and if he’s still working... I’m hiring him. ?

 

Many of the guys I’ve encountered, after getting to know them have many of the same interests do. For some, I kind of had an idea from reading reviews or their rm interviews. For the majority though, I guess I have just developed an intuition at picking good guys that like things I like beyond sex and the physical. Some of my closest regulars have become dear friends. Even though a number have retired we still talk or get together and just enjoy each other’s company doing whatever.

[+ Pensant]

I think I look better now.

For some reason, I looked my best in my 40’s on. Not bad in my 20s and 30s, but definitely a nerdish twink in high school.

[orville]

He stopped “juicing” and became a bit chubby. He was afraid that I wouldn’t want to see him any more. ...to the contrary. I still see him because he’s still handsome, he’s still an amazing kisser, he’s still has a sexy deep raspy voice, he still responds to me sexually the way he did before, and we still have loads of fun together in and out of the bedroom.

That sounds yummy! Did he remain bulky / stocky? Is he straight and attached?

I have just developed an intuition at picking good guys that like things I like beyond sex and the physical. Some of my closest regulars have become dear friends. Even though a number have retired we still talk or get together and just enjoy each other’s company doing whatever.

Do you think this validates my point that, despite being our interest obviously triggered at first by the looks, we tend to stick around those providers who are more or less like us, just younger?

[orville]

For some reason, I looked my best in my 40’s on. Not bad in my 20s and 30s, but definitely a nerdish twink in high school.

If you are the guy in your profile pic, you still look good @Pensant

[big-n-tall]

That sounds yummy! Did he remain bulky / stocky? Is he straight and attached?

 

Do you think this validates my point that, despite being our interest obviously triggered at first by the looks, we tend to stick around those providers who are more or less like us, just younger?

 

Kinda of. He still has a decent shape but was just chubby. I'm not certain if he classifies himself as straight or bisexual. He is married to a woman who knows about him still seeing me. I guess she understands there is a side of him she can't fulfill. That's just my speculation. I haven't talked to her. He longer advertises.

 

Sorry, no, I don't. Just because someone has similar or the same interests doesn't mean that they act similar or “just like us” (nor is it an issue of age). We just share common interests. Most of my regulars, we aren't really alike save the common appreciation for certain things. The one I see the most and probably the closest too is loud bold and very outgoing. I'm opposite of that. He's about 10 years younger than me. The escort (i've mention in the past) who stopped charging me for his time is my age. He has appreciation for the things I like but otherwise he really isn't in to what i am and vice versa, but we click on other levels.

Edited July 21, 2020 by big-n-tall

[marylander1940]

I think I look better now.

 

You're 31. Do you hire guys now that are younger or older than you?

 

No, not at all. For me, it’s about similar interests and activities as well as similar characteristics.

 

When I hired, I always went for younger men...typically 21-32, but the age-range expanded upto 40 as I myself aged. Blond, brown, black or red hair made no difference.

 

Fascinating idea tho @orville

 

I discovered when I turned 40 that all of the sudden SO MANY guys were younger and the number of younger guys kept getting larger.

 

Agreed, great subject by @orville and answering his question yes I hire good looking athletic guys in their 20's and 30's just like I was back then. I hire mostly white (Nordic and Mediterranean) looking guys. I'm of Irish ancestry but I was never recognized on the street as an "ethnic" looking person like some other members of my family who were Irish a block away.

 

I think whether you hire your younger self depends primarily of how you looked back then... If you're Asian in your 40's/50's and you hire All American looking guys into sports? Are you hiring your younger self?

[Rudynate]

I like musclemen. Strong preference for blacks and Latins.

[orville]

I like musclemen. Strong preference for blacks and Latins.

I love my Latin men too. I have definitely had my share of Black men even if I'm not black but again, I like finding things in common when I approach them by text or on RM website. Oh, and if I find a BLatino (Latin men of Black ancestry, mostly Central American or Caribbean), I'm half way in ... or they half way in me? Lol, I don't know! But I can't wait to make that happen, cause I know they have the BBC + the Latin Flair ?

Edited July 21, 2020 by orville

[Rudynate]

But I can't wait to make that happen, cause I know they have a BBC + the Latin Flair ?

 

I have a very fond memory of a black Cuban hunk that I met at a bathhouse in Vancouver many years ago

[orville]

I have a very fond memory of a black Cuban hunk that I met at a bathhouse in Vancouver many years ago

Puerto Ricans, Cubans and Dominicans are hot as hell. Nothing in common with my younger self though. Commonalities are often found during bed talk.