Multi-Day Hire

[xyz48B]

Looking ahead, I’d like to do a multi-day hire. About 5 days. When you’ve done that, how do you handle separate time? I’m not a guy that needs 100% of my time with another guy, but for the BFE it’s nice to know he’s there. It seems to me a set 1-3pm (or whatever) of alone time is not exactly like a BFE. But in another sense, a BFE is just that – an experience, not reality.

 

How do you arrange for that? Is it predetermined or is it more organic?

 

Likewise, how much sex is reasonable to expect (not demand – this is mutual) in such a duration? Again recognizing our time is limited together but also not going to be a 5-day fuckfesf, what’s reasonable in your opinion?

 

I don’t think there’s a “right answer.” Just wondering your personal approaches. I’d welcome veteran client and escort opinions. Likewise, how have you – client and escorts – felt about such arrangements? Be blunt. I want frank, truthful answers. No judgement. Just want a clearer view of what to expect

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Longer term, multiple days and long-haul travel are my cornerstones... That said, I think this kind of thing should be organic.

 

As for sex, that's the easy part. It should come naturally. It should feel natural. If there's no flow, that's gonna be a long, odd week.

 

How many times? Putting a number out there would be unrealistic. What's right for you and your guy isn't right for someone else.

[big-n-tall]

For everything you asked, a lot has to do with the chemistry you have with a provider and his endurance.

 

I have done overnights with guys I had not met previously and all save a few were great hires that lead to repeats. With that said, I would never hire someone I have never met for more than a weekend. In fact, the only guy I hired for a weekend before meeting was Kristian Elix. Kristian has a great reputation. So I took a chance. You really need to know on a certain level that you are compatible and can stand being around each other for longer than a day or 2. Lol! I think whomever you plan on hiring that long, make sure it’s someone you met multiple times. Make sure both of you are comfortable with each other.

 

Although I have had many overnights and weekends, there have been only 3 providers I have done 3 or more days with. These are guys I have an incredible rapport with and genuinely consider friends. Each of them are into fitness so I assumed they would want to workout. I let them dictate the workout schedule that suited them. Of the 3, one was religious about working out daily. Other than that, that was the only alone time each required or requested. I think it’s ok to discuss alone time specifics, but I think the time frame will be dependent on what the provider requires (I.e. working out or to catch up on business).

 

As for sex, again it depends on chemistry and the providers abilities. I think it’s ok to talk about your expectations with the provider and his expectations as well. Some guys pretty much are one and done and it’s not easy for them to go at it again for long stretches if not a whole day. While others, especially if you have great chemistry, may go multiple times a day/night. If I’m really turned on and in to the person, I can go 3 or more times a day, but not everyone can keep up with that. You need to find a balance when you talk to your provider of your choice. If you’ve had previous encounters with the provider you want to take on extended excursions, then the number of romps may be more organically intuitive as opposed to asking an unknown how many times he can play.

 

What ever you do, before you commit, communication with the provider is key.

Edited May 20, 2020 by big-n-tall

[MscleLovr]

I agree with a lot of what @big-n-tall wrote, especially “communication with the provider is key”. l’ll follow his structure with my observations. (My experiences in hiring date from 8-15 years ago)

 

I only did an overnight date after successful short dates (1-2 hours). Some guys are great in bed but not good at interesting conversation over dinner, so time can drag. If an overnight date went well, I’d suggest a long weekend (2-3 nights) next. And if the weekend dates were wonderful, I’d offer to take a guy along with me on a week’s overseas vacation.

 

Just as when I travel with friends, I’d spell out what I had in mind to do during the vacation (see certain places or exhibitions, hiking, lie in the sun, swim/be on the beach, visit art galleries etc)

I’d mention too things that are important to me, eg good food and sleep (I like to eat a big breakfast, have a small lunch and eat a good dinner with wine; I don’t eat fast-food and I don’t drink much alcohol; I like to sleep 7-8 hours a night and get up early).

I mentioned this detail because I wanted to learn what the other guy liked to do. I can adapt and had successful trips with, among others, guys who like to run before breakfast, guys who like to workout late morning, guys who eat a large lunch, guys who like a cocktail before dinner with wine and a drink afterwards.

I always offered some free time separately each day. You know it’s working well when the other guy says No, I don’t need to be alone.

 

As for sex, I was very specific. I enjoy lots of kissing, making out, getting sucked off to completion and as I’m a top, fucking with condom. If I was really into a guy, I’d want sex 3x a day.

I like to top a guy before dinner, say late afternoon then shower and dress for dinner. I realize a guy may not be in the mood for a hard pounding each day so I’d say that as long as I was sucked off to completion daily and I got to top every other day, I’d be happy. I had many such week-long (and longer) trips where I enjoyed sex on average 2x a day.

I recognize that there is an element of “go with the flow” and “don’t over-schedule” but unless you are specific about what you enjoy and want to do, you may end up with a rather expensive vacation with someone you will not want to see afterwards.

 

You did not ask about compensation @xyz48B I found it best to ask beforehand what fee was reasonable. Sometimes I was surprised at how little the guy asked for - I guess it was because the trip was to a high-end hotel in a desirable location or simply because the guy wanted a good holiday. I certainly never paid 7x the overnight rate.

[wklukas]

In specific situations, I’ll extend offers to guys to accompany me on biz trips that might be from 2-4 days total.....the ”action” & kinds of interaction i’m looking for / hoping for / expecting on those trips are varied, depending in part on my own work schedule for a particular trip....

(for example, Moscow & other Russian cities are fairly frequent but necessary short biz trips for me.....I’ve never been comfortable hiring in Russia itself.....if I kind of know that I’m going to be horny & know I would enjoy it, I might extend an offer to one of the guys I know in London to join or meet me there.....over the years for Russia, I think I’ve made this arrangement 6 or 7 times)....

 

I extend a much higher number of invites to guys to join me along on vacations....almost always 7-10 days in length & almost always to warm weather beach destinations.....the destinations are always my own choosing & can be almost anywhere in the world.....

I work hard but I play easy....On vaca, I’m mostly looking to relax / be lazy / enjoy good, leisurely meals.....& have “adult” fun.....

Even on vaca, I’m an early riser.....with a mug of coffee in hand, in warm / hot weather locales, I enjoy a couple hours of early morning sun.....then some breakfast (if “my guy” is up & wanting to join me, fine.....if not, fine too).....after breakfast, i’m back in the sun.....by 1pm or so, I’m back in our room.....maybe a short nap / maybe some TV / or maybe some emailing or whatever....at some point, i begin to shower, clean-up & get ready for an all inclusive sex party for 2...I usually like the fun to start around 4pm or so.....and last maybe 2 or 3 hours.....during the whole day, my travel companion is free to spend his day however he wants - sleep in, hit the gym, hang out a bit w/me.....anyway, after our late afternoon play, we clean up, plan for dinner together & usually something else together after dinner too (hit a casino or whatever).....back in the room, before falling asleep another - albeit maybe shorter - all-inclusive play session usually happens.....(fyi, ”all-inclusive” means him / Tarzan (Top)....me / jane (bottom) ).....

additionally, some early mornings, while he’s still sleeping / drowsing & before I leave the bed, i might enjoy myself by enjoying his body being available to me (servicing him, etc).....so all in all....I’m not that “demanding”....concerns for both of us enter my head when thinking about how trips should unfold.....

the compensation that I offer is beyond fair but not necessarily overly generous either....being fair is good enough.

[+ Pensant]

I’ve never done more than 3 nights with regulars with whom I have great chemistry. Sex perhaps in the morning and before bed. we always go for a run or mountain biking/hiking. Always fun but not unhappy when it’s over. I like my alone time, too.

[Daverwr]

As a client, I arranged a weekend with someone I’d a never met. We talked for a while on the phone and I hit the button. It was very organic. On the first day, I asked how much alone time he wanted. I asked if he needed it scheduled or wanted to play it by ear. We decided on 3-4 hours by ear. As it turned out, we extended the visit by two days. It worked out great all being very organic.

 

I vote Get it out immediately and honestly. Both he and you know why he’s there. We didn’t want to cheat the other.

[xyz48B]

Yeah. I’m looking to go with a guy I’ve spent more than a few days with already. It wasn’t a trip though, so I wasn’t sure how to approach that.

 

I totally feel comfortable talking to hin about expectations. I just wondered how you guys have handled that in the past. Open communication is key in all facets of life, I’ve found. Given the nature of this time together is abroad on a trip, it’s different (at least to my estimation) than going out and coming back to a room over several days.

 

Regarding compensation – I was surprised that he was was as generous as he was in a price for several days. I assume some of that is the trip itself. Some of it might be airfare too

[MscleLovr]

I was surprised that he was was as generous as he was in a price for several days. I assume some of that is the trip itself. Some of it might be airfare too

 

Maybe I’ve missed something here, but I don’t understand what you wrote. It’s usual for the client to pay all the costs including flights, hotel and meals. The fee for his time is separate. If you’re expecting him to arrange his own flights etc, you better spell that out exactly.

 

You say @xyz48B that you’re comfortable discussing expectations but wondered how other guys handled it. I’d stress that you should spell out what you want to do on the trip and how you expect him to please you. There should be no room for misunderstandings. I believe in being flexible but you must be clear about what you expect as a minimum.

 

FWIW I once planned a weekend with a muscleboy. We’d had several overnight dates before and got on well. He loved taking a hard pounding and he loved sucking cock. Perfect for me, and we had a great weekend BUT I‘m glad I spelled out my expectations before the trip!

It turned out that he liked to douche before bottoming - this took him at least 1 hour in the bathroom. Also he told me my semen tasted fine, but he usually swallowed just his boyfriend‘s load. I said that on the Friday to Sunday I’d want to top him 2x and I wanted to be sucked off to completion each night. He was happy to comply. Moral is that if I hadn’t been specific and precise as to what I wanted, I’d have been very disappointed.

[xyz48B]

@MscleLovr – not so much that I wouldn’t cover it, but that he recognizes it as part of the package. He’s going along because I’m making it possible. I’m happy to so and he, because he’s not a jerk, appreciates that and isn’t asking for a sevenfold amount on his typical overnight rate. That’s all I mean. I think some of it is he is being generous. Simply.

[sexymonk]

Looking ahead, I’d like to do a multi-day hire. About 5 days. When you’ve done that, how do you handle separate time? I’m not a guy that needs 100% of my time with another guy, but for the BFE it’s nice to know he’s there. It seems to me a set 1-3pm (or whatever) of alone time is not exactly like a BFE. But in another sense, a BFE is just that – an experience, not reality.

 

How do you arrange for that? Is it predetermined or is it more organic?

 

Likewise, how much sex is reasonable to expect (not demand – this is mutual) in such a duration? Again recognizing our time is limited together but also not going to be a 5-day fuckfesf, what’s reasonable in your opinion?

 

I don’t think there’s a “right answer.” Just wondering your personal approaches. I’d welcome veteran client and escort opinions. Likewise, how have you – client and escorts – felt about such arrangements? Be blunt. I want frank, truthful answers. No judgement. Just want a clearer view of what to expect

People do meet for multi days, months too! As many are suggesting that have clear idea of do you expect and discuss with the person you want to go. These multi days are not just fuckfest but to get best experience of life even if you don’t have bf. The right person will give you positive experience of your life and may help you to rediscover yourself. Also, the right person will develop a positivity and you won’t find the stress of another persons constant presence around you. As many here will agree and have experience @peterhung85 is one of the right person. People meet him for 45-60 days together. My own experience of meeting him has always been great and to be honest he is best and at a different level to engage with.

[+ DERRIK]

I've traveled to Vegas for 2 or 3 days visits. I've always booked months in advance with well reviewed men. I send them airfare upfront. Shortly before travel dates - we done one or two texts/phone. When we meet and unwind in room - i make sure we go over a few basics (preferences for dining or shows). Also it's unreasonable to expect him not to use phone / laptop for duration - so I bring subject up. Additionally - its common for escort to want to use exercise facilities at resort - that's cool but I tease I expect him to bring back any cute talent.

Edited May 21, 2020 by DERRIK

[+ peterhung85]

People do meet for multi days, months too! As many are suggesting that have clear idea of do you expect and discuss with the person you want to go. These multi days are not just fuckfest but to get best experience of life even if you don’t have bf. The right person will give you positive experience of your life and may help you to rediscover yourself. Also, the right person will develop a positivity and you won’t find the stress of another persons constant presence around you. As many here will agree and have experience @peterhung85 is one of the right person. People meet him for 45-60 days together. My own experience of meeting him has always been great and to be honest he is best and at a different level to engage with.

Thank you my dear! Look forward to seeing you again in about a month!!!!

 

xoox

[+ peterhung85]

I've traveled to Vegas for 2 or 3 days visits. I've always booked months in advance with well reviewed men. I send them airfare upfront. Shortly before travel dates - we done one or two texts/phone. When we meet and unwind in room - i make sure we go over a few basics (preferences for dining or shows). Also it's unreasonable to expect him not to use phone / laptop for duration - so I bring subject up. Additionally - its common for escort to want to use exercise facilities at resort - that's cool but I tease I expect him to bring back any cute talent.

Indeed and you have been an absolute gentleman. I very much enjoyed spending the weekend together and hope to do it again soon! I agree with you that for an extended time people should have some personal time reserved ;-)

 

xoxo

[+ IronMaus]

With most men I'm down for the all day every day vacation - but good boyfriends give each other space. Let me have my 3 morning coffees so I can handle my business ;-)

 

It depends on the occasion, but separate time can be very useful. To make my living I need to look at my phone a lot - having time to do this makes for better company on both ends. But sometimes you get those clients that also live on their phone or have a different tolerance for the use of these damned phones.

 

The amount of sex depends on the client and how much else we are doing that day. Most clients like sex in the morning and again at night - with various degrees of fooling around between. Bathhouses, sex clubs, and bringing in other escorts makes a big difference in how much sex I have on multi-day trips.

 

I have a flat rate and expect travel/lodging/meals, but I also negotiate my rate with clients and offer reduced rates for sponsoring my trips: clients that only want to see me once or twice a day in their city can fly me in and put me up in a hotel for a reduced rate. If I have a lot of friends where we are going and only want me half the day that makes a difference too. Trying to take me to somewhere like Thailand? Let me play with some baby tigers and you'll get a hefty discount ;-)

[xyz48B]

With most men I'm down for the all day every day vacation - but good boyfriends give each other space. Let me have my 3 morning coffees so I can handle my business ;-)

 

It depends on the occasion, but separate time can be very useful. To make my living I need to look at my phone a lot - having time to do this makes for better company on both ends. But sometimes you get those clients that also live on their phone or have a different tolerance for the use of these damned phones.

 

The amount of sex depends on the client and how much else we are doing that day. Most clients like sex in the morning and again at night - with various degrees of fooling around between. Bathhouses, sex clubs, and bringing in other escorts makes a big difference in how much sex I have on multi-day trips.

 

I have a flat rate and expect travel/lodging/meals, but I also negotiate my rate with clients and offer reduced rates for sponsoring my trips: clients that only want to see me once or twice a day in their city can fly me in and put me up in a hotel for a reduced rate. If I have a lot of friends where we are going and only want me half the day that makes a difference too. Trying to take me to somewhere like Thailand? Let me play with some baby tigers and you'll get a hefty discount ;-)

I found all this very helpful, especially from the trip perspective.

 

This raises a question for me – Is it reasonable to think that an escort would literally escort you as you do touristy things?

[+ IronMaus]

I found all this very helpful, especially from the trip perspective.

 

This raises a question for me – Is it reasonable to think that an escort would literally escort you as you do touristy things?

Of course - I don't like doing these things on my own! I'm embarrassed for not implying that. Especially in new cities, I love to explore their museums and walking history tours and bike paths and such.

[big-n-tall]

Of course - I don't like doing these things on my own! I'm embarrassed for not implying that. Especially in new cities, I love to explore their museums and walking history tours and bike paths and such.

 

That settles it. You're on my list of must hires when the pandemic subsides and things open again.