Is escorting likely to mess you up if you're not ready for the job? Are you already messed up?

[marylander1940]

remember... you arent hiring a medical professional, you are hiring a hooker. most hookers are totally messed up in the head hence them being in their said profession imho. most... not all though

 

i dont believe so. i think its called just trying to get by day by day. escorts though are going, in many cases, against their innate attraction and desires. in other words, they want to be chasing hot young pussy but from their lot in life, evolve into sucking an old geezers pecker instead. dont think that will mess one up?

 

"pussy"? Most male escorts are gay... and NO I DON'T THINK most escorts are messed up and if they're they quit and get another job.

 

Let's ask!

 

Let's ask if they (escorts) are messed up and how many of their colleagues are messed up?

[Gymowner]

pussy is a metaphor for chasing sex but many and i would bet 50% of escorts for men are straight. and yes... when one is young and hot they run and "chase" others young and hot, ones they desire. never heard or seen of that before? having a dollar amount attached as the need to roll around with someone as old as their grandpa will def fuck up most.

[marylander1940]

pussy is a metaphor for chasing sex but many and i would bet 50% of escorts for men are straight. and yes... when one is young and hot they run and "chase" others young and hot, ones they desire. never heard or seen of that before? having a dollar amount attached as the need to roll around with someone as old as their grandpa will def fuck up most.

 

Is not a profession for everybody or more men would do it, but some do it because they love the attention, money, knowledge, experience, trips, etc. and wish they could do it for a long time...

 

I doubt 50% of escorts for men are straight, I do agree with you that gay-per-pay escorts are more likely to commit crimes and even become homophobic as it has been reported in the news many times.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Bullshit.

 

'Pussy' isn't a metaphor. It's just the continued lame attempt to fetishize 'straight' guys who escort.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

pussy is a metaphor for chasing sex but many and i would bet 50% of escorts for men are straight. and yes... when one is young and hot they run and "chase" others young and hot, ones they desire. never heard or seen of that before? having a dollar amount attached as the need to roll around with someone as old as their grandpa will def fuck up most.

 

I’m among the other 50% I suppose. The non-gay for pay type. I also think you may be focusing on the idea that escorts don’t chase guys who they desire. Just because someone is a professional, doesn’t mean that they don’t have a sex life outside of the biz.

 

Contrary to popular belief, very few are actually “stuck” doing anything in this biz. I’ve said this before regarding working during COVID. Point in case: More stimulus payments went out this week. So I certainly didn’t “need” to see someone, but the next day, I went ahead and did so anyway because I was horny and felt like it.

[Guest]

I think a lot of the original comments made were some very broad generalizations. Some guys do get 'messed up' by it given their situations and regardless if they're gay or straight. There's also a wide range of providers from true professionals to some kid on the street or on adam4adam trying to make 50 bucks.

 

One thing that REALLY bothers me is the ageist comments calling all clients 'old geezers' or 'grandpa'. I find it insulting and not true at all. I hired my first provider at 23. Why? Because he was exactly the type of man I was attracted to and couldn't find in the gay community. People hire providers for a lot of different reasons and not all of it is about sex. And don't forget that this board is composed of mostly men who enjoy the hobby and many who are providers so you just insulted 70% of the people here, myself included.

[JoshATX]

I’m among the other 50% I suppose. The non-gay for pay type. I also think you may be focusing on the idea that escorts don’t chase guys who they desire. Just because someone is a professional, doesn’t mean that they don’t have a sex life outside of the biz.

 

Contrary to popular belief, very few are actually “stuck” doing anything in this biz. I’ve said this before regarding working during COVID. Point in case: More stimulus payments went out this week. So I certainly didn’t “need” to see someone, but the next day, I went ahead and did so anyway because I was horny and felt like it.

Well said

[orville]

Not an escort but I do think escorting messed up some young naive boys when they discovered meth, a substance that is heavily used by some clients and escorts.

[Gymowner]

Bullshit.

 

'Pussy' isn't a metaphor. It's just the continued lame attempt to fetishize 'straight' guys who escort.

 

ben.... metaphor - a figure of speech in which a word or phrase is applied to an object or action to which it is not literally applicable.

 

thats EXACTLY how i was using the word pussy. i said they are chasing pussy. not being one. it was meant as in chasing sex.

[marylander1940]

ben.... metaphor - a figure of speech in which a word or phrase is applied to an object or action to which it is not literally applicable.

 

thats EXACTLY how i was using the word pussy. i said they are chasing pussy. not being one. it was meant as in chasing sex.

 

@Benjamin_Nicholas is a blogger and knows the meaning of that word.

 

Pussy is a way to refer to women NOT men and most gay men would never use it as a way to refer to chasing sex.

[Gymowner]

@Benjamin_Nicholas is a blogger and knows the meaning of that word.

 

Pussy is a way to refer to women NOT men and most gay men would never use it as a way to refer to chasing sex.

 

im so sorry marylander... i forgot that being a blogger makes one far above any of us schmucks with regards to words, meanings and metaphors.

 

have you been to a gay bar in the last few years? "bitch", "slut" and "girl" seem to be every other word coming out of the mouths of gays nowadays. again i apologize that "pussy" was not one of them. and you are correct... straight men use "pussy" as a phrase to chase sex...which was what and of whom i was originally referring to.

[marylander1940]

im so sorry marylander... i forgot that being a blogger makes one far above any of us schmucks with regards to words, meanings and metaphors.

 

have you been to a gay bar in the last few years? "bitch", "slut" and "girl" seem to be every other word coming out of the mouths of gays nowadays. again i apologize that "pussy" was not one of them. and you are correct... straight men use "pussy" as a phrase to chase sex...which was what and of whom i was originally referring to.

 

No need to apologize for things you don't say in person... my humble opinion.

Edited May 3, 2020 by marylander1940

[Rudynate]

I've only encountered one escort who "needed" to do it. And he was. In fact, a very needy man, a badly damaged Iraq war veteran.

 

Every other one has been an impressive man who seemed very much in control of himself

[Jarrod_Uncut]

naive boys, meth, a substance that is heavily used by some clients and escorts.

 

You made a good point, but it was misinterpreted by equating the idea that an escort is easily compelled to use meth while being an escort.

 

Guess what? Meth messes up A LOT of people. Again, it goes down to choice and free will. I was once a naive boy, and been around clients doing all kinds of drugs too. Me doing meth was not part of the payment, therefore I never had any use to do it. I even had a client who paid me extra to find cocaine for him. Which I did, because there was a guy I fucked with for a brief moment who had the connections, but I didn’t touch a single gram of it. I just watched him get geeked. Nowadays, I wouldn’t be bothered to do that, because it’s not my thing. I’m an escort, not a drug dealer.

 

Anyone who gets hooked on meth, is doing so for reasons that aren’t necessarily derivative of being an escort. If that was the case, it wouldn’t be so widespread in the gay bars and “parTys” over the years.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

thats EXACTLY how i was using the word pussy. i said they are chasing pussy. not being one. it was meant as in chasing sex.

 

Pardon me, if I may interject. I hear what you’re saying. You’re giving a meaning to a word that applies to straight men. Yes, your average everyday, homophobe straight man, is going to talk to another men about chasing pussy, and putting his massive dick inside another woman. That’s what they do. Why they think talking about their dick with another straight man is supposed to make them sound straight, is beyond me. But considering MORE THAN 50% of my clients are either formerly or currently married, I think that should give you a clue.

 

No gay man who has sex with another gay man, says they’re going to find pussy tonight. They may say, “fuck my pussy” during a moment of intense sex, but that’s not the same as “chasing pussy”.

 

But you originally said 50% of escorts are straight. You then said chasing pussy. Therefore, you insinuated that many male escorts (who are messed up, and half straight) are chasing pussy. As in, a vagina. That’s what you just said. PERIOD.

[Gymowner]

"But you originally said 50% of escorts are straight. You then said chasing pussy. Therefore, you insinuated that many male escorts (who are messed up, and half straight) are chasing pussy. As in, a vagina. That’s what you just said. PERIOD."

 

yes i did. that makes perfect sense.... and your point of taking 3 minutes to write that?

 

and your slur that a man that is "chasing pussy" is and has to be a homophobe is just as bigoted as to whom and to what you are implying as the one being a pussy chaser! you guys on here never cease to amaze me!

 

and let me get this straight (pardon the pun) it is ok for a gay to state that his anus is a "pussy"... totally acceptable but a straight man that "chases pussy" (guys... thats the reason we are all here) makes the man a homophobe?

Edited May 3, 2020 by Gymowner

[Guest]

Getting back on topic...

 

So one thing I've noticed from this thread is the need to clarify 'escort' vs. 'hustler/rentboy'. I think escorts are professionals and therefore less likely to have issues with the job. I don't want to generalize but I think that's mostly the case.

 

I've encountered hustlers who had to do it. One kid actually approached me and said he needed the money to pay for medicine, others because they were between jobs or had jobs that were seasonal. Right now I'm sure there are a lot of service industry people who are getting desperate to make some money, some of them are my friends. I think they would be the most vulnerable right now and more likely to have regrets later.

 

Another thing to consider is the poor young kid who needs the money, is straight, and finds out he can get quick cash hustling. Then he either gets called out by someone who sees him working the street, finds his profile online, hooks up with someone who knows him, or gets an STI and gives it to his girlfriend. That would mess someone up in a lot of ways. I knew a guy who his friends found out and shamed him on social media.

[orville]

im so sorry marylander... i forgot that being a blogger makes one far above any of us schmucks with regards to words, meanings and metaphors.

 

have you been to a gay bar in the last few years? "bitch", "slut" and "girl" seem to be every other word coming out of the mouths of gays nowadays. again i apologize that "pussy" was not one of them. and you are correct... straight men use "pussy" as a phrase to chase sex...which was what and of whom i was originally referring to.

Not validating anyone's point, just trying to lighten the moods, but I can't stop the goosebumps when my boy hugs me from behind and whispers to my ear "I'm gonna destroy your pussy" OMG! ?? When did sex talk become a 'so serious and politically correct' topic? It's supposed to be FUN, not boring!

[orville]

equating the idea that an escort is easily compelled to use meth while being an escort.

I never said this, and I don't think all escorts use meth. However, the less mature / experienced a person is, the more difficult to make informed decisions in general. It's just common sense.

 

it goes down to choice and free will.

Choice and free will is a very debatable concept when discussing young vulnerable people exposed to drugs as incredibly addictive as meth, especially when some clients ask for this as part of the service or offer more money if the escort does it with them.

 

Anyone who gets hooked on meth, is doing so for reasons that aren’t necessarily derivative of being an escort. If that was the case, it wouldn’t be so widespread in the gay bars and “parTys” over the years.

Again, I never made a direct connection. My words were "...escorting messed up some young naive boys when they discovered meth, a substance that is heavily used by some clients and escorts." I could clarify by saying I referred to those cases where the escort was exposed and got hooked up with the drug, but I think my idea was always clear.

[MrMattBig]

Not validating anyone's point, just trying to lighten the moods, but I can't stop the goosebumps when my boy hugs me from behind and whispers to my ear "I'm gonna destroy your pussy" OMG! ?? When did sex talk become a 'so serious and politically correct' topic? It's supposed to be FUN, not boring!

While I agree, there is a difference between dirty talk, and making a generalizing statement about a behavior or action. It is interesting that one would choose to say 'chasing pussy' when chasing tail or chasing ass is a thing as well. Also, across all genders and sexuality, booty call is a term for a sexual encounter. So, in terms of m2m sex, it's just interesting to refer to pussy instead of ass when making the 'chasing' statement.

 

For me personally, I tend to use both in dirty talk but each in specific ways. But I understand within myself those reasons why.

[Monarchy79]

Any profession can “mess you up”, if you are not mentally prepared for all of the conditions of the job.

 

Right now, we have nurses and doctors who are struggling with severe anxiety, depression, and other stressors from the extreme daily sickness and deaths they are encountering, due to COVID-19

 

Many defense attorneys deal with emotional trauma and issues from defending known criminals.

 

Heck, any worker in your typical corporate setting will tell you that the Machiavellian practices needed to survive and thrive in competition with a bunch of underhanded snakes will send anyone to drugs and drinking. Why do you think that either happy hours or yoga classes are jam packed after 5pm, M-F?

 

The stereotype of the professional sex worker being desperate and “damaged” couldn’t be anything farther from the truth. Of course, there are outliers, but for the most part, being in any line of work, where you don’t have a boss, can pack up and travel to any destination of your choice (without submitting a leave request), can receive immediate gifts and bonuses, and wake up whenever the hell you want, doesn’t sound to bad too me.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

What's always fascinating about 'Ask An Escort' is that while the questions should be for working guys to answer, it's really just an echo chamber of others wanting to validate (and revalidate) their own opinions.

 

 

Oh... And @orville, please, nix the term 'young boys' in future posts. It's just not a smart idea.

[Guest]

having a dollar amount attached as the need to roll around with someone as old as their grandpa will def fuck up most.

 

As our activist friends are fond of saying, the problem (or the "fucked up" thing, to borrow your terminology) with sex work is not sex, it's work. Every worker has a dollar amount attached to their time and energy. At least we get to put that time and energy into something that provides a non - financial, almost ineffible satisfaction to ourselves, and hopefully to our clients too.

 

Ask yourself two questions: if money wasn't an issue, would you keep working your office job?

 

If money wasn't an issue, would you keep having sex?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

As our activist friends are fond of saying, the problem (or the "fucked up" thing, to borrow your terminology) with sex work is not sex, it's work. Every worker has a dollar amount attached to their time and energy. At least we get to put that time and energy into something that provides a non - financial, almost ineffible satisfaction to ourselves, and hopefully to our clients too.

 

Ask yourself two questions: if money wasn't an issue, would you keep working your office job?

 

If money wasn't an issue, would you keep having sex?

 

 

This was the perfect response.

[Monarchy79]

 

I always thought more of the shame would actually go to the “grandpa”, as he’s having to pay for services, that many can get for free.

 

Secondly,

I’ll never shame anyone who puts a dollar amount on sex. To me, the biggest fools are the ones who do the most extreme of sex FOR FREE.

Edited May 3, 2020 by Monarchy79