Short-term "loans" to escorts

[instudiocity]

“Neither a borrower nor a lender be; / For loan oft loses both itself and friend.” Hamlet, Act 1, Scene 3.

 

if you haven't got it to GIVE FREELY WITH NO EXPECTATION, don't give it. I’ve given when I've been asked and I've given when I've seen a need without being asked. The continued relationships from those who solicited are about 50/50, with almost all not believing the gifted nature of the gift at first. The response of those who received gifts they hadn't solicited has been more like 75% appreciated and continued - enhanced our friendship.

[instudiocity]

Off topic: your avatar is beautiful, @Marky7832, very hot.

 

Now, back to our regular scheduled program.

Yeah, i saw the ass on your avatar! Yum!

[Guest]

Ha! I asked a provider why he needed $1000 upfront, "It is for my mothers teeth"

[Westsideguy]

I met a guy in Vegas. We had a great time together. Two days later he asked me for a loan against our next meeting. Unbelievable. I didn’t respond.

[+ purplekow]

I met a guy in Vegas. We had a great time together. Two days later he asked me for a loan against our next meeting. Unbelievable. I didn’t respond.

Perhaps you should have asked for a session on credit until your next paycheck or winning streak.

[+ Pensant]

Early in my hobbying I helped out a few super-hot twinks with no expectation of being repaid, but ive never been directly asked for a loan. Two summers ago, I had to cancel a meeting at the last minute with a somewhat desperate young blond in LA, which led to a flurry of weepy texts. I sent him $200 since it wasn’t his fault that my situation arose. I felt it was the moral thing to do. I plan to see him in a month and won’t even mention the advance.

[+ kent]

I met a guy in Vegas. We had a great time together. Two days later he asked me for a loan against our next meeting. Unbelievable. I didn’t respond.

I wouldn't have ghosted him, just said no. Both sides in these relationships have a bit of "it never hurts to ask and you won't get it unless you ask." The buyers may ask for things that trigger gag reflexes by suggestion alone or are degrading or even painful, and the vendors may push the envelope re compensation. It's a negotiation and either side is free simply to decline the particular opportunity.

[thickornotatall]

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FUCK no.

Twice I had pretty regular guys, seeing them about once a week as long I was in town. I was out of town and one asked for an advance on the next session.....I agreed; that was April and he's been flakey or just ignored me since. He's pretty stupid because he lost a devoted regular client over $300....

 

Other Escort had gotten too close....was texting me daily about his life and regular job...friends etc and then when he was in a cash crunch wanted an advance. He eventually did make good on it but as soon as he performed for the prior "loan" in a couple days wanted another one. He still messages me and I don't even care to collect. Escorts can make a TON of money if they're good and reliable and can even put away money for the future. There's no need to reward the flakey ones who can't budget and who rather than treat their work as a business (work hard at the gym, respond to messages quickly, update their marketing regularly etc) spend too much time and money on traveling, shopping & partying.

 

You are too nice...

[BaronArtz]

In the world of muscle worship I read some clients get off on being 'cash slaves'. Meaning: they send money to some hunk, not expecting anything in return. Maybe this is something for the fetish forum ...

 

It is definitely nothing I am into, but it is out there.

[MrMattBig]

In the world of muscle worship I read some clients get off on being 'cash slaves'. Meaning: they send money to some hunk, not expecting anything in return. Maybe this is something for the fetish forum ...

 

It is definitely nothing I am into, but it is out there.

#findom

Doesn't even have to be muscle worship.

Dom/sub relationship is what it boils down to.

[+ nycman]

Unfortunateply, as others have said, even the mere request for

cash will make the relationship weird. No matter what you do.

 

When I get this request I simply respond with a lighthearted

”nobody rides for free”. If they’re too dense to get it, I follow up

with ”ass, gas or grass....I don’t smoke and my car’s tank is full....

get to work”.

 

Escorting is work. Plain and simple. Even though its natural to bond,

you can never forget it’s a business relationship. Keep it healthy.

Otherwise, resentment is guaranteed to develop...on both sides.

Edited November 10, 2019 by nycman

[+ Pensant]

Oh man! Just had a potential provider text me for $50 ahead of a potential meet. He said he needs it for dinner. What are they thinking?

[+ Pensant]

Oh man! Just had a potential provider text me for $50 ahead of a potential meet. He said he needs it for dinner. What are they thinking?

[+ nycman]

Oh man! Just had a potential provider text me for $50 ahead of a potential meet. He said he needs it for dinner. What are they thinking?

I’d text back....

 

“How convenient....I need a blow job right now.

You can come on over an earn your $50 for dinner“.

[+ nycman]

Oh man! Just had a potential provider text me for $50 ahead of a potential meet. He said he needs it for dinner. What are they thinking?

I’d text back....

 

“How convenient....I need a blow job right now.

You can come on over an earn your $50 for dinner“.

[Rudynate]

Many years ago, when I was in college, I asked an older romantic attachment to lend me $500.00 for school expenses. He did and I repaid him as promised. We're still friends more than 40 years later. So it can work out.

[Rudynate]

Many years ago, when I was in college, I asked an older romantic attachment to lend me $500.00 for school expenses. He did and I repaid him as promised. We're still friends more than 40 years later. So it can work out.

[Guest]

Many years ago, when I was in college, I asked an older romantic attachment to lend me $500.00 for school expenses. He did and I repaid him as promised. We're still friends more than 40 years later. So it can work out.

 

I'm glad, but this event is an exception.

[Guest]

Many years ago, when I was in college, I asked an older romantic attachment to lend me $500.00 for school expenses. He did and I repaid him as promised. We're still friends more than 40 years later. So it can work out.

 

I'm glad, but this event is an exception.

[MikeBiDude]

Sooooo....had a great Sunday morning visit with this law school student. Gave him a modest allowance, made plans to see each other in a week’s time. Monday morning....ugh:

 

I told him my strict policy was not to send any funds before a meeting, especially since this was not a long standing arrangement. He won’t let go:

 

[jawjateck]

Sooooo....had a great Sunday morning visit with this law school student. Gave him a modest allowance, made plans to see each other in a week’s time. Monday morning....ugh:

 

I told him my strict policy was not to send any funds before a meeting, especially since this was not a long standing arrangement. He won’t let go:

 

 

Can that script be found on the internet somewhere and guys just cut, paste, and forward it to us? I don't how many times I have received those exact same words.

[+ Topseed]

Better idea: send me $200. Please.

 

I really need it. And I’ll pay you back.

 

Promise. ?

[MrMattBig]

Sooooo....had a great Sunday morning visit with this law school student. Gave him a modest allowance, made plans to see each other in a week’s time. Monday morning....ugh:

 

I told him my strict policy was not to send any funds before a meeting, especially since this was not a long standing arrangement. He won’t let go:

 

What's always interesting in scenarios like this, is when they try to show a sense of humility, "trust me, I wish I wasn't starting off my Monday begging you for your help" and finish with a "haha"

Pretty much saying from their own mouth that they are not genuine. I don't know how your experience and perception of him was in person, but I was expect a law student to be able to communicate better.

[dcman]

NEVER EVER EVER LOAN AN ESCORT MONEY -- THERE ARE BANKS AND CREDIT CARDS FOR THAT.

NEVER EVER EVER PAY AN ESCORT ANYTHING IN ADVANCE -- IT WILL COME TO BITE YOU EVENTUALLY....

[MrMattBig]

NEVER EVER EVER LOAN AN ESCORT MONEY -- THERE ARE BANKS AND CREDIT CARDS FOR THAT.

NEVER EVER EVER PAY AN ESCORT ANYTHING IN ADVANCE -- IT WILL COME TO BITE YOU EVENTUALLY....

Not everyone is fortunate enough to be in a position to have good credit to qualify for loans. Sometimes past circumstances beyond control coupled with uninformed decisions hurt credit. (I still have about 3,000 to pay off from a car loan after the car being totaled without gap insurance, and intialing had to let it turn into a repo on paper because of other financial obligations).

I have asked for advances or help in the past from a couple of clients, probably 3 times total. (Once for a tooth extraction and other dental to prevent a root canal, once for car repairs, and once for cremation services for a pet). Everything depends on circumstances and relationship between that particular client and escort. Of course when it's only been after 1 meeting, then it should definitely be a red flag, stop, do not pass go.