Who makes the first move?

[Realalist]

When you hire an escort, who makes the first move? Should I initiate the session if an awkward amount of time has passed and no move has been made? I usually like to hop right in not to long after they arrive but I'm unsure of the etiquette in this situation. I'm a bit reserved so I'd prefer the escort to initiate but I'm unsure if that's how most clients operate.

[hypothetically]

When you hire an escort, who makes the first move? Should I initiate the session if an awkward amount of time has passed and no move has been made? I usually like to hop right in not to long after they arrive but I'm unsure of the etiquette in this situation. I'm a bit reserved so I'd prefer the escort to initiate but I'm unsure if that's how most clients operate.

 

This will vary on a situation-by-situation basis, as not every session is the same, nor is the chemistry between an escort and different clients. Communicating you are reserved prior to meeting is totally fine (and appreciated), as well as communicating you’d like to “jump right into things.” It’s ok to give your prospective provider a little direction before the actual engagement.

Edited October 22, 2019 by hypothetically

[+ FrankR]

When you hire an escort, who makes the first move? Should I initiate the session if an awkward amount of time has passed and no move has been made? I usually like to hop right in not to long after they arrive but I'm unsure of the etiquette in this situation. I'm a bit reserved so I'd prefer the escort to initiate but I'm unsure if that's how most clients operate.

You should definitely say something to move things along, or you may be disappointed in some cases. How about casually asking “Can I give you a tour of the place?” or “How about we go make ourselves more comfortable”? When you get to the bedroom things should take their course... ?

[+ Keith30309]

In my very first true hire of a guy from a web site about 6 years ago I picked a “porn star” figuring he would know what to do. He knew exactly what to do.

 

I sat on a sofa in his living room and he in an overstuffed chair about 10 feet away. It was to be a 2-hour meeting and he talked for over an hour and half. He talked non-stop about everything under the sun: his days as a flight attendant, real estate, politics, etc. With about 15 minutes left he stood up “well, out time is about up. Why don’t we get back together for some fun.”

I foolishly booked another 2-hours and the exact same thing happened. I didn’t know how “this stuff” was supposed to work and didn’t know what to do. (He is still on RentMen in Atlanta and still advertising as a porn star.)

 

I do like to chat and get acquainted with someone I’ve never met, including in my Seekingarrangement days, but learned to begin some physical contact immediately - a big hug and kiss. Then chatting with a light touch to the forearm... resting a hand on the shoulder.. “do you mind if I kiss you”, etc. I have found myself still yapping away after 30 minutes but that’s my fault. And then move to “shall we get more comfortable” pretty quickly. If I’m getting a vibe that’s anything but enthusiastic I suggest that we schedule for a time when he’s more comfortable.

[Epigonos]

Given my choice I ALWAYS hire an escort to come to my place for lunch or dinner (his choice) after which we spend a couple of hours playing. By the time the meal is over the ice is broken and we head directly to the bedroom. Unfortunately I don't have a clue how I would go about moving thing along if we were to be together for just one hour. Interesting thread!!!!!

[+ Gar1eth]

It really depends on the situation. The first thing I'd do is pick someone as reputable as you can. While reviews can't guarantee anything. Still they are better than nothing. And often they are spot on.

 

So in multiple cases the escort has kissed me almost immediately as soon as either they or I entered the door-depending on who is visiting who. In other cases we've talked for a bit to 'feel each other' out. Sometimes I've asked them if I could unbutton their shirt. Really every situation is different.

 

Gman

[jawjateck]

The longer it takes to get the fun stuff going, the less likely there will be much, if any, fun stuff. Don't waste time. Get it on!

[Cliff]

In 100% of all my hires, after saying hello, hanging up my jacket, and answering whether I want a glass of water or not, we get right down to hot and sweaty business. That may seem transactional to some guys but I like it like that, and my hires seem to, too.

[spider]

1. Usually with someone I’ve been with before. Door opens. He enters. I back him up against the wall, place lips on lips, one hand under his shirt on his nips, my other down his pants and we’re off to the races. In one memorable meeting the dude turned me around dropped my shorts and started banging me right in the hallway.

 

2. First time. Get settled on the couch or edge of the bed. I place a hand on his thigh and rub gently. He pulls off his shirt, I pull off mine and the rest is history.

 

3. Longer session. I make it clear that I need a quick fuck. It could be over after less than 5-10 minutes after he arrives. Then we settle down to snuggle and chat - naked. After awhile some light touching and play begins, it grows in intensity and then we’re good for a hot long slow fuck.

 

All are great and I’ve taken the initiative. In many cases of number 1 the guy will begin to take the initiative, pushing me against the wall, and we’re off with his tongue firmly in my mouth. I moan, he moans, clothes begin to fly and then the magic happens. Nothing like great monkey sex once in awhile.

[Milo Farnsworth]

I was so hot for an escort once that the door was barely shut before I pulled him close and began to suck his face.

[Milo Farnsworth]

In one case i told the escort i wanted him to be hard to get. I'd make the move and he would decline. After a while all bets were off.

[Realalist]

In my very first true hire of a guy from a web site about 6 years ago I picked a “porn star” figuring he would know what to do. He knew exactly what to do.

 

I sat on a sofa in his living room and he in an overstuffed chair about 10 feet away. It was to be a 2-hour meeting and he talked for over an hour and half. He talked non-stop about everything under the sun: his days as a flight attendant, real estate, politics, etc. With about 15 minutes left he stood up “well, out time is about up. Why don’t we get back together for some fun.”

I foolishly booked another 2-hours and the exact same thing happened. I didn’t know how “this stuff” was supposed to work and didn’t know what to do. (He is still on RentMen in Atlanta and still advertising as a porn star.)

 

I do like to chat and get acquainted with someone I’ve never met, including in my Seekingarrangement days, but learned to begin some physical contact immediately - a big hug and kiss. Then chatting with a light touch to the forearm... resting a hand on the shoulder.. “do you mind if I kiss you”, etc. I have found myself still yapping away after 30 minutes but that’s my fault. And then move to “shall we get more comfortable” pretty quickly. If I’m getting a vibe that’s anything but enthusiastic I suggest that we schedule for a time when he’s more comfortable.

My worse fears come to life. So sorry that happened to you.

[+ Keith30309]

My worse fears come to life. So sorry that happened to you.

That was an $800 lesson.

When I joined the forum I learned that he had done that to several clients.

[alexslaveboy]

I think that it depends on the escort and what you have communicated prior to the meeting

 

When I first started seeing muscle guys, I sent a very detailed message of what I expected in the session

 

Many first meetings varied, some guys would walk in strip naked and start flexing immediately and ask me to worship him, which was very hot and turned me on

 

Others would walk in sit down in my big recliner and we'd have a beverage and chat for 15 or 20 minutes then begin a session that would be the fully anticipated time not 20 minutes less because of the chat, which I also enjoyed

 

I've had a couple awkward experiences but out of say 30 - 35 guys that's not a bad ratio, so I was pretty lucky in most cases

[marylander1940]

That was an $800 lesson.

When I joined the forum I learned that he had done that to several clients.

 

Whoever he was deserves an award for scamming so many guys.

 

It really depends on the situation. The first thing I'd do is pick someone as reputable as you can. While reviews can't guarantee anything. Still they are better than nothing. And often they are spot on.

 

So in multiple cases the escort has kissed me almost immediately as soon as either they or I entered the door-depending on who is visiting who. In other cases we've talked for a bit to 'feel each other' out. Sometimes I've asked them if I could unbutton their shirt. Really every situation is different.

 

Gman

 

Stormy Daniels said he wanted to start in order to get done as soon as possible with the president. She said she was thinking when she saw the president's tallywacker "let's get it over soon". Understandable she made 10 gran fast!

 

[Islesguy]

First guy I hired, I told him in messages it was my first time and I wanted to talk first and take things slow (I booked two hours). The minute we walked into the room and the door closed, he had his tongue down my throat. I asked him to slow down and talk but that became awkward fast. So I threw caution to the wind and went for it. It was hot, but I spent a lot of the time we were going at it in my head. Afterwards, we talk awhile and I was way more comfortable. I've seen him and few more times and now prepare myself that he's going to go hard out of the gate.

 

My last hire, I also told him I would be nervous (I get nervous around people I've never met). He gave me a hug when I walked into his place and we talked a bit in his couch. After about 15-20 minutes, he started putting his hands on me and kissing me softly. It escalated from there. It was awesome.

 

My point is you need to do what is right for yourself but also be aware of how the other person behaves. I know the each time I hire the first guy, things will go from 0-60 in less than a second. With the second guy, I know things will progress more on my terms than his. Both guys are great and I would hire either again and again especially if I came into serious cash, but I have to do less mental preparation for the second guy.

[Guest MikeThomas]

Once you get to know an escort it can be fun. After I got to know Michael Vincenzo I would ask him to leave the door ajar and be naked and hard and sitting in a chair so when I came into the room I could get right to work.

[+ poolboy48220]

In my very first true hire of a guy from a web site about 6 years ago I picked a “porn star” figuring he would know what to do. He knew exactly what to do.

 

I sat on a sofa in his living room and he in an overstuffed chair about 10 feet away. It was to be a 2-hour meeting and he talked for over an hour and half. He talked non-stop about everything under the sun: his days as a flight attendant, real estate, politics, etc. With about 15 minutes left he stood up “well, out time is about up. Why don’t we get back together for some fun.”

I foolishly booked another 2-hours and the exact same thing happened. I didn’t know how “this stuff” was supposed to work and didn’t know what to do. (He is still on RentMen in Atlanta and still advertising as a porn star.)

 

I do like to chat and get acquainted with someone I’ve never met, including in my Seekingarrangement days, but learned to begin some physical contact immediately - a big hug and kiss. Then chatting with a light touch to the forearm... resting a hand on the shoulder.. “do you mind if I kiss you”, etc. I have found myself still yapping away after 30 minutes but that’s my fault. And then move to “shall we get more comfortable” pretty quickly. If I’m getting a vibe that’s anything but enthusiastic I suggest that we schedule for a time when he’s more comfortable.

I've never had anything that bad. If things aren't moving fast enough I'll move next to him on the couch and do the 'place your hand on his leg' or something like that as previous posters have recommended.

[Trick]

That was an $800 lesson.

When I joined the forum I learned that he had done that to several clients.

 

Care to give a hint who this guy is? I may have met him too in Atlanta.

 

There’s another escort in Atlanta who gives you a free history lesson before going to the good part.

[+ Gar1eth]

...but I spent a lot of the time we were going at it in my head.

 

I always spend a lot of my time in my head whether it's an escort or not. For a lot of guys on here sex seems to be a totally transcendent experience. I don't know if it's ever been that for me.

 

Don't get me wrong. Sex certainly feels good. But even when I was topping one of my favorite guys, or being blown-which I really like-my mind doesn't stop. Usually there's some uncomfortable body part-or I'm wondering if I'm making the guy feel good enough -or the position is awkward-there's always something. So don't let the fact that "I couldn't get totally out of my head" stop your enjoyment of what still might be a very good time.

 

Gman

[MrMattBig]

Slight question for those that get right to it.

I always feel worried that clients would feel slighted if the hot action leads to the big finish before the hour comes up. Not in a rush out the door way, but a so damn hot to last way for both parties. Maybe still spend the remaining time cuddling and talking. I always feel pressure to make the hour last as long as possible before finishing, but by the stories here maybe I should step on the gas a bit more at the beginning. Hmm...

[+ Keith30309]

Care to give a hint who this guy is? I may have met him too in Atlanta.

 

There’s another escort in Atlanta who gives you a free history lesson before going to the good part.

Lol....pm sent and bet you a blowjob I met the second

[Enronnja]

5 minutes small talk, then my lips over there’s, tongue in the mouth, shirts and pants/shorts off, dick sucking, nipple play, ass licking then fucking or sucking only.

[Chad Constantine]

Slight question for those that get right to it.

I always feel worried that clients would feel slighted if the hot action leads to the big finish before the hour comes up. Not in a rush out the door way, but a so damn hot to last way for both parties. Maybe still spend the remaining time cuddling and talking. I always feel pressure to make the hour last as long as possible before finishing, but by the stories here maybe I should step on the gas a bit more at the beginning. Hmm...

 

Wait a minute...

[DaveOrDavid]

Many years ago I hired a guy about the same age as me and there was no action until I touched him. After I touched him he kicked into gear and told me since I touched him first he knew I was not a policeman. I said I didn't think I looked like a policeman and he told me "You look exactly like a policeman". lol Lol LOL

 

Later the hotel maid attempted to enter the room. I forgot to lock the door, but had placed the door chain in the track which prohibited her from entering the room. But the Guy sat up quickly in the bed with an extremely panicked look and thought he had been setup and police were about to enter the room. We both had a Good Laugh about that. :D

Edited October 23, 2019 by DaveOrDavid