Feeling “wanted”

[ChrisSquirt]

I’m sure it’s just bad luck but I’ve tried this a few times now and not had great experiences.

 

The idea of hiring an escort really turns me on. But the actual experience hasn’t lived up to expectations.

 

Is it “normal” to feel like the escort isn’t into me at all? Like, I’m not that ugly. ?.

 

I’m near Calgary Alberta, if anyone has any suggestions or recommendations.

[+ Just966]

I’m sure it’s just bad luck but I’ve tried this a few times now and not had great experiences.

 

The idea of hiring an escort really turns me on. But the actual experience hasn’t lived up to expectations.

 

Is it “normal” to feel like the escort isn’t into me at all? Like, I’m not that ugly. ?.

 

I’m near Calgary Alberta, if anyone has any suggestions or recommendations.

ArturVesely has been recommended here in the past as a good escort for newbies in Calgary. Have never hired him myself.

[Mocha]

I’m sure it’s just bad luck but I’ve tried this a few times now and not had great experiences.

 

The idea of hiring an escort really turns me on. But the actual experience hasn’t lived up to expectations.

 

Is it “normal” to feel like the escort isn’t into me at all? Like, I’m not that ugly. ?.

 

I’m near Calgary Alberta, if anyone has any suggestions or recommendations.

 

Unfortunately “the idea of hiring an escort really turns me on” doesn’t really say much about what you’re actually looking for. What is it about hiring an escort that you are looking to get, that you can’t get from elsewhere? (if you claim you’re not that ugly, which of course is not a checkpoint to indicate someone should hire an escort).

 

People wrongly think only repulsive types hire escorts. It’s just not true. Are you introducing yourself when you contact these guys? Are you including some details about your wants and expectations? Are you only going after the pictures, or are you reaching out to guys who seem compatible to you and your desires?

[jjkrkwood]

Chemistry between escort and client is always the key, but the really good escorts know how to "fake it" even if there is a lack of chemistry but abundance of cash ! It's a skill most needed in that business, making the client feel special even IF he is not your physical preference. If your escort didn't do that for you, he was the WRONG escort.

[+ Keith30309]

Some guys are simply great at creating a connection with a stranger and making him feel desired and cared about but that skill set is pretty rare. Perhaps Vancouver or Seattle are good places to look.

A tiny bit of advice - don’t hire based on how someone’s body or face looks but rather the vibe you get from their profile or others’ comments about them. Also communicate... tell the guy what you’re really looking for. No one is a mind reader and if you want your meeting to have a boyfriend tone, for example, let him know in advance. Go into it with honesty and an open, warm attitude and you’re setting yourself up to be more successful.

Also temper your expectations and be realistic about what is possible with a stranger for an hour or two. Find someone you have a good experience with and repeat.

[+ nycman]

There’s nothing worse than an escort who is clearly not into it. Every time

that happens, I want to slap him upside the head and say, “dude, let me

teach you how to make money...big M-O-N-E-Y”.

 

I don’t care if you’re faking it....just be good enough at it so I can’t tell.

 

And yeah just like real life, you gotta kiss a lot of frogs.

But when the chemistry is right....it’s amazing.

 

Just keep looking. You’ll find the right dude. And when you do, treat him like a prince.

[Mocha]

There’s nothing worse than an escort who is clearly not into it. Every time

that happens, I want to slap him upside the head and say, “dude, let me

teach you how to make money...big M-O-N-E-Y”.

 

Then perhaps you should sign up then! A typical Gold Ad on Rentmen is $79.95. Show us how you can handle all 750 guys that will text you in a given month, and try to be perfectly into each one ?

 

[David1024]

I ventured into this world and hired my first escort about three years ago. My first hire was amazing, could not have made me feel better, definitely five stars. Number two was also great, but he was new to escorting and a bit nervous, but so was I, and he did give me a great time. I went in to number three with high expectations and he just wasn't in to it, so that was disappointing. Number four was amazing and I've hired him many times. I realize now that I hired a great guy for my first time, which is not guaranteed, and sometimes you just can't tell. I always read the escorts' profiles very carefully and just go with my get feeling. Generally I find those that provide a good descriptive profile are the best guys and reading reviews on Daddy's and recommendations from this forum are worthwhile.

 

I also wanted to hire ArturVesely when I was in Calgary last year, but schedules did not sync up. My first hire was in Toronto and I found him through http://canadianmale.com/, didn't even know that RM existed at that time. Toronto is a great city for finding high quality escorts.

[+ keroscenefire]

Boyfriend Experience can sometimes be a good keyword to look for in ads though a lot of guys put that down and don't really know how to provide it...haha. Definitely communication is key and tell the escorts that you're looking for someone that can provide a more sensual experience that makes you feel wanted. Sometimes it could be a good idea to add an extra hour to the session if you can afford it just to build more chemistry with the escort. For some escorts an hour is just a wham-bam thank you m'am situation. Looking for those kind of men on DaddyReviews might be a good idea too. Good luck!

[marylander1940]

I’m sure it’s just bad luck but I’ve tried this a few times now and not had great experiences.

 

The idea of hiring an escort really turns me on. But the actual experience hasn’t lived up to expectations.

 

Is it “normal” to feel like the escort isn’t into me at all? Like, I’m not that ugly. ?.

 

I’m near Calgary Alberta, if anyone has any suggestions or recommendations.

 

Any chance you can give us some information about you and what kind of guy are you attracted to?

[+ WilliamM]

I’m sure it’s just bad luck but I’ve tried this a few times now and not had great experiences.

 

The idea of hiring an escort really turns me on. But the actual experience hasn’t lived up to expectations.

 

Is it “normal” to feel like the escort isn’t into me at all? Like, I’m not that ugly. ?.

 

I’m near Calgary Alberta, if anyone has any suggestions or recommendations.

 

Have you hired someone whom you are really "into" - a different start to the escort experience? Even if it isn't your greatest sex ever, it may become that with time and the same guy.

[Ron Katt]

i agree with the others, what are you looking for? i will tell you from my experience i sometimes expected my escorts to have figured out what i wanted and was disappointed when i didnt get what i wanted. so i realized i have to speak up and tell them what i wanted. so i l have done that and its been so much better. i saw one escort a 2nd time and because i told him what i wanted it was amazing! i also will say half of the guys have been duds not bad but its been mostly sexual with no connection or what we may say bf experience and some guys dont have thay and your chemistry is off. ive had some great successes and some escorts i totally love to be with and some i see quite regularly but it has taken 2 years to get to this point.

Edited September 15, 2019 by Ron Katt

[SirBillybob]

I only hire straight but good performative providers because they SHOULD NOT be into me.

 

Gay providers WOULD NOT be into me. Well, maybe 30 years ago.

 

I just simply prefer one version of method acting and not second/guessing. I realize this reflects my neuroses. Buy it’s my cash, my prerogative.

 

Straight providers have been the best tops for me. They have cultivated skills in a more refined way and have to perform to be viable.

 

I realized after a time that I could not access in memory a gay provider who really boned me into next week. They have been less able to manage physiological arousal out of synch with lack of subjective arousal.

 

I have become too rigid to test the theory with an expanded sample size.

 

If it’s the strip club setting, the distinction is less relevant. There my focus is more exclusively MY arousal, etc without conventional activity, and the straight dancers have experience acquiring tumescence for sub-sexual interaction.

 

Bottom line: You cannot buy love, or 60 minutes of authentic lust.

 

If they are truly turned on it may be their erotomania off their bipolar- stabilizing prescription psychoactive meds.

Edited September 15, 2019 by SirBIllybob

[SirBillybob]

More to the point to the OP ... You may have hired because many of the 33,000 Calgarian fellows, your queer peers, have not stampeded to your door. Or, more importantly, you cannot simply turn on your horn works for most of them.

 

If you think escorts in general attend and matriculate from the University of MorphingFakeInterestIntoTrueLust, you should enrol yourself and acquire the reach that exceeds your grasp, getting worked up into a lather at every gay lad from Bow River to the Rodeo grounds. You could save a lot of cash but book more routine STI clinic checkups.

 

LOL. Just have fun and try not to take it too seriously.

[Guest]

Chemistry between escort and client is always the key, but the really good escorts know how to "fake it" even if there is a lack of chemistry but abundance of cash ! It's a skill most needed in that business, making the client feel special even IF he is not your physical preference. If your escort didn't do that for you, he was the WRONG escort.

 

All the world's a stage,

And all the men and women merely players:

They have their exits and their entrances;

And one man in his time plays many parts,

His acts being seven ages.

[ChrisSquirt]

Any chance you can give us some information about you and what kind of guy are you attracted to?

 

 

I do Always state that I’m looking for a boyfriend experience. And always get the answer, yes I provide that. This last escort I tried said he provived that service. But after we had started he then tells me, he doesn’t “suck”. Which I think, ok that’s fine I prefer to give that anyway. But he didn’t even want to touch me in any way.

 

For the he type of guy, I really am open to that. I find myself attracted to lean guys or thick muscle guys. Smooth or hairy. I honestly don’t have a “type”.

 

I’m a mid thirty’s chubby guy. I am a bottom. With an average uncut dick. I have no problems hooking up with guys. I just also get really turned on by hiring. I really would like to find the right escort that I can rehire again and again and maybe play out some more fantasy/kinky stuff.

 

Thanks to all the constructive comment guys, love this forum.

[David1024]

I do Always state that I’m looking for a boyfriend experience. And always get the answer, yes I provide that. This last escort I tried said he provived that service. But after we had started he then tells me, he doesn’t “suck”. Which I think, ok that’s fine I prefer to give that anyway. But he didn’t even want to touch me in any way.

 

For the he type of guy, I really am open to that. I find myself attracted to lean guys or thick muscle guys. Smooth or hairy. I honestly don’t have a “type”.

 

I’m a mid thirty’s chubby guy. I am a bottom. With an average uncut dick. I have no problems hooking up with guys. I just also get really turned on by hiring. I really would like to find the right escort that I can rehire again and again and maybe play out some more fantasy/kinky stuff.

 

Thanks to all the constructive comment guys, love this forum.

 

I sent you a PM with some more info.

[ChrisSquirt]

I really want to find the right guy. Their are three guys currently in Calgary that I would be interested in hearing more about. If anyone can help:

 

https://rent.men/ArturVesely

https://rent.men/ScruffMuscle

https://rent.men/Muscleking

 

I em seen Artur mentioned a few times, both on this thread and in the forums. But haven’t been able to find much info on the other two. Thanks again dudes!

[wearytraveller]

I really want to find the right guy. Their are three guys currently in Calgary that I would be interested in hearing more about. If anyone can help:

 

https://rent.men/ArturVesely

https://rent.men/ScruffMuscle

https://rent.men/Muscleking

 

I em seen Artur mentioned a few times, both on this thread and in the forums. But haven’t been able to find much info on the other two. Thanks again dudes!

 

Artur is real and a top notch experience. No experience with the other two but I have had some email contact with them; both responded and were professional.

[+ peterhung85]

I’m sure it’s just bad luck but I’ve tried this a few times now and not had great experiences.

 

The idea of hiring an escort really turns me on. But the actual experience hasn’t lived up to expectations.

 

Is it “normal” to feel like the escort isn’t into me at all? Like, I’m not that ugly. ?.

 

I’m near Calgary Alberta, if anyone has any suggestions or recommendations.

Regardless of where you are, a professional companion (in my book) has to make you feel wanted and this has nothing to do about looks whatsoever. When we meet a client, "judging" of any kind should not be part of the encounter as it puts a serious dent on the overall session for the client and we are there to make sure that you have an amazing time and - hopefully - keep on coming back for more.

 

I personally have built up an amazing clientele over the past decade and I know very well that if they did not feel wanted by me, they would have never seen me again or very bottom line would not have been "stuck with me" for the past 5-6-7-8-9-10 years. Any provider who does not understand this basic principle in my book is not professional.

 

I am sorry you have had this experience but my advice is not to give up and try to see someone who is well established and liked widely. Daddy's has always been a great resource and I am sure once you find such person, your experience will be a much better one.

 

Best of luck!