Addicted to massage?

[Kody S]

This is a great thread! Thanks to all who weigh in.

 

As for me, the answer is yes, it can be addicting and get out of control emotionally and financially. But I will say this: in my nearly ten years of getting massages I have met some of nicest most interesting guys and I would not trade it for anything. I’m friends with some now and see others occasionally. Yes there are bad, if not hilariously awful experiences, but those are few and far between. If one is careful and learns how to read ads so as to choose the good ones and avoid the bad, it can be a rewarding (sometimes expensive) way to interact with people and have genuinely good experiences.

 

Regardless of motives on either side, we are all still people looking for connection. If we treat others respectfully then the chances of the encounter being mutually rewarding are much higher. I’ve experienced this several times. Massage can turn into a genuine connection.

 

What I’ve also found is that I like giving massages as much as receiving them now. A good masseur can teach you a lot about how to receive the massage as well as how to give a good one. I have had more than one masseur tell me they are going to give me the massage they would like to have.

 

I think at the end of the day it all depends on what you are in it for and what you want to get out of it short term and long term. I see massage as a language of touch, a way to converse. Receiving touch is like listening to someone. Some masseurs have a lot to say I want to hear, others not so much!

 

Enjoy it!

[RobbieC]

This is a great thread! Thanks to all who weigh in.

 

As for me, the answer is yes, it can be addicting and get out of control emotionally and financially. But I will say this: in my nearly ten years of getting massages I have met some of nicest most interesting guys and I would not trade it for anything. I’m friends with some now and see others occasionally. Yes there are bad, if not hilariously awful experiences, but those are few and far between. If one is careful and learns how to read ads so as to choose the good ones and avoid the bad, it can be a rewarding (sometimes expensive) way to interact with people and have genuinely good experiences.

 

Regardless of motives on either side, we are all still people looking for connection. If we treat others respectfully then the chances of the encounter being mutually rewarding are much higher. I’ve experienced this several times. Massage can turn into a genuine connection.

 

What I’ve also found is that I like giving massages as much as receiving them now. A good masseur can teach you a lot about how to receive the massage as well as how to give a good one. I have had more than one masseur tell me they are going to give me the massage they would like to have.

 

I think at the end of the day it all depends on what you are in it for and what you want to get out of it short term and long term. I see massage as a language of touch, a way to converse. Receiving touch is like listening to someone. Some masseurs have a lot to say I want to hear, others not so much!

 

Enjoy it!

"Hilariously awful" - haha--what a positive way to see it. When I get a bad one, I'm just pissed, and get my "revenge" by being as soft and limp as I can possibly be (I hope they see that as instant feedback). I'm going to try to see it as "hilariously awful" next time......

[NYMassageAddict]

"Hilariously awful" - haha--what a positive way to see it. When I get a bad one, I'm just pissed, and get my "revenge" by being as soft and limp as I can possibly be (I hope they see that as instant feedback). I'm going to try to see it as "hilariously awful" next time......

When I used to have a bad experience, and I’m approached about a HE, I decline as I’m already thinking about where I’m going to book next. And by next, I mean like as soon as I walk out the door. Yes those days are expensive but I refuse to sit on a bad experience without taking action.

[+ aeikaryoko]

When I used to have a bad experience, and I’m approached about a HE, I decline as I’m already thinking about where I’m going to book next. And by next, I mean like as soon as I walk out the door. Yes those days are expensive but I refuse to sit on a bad experience without taking action.

And here I thought I was the only one that did this. I’ve only done it once. Really, that experience was just gawd awful.

[RobbieC]

When I used to have a bad experience, and I’m approached about a HE, I decline as I’m already thinking about where I’m going to book next. And by next, I mean like as soon as I walk out the door. Yes those days are expensive but I refuse to sit on a bad experience without taking action.

Ha! I've done this too, but only in Asia where the massages are 20 bucks. :-)

[rogerG]

I can think of many worse addictions. At the very least, massage is a healthy choice. Good blood circulation is great medicine for your body and brain. Intimate touching is good for the soul and the libido. IMO, massage is the perfect indulgence. A man with the right touch can easily leave me weak at the knees. Don't mind getting on my knees, either, and showing some appreciation in return.

[Rvarghcrna]

Does anyone keep going to the sane person?

[Inkdnaija00]

Does anyone keep going to the sane person?

 

I do

[+ FrankR]

I have two regulars that I see every month. I find them both accommodating and sane - both attributes are a plus! ?

[LivingnLA]

Humans generally need some touch for mental and physical health. I am glad to see so many people taking care of themselves. Please do not put your financial stability at risk though! It's not worth it to endanger the rest of your life. If you honestly are spending more than you can afford, I urge you to stop and think about it. Find a therapist to talk to because it isn't healthy to self sabotage your life.

 

Create a budget, stick to it, and find one or more male bodyworker(s) that you have fun with and enjoy!

[CheckCar]

I’m saddened at times by my reliance on massages for intimate touch. Outside of the massage world, I often avoid approaching men to whom I’m attracted, and I often dodge men who express an interest in me. I fear the risk of rejection. I discovered strippers before masseurs, and with the former, I felt confident because my spending power ensured favorable results. I shifted to masseurs once strippers became unavailable, and I’ve struggled to find the consistently favorable results that I experienced with strippers. The masseurs I‘ve had good rapport with are not based in my area, and the traveling ones are hit-or-miss. I wish had more reliable options for intimate touch.

[LivingnLA]

I’m saddened at times by my reliance on massages for intimate touch. Outside of the massage world, I often avoid approaching men to whom I’m attracted, and I often dodge men who express an interest in me. I fear the risk of rejection. I discovered strippers before masseurs, and with the former, I felt confident because my spending power ensured favorable results. I shifted to masseurs once strippers became unavailable, and I’ve struggled to find the consistently favorable results that I experienced with strippers. The masseurs I‘ve had good rapport with are not based in my area, and the traveling ones are hit-or-miss. I wish had more reliable options for intimate touch.

 

Welcome to the forum and thanks for sharing. That sounds like something you might want to explore with a good therapist. There are many options that may be able to help. I only mention it because you started with how sad you sometimes were over your "reliance on massage" and your avoidance behavior sounds maladaptive. A good therapist can help.

[Dicknharry1]

Massage addiction is really taking a toll on me these days . Anyone else ever had a crush on a particular masseur and want to see him often? I am infatuated over a masseur and cant stop it!! Anyone with similar experience who recovered from that feeling can help me

[rogerG]

Anyone else ever had a crush on a particular masseur and want to see him often?

Too many crushes to count. When I fall for a guy, I try to stay loyal for as long as I can. There is a hindrance. The more you get to know about the masseur, the easier it is to fall out of love. That's the problem mixing fantasy with reality and all the good feelings that come with massage. In the end, I never met a massage therapist that I wanted to marry. So like most crushes, they're fleeting, and we move on to the next one.

[+ Just966]

My name is ____________ and I'm a massage addict

 

I probably get a massage twice a month... But there have been times where I've gotten 4 or 5 in a month. I try to keep it to 2 a month so I don't overspend.

 

Gay masseurs and escorts were my introduction to the gay world. I came out at 18 and didn't know anyone who was gay. So I ended up calling massage ads and escort ads. I had some really good experiences, and they were all really cool with me not knowing anything about being gay. One of them even got me to escort for a short time.

 

Nowadays I'm only interested in masseurs... which sometimes leads to sex after we get comfortable with each other. Sex isn't necessary. I just like being touched and getting off. And if the masseur is really into my body type, the sensual / sexual energy is amazing.

 

Sometimes I think getting regular massage prevents me or stops me from actually trying to find someone to date. Not sure if that's good or bad... But I don't feel the need to be on-the-prowl all the time.

 

@Capitano - You're not the only one limited by the selection of masseurs. I've had several regular masseurs I really liked seeing over the years... They have all since moved away. And I've had a lot of trouble finding local masseurs that I want to keep going back to lately. (I tend to avoid traveling masseurs). I'm not sure what's different now. I tend to like good amateur / semi-professional masseurs. Maybe it's that the amateurs nowadays are more like escorts than masseurs? I have all kinds of theories, but no answers

 

Anyways... getting a good sensual massage regularly keeps me happy and satisfied Otherwise, I might be out looking for trouble

 

 

I would be happy to even book a travelling masseur! Some of us are unfortunately in a wasteland for good masseurs (or bad to be honest) and so have no trouble staying within our means even if we don't want to!

[Dicknharry1]

May be now its time for massage addicts to find a different hobby, Corona virus is everywhere

[river]

Too many crushes to count. When I fall for a guy, I try to stay loyal for as long as I can. There is a hindrance. The more you get to know about the masseur, the easier it is to fall out of love. That's the problem mixing fantasy with reality and all the good feelings that come with massage. In the end, I never met a massage therapist that I wanted to marry. So like most crushes, they're fleeting, and we move on to the next one.

rogerG, that was really well said. You summed it up exactly right. Even though that has happened to me a few times and I fully feel/understand the logic of what you described, I am confident it will still happen to me again.

[Inkdnaija00]

May be now its time for massage addicts to find a different hobby, Corona virus is everywhere

 

My hands do wonders to my own body. And if you have vivid imagination, that's a plus

[bigjsd]

Too many crushes to count. When I fall for a guy, I try to stay loyal for as long as I can. There is a hindrance. The more you get to know about the masseur, the easier it is to fall out of love. That's the problem mixing fantasy with reality and all the good feelings that come with massage. In the end, I never met a massage therapist that I wanted to marry. So like most crushes, they're fleeting, and we move on to the next one.

 

Strippers and massage therapists (men and women both) have a way of eventually snapping me out of this and reminding me that the transaction is what has them interested, not the interaction.

[Dicknharry1]

Strippers and massage therapists (men and women both) have a way of eventually snapping me out of this and reminding me that the transaction is what has them interested, not the interaction.

Its taking me little bit longer but hoping it wont be too long before i can feel the same

[Pittlookalike]

Interesting views from all of you. I go through phases, sometimes three massages in a week, to just one a month. Spent an absurd amount last year. The excitement of not knowing what exactly will happen during the massage and discovering another gorgeous body keeps me continuing with the massages.

[bigjsd]

Interesting views from all of you. I go through phases, sometimes three massages in a week, to just one a month. Spent an absurd amount last year. The excitement of not knowing what exactly will happen during the massage and discovering another gorgeous body keeps me continuing with the massages.

 

I go in phases as well. I'll have a good solid period where I go every 2 weeks like it's on a schedule and then something will happen (like I alluded to in my previous post) that destroys the fantasy for me and then I'm out for several months.

[Dicknharry1]

Interesting views from all of you. I go through phases, sometimes three massages in a week, to just one a month. Spent an absurd amount last year. The excitement of not knowing what exactly will happen during the massage and discovering another gorgeous body keeps me continuing with the massages.

My problem is i go to the same guy every week