Addicted to massage?

[+ aeikaryoko]

Speaking for myself, at the five year mark, it takes longer than five years!

Looks like I have 4.5 years to go. ???

[Capitano]

It was 1.5-2 years in my case. It happened slowly and “naturally,” as I realized that most new masseurs I was hoping might turn into repeats were disappointments.

 

And when I said I wanted the names, I was also looking for the names of what, or WHO exactly, you are addicted to ?, which is related to the above point, very few guys are worth it.

[RobbieC]

Well, I can say at the 3-month mark, I have not even come close to the “cool down phase”

[KrisParr]

I’ve been indulging in erotic massages for many years. All the comments on this thread have been quite interesting. One thing for newbies is not to be surprised when the quality and/or hotness of the experience begins to fade. With familiarity may come a little less effort being put into the massage. One of my more recent “regulars”, who I no longer see, was incredible at the beginning. But after a few months, the enthusiasm waned, and then it was more like just “going through the motions” even though the chemistry and release were satisfying. Maybe a rotation among 2-3 providers would help with that. My current “go to” guy is starting to travel a lot which makes getting to see him a challenge. So, I’m researching to see who else is on the horizon.

[RobbieC]

I’ve been indulging in erotic massages for many years. All the comments on this thread have been quite interesting. One thing for newbies is not to be surprised when the quality and/or hotness of the experience begins to fade. With familiarity may come a little less effort being put into the massage. One of my more recent “regulars”, who I no longer see, was incredible at the beginning. But after a few months, the enthusiasm waned, and then it was more like just “going through the motions” even though the chemistry and release were satisfying. Maybe a rotation among 2-3 providers would help with that. My current “go to” guy is starting to travel a lot which makes getting to see him a challenge. So, I’m researching to see who else is on the horizon.

Is it because the quality is going down, or the "mystery" is gone? As much as I enjoy some, I think there's nothing like having a new guy, not sure what he's going to do next.

[Guest]

I’ve been indulging in erotic massages for many years. All the comments on this thread have been quite interesting. One thing for newbies is not to be surprised when the quality and/or hotness of the experience begins to fade. With familiarity may come a little less effort being put into the massage. One of my more recent “regulars”, who I no longer see, was incredible at the beginning. But after a few months, the enthusiasm waned, and then it was more like just “going through the motions” even though the chemistry and release were satisfying. Maybe a rotation among 2-3 providers would help with that. My current “go to” guy is starting to travel a lot which makes getting to see him a challenge. So, I’m researching to see who else is on the horizon.

 

This provider, like others, started taking you for granted.

[KrisParr]

Is it because the quality is going down, or the "mystery" is gone? As much as I enjoy some, I think there's nothing like having a new guy, not sure what he's going to do next.

Excellent point, sir. Probably a little of both - I do like the unexpected.

[+ 7829V]

This provider, like others, started taking you for granted.

Like all my past relationships

[starman05]

I think that's my problem. I found a great one, and I'm crushing like a girl in middle school. LOL

this is tough; the temptation to be go and see him often is real. Think about pulling back when you start draining your 401K. Seriously, try to keep it all in perspective. It's tough emotionally and financially. I hear tell.

[Onamission]

I am new to this, but find myself in the addicted stage. Spending way more than my budget should allow. But not knowing this existed for so many years, now in middle age, I'm like a kid in a candy store. Going to see a new provider tonight! Excited for the new experience, but blowing the budget even further.

[RobbieC]

I am new to this, but find myself in the addicted stage. Spending way more than my budget should allow. But not knowing this existed for so many years, now in middle age, I'm like a kid in a candy store. Going to see a new provider tonight! Excited for the new experience, but blowing the budget even further.

“Kid I need a candy store” is a very accurate expression. Being closeted with no hope of ever being out, I feel this is my “one shot.” I have a few short years left where the masseurs just might be into me too. After that they’ll def be pretending.

[Onamission]

“Kid I need a candy store” is a very accurate expression. Being closeted with no hope of ever being out, I feel this is my “one shot.” I have a few short years left where the masseurs just might be into me too. After that they’ll def be pretending.

Sounds like we come from similar backgrounds. I feel like I have a lot of catching up to do. Although my current go to says that daddys are pretty popular with some. Sure hoping that's true.

[RobbieC]

Sounds like we come from similar backgrounds. I feel like I have a lot of catching up to do. Although my current go to says that daddys are pretty popular with some. Sure hoping that's true.

I’m hoping that staying thin and fit will prolong my “shelf life”

[Onamission]

I’m hoping that staying thin and fit will prolong my “shelf life”

Interesting you would say that. Since I've discovered this world, I too want to prolong my shelf life. I've dumped 30 lbs since I've started the addiction to masseurs.

[RobbieC]

Interesting you would say that. Since I've discovered this world, I too want to prolong my shelf life. I've dumped 30 lbs since I've started the addiction to masseurs.

I hear ya. I consider it a real compliment when the actual massage lasts five minutes or less when they work my shoulders and calves for 45 min, I’ll know th8ngs hav3 changed....

[Mustang]

Interesting you would say that. Since I've discovered this world, I too want to prolong my shelf life. I've dumped 30 lbs since I've started the addiction to masseurs.

 

I'd be interested to hear what how your massages have changed over your weight loss? PM if you'd like like.

[Onamission]

I'd be interested to hear what how your massages have changed over your weight loss? PM if you'd like like.

Sent you a PM

[RobbieC]

Sent you a PM

I’d like to hear the same

[+ Just Sayin]

I am new to this, but find myself in the addicted stage. Spending way more than my budget should allow. But not knowing this existed for so many years, now in middle age, I'm like a kid in a candy store. Going to see a new provider tonight! Excited for the new experience, but blowing the budget even further.

 

@Onamission: please be careful! I hate to see you overspend on massages; m4m massages were my introduction to gay sex, and I had some incredible experiences; and I still greatly enjoy being touched and having a sensual and erotic session; but I think you should figure out what you can reasonably spend on massages and then stick with your budget.

[Capitano]

I am new to this, but find myself in the addicted stage. Spending way more than my budget should allow. But not knowing this existed for so many years, now in middle age, I'm like a kid in a candy store. Going to see a new provider tonight! Excited for the new experience, but blowing the budget even further.

 

I hope it goes well, enjoy!

 

Am I the only one whose partaking in massages is limited by the selection of the masseurs? Sure, I splurged while I was getting to know the market, but then I discovered that very few were actually worth it. David moved out of Chicago a while ago, Brad is now gone too, and I don't see Nikola's listing any more, WTF?! :-( I am down to 1-2 guys I want to see, and even them I don't want to see that frequently, and this is Chicago I am talking about. You could say that the market cured my addiction...

[RobbieC]

I hope it goes well, enjoy!

 

Am I the only one whose partaking in massages is limited by the selection of the masseurs? Sure, I splurged while I was getting to know the market, but then I discovered that very few were actually worth it. David moved out of Chicago a while ago, Brad is now gone too, and I don't see Nikola's listing any more, WTF?! :-( I am down to 1-2 guys I want to see, and even them I don't want to see that frequently, and this is Chicago I am talking about. You could say that the market cured my addiction...

Then move to Bali or Thailand--the land of addictions.....

[+ muscleboyinsd]

My name is ____________ and I'm a massage addict

 

I probably get a massage twice a month... But there have been times where I've gotten 4 or 5 in a month. I try to keep it to 2 a month so I don't overspend.

 

Gay masseurs and escorts were my introduction to the gay world. I came out at 18 and didn't know anyone who was gay. So I ended up calling massage ads and escort ads. I had some really good experiences, and they were all really cool with me not knowing anything about being gay. One of them even got me to escort for a short time.

 

Nowadays I'm only interested in masseurs... which sometimes leads to sex after we get comfortable with each other. Sex isn't necessary. I just like being touched and getting off. And if the masseur is really into my body type, the sensual / sexual energy is amazing.

 

Sometimes I think getting regular massage prevents me or stops me from actually trying to find someone to date. Not sure if that's good or bad... But I don't feel the need to be on-the-prowl all the time.

 

@Capitano - You're not the only one limited by the selection of masseurs. I've had several regular masseurs I really liked seeing over the years... They have all since moved away. And I've had a lot of trouble finding local masseurs that I want to keep going back to lately. (I tend to avoid traveling masseurs). I'm not sure what's different now. I tend to like good amateur / semi-professional masseurs. Maybe it's that the amateurs nowadays are more like escorts than masseurs? I have all kinds of theories, but no answers

 

Anyways... getting a good sensual massage regularly keeps me happy and satisfied Otherwise, I might be out looking for trouble

[MmM]

I love massages. I always have. Have been going to the gym since college and having massages after a workout feels incredibly good. I like the feeling of being touched, and HE; but, even better, the possibility of an organic sexual encounter because of mutual attraction. If it doesn't happen, though, I still get the benefit of muscle-relaxing massage. Win-win, except, of course, if its a bad massage.

[Inkdnaija00]

The fact that another man's hands are all over me with chemistry is why I love it. I now have 3 masseurs that I can choose from. If they aren't available, my hands are!

[RobbieC]

The mystery of the encounter is intoxicating. And if it's a repeat encounter, and he goes straight for my sweet spot, well that's intoxicating too.....