My wife

[Cbrannan1]

Our girl is 5 days old now. I occasionally buy a 6 pack of beer to take the pressure off. My wife claims "I'm not completely there when I drink a couple beers". I'm trying so hard but I don't know what to do

[+ azdr0710]

sent you a direct message.....check your "inbox".......

[+ FreshFluff]

I wish I could help somehow. All I can say is that the first few months will probably be the toughest time because you're tired and have no time to yourself. Other fathers here can probably help more.

[David1024]

I also sent you a PM.

[+ azdr0710]

The new father may've already figured out this isn't the forum he was looking for

[LookingAround]

We have a lot of daddies but far fewer fathers.

[Deadlift1]

The new father may've already figured out this isn't the forum he was looking for

LMAO!!!!

[+ Seaninsf]

Well, hopefully he won't inadvertently stumble upon Daddy's Reviews as the information there will likely be of little use with his newborn (and wife).

[MikeBiDude]

Actual father here...those first days/weeks are tough. I miss every stage of it though....every stage different, even now

Edited August 20, 2019 by MikeBiDude

[+ Reisr30]

The new father may've already figured out this isn't the forum he was looking for

 

I was so confused by this thread until I read your post LoL. Thank you!

[Phlmuscle]

Do something helpful around the house and lay off the beer. Anything you do to make it easier for your wife will make your life happier. Remember the old saying "An idle mind is the devils workshop" Keep busy.

[Quincy_7]

Roughly what percentage of this forum's members are married to women or have girlfriends?

[jjkrkwood]

Roughly what percentage of this forum's members are married to women or have girlfriends?

 

[LookingAround]

Gold star gay here.

[+ friendofsheila]

The new father may've already figured out this isn't the forum he was looking for

 

"No, honey, honest. I thought it was a forum for guys talking to guys. About guy stuff. "

[+ pdxleo]

Being in a partnership with a female certainly does not preclude having an interest in our hobby, altho there are different ways of participating in the activity and requires a level of honesty with your partner that can be hard to develop.

[+ Funguy]

As a pediatrician I would comment that wife/mom is also stressed and issues like this need to be dealt with carefully to avoid complete blow up.

Dad - speak to your pediatrician about ways both of you can take the pressure off.

Get some sex as soon as permitted by mom's obstetrician.

If mom is breastfeeding - OFFER to give the baby a bottle (of breastmilk) so mom can rest at night/any other time - in other words, help mom. When mom sees he is trying, she should be happier.

 

NB - Who knows? Check the review section here.

[Geriatric Otter]

AA

[+ TylerandAce]

Every child added to the mix is a challenge, but if this is your first, it's especially confusing and anxiety-inducing. With my first one, we were surrounded by family members (mother-in-law, particularly). That had good and bad sides to it. I dealt with the stress by working, but if the baby is less than a week, hopefully you're still home. If you really want to lay off the beer, maybe find something that feels normal from before the baby and do that. The gym is an excellent release. If you don't have that at your disposal and you're feeling edgy, I'd find a good counselor to talk to. Parenthood is no joke and adjusting all elements to the new normal is work. Very hard work sometimes. Hopefully you'll find the joy in it all very soon and can focus on the amazing little life you have created. It's a wonderful time of bonding that I would give anything to have again. In fact, I have three because I missed the baby stage so much when the first two were older. Hang in there...it gets better.