Ever since I started getting massages, my views on sex with men have been tainted. Anyone else experience this?

[Monarchy79]

So fellas, I got my first massage that turned erotic about two years ago. And ever since, I’ve had some ultimate sensorial, mind blowing experiences.

 

Unfortunately, it has tainted my desire to deal with “regular” men.

In the past, I’ve found dealing with most men to be pretty mediocre, as either their skills were limited,they were either sexually selfish (or overly submissive and pleasing) or they had a skewed perception of what good sex is... many of my encounters left me disappointed And irritated. However, with these sexy masseurs, who know how to do everything right (in my opinion), I just rather get a sensual/erotic massage than bother with taking the chance of wasting my time with a dude who either has bad skills, hygiene or approaches to seduction.

 

Has anyone else ever felt this way?

[Inkdnaija00]

So fellas, I got my first massage that turned erotic about two years ago. And ever since, I’ve had some ultimate sensorial, mind blowing experiences.

 

Unfortunately, it has tainted my desire to deal with “regular” men.

In the past, I’ve found dealing with most men to be pretty mediocre, as either their skills were limited,they were either sexually selfish (or overly submissive and pleasing) or they had a skewed perception of what good sex is... many of my encounters left me disappointed And irritated. However, with these sexy masseurs, who know how to do everything right (in my opinion), I just rather get a sensual/erotic massage than bother with taking the chance of wasting my time with a dude who either has bad skills, hygiene or approaches to seduction.

 

Has anyone else ever felt this way?

 

I totally agree with you. I leave people like Javier's and I am completely satisfied and smiling like the full grown Nigerian that I am. I haven't had any problems with him since I first met him in May 2018 and I go on dates that turn out to be disappointing or draining, I just look out for Javier or Madeinbrasil mostly! I would have added Rocco but I think he's out of the business

[+ Funguy]

Isn't this why most of us hire: we want what we want and we dont want to waste our time being disappointed with who we might meet/pick up/hook up. Skills vary - and please, I do not think I'm God's gift to sex - but even I at 70 have been majorly disappointed with some of the men I've met and been with. As Monarchy says above, many are selfish, limited in skills, too submissive, or just out to get their rocks off. It's just much easier to go to a masseur or escort with whom you have had very satisfying experiences.

 

Me personally - give me 2 hours with certain providers and I come home a happy man with a shit-eating grin on my face ready to face the world.

 

I dont think your views are tainted in the least - you are just discovering what others in this community have already discovered, there ARE men out there who sure know what they are doing.

[Guest]

I just rather get a sensual/erotic massage than bother with taking the chance of wasting my time with a dude who either has bad skills, hygiene or approaches to seduction.

 

Has anyone else ever felt this way?

 

Yes. We are spoiled!

[Dmitri]

So fellas, I got my first massage that turned erotic about two years ago. And ever since, I’ve had some ultimate sensorial, mind blowing experiences.

 

Unfortunately, it has tainted my desire to deal with “regular” men.

In the past, I’ve found dealing with most men to be pretty mediocre, as either their skills were limited,they were either sexually selfish (or overly submissive and pleasing) or they had a skewed perception of what good sex is... many of my encounters left me disappointed And irritated. However, with these sexy masseurs, who know how to do everything right (in my opinion), I just rather get a sensual/erotic massage than bother with taking the chance of wasting my time with a dude who either has bad skills, hygiene or approaches to seduction.

 

Has anyone else ever felt this way?

 

Totally agree with you. I think the major difference is that when you hire a masseur or escort all of the attention is on YOU.....and you get to list what you want and they oblige and it is their job to satisfy you. (and of course the icing is you get to choose hot guys from the pics they post that turn you on)

[+ EVdude]

Awe @Monarchy79 you had to go and call out the pink elephant in the forum.

 

I’m usually quick to offer an opinion but this one needs a little soul and cock searching.

[MscleLovr]

Interesting thread @Monarchy79

 

I’m a dominant selfish top so a massage session where I’m fully served is immensely satisfying. I can see that such massages would indeed spoil me for encounters with others, if I didn’t have a nice steady boyfriend who really enjoys pleasing me.

 

Also I share your experience of the dating pool. I’m not surprised that you’ve found many encounters left you “disappointed And irritated.“ When I was single, I wasted a lot of time and energy dating various men - quite a few were time-wasters, flaky, self-absorbed or simply not good in bed.

 

And I appreciate your observation that a man can be “overly submissive and pleasing”. 10 years ago, I had a first date I’ve never forgotten with a handsome young architect who had a good body. After a drink at home, and before we went to dinner, he asked to suck me off to completion: I was clothed and standing over him; he was at my feet, naked with my cum streaking his face; he said he’d clean himself up but added that after dinner he “wanted to be used fully” and I could do whatever I wanted to him - it was a total turn-off; he ceased to be alluring to me.

[+ FrankR]

To each his own!

 

In this thread folks discussed the other side of the coin...

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/things-you-learn-about-yourself-through-this-hobby.150421/

[Monarchy79]

Interesting thread @Monarchy79

 

I’m a dominant selfish top so a massage session where I’m fully served is immensely satisfying. I can see that such massages would indeed spoil me for encounters with others, if I didn’t have a nice steady boyfriend who really enjoys pleasing me.

 

Also I share your experience of the dating pool. I’m not surprised that you’ve found many encounters left you “disappointed And irritated.“ When I was single, I wasted a lot of time and energy dating various men - quite a few were time-wasters, flaky, self-absorbed or simply not good in bed.

 

And I appreciate your observation that a man can be “overly submissive and pleasing”. 10 years ago, I had a first date I’ve never forgotten with a handsome young architect who had a good body. After a drink at home, and before we went to dinner, he asked to suck me off to completion: I was clothed and standing over him; he was at my feet, naked with my cum streaking his face; he said he’d clean himself up but added that after dinner he “wanted to be used fully” and I could do whatever I wanted to him - it was a total turn-off; he ceased to be alluring to me.

 

Oh boy, I can definitely relate!!!

I’m not a Dom-selfish Top, I’m a Vers who is smack in the middle.

Every encounter I’ve had with a regular guy has been off balanced (one extreme or the other). And then the dating.. ugh... I’ve been on so many awkward dates, that I now turn down offers.

[Inkdnaija00]

Isn't this why most of us hire: we want what we want and we dont want to waste our time being disappointed with who we might meet/pick up/hook up. Skills vary - and please, I do not think I'm God's gift to sex - but even I at 70 have been majorly disappointed with some of the men I've met and been with. As Monarchy says above, many are selfish, limited in skills, too submissive, or just out to get their rocks off. It's just much easier to go to a masseur or escort with whom you have had very satisfying experiences.

 

Me personally - give me 2 hours with certain providers and I come home a happy man with a shit-eating grin on my face ready to face the world.

 

I dont think your views are tainted in the least - you are just discovering what others in this community have already discovered, there ARE men out there who sure know what they are doing.

 

Lmao silly you

[Inkdnaija00]

Oh boy, I can definitely relate!!!

I’m not a Dom-selfish Top, I’m a Vers who is smack in the middle.

Every encounter I’ve had with a regular guy has been off balanced (one extreme or the other). And then the dating.. ugh... I’ve been on so many awkward dates, that I now turn down offers.

 

I feel you!

[+ keroscenefire]

Yeah, I think I'm going to be taking a break from the hobby now that I'm in a relationship. It's not fair to compare a regular guy with these beautiful men with amazing sexual skills that few could ever possess. While it is great to spend an hour with them, they can't provide the stability and love of a relationship. So I think I need to stop my visits with them for the time being because it truly is challenging sexually to be comparing one with the other.

[Monarchy79]

Yeah, I think I'm going to be taking a break from the hobby now that I'm in a relationship. It's not fair to compare a regular guy with these beautiful men with amazing sexual skills that few could ever possess. While it is great to spend an hour with them, they can't provide the stability and love of a relationship. So I think I need to stop my visits with them for the time being because it truly is challenging sexually to be comparing one with the other.

 

Smart decision.

 

Maybe I should take a break as well, then maybe I’ll start finding interest in regular guys again.

[+ Just Sayin]

I don't know--I'm coming out of a long term relationship and find that the use of masseurs and escorts a convenient way to help learn how to be single again in a celebratory manner!

[+ keroscenefire]

I don't know--I'm coming out of a long term relationship and find that the use of masseurs and escorts a convenient way to help learn how to be single again in a celebratory manner!

 

I have definitely spent time with escorts after a relationship has ended. It's definitely great to be with someone that doesn't come with all the complexity of a relationship and just have a nice and relaxing time.

[allyouknow]

going out on a limb here and will say that actual relationships take time and levels of intimacy that bring greater sexual experiences then what I have had with masseurs or escorts. The physical is satisfying yes with an escort or massage, the intimacy and mentally hard on that comes with that is lacking when you pay for an hour.

[Inkdnaija00]

I have definitely spent time with escorts after a relationship has ended. It's definitely great to be with someone that doesn't come with all the complexity of a relationship and just have a nice and relaxing time.

 

Yessssss

[Inkdnaija00]

I don't know--I'm coming out of a long term relationship and find that the use of masseurs and escorts a convenient way to help learn how to be single again in a celebratory manner!

 

At the end of the day, it is all about you really.

[Inkdnaija00]

Smart decision.

 

Maybe I should take a break as well, then maybe I’ll start finding interest in regular guys again.

 

Maybe outside DC!

[IYH99]

For me, I just look at it as something different. I'm married, and while we have a monogamish agreement, I don't really have interest in full experiences. I love getting massages, even when they're just therapeutic. If there's a connection going on there, and there's sensual touch (and maybe kissing) and release, it just enhances the experience. Admittedly, I'm surprised with even myself because one of my biggest concerns with any activity outside of a relationship is fear of over-connection, or it taking away from the relationship. I think I've done a good job at compartmentalizing (if that's the correct term to use here) and enjoying the physical and sexual pleasure for what it is. I've fooled around with some friends recently too, but I know who I want to share every intimate aspect with.

 

That being said, if this (or any other) activity is detracting from your life/experiences in any way, I think it's a great thing to take a break and do what's best/healthiest for you.