weird experience this evening

[m4same]

I contacted a new person for a massage. We set a duration, time, and fee. I had a weird vibe from him so I told him I'm 59 and asked if that was a problem. No reply. I then asked for his address. He asked for my photo "for security reasons" and, said upon receiving it, he would send his address. I took a selfie with a stern look. Think I heard from him with his address? I'm glad that massage never happened...

[Monarchy79]

I contacted a new person for a massage. We set a duration, time, and fee. I had a weird vibe from him so I told him I'm 59 and asked if that was a problem. No reply. I then asked for his address. He asked for my photo "for security reasons" and, said upon receiving it, he would send his address. I took a selfie with a stern look. Think I heard from him with his address? I'm glad that massage never happened...

 

Providing a link to the masseurs MF or RM profile wouldn’t be considered a review.....

[Dmitri]

Why, when booking an appointment, if you got a weird vibe, would you mention your age? If I got a "weird vibe", that would be a huge red flag. I would trust my gut instinct right there, and would not mention my age, but would mention that maybe today/tonite is not going to work for my schedule and I will be in contact at a later date. Then I would move onto another masseur who I feel more comfortable with. He ain't the only fish in the sea. There are tons of them out there.

Edited May 21, 2019 by Dmitri

[m4same]

Why, when booking an appointment, if you get a weird vibe, would you mention your age? If I got a "weird vibe", that would be a huge red flag. I would trust my gut instinct right there, and would not mention my age, but would mention that maybe today/tonite is not going to work for my schedule and I will be in contact at a later date. Then I would move onto another masseur who I feel more comfortable with. He ain't the only fish in the sea. There are tons of them out there.

True.

[FrequentMassageGetter]

You should post a link

[Scott Dixon]

I never tell them my age (62) unless they ask me, in person, and then I say, "How old do you think I am?" I usually get a guess of 45 to 50, and I'm good with that. I know SO many guys half my age who look my age.

[Guest InthePines]

You should post a link

 

Agreed. Anyone who's going to pull that shit doesn't have the professionalism to be in the business. Had a similar experience last Summer after setting up an outcall with a visiting masseur. Thirty minutes before the massage was scheduled, he sent a shirtless photo and asked for a photo in return. I sent him my business mug shot and he said the Lyft would be too expensive and he would come the next night when he had his friend's car. I didn't hear from him again. Total asshole, but he had my home address, so not much I could do.

 

BTW. I've since discuss this with a few "Pros" who I've hired repeatedly and both said they think the whole photo share thing is ridiculously, and when a new client takes it upon themselves to send a photo prior to meeting, they're feeling is "oh shit", it's going to be one of those. That said, if I am ever asked for a photo again, they'll receive a "sorry, this isn't going to work out. best of luck" response.

[FrequentMassageGetter]

Whenever I've been asked for a picture my response has been, "I think there's been a misunderstanding. I wanted to hire you to give me a massage. I'm not interested in dating you."

[Scott Dixon]

I do sometimes send a photo during our initial conversation if it's a masseur I've not hired before, especially if I have seen a photo of him in his ad. My thinking is, I want to know who's coming to my door, and I figure it's only fair for him to know who's coming to his, or who will be answering the door if he's coming to me.

[Jose Anmo]

It would be great to know who this masseur is so we can all avoid and be warned.

[NYMassageAddict]

In a way, asking for a photo is a good thing. Yes it’s incredibly rude but at least you don’t waste your time with someone who may not give you full attention if they are only looking to massage a certain type of guy.

[hornytwells]

In a way, asking for a photo is a good thing. Yes it’s incredibly rude but at least you don’t waste your time with someone who may not give you full attention if they are only looking to massage a certain type of guy.

I see both sides, but from my point, I would rather send a pic of myself and know the masseur is good with how I look than risk turning up and getting a lesser experience because I am not the masseur's type.

[m4same]

You should post a link

I didn't follow up with him. Perhaps there was something major that came up. I hate to hurt someone without knowing for sure there is a good reason

[m4same]

I never tell them my age (62) unless they ask me, in person, and then I say, "How old do you think I am?" I usually get a guess of 45 to 50, and I'm good with that. I know SO many guys half my age who look my age.

I think I could pass for 57.

[m4same]

Agreed. Anyone who's going to pull that shit doesn't have the professionalism to be in the business. Had a similar experience last Summer after setting up an outcall with a visiting masseur. Thirty minutes before the massage was scheduled, he sent a shirtless photo and asked for a photo in return. I sent him my business mug shot and he said the Lyft would be too expensive and he would come the next night when he had his friend's car. I didn't hear from him again. Total asshole, but he had my home address, so not much I could do.

 

BTW. I've since discuss this with a few "Pros" who I've hired repeatedly and both said they think the whole photo share thing is ridiculously, and when a new client takes it upon themselves to send a photo prior to meeting, they're feeling is "oh shit", it's going to be one of those. That said, if I am ever asked for a photo again, they'll receive a "sorry, this isn't going to work out. best of luck" response.

I thought about doing that and decided I would take an unflattering selfie and see what happens.

[hypothetically]

In a way, asking for a photo is a good thing. Yes it’s incredibly rude but at least you don’t waste your time with someone who may not give you full attention if they are only looking to massage a certain type of guy.

 

If there’s a screening process for giving someone a massage, they shouldn’t be a masseur at all.

[+ Travis69]

If there’s a screening process for giving someone a massage, they shouldn’t be a masseur at all.

VERY TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[LookingAround]

I never tell them my age (62) unless they ask me, in person, and then I say, "How old do you think I am?" I usually get a guess of 45 to 50, and I'm good with that.

You know they’re lying right? No one wants to guess you’re older than you are so they give a ridiculously low number to please you.

[jharrison10343]

I usually send a photo of myself to a new masseur right off the bat, if nothing else they'll be more forthcoming about the extras they'll offer since a lot of the time masseur mileage varies.

[hypothetically]

I usually send a photo of myself to a new masseur right off the bat, if nothing else they'll be more forthcoming about the extras they'll offer since a lot of the time masseur mileage varies.

 

I think sending a photo of oneself is encouraging a rotten behavior. And over time it’ll be a prerequisite to hire, making it even more difficult to meet a provider. But I mean...if that’s what everyone wants.

[KeepItReal]

You know they’re lying right? No one wants to guess you’re older than you are so they give a ridiculously low number to please you.

[m4same]

I think sending a photo of oneself is encouraging a rotten behavior. And over time it’ll be a prerequisite to hire, making it even more difficult to meet a provider. But I mean...if that’s what everyone wants.

I have had the experience of going to someone's place for a massage and having them not open the door. I'd rather not waste that much time and effort.

[FrequentMassageGetter]

Attention people who send pictures to masseurs you never met... You're opening up yourself to potential blackmail and embarrassment. You have zero idea what that person will do with it. Or if they are unstable people. He might post it on his social media with a comment. He might threaten to expose you for soliciting sex (the law considers an HE sex). There was a masseur named Tom in West Hollywood a few years ago. Used to advertise on massage m4m. Blonde twunk. Good looking. I texted inquiring about a massage. He was not available when I was so I never booked. The next week he started texting and calling my phone like a nut. Leaving me crazy messages. "you think you're better than me? I'm the best there is!" And stuff like that. And he'd do the same the following week. Can you imagine if an unstable guy like that has your picture?

[PaulM]

Well said FMG....another argument for a Hushed # or other untraceable number. Never use your own number unless you like crazy texts at inappropriate times and the occasional stalker harassing you. Once it happens, you will never give out your real number again!

[hypothetically]

I have had the experience of going to someone's place for a massage and having them not open the door. I'd rather not waste that much time and effort.

 

Idk, I think you are inserting an unnecessary and precautionary step because of an isolated incident.