When you have to scramble at the last minute

[rustyrex]

Just went on a small vacation for some fun and almost walked away with nothing. I had planned this trip about 2 weeks ago and contacted various guys and even though it was early they told me to contact them when I got to town. I narrowed my search to 3 guys and then to one and had set up a date for us to meet. He told me to let him know when I got into town and we could work on the time. I contacted him and he told me that he had to work at the last minute for someone that called out sick. I thought okay...we do what we have to, so I moved onto the next guy. He told me he was getting his hair cut and then he had to go dance at the club he is a go-go boy at. Then I contacted the third (out of desperation) and he didn't even reply. I thought...damn this is really going to suck. I checked into my room, pulled the laptop out and started doing damage control, got a hold of an old reliable masseur and got a last minute rub down. Unfortunately he's not the type to do happy ending so I ended up getting a hold of someone that I usually don't go for. He came by and we had a great time. After this trip I'm nervous about even going on these small trips for fun because this is the second time I almost walked away with nothing. Am I just having bad luck or is anyone else experiencing the same thing?

[MikeBiDude]

Just went on a small vacation for some fun and almost walked away with nothing. I had planned this trip about 2 weeks ago and contacted various guys and even though it was early they told me to contact them when I got to town. I narrowed my search to 3 guys and then to one and had set up a date for us to meet. He told me to let him know when I got into town and we could work on the time. I contacted him and he told me that he had to work at the last minute for someone that called out sick. I thought okay...we do what we have to, so I moved onto the next guy. He told me he was getting his hair cut and then he had to go dance at the club he is a go-go boy at. Then I contacted the third (out of desperation) and he didn't even reply. I thought...damn this is really going to suck. I checked into my room, pulled the laptop out and guessstarted doing damage control, got a hold of an old reliable masseur and got a last minute rub down. Unfortunately he's not the type to do happy ending so I ended up getting a hold of someone that I usually don't go for. He came by and we had a great time. After this trip I'm nervous about even going on these small trips for fun because this is the second time I almost walked away with nothing. Am I just having bad luck or is anyone else experiencing the same thing?

It’s happened to me...plan a weekend away with all kinds of leads for fun...then nothing. Comes with the territory I guess, key is to keep thinking straight and don’t get desperate and let the “little head” decide to rush into something. I try and keep alternate plans with friends, reading, movies on hand.

[Cliff]

Just went on a small vacation for some fun and almost walked away with nothing. I had planned this trip about 2 weeks ago and contacted various guys and even though it was early they told me to contact them when I got to town. I narrowed my search to 3 guys and then to one and had set up a date for us to meet. He told me to let him know when I got into town and we could work on the time. I contacted him and he told me that he had to work at the last minute for someone that called out sick. I thought okay...we do what we have to, so I moved onto the next guy. He told me he was getting his hair cut and then he had to go dance at the club he is a go-go boy at. Then I contacted the third (out of desperation) and he didn't even reply. I thought...damn this is really going to suck. I checked into my room, pulled the laptop out and started doing damage control, got a hold of an old reliable masseur and got a last minute rub down. Unfortunately he's not the type to do happy ending so I ended up getting a hold of someone that I usually don't go for. He came by and we had a great time. After this trip I'm nervous about even going on these small trips for fun because this is the second time I almost walked away with nothing. Am I just having bad luck or is anyone else experiencing the same thing?

I am experiencing the same thing. Scheduling has become a nightmare. I’ve been flaked on more times than I can count. Many times an escort does not even seem to be that interested in doing business. It’s a balancing act of giving them enough advanced notice but not too much notice, and multiple confirmations leading up to the appointment. But even that doesn’t guarantee anything.

[mike carey]

I guess on a short vacation you have to balance between whether you want sex or a vacation. If you don't think you can guarantee both choose a location where you can (hopefully) guarantee the one you prioritise.

[sexymonk]

Just went on a small vacation for some fun and almost walked away with nothing. I had planned this trip about 2 weeks ago and contacted various guys and even though it was early they told me to contact them when I got to town. I narrowed my search to 3 guys and then to one and had set up a date for us to meet. He told me to let him know when I got into town and we could work on the time. I contacted him and he told me that he had to work at the last minute for someone that called out sick. I thought okay...we do what we have to, so I moved onto the next guy. He told me he was getting his hair cut and then he had to go dance at the club he is a go-go boy at. Then I contacted the third (out of desperation) and he didn't even reply. I thought...damn this is really going to suck. I checked into my room, pulled the laptop out and started doing damage control, got a hold of an old reliable masseur and got a last minute rub down. Unfortunately he's not the type to do happy ending so I ended up getting a hold of someone that I usually don't go for. He came by and we had a great time. After this trip I'm nervous about even going on these small trips for fun because this is the second time I almost walked away with nothing. Am I just having bad luck or is anyone else experiencing the same thing?

In which town you were vacationing and this happened with you? Always go for bigger cities! You will get something!

[BaronArtz]

Just went on a small vacation for some fun and almost walked away with nothing. I had planned this trip about 2 weeks ago and contacted various guys and even though it was early they told me to contact them when I got to town. I narrowed my search to 3 guys and then to one and had set up a date for us to meet. He told me to let him know when I got into town and we could work on the time. I contacted him and he told me that he had to work at the last minute for someone that called out sick. I thought okay...we do what we have to, so I moved onto the next guy. He told me he was getting his hair cut and then he had to go dance at the club he is a go-go boy at. Then I contacted the third (out of desperation) and he didn't even reply. I thought...damn this is really going to suck. I checked into my room, pulled the laptop out and started doing damage control, got a hold of an old reliable masseur and got a last minute rub down. Unfortunately he's not the type to do happy ending so I ended up getting a hold of someone that I usually don't go for. He came by and we had a great time. After this trip I'm nervous about even going on these small trips for fun because this is the second time I almost walked away with nothing. Am I just having bad luck or is anyone else experiencing the same thing?

 

I am sorry to read it happened to you. I would have gone to the club where the go go boy was dancing … and set something up right then and there. Chances are you would have met with him or with other, eligible, boys at the club.

[Nickf66]

This is getting to be more common than in the past. A few months ago I was in another large city on business. And I purposely stayed over an extra day for fun. Contacted a guy with numerous excellent reviews. We set up a time in the early afternoon to allow plenty of space to catch my flight. He texted me about an hour before the appointment and confirmed. So I had myself and the room all ready, even had some drinks and snacks. Five minutes before the time, he texted me with a simple “can’t make it” message. WTF? So I replied, but he ignored me; tried calling, went to voicemail; tried several more times and nothing. Fortunately I found a local dude whose ad said he was “online” and sent him a text. He replied and in 10 minutes was at the door. He was terrific and handsomely rewarded. You never know, you just never know.

[Edward]

I can give you a list of a half a dozen well reviewed/known escorts that have cancelled on me within an hour of our scheduled meeting. Escorts can talk all they want about clients that have flaked. Escorts are as bad as a group about keeping appointments as clients.

[sexymonk]

Amazing that it happens even nowadays with such a buyers market and even clients bragging about bargaining...

I think that sometimes the escorts have set regulars and they don't care for anyone else. The ad may be just to fill in space if by some reason the regular don't meet up! Also, it may depend on type of service asked for and if it is too much of involved work then escort may flake out!

[down_to_business]

The game is being redefined from advanced bookings and notice to text a few hours before you are ready to meet (and even then you still have a good chance of being cancelled on). This does make it very hard for people who travel for the sole purpose to meet a specific escort and play. It also changes the horizon to favor short bookings. It is what it is and we adapt or we exit the marketplace.

[marylander1940]

I think that sometimes the escorts have set regulars and they don't care for anyone else. The ad may be just to fill in space if by some reason the regular don't meet up! Also, it may depend on type of service asked for and if it is too much of involved work then escort may flake out!

 

There's always room for jell-O.

[LaffingBear]

I can relate. With the semi-exception of well-reviewed rentguys Ive seen in the past, Ive come to have very low reliability expectations for the guys. Even guys Ive seen 4 times previously have ghosted. Or disappointed with uncharacteristic performance.

 

I can recall multiple times that I allowed unfulfilled plans/hopes to undermine my satisfaction. Thinking back, most of my bad experiences arose from unplanned choices after initial plans fell through. Or, I just felt frustrated.

 

Not a recommendation for others, but I'll admit that I manage by having skeptical, low expectations. Hires are now categorized as extras in my planning. Like one of many excursions on a cruise. When planning any trip, I seek out other pasttimes, whether hiking, sightseeing, entertainment, dining, etc. Ive intentionally moved hires down the list. The opposite of centrepiece of my trip, its an add-on. Its my way of not letting my crotch determine how much fun or satisfaction resulted from travel.

[jawjateck]

10-15 years ago, I flew to cities across the US meeting guys for overnight or weekend appointments. Some were well-reviewed, and some were newbies. Those were great times. Every single one of them. Of course, I always had a back-up plan, call another guy on my to-do list or do some touristy stuff, if my primary target bailed. So, I never flew anywhere just for the sake of one guy.

 

Scheduling compatible mates is so iffy these days; there's no chance I would do it now.

[rvwnsd]

I'm sorry to hear you had that experience. It really sucks!

 

When traveling to see a guy, I plan on doing a touristy thing or two in addition to the appointment. Rarely will I make a trip to see a guy who won't plan ahead. As you experienced and @jawjateck stated it is getting harder and harder to find guys who will plan ahead. That is NOT to say you are at fault here.

[+ Pensant]

Although I’ve rarely experienced flakes while traveling, I must say that I’m generally not all that interested while traveling, especially overseas.

[+ Mplsgymguy]

I wrote about this in another thread after returning from a week’s vacation last fall. When I got settled in my hotel, I texted a masseur, introducing myself and offering dates/times good for me. Heard nothing, so I went down my list to a couple other masseurs and an escort from Rentmen. After not receiving a response from any of them after 24-48 hours, I bit the bullet and contacted a masseur who was not high on my list (and was just visiting the area). We made an appt, he turned out to be much more handsome in person than in his photos, and gave me a massage with great “extras.” So you never know.

 

Incidentally, on another more recent visit to the same area, I was able to finally make contact with the RM escort. He told me he escorts as a sideline to a regular 40-hour a week job, mostly when he needs extra money. He has some “regulars,” but isn’t always in the market to add clients, which may be why I didn’t hear back from him on my earlier visit.

[rustyrex]

FYI the city I was in was Denver....usually a decent spot and the guys are nice and I have a good time. The other city I almost walked away with nothing was Las Vegas, and I was warned plenty by the herd that something like that may happen. Luckily I was able to meet up with some really great guys. I almost went to Phoenix but the response to my inquiries was so bad I didn't even bother to book a room. Funny but I got a text from someone today asking if I needed some company. I told him I was already home. I should have known better with this trip too, the signs were kinda there. The ads I responded to hadn't been logged onto in weeks or they were at the very end of the page. Some didn't give phone numbers to contact, some took a really long time to respond.

[+ ButchAtl]

Cancelling 5 mins before is as good as a no show.

Well, not quite...it is better to at least know he's not coming and have a chance to come up with another plan.

With a no show it takes some time before you realize he's not showing up.

[marylander1940]

Well, not quite...it is better to at least know he's not coming and have a chance to come up with another plan.

With a no show it takes some time before you realize he's not showing up.

 

Talk to the OP @rustyrex about it.

[big dale]

I mean, if you are ONLY picking a place because of an escort and the destination has nothing else interesting to do, then change that strategy. If you are visiting somewhere and the escort flakes (spoiler: happens all the time) then jerk off and go do something fun. You only get one life, don't waste it feeling salty about missed connections. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

[+ 5280Dane]

I find the most reliable and easiest to secure a meeting with are with those visiting the city. They can usually host too, leaving your room clean.

[+ keroscenefire]

FYI the city I was in was Denver....usually a decent spot and the guys are nice and I have a good time .

 

Sorry that you had a challenging time in Denver. I live here and agree it's usually a decent spot with nice guys. There have been a lot of the regulars who have been traveling a bit recently but a lot of them still show up as being in town. Glad it worked out in the end for you though.