How do you like to flirt?

[+ Hoover42]

A few years ago, I found an amazing tutorial online that discussed the most effective ways to flirt with guys who might or might not be gay. I spent about an hour last night trying to find it without any luck. Sigh.

 

The only thing I remember from that guide was that if you spot someone you like and they're not looking at you, don't start smiling right away, but wait until they look at you and then smile (slightly). This was to make it clear that your smile was because of them and not something else.

 

Anyway, I thought I'd throw the question out to the group here.

 

What are your favorite techniques to use when flirting with guys who might or might not be gay?

 

It obviously matters if you're hot and charming or not and who you're flirting with, but I'm thinking specifically about guys who hire who are flirting with guys who might be hirable.

 

Thanks in advance!

[+ FrankR]

A few years ago, I found an amazing tutorial online that discussed the most effective ways to flirt with guys who might or might not be gay. I spent about an hour last night trying to find it without any luck. Sigh.

 

The only thing I remember from that guide was that if you spot someone you like and they're not looking at you, don't start smiling right away, but wait until they look at you and then smile (slightly). This was to make it clear that your smile was because of them and not something else.

 

Anyway, I thought I'd throw the question out to the group here.

 

What are your favorite techniques to use when flirting with guys who might or might not be gay?

 

It obviously matters if you're hot and charming or not and who you're flirting with, but I'm thinking specifically about guys who hire who are flirting with guys who might be hirable.

 

Thanks in advance!

I guess my usual approach of running through the streets, naked, yelling: “Do me, do me!” may be a little too direct for ya?!?!

 

Yes, subtle I am not. I will follow this thread closely to expand my repertoire...

[+ poolboy48220]

The only thing I remember from that guide was that if you spot someone you like and they're not looking at you, don't start smiling right away, but wait until they look at you and then smile (slightly). This was to make it clear that your smile was because of them and not something else.

That worked for me. I kept glancing over at a very hot guy across the bar, and when our eyes met I'd smile. He eventually wandered over and started a conversation which ended up with "You DO know I'm an escort, right?". Ended up hiring him many times.

 

On the whole, I try to keep a slight smile on my face always while I'm at the bar. I don't want to come across like I don't want to be there; so many people DO come across that way.

[Rudynate]

I don't flirt much, but if there's a guy I'm curious about, I smile and say hi. If he smiles back, I offer him my hand and introduce myself. That's about it for the first time. Second time around, I try to strike up a conversation. I've gotten to know a lot of interesting men this way. Ordinarily, even somebody really attractive, I'm not that interested in sex with. I have a 24 year old workout partner who is a complete stunner, and this is just the way I met him. On about our third encounter, I said, "Would you like to get a workout in sometime?" We exchanged numbers and we've been working out together every week for a while.

[rvwnsd]

I always use a technique a straight former co-worker used with women. "Hey, do you want to fuck or are you straight?"

 

Of course, I'm being facetious. I usually smile and say "hello."

 

As for the straight co-worker, he almost got his head handed to him when used his line on a woman at happy hour. We stopped inviting him with us.

[The Phoenix]

I'm kind of an asshole when it comes to flirting. I like to play with my catch a little bit. I have a pretty robust sense of humor, but my delivery is very dry and deadpan. I like teasing a man and watching him squirm when he thinks I'm being totally serious. Better still, I like a man who can pick up on what I'm doing and tease me right back. If all I want to do is fuck, I'll usually just cut to the chase; but a man who can keep me physically and mentally engaged will always have me coming back for more.

[+ Pensant]

I think the return smile is an excellent start. I generally engage in a conversation since I’m extroverted. That said, I’ve let some opportunities get away since I wasn’t aggressive enough, especially with very cute and rather effeminate servers. A little effeminacy turns me on.

[MscleLovr]

My usual technique is to smile and to compliment or remark on something not obvious to the man who interests me. An ex of mine (a handsome guy with a great physique) once told me I captivated him on our first meeting by not complimenting him on his looks but by asking him his thoughts on a current blockbuster art exhibition.