Experience with weekend and longer vacation hires

[Wolfer]

I searched the forums first, so forgive me if this has been discussed before. But I couldn't directly find recent conversations (or find the ones I remember from years ago).

 

How have your experiences been in hiring escorts for longer periods like a weekend or even for, let's say, five days of holidaying?

 

I'm interested to hear: on longer hires (especially more than a couple of days) do you ask for exclusivity? (Like, the escort sees no other clients or doesn't pursue casual sex.)

Do you give each other time-off? If so, how is that decided?

 

How do you negotiate price?

 

What do you get up to in a weekend? (I have a fantasy of just sleeping in, having slow, long sex. You kow the type that waxes and wanes in intensity and goes on forever. Then go out for dinner and a movie and fondle each other in the theater, hahaha.)

 

Any other stuff you'd like to share?

 

That said, even overnights are out of my budget right now and the only two overnights I've ever done were not good experiences. So it's more out of curiosity that I ask.

 

I'm curious 'cause affectionwise I'm a cross between a labrador and a barnacle. I'm glued to the guy I hire so I think if I were ever to hire a guy to be a travel companion or for a weekend he'd have to almost be addicted to physical affection and cuddling to be a good match for me, I reckon.

[+ easygoingpal]

Hey @Wolfer, I did a 3-day with a hot guy that I knew from previous meetings. 1, 2, or 3 hour meetings are pretty focused. With a 3-day meeting, I offered the guy as much freedom as needed to read emails, send texts, etc. I think your body would get tired of just being in bed for most of the day and night. I liked that we explore sights and took a couple of shows at Las Vegas... I brought ear plugs just in case, but didn't need them after all. If you need a lot of affection/cuddling ask the guy's opinion in advance so that you match as best as possible... Good luck and good fortune!

[Guest TheOtherGuy]

I recently did my first extended trip with Dillon. We had done a couple of shorter (2 hours) sessions so I was confident that we could enjoy a longer time together. I saw him for 3 days in Vegas. I told him he could go to the gym or take time to himself if he needed it. He ended up not needing it, so we spent most of the time together. I bought us tickets to a show and booked massages at a spa. So we had other things to do outside of the hotel. We also went to a couple of restaurants that came highly recommended. I ended up treating it just like a mini vacation and had a lot of fun. I did make it clear that I expected him not to work while I was there, and he was fine with that. He was free to text or email, of course, just not see other clients.

We just kept it causal and even though I had the same fantasy of spending all day in bed, the reality was that after a couple of hours of that, I was really bored and wanted to get out and about lol. Plus, being seen in public with such a stud was a lot of fun for me.

I hope this helps!

[Wolfer]

Hey @Wolfer, I did a 3-day with a hot guy that I knew from previous meetings. 1, 2, or 3 hour meetings are pretty focused. With a 3-day meeting, I offered the guy as much freedom as needed to read emails, send texts, etc. I think your body would get tired of just being in bed for most of the day and night. I liked that we explore sights and took a couple of shows at Las Vegas... I brought ear plugs just in case, but didn't need them after all. If you need a lot of affection/cuddling ask the guy's opinion in advance so that you match as best as possible... Good luck and good fortune!

 

I recently did my first extended trip with Dillon. We had done a couple of shorter (2 hours) sessions so I was confident that we could enjoy a longer time together. I saw him for 3 days in Vegas. I told him he could go to the gym or take time to himself if he needed it. He ended up not needing it, so we ended up spending most of the time together. I bought us tickets to a show and booked massages at a spa. So we had other things to do outside of the hotel. We also went to a couple of restaurants that came highly recommended. I ended up treating it just like a mini vacation and ended up having a lot of fun. I did make it clear that I expected him not to work while I was there, and he was fine with that.

We just kept it causal and even though I had the same fantasy of spending all day in bed, the reality was that after a couple of hours of that, I was really bored and wanted to get out and about lol. Plus, being seen in public with such a stud was a lot of fun for me.

I hope this helps!

Awesome, thanks for the info! How did you go about talking about the fee? How did you ask?

[+ Topseed]

I've had overnights that seemed like an eternity. I've had 3-4 day hirings that flew by. Communication is key. At the same time, things happen that can never be anticipated.

[dixietony]

I hired a guy for a week. We had done a few overnights before. It was very relaxing. We went to Put-in-Bay, Ohio. Stayed at a bed and breakfast. Then we drive to Grand Haven, Michigan for a couple days. Finslly to Chicago.

 

He was free to text and email at his leisure.

[Guest TheOtherGuy]

Awesome, thanks for the info! How did you go about talking about the fee? How did you ask?

I told him what I was thinking, how long I was thinking and the general parameters I had in mind and just asked. There was a bit of back and forth to work out the details, but we got it sorted.

[+ easygoingpal]

Awesome, thanks for the info! How did you go about talking about the fee? How did you ask?

 

We agreed that it would be a slightly lower price for two days than the price of an overnight and before the end of the second day i asked him if he would stay a third day and he agreed at the lower per day rate... Just talk to the guy ahead of time to see if he would discount for multiple days.

[Poincare]

I have been incredibly happy with two separate 5 day trips, and pretty meh with the third.

The first was with a guy I met on seeking arrangements. This was the meh experience. I did pay for his time. We went to St Lucia, which was gorgeous. For 4 grand a night suite, it had better be. He was pretty awful at sex, but is basically one of the best looking guys currently on Instagram who shows off his flawless physique and has tens of thousands of followers. Typically vapid millennial conversation.

The most recent two have been with a really sweet and very handsome pornstar escort. We had one beach vacation and one in the mountains. Easy conversation, wonderful hugging, good sex, and it was nice having such a hunk to take to dinner. We did a lot of adventure/sports activities. Created a lot of wonderful memories. Planning my next trip with him.

[big-n-tall]

I searched the forums first, so forgive me if this has been discussed before. But I couldn't directly find recent conversations (or find the ones I remember from years ago).

 

How have your experiences been in hiring escorts for longer periods like a weekend or even for, let's say, five days of holidaying?

 

I'm interested to hear: on longer hires (especially more than a couple of days) do you ask for exclusivity? (Like, the escort sees no other clients or doesn't pursue casual sex.)

Do you give each other time-off? If so, how is that decided?

 

How do you negotiate price?

 

What do you get up to in a weekend? (I have a fantasy of just sleeping in, having slow, long sex. You kow the type that waxes and wanes in intensity and goes on forever. Then go out for dinner and a movie and fondle each other in the theater, hahaha.)

 

Any other stuff you'd like to share?

 

That said, even overnights are out of my budget right now and the only two overnights I've ever done were not good experiences. So it's more out of curiosity that I ask.

 

I'm curious 'cause affectionwise I'm a cross between a labrador and a barnacle. I'm glued to the guy I hire so I think if I were ever to hire a guy to be a travel companion or for a weekend he'd have to almost be addicted to physical affection and cuddling to be a good match for me, I reckon.

 

All but one of my regulars, I have had at least an overnight with. That will change in October... FINALLY!!! I have only done weekends with about 6 guys. Four of the 6, were 3 days or longer. All my overnights have been pretty good to great. The extended excursions were amazing. I think that the amazing experiences with the extended excursions had a lot to do with how well myself and the working guy got along beforehand.

 

I have never asked for exclusivity on extended hires. I think it's expected. I'm pretty relaxed/understandable about things. If a guy needs alone time to work out, speak on the phone, or whatever... I have no problem with it. Things happen. Sometimes the "outside" world needs attention. However, as has been mentioned, discuss whatever specifics you feel you need to discuss when setting up the excursion. Try not to assume anything, unless you know the guy very well.

 

Negotiating a price is very much dependent on the working guy and your relationship with the said working guy. In my experiences, some guys (I have known for some time) have not offered any type of discount for extended excursions. On the other hand, some have knocked off almost half their overnight fee per day. Usually though, whether they offer a discounted rate or not, each guy has either offered to pay for meals or treated me to something. This, of course, is not the norm. Don't expect some type of discount or perk with someone you never met. If it happens... great. If it doesn't don't be disappointed.

 

The time together is really open to whatever. If there are specific things you want or need to happen, again discuss it beforehand. Some things that may be exciting in your mind may not be as fun when executed. What you may enjoy doing may not be pleasurable for your partner at all. This is where getting to know your provider (through previous meetings) before extended time together can be very beneficial. Only one guy I was with for a weekend wanted to stay in all weekend and just have a lot of sex. He told me that if we stayed in for the entire weekend, he would have been just as happy. We did go out a little... to the movies, a little bit of hiking, and of course to eat.

 

Some guys will happily oblige almost every whim and some will not. Again, just ask them what they are comfortable with.

Edited August 8, 2018 by big-n-tall

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I have done several extended hires from 2 to 5 days. I've only had good experiences. I attribute that to careful selection of my companion and clear communication of about my expectations for our time together. I always expect the guy I'm with to want some time to take care of personal business or go to the gym. (If I don't let him at least answer emails, this forum will eat him up for being non-responsive.) Sometimes there are shows, sometimes bar hopping, usually at least one nicer dinner, and perhaps some sight seeing. I think of it as a long weekend traveling with my college friends that we do several things together with some solo time. Very casual and just hanging out.

[down_to_business]

I have hired overnights, weekends, a week long cruise, and a two week period. Experience varied. The cruises were mostly disasters with one being just ok. I doubt I would ever do a cruise with an escort again. The two week was with a guy I had got to know very well. I always enjoyed my time with him.

 

All hires were exclusive although one guy ( a former regular who I stopped hiring as a direct result of) snuck off to do an overnight one time. I always give the extended hires at least an hour a day to themselves. I find that it is good for both of us. I usually try to plan out some activity that I think we will both enjoy, or at least try- and never expect to spend 24/7 in bed.

 

Setting a rate was as simple as asking for a quote. I always had an acceptable range in mind. If they came back with something I considered ridiculous, that was it, I just said no thank you. If they were just slightly high, then I would counter or tell them that we were close but I couldn't do it and we had a conversation from there and either agreed on something or not.

 

I can't stress enough the benefits of getting to know someone before you try to hire them for an extended period. In my experience, you can never count on someone else's (i.e. review) to comfortably determine that you will have a good experience too. It is also very different between making a one hour hire and spending a week with someone.

[builder boy]

Just did 4 nights in Cabo with Ryan Steel. Was fantastic. Communication always key . Good luck and have fun.

[+ azdr0710]

without having gone through all the previous posts, I can only add that communication beforehand is mandatory.....you should already have met with the provider for one or more previous meets and developed some trust both ways......talk over the plan, the logistics, the bed arrangement, back-up plans, food needs, drinking/drugs allowed?, time apart from each other each day, and lots more......make sure your travel "styles" match......

 

I virtually never do overnights because I like to sleep alone and don't even like somebody in the same room, even in a separate bed........the "overnights" (or longer) I have done with providers have been mostly as good buddies on a "road trip" of some kind and, even with those, we slept in separate beds or rooms.....just my style!

[robberbaron4u]

Be prepared as the Boy Scout handbook admonishes, and pack an extra escort in the steamer trunks just in case your "hire" proves to be tired and tedious in the course of your holiday.

[LaffingBear]

Its been 6yrs since I arranged a weekend. Have done a few weekends, a couple of longer.

 

On anything beyond an hour, my approach is to tell him what I want, let him set a rate. I try to be clear about expectations. We all know we're paying for time. Nonetheless, I imagine a rentguy might want a different rate if we're touring, sightseeing, boating etc. vs. a desire for marathon bedroom sessions.

 

I will respond to his proposed rate based on my perception of value. I won't haggle - call it my hangup: I don't mind paying, hate haggling. Leaves me feeling like I'm getting a markdown.

 

There're several examples above of good extended visits. I'll share an example of what not to try to, or some of my mistaken expectations.

 

Responding to being glued to a guy... Good example of what NOT do... I attribute it to my inexperience as a client. 20+ yrs ago, one of my earliest encounters was 8 days with a young Chicago guy who wanted to visit San Francisco. I paid airfare. I covered all expenses for a few nights in an SF hotel followed by a few nights in wine country, ending at my home and hitting Folsom Street Fair. He didnt request a rate for the week. I wasnt savvy enough to clarify expectations. We agreed on a rate for X "session" hours on the clock throughout the week - mostly I felt I was sponsoring his trip and we were just hanging out.

 

I was relatively new to hiring. I learned things about myself... I felt resentful of some of his off-the-clock behavior. Like the night I got bored in a bar, but he was center of attention - I returned to hotel, he showed up hours later at 4am. We went hiking at the coast, where he said he wanted to explore a feature alone for a few minutes; more than 90 minutes later I was sitting alone steaming and tempted to abandon him in the middle of nowhere. (Pre cellphone era) Time to drive home, he climbed in the backseat to sleep, leaving me to play chauffer for 100+ mile drive. I got pissy, opined maybe we should end earlier than planned. Arrived at my place, within an hour, he'd made other arrangements to leave. Next day, I dropped him off in the Castro; it was a total of 6, not 8, days.

 

I didn't make the arrangements to get a bargain on a week... I naively thought I was arranging expense-sponsored travel he desired, companionship, packaged with several paid hour-sessions. Never occurred to me to clarify that at minimum, he accompany me as I was paying for meals, lodging, etc. Some of his actions were just inconsiderate, and irritated me as the host/sponsor.

 

Best way to summarize - I'll never again attempt a halfway measure and unclear expectations. I've had much better experiences over the years by just getting and paying a rate for extended session, and clarifying desires. And once I know what to expect, I'm very open to and encourage private time, gym, etc.

[+ Pensant]

Sure, plenty of times. After an initial session, if the chemistry is great, the subsequent sessions are two to three day weekends, but usually a two-night arrangement. 90% of them are wonderful. The 3 with whom I’ve had multiple weekends are filled with beach time, work-outs, biking, runs shopping, nice meals. I’m not a late night person and neither are they, so we both appreciate a great night’s sleep. My most frequent partner neither drinks nor smokes, so it’s great. They’re really great times. I don’t think I’d be interested in anything longer. I have zero interest in cruises, and when traveling abroad, which I frequently do (I’m currently on a six-week trip in Eastern Europe) I usually am not interested in bringing anyone from the US along, since it’s more fun to engage the local talent!

 

As others have said, the comp is negotiable, but so far mine I’ve gotten great value and they have seemed pleased!

[Wolfer]

I have never asked for exclusivity on extended hires. I think it's expected.

You mean it's expected they stay exclusive to you or expected they are allowed other sexual partners unless exclusivity is specifically requested by the client?

 

I think of it as a long weekend traveling with my college friends that we do several things together with some solo time. Very casual and just hanging out.

How much solo time do you get, on average? I would think it odd if I hired a guy for a weekend but half the time he'd be gallavanting off on his own.

I've had non-escorts do that to me, and I don't enjoy it. Hahahaha.

 

All hires were exclusive although one guy ( a former regular who I stopped hiring as a direct result of) snuck off to do an overnight one time. I always give the extended hires at least an hour a day to themselves.

How'd he manage that?

An hour or so seems what I would have in mind if I'd hire for an extended period.

 

I can't stress enough the benefits of getting to know someone before you try to hire them for an extended period. In my experience, you can never count on someone else's (i.e. review) to comfortably determine that you will have a good experience too. It is also very different between making a one hour hire and spending a week with someone.

True, my first overnight was with a guy whom I'd previously had an afternoon session with (about 5 hours). We clicked so well that we were both very enthusiastic to do an overnight. So much so he cut his fee in half (without any prompting on my part. Well, he gave me 24 hours on 12 hours of pay). It ended up being an absolute disaster. There were other factors involved of course (he was having family issues and actually should have cancelled our overnight), but still, being with someone in a small concentrated amount of time can be very different than a longer period where your different rythms and habits come out.

 

Responding to being glued to a guy... Good example of what NOT do... I attribute it to my inexperience as a client.

Thanks for sharing, this is very helpful! Do you want to be glued to a guy when you hire (either short or extended?) or am I reading a suggestion as not to expect that?

But yeah, basically the seething, angry and dissapointed part is what I'm a little apprehensive about.

I was doing an overnight which I had paid with some of my limited savings only to have the escort be on the phone for an hour (during our session) setting up a weeklong vacation with a super rich client and seeing the escort positively glowing about this, being completely confronted with the fact that that wasn't a possibility for me. Didn't make me feel so special.

 

Maybe I'm better off doing shorter hires. I can get quite insatiable sexually and affectionwise in certain situations (like holidaying in a nice city and hotel) where I just wanna cuddlefuck the guy's brains out.

The exception maybe would be visiting Brazil, I'd love to take an escort there who knows the language and the lay-out. I'd just be worried he'd be distracted by all the hot sexy men and forget about me, hahaha. (Well, we could solve that with threesomes. )

 

I've been in situations like my described fantasy with non-escorts and these were magical. Just hours and hours of cuddling, tantilizingly slow foreplay that didn't escalate. Then dinner and straight back to the bedroom for more cuddling and sexual fun.

[Wolfer]

I'm loving all the contributions, by the way! Very helpful, thanks!!

[big-n-tall]

You mean it's expected they stay exclusive to you or expected they are allowed other sexual partners unless exclusivity is specifically requested by the client?

 

If you're paying for their time... it's expected during that time they stay exclusive to you. The only time other sexual partners should come into play is if you and the working guy have discussed it and agreed upon it.

[LaffingBear]

Do you want to be glued to a guy when you hire (either short or extended?) or am I reading a suggestion as not to expect that

I do not want to be glued to the guy, but its somewhat situational. And tempered by my expectations of behavior.

 

E.g. I've proposed having a regular join me in las vegas. I know he likes to play poker, I dont. Ive told him we'd likely spend time separately. If he wants to work out when I dont, or I want a swim, or to go grab a coffee.... no problem.

 

Rentguy, friend or relative - if I bought tickets to an art exhibition, general seating event, or DisneyWorld, I'd expect them to attend with me.... ok with a little solo-exploration, but Id be pissed if after event entry, I found myself alone for a substantial amount of time. If I wanted to go on vacation with someone who is entirely indifferent to my presence, I'd rent a teenager and give them a new cellphone.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

The exception maybe would be visiting Brazil, I'd love to take an escort there who knows the language and the lay-out

Don’t bring sand to the beach. Get there and hire one locally. They will be much, much cheaper than bringing one from Europe. And some offer really excellent service.

[Wolfer]

Don’t bring sand to the beach. Get there and hire one locally. They will be much, much cheaper than bringing one from Europe. And some offer really excellent service.

Do you have suggestions on how to go about finding someone like that in Brazil?

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Do you have suggestions on how to go about finding someone like that in Brazil?

I went straight to the saunas. I sampled all the guys that I liked (each session is $30) within the safe confines of the saunas.

Then hired one of them for an overnight, based on how well we clicked and how confident I was that he was honest and dependable.

Then, if it still worked, I hired him for longer.

 

Each city in Brasil has one or more sauna with working boys.

[ncc1701d]

All good advice and I think the other piece is to know what YOU want and like, and express that. Done many weekends and several longer. Key is the guy has to be someone who you connect with beyond the bedroom. Made that mistake once and went from a 2 hr (hottest session ever twice) to 2 days, and total disaster. He had foot issues and then work issues. So sent him home after the first day where he barely touched me. I also find the escorts pricing tells you whether they are the long time type or not. Those who advertise daily/ON rates that are not much less than their hourly multiply by the hours doesn't want the long hires. The ones who's day rates are very reasonable and even less than many "hot porn star" ON rates are the ones you want......they price themselves for that market.

 

Happy hunting