"thanks I will consider that"

[Rudynate]

I almost never offer unsolicited advice. For that reason alone, I would never make a recommendation that they lose weight.

 

Addionally, with somebody fat, I would assume that they had already heard anything I could possibly tell them, so why bother.

 

On the rare occasion when someone solicits my advice on a persistent problem like weight, I say something like, "This probably isn't anything that you don't already know. . ."

[+ poolboy48220]

I remember my father mentioning to me that he was thinking of talking to my older sister about her hair, and how it wasn't appropriate for work (it was, nothing unusual about it). I laughed and said "You've been retired for 30 years. Knowing my sister, just how do you think that conversation is going to go?" Thinking back, he also mentioned my younger sister's weight to her. I'm MUCH fatter than her and he's never said anything about my weight to me.

[+ FreshFluff]

Another option is to say what my elderly Aunt Val would say when someone would say "have a nice day" or wish her a happy birthday: "Thank you! Same to you!"

 

"Bless your heart."

 

He sounds like one of those people who's obsessed with weight and needs to share his obsession with others. I would have been far more rude than you were.

[samhexum]

"You know, I really think you should think about losing some weight".

 

But you have such a pretty face! It's a shame to hide it behind all that excess weight.:cool:

Edited July 29, 2018 by samhexum

[Epigonos]

One thing this thread has taught me is that many of my fellow posters here are much nicer than I am. My standard response to unsolicited and unwanted advise is: "When I want your advise I'll ask for it and until then mind your own damned business". This response doesn't tend to endear me to the person but then I really don't give a shit.

[+ purplekow]

One thing this thread has taught me is that many of my fellow posters here are much nicer than I am. My standard response to unsolicited and unwanted advise is: "When I want your advise I'll ask for it and until then mind your own damned business". This response doesn't tend to endear me to the person but then I really don't give a shit.

"Thanks, I will consider that"

[samhexum]

"Do you mind if I tell you something and I hope you do not take it personally"

 

DEAR ABBY: I’m a first-time writer to your column. I’m mentally disabled, have MD (muscular dystrophy) and am diabetic.

 

I take a lot of medication. When people ask me why I don’t work or “Where do you work?” what should I say?

 

When I say I don’t work and that I’m disabled, they look at me funny and don’t believe it. My disabilities aren’t visible.

 

WENDY IN PENNSYLVANIA

 

DEAR WENDY: You are not obligated to disclose your medical history to people you know casually. (If they knew you well, they wouldn’t be asking those questions.) All you need to say is, “You know, that’s personal. If you’ll forgive me for not answering your question, I’ll forgive you for asking.” Then change the subject.

[Racketjock]

The stupidity and rudeness of people continues to surprise while disappointing me. Sorry you endured this disrespect. My own response would be: "yes, I do mind." May more love and light be yours.