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I did a few weeks ago, he's got a huge dick and is always hard I'll say, but he does seem to be gay4pay so don't expect a gay time haha

TBH It was less about being more invested than he and more that I hadn't yet figured out whether the cum part was a non-negotiable for me or not, until it was. Thanks for the feedback though appreciate it.

We texted yesterday and I thanked him for the good times I had in the past few months but that I couldn't continue with our multi-hour commitments as I require my non-negotiables to be fulfilled. I told him I understood if that was difficult for him and that I completely understand if he could not deliver consistently. I told him next time you're here or I'm there we can catch up for an hour because his bf dickdown experience is amazing but I am moving on, looking for someone who can consistently deliver. That's it, he thank me for the time together, he wished me well in finding someone that can and that was it. I find funny/sad in this thread people sort of telling me to "snap out" "you caught feelings" "you don't need to break up with someone you're paying" when I have been perfectly aware of what's going on, there were no 'caught love feelings' and I'm not just going to ghost someone that has been providing a good service repeatedly (yeah, not great but good) or cuss them out. The people OK treating others like that really put into perspective why @SecretProvider is here calling many of you out on how you treat providers.

Yes 100%, and as a business I still want to keep the network connection by not being a dick or jerk about it. That's what I'm asking for suggestions/feedback here. You don't have to burn bridges with people that have provided you with good service even if it wasn't the best, regardless of the type of job involved. I am not having a hard time making the decision to let them go, that decision has been made. I'm asking for suggestions on how to do it at that professional and personal level that isn't ghosting them or worse.

Of course there's No Strings. That's not the issue, is that I'm not a jerk to just ghost them or cut them off in a mean way. I don’t fuck my gardener but I’m still gonna feel sad if I had to fire him after almost a year of work.

He's never told me why, but I have the suspicion that he uses cialis/viagra to stay hard and it might be painful or uncomfortable to stay hard and cum.

Oh I didn't come in with a follow up. He reached out a few weeks after, I told him I was gonna be in Miami later that month, I told him we could do two hours he said he was excited, lets do it. Throughout the week he was texting me about it. The day before I said "OK See ya tomorrow at 8PM" he said "Yes!" The day of I texted him at noon "Hey still on at 8 right?" no answer. Around 5PM "Hey let me know if we're still on so I can get ready". He never replied. Never showed up. I blocked him everywhere, there's no point with him, 100% flake.

Yea I can get that and no this was always over text. I mentioned it was something I expected over text about 8 months when we started, he said it was difficult but he would try... then about 4 months ago after our second overnight where it also didn't happen, and most recently last week which is where he said over text "I told you I have a hard time cumming and you reminding me is offputting". I think it's clear now that he can't deliver that consistently which is perfectly fine, as other say I have to move on and find someone that can consistently deliver that. I 100% understand if it doesn't happen if it was just one hour, maybe even two because I know cumming might kill the rest of your day/evening if you have other appts, but he didn't cum either in any of the overnights. Thanks for the insight!

Thank you for the feedback, is really appreciated.

Thank you for this input is really needed. Thanks for this, I'm leaning more on Option 1, but the issue isn't budget, it's performance. I don't want to come off as a jerk because I know there's a personal component for this and don't want to cuss off or come off like a jerk.

Yes, you're right. I guess it took me some trial and error for months to find someone that was as close to what I need from him, believe it or not that there's some 'sunk cost fallacy' situation happening here, and getting back into that trial and error again is a bit exhausting. How to let this guy go gently?

I mean, he's a professional and that's what keeps me considering him. He doesn't do drugs, I can have a conversation with him, he's not a clock watcher and my ideal physical type. I've tried finding that locally and the guys are either high, or not provide a BFE. If he was able to cum consistently I would have no issues at all.

Any advice I could get on how to let go of a regular provider? For context, we have been meeting regularly for the past 8 months or so, he lives in another city so I've flown him twice to mine, and I've flown to his twice. We've had about 5 overnights and some 3hour blocks in between, approximately 12 meets in total. He texts me throughout the week and we text back and forth, however for the past 4 or so meets I've not received the full share of what I need and when I recently talked about it with him, he said that me asking was 'off-putting'. During our last multi hour block, he was having issues performing and told me he wouldn't be able to get hard, so I paid for the hour and left. Of note, what I've told him I need is a BFE with a passionate dickdown leaving my hole loaded. That's it. He's said he has issues cumming, and me asking about it is what's 'off-putting'. He feels like he's walking on thin ice when it comes to what I need. I told him I understand if it's difficult for him to do, but if out of the 12 meets we've had he's only came twice, without it even happening during overnights then that's an issue for me as I expect that consistently. Right now he left a day or so ago back to his hometown and we haven't texted. I'm talking about high end rates (I've invested about 30k this year overall in those 8 months) and we had talked about a trip in January (an overnight) and right now I don't think he'll be able to perform or fulfill those needs so I'm not keen on meeting him again for those multi-hour sessions. Any suggestions on how to approach this? I don't want to lose contact and I would enjoy meeting if he's here in my town or if I'm back to his town, but I'm no longer interested in multihour bookings if he can't fully satisfy what I need. Thoughts?

full service

I mean I think he's more bttm and he's got a great ass so if that's what you into go for it, he's super sweet, sexy, great kisser, just you know, maybe needed to pop a blue pill before cause he couldn't top.

and all I want is that D constantly so what's the problem? Haha

Very sweet and nice guy but couldn't perform...

"Hey soandso, I hope you're having a great day/evening/weekend. I saw your profile in RM and was wondering about your availability and rate <tonight/tomorrow night> for a n-hours outcall to <neighborhood> ? Thank you!" That's my template.

I wasn't gonna ask to have the review removed because they know where I live! It's perfectly fine if you don't believe me and the others telling you it has happened, it does seem, idk, odd that we would all be in cahoots to lie about this., but I guess you know every provider that exists and that none would be so coked up their mind to demand and be aggressive about it. It's OK.

CNC probably.

There was no indication whatosever on their profile that they PnPed. I don't do drugs. Seeing PNP in a profile is an instant no for me. So thank you for your concern and recommendation but it wouldn't have stopped this.

I have zero reasons to lie about this. I wouldn’t have posted. You may not do it or think it’s kitsch but there are providers out there that have SERIOUS issues with aggression. In a decade of hiring it has happened to me twice that they ask for a 5 star review at the end and asked to see it before publishing it and in both times they asked for it so aggressively that I had fears they would get aggressive if I didn’t even after saying “yea I’ll do it later” “no, now before I go”. This particular one I remember he was COKED out of his mind (and he had issues performing and keeping it hard because of that) so I did it in front of him to appease him and not put myself in danger. There’s already other clients here telling you it has happened to them too. Do you know every provider? If you believe me, great, if you don’t, well, it doesn’t change what happened to me.

I've had two providers not just ask for a 5 star review, but asked me to do it in front of them before they left.

This is going to sound odd from the rest of you, but I also did have a very aggressive first session with him back in 2021 that I did not like at all. He checked my profile a few weeks ago and sent me a message saying he was coming to LA, I told him what happened last time and he apologizes profusely and asked for a second chance. I gave him a second chance and I'll say he was fantastic, I was very explicit over text that aggression is a major turn off for me and there was no aggression from his part during our second encounter and was truly fantastic.

LOL I didn't know about Mr Number so I checked my number and someone actually added 'legit' as a comment to it haha