NikoLeto

This is a brilliant- and correct- comparison

I take Cialis, but I do that for for-fun hookups, as well. No one likes it when their dick doesn't work due to pressure to perform, or other stressors.
 
Largely, I focus on the sensations that I feel. And as the top, it's pretty rare that I don't get to guide the experience by picking the position that provides the best sensations. Outside of that, if the guy is doing something that almost feels right, I guide him to what really gets me going. If they're doing something that is distracting, I explain that as well.
 
Spoiler alert: getting rimmed and fucking are my favorite sensations (followed by having my balls played with and getting fucked), though there's something to be said for jerking off into a guy's waiting mouth. ?‍♂️
 
I think it's most about having fun. I can have fun regardless of what the guy looks like or my physical attraction to him. I mean, I could jerk off next to anyone and I'd eventually get off.

Yeah, my legs start shaking when I get close to cumming. The noises I make then are definitely more guttural. I always thought they were growl-y, but a couple of people pointed out that they're more "dog-y" and that's how I got into puppy play. ? ?

It is more concerning to me if the provider repeatedly changes their name or constantly gets their account deactivated. I would not automatically classify providers with low number of reviews as red flag, perhaps yellow? Before I found this forum, my due diligence mostly revolved around talking to the previous clients that have reviewed the provider, cross-referencing against other service sites to see if there are other reviews that may be contrary or prove to be consistent with said provider. And at the end of all of that, if I am still motivated to meet, and say there is nobody else in the area that I am more interested in meeting, then I would listen to my gut (or lower than my gut) and take the plunge. I would have to say I have had hits and misses with that approach. What is great about this forum is if you find that the provider does not have that many reviews and is not discussed yet on threads in The Deli, there are some brave and courageous members of the forum that are happy to "sacrifice" and take the plunge for you if they also find the provider appealing or will just tell you like it is depending on things they observe on the provider's profile. Either way, this place is a great resource.
 
As far as reviews go, I tend to provide a review on RM, mostly for me to keep track of who I met and when. However, if I met with a provider at least 3 times, I may stop providing additional reviews unless the provider still prefers I continue to do it.

I've had several experiences where I could feel that I was REALLY close to getting off, but with a dick in me, it just doesn't happen. Interestingly, it's almost better if the top is just playing with my asshole itself, and not penetrating. That seems to be the most successful when another person is involved and I'm the bottom.
 
As a top, I can usually get off fine. Sometimes the anatomy of the bottom just doesn't jive with my dick and I have to finish myself manually, but it's infrequent.
 
I've found that my orgasms are at least 50% mental. I have a little fantasy that I play out in my head when I want to 'focus on me' and orgasm.
 
Still chasing after that hands-free orgasm. At this time, I've been the cause of more than a dozen, but never had one myself. /lament

I'm not sure if we've reached a point in the topic where people are still responding to the original question or the thread has taken a life of its own, but...
 
I prefer Cialis over Viagra, but I use generics for both. Levitra is another drug I use. I don't know if I'm some weird monkey about these drugs, but they act on me very fast. Viagra feels like it takes, at most, 10 minutes to act, and Cialis takes about 45 minutes.
 
Cialis' effect increases in potency for about two to three hours before it reaches a maximum effect then degrades quickly to a stable medium strength for as much as 48 hours.
 
Viagra lasts for, at most, 6 hours, but follows a much stricter peak->valley effect. After about 10 minutes, I'm getting hard at the drop of a hat (or a stiff breeze, thinking about something sexual - the effects are dramatic), and that persists for about 40 minutes, then steadily decreases in effect until I can't feel the effects anymore.
 
Viagra causes headaches, nasal congestion, an moving from laying down to standing or reverse is a big swing in BP that requires me to sit still for a few seconds while the world chills the fuck out. Cialis only causes mild congestion and that's why it's my preferred erection drug.
 
I'm experimenting with taking 10 mg per day for the long haul, but with clients as they have been recently, I end up taking one 20 mg pill roughly every two days anyways.

If you're being bound and a significant portion of your body (an arm, a leg, your hand) falls asleep - STOP NOW. Untie the harmed part and make sure blood flow is restored before moving on. It takes roughly 10 minutes of lack of circulation for cells to start dying en masse - definitely not enough time to finish whatever fun you want to have and take everything off.
 
What I'm talking about is the restriction of blood to an area. You have a bunch of blood vessels, capillaries mostly, that carry blood around. They're hard to see, on, say, your arm, but easier to see on the shaft of your dick. Ropes pressing against the skin using even modest pressure will stop those capillaries from delivering blood to surrounding areas and restrict blood flow, but your arteries and veins should still be able to deliver the blood they carry to and from the heart. Places where blood flow is restricted become colder, respond poorly to stimuli, etc. This pretty much always happens on skin, though holding a joint in a difficult position for a long time can cause the same kind of pain and difficulties. Once the ropes are removed, blood rushes back to these areas with stagnant blood in them, and some of the blood vessels have shrank due to poor blood flow.
 
This all combines to cause a symphony of discomfort, especially if you rush it. I've learned that the best way is to force my body to hold the same position I'm in when I'm relaxed against the ropes. Typically, my shoulders are further back as my hands are bound behind my back. When the ropes are removed, I hold my shoulders in that position. There's a bit of discomfort as blood comes back, and then I need to work on the compromised joint as it has been immobile or supporting weight in an odd way. Simply relaxing into a 'comfortable' position feels like it causes additional stress and pain by asking these places like skin and joints to work like normal, despite depriving them of precious resources in the blood (like oxygen).
 
That is definitely the most I've ever used the word "blood" in one sitting...

If you're being bound and a significant portion of your body (an arm, a leg, your hand) falls asleep - STOP NOW. Untie the harmed part and make sure blood flow is restored before moving on. It takes roughly 10 minutes of lack of circulation for cells to start dying en masse - definitely not enough time to finish whatever fun you want to have and take everything off.
 
What I'm talking about is the restriction of blood to an area. You have a bunch of blood vessels, capillaries mostly, that carry blood around. They're hard to see, on, say, your arm, but easier to see on the shaft of your dick. Ropes pressing against the skin using even modest pressure will stop those capillaries from delivering blood to surrounding areas and restrict blood flow, but your arteries and veins should still be able to deliver the blood they carry to and from the heart. Places where blood flow is restricted become colder, respond poorly to stimuli, etc. This pretty much always happens on skin, though holding a joint in a difficult position for a long time can cause the same kind of pain and difficulties. Once the ropes are removed, blood rushes back to these areas with stagnant blood in them, and some of the blood vessels have shrank due to poor blood flow.
 
This all combines to cause a symphony of discomfort, especially if you rush it. I've learned that the best way is to force my body to hold the same position I'm in when I'm relaxed against the ropes. Typically, my shoulders are further back as my hands are bound behind my back. When the ropes are removed, I hold my shoulders in that position. There's a bit of discomfort as blood comes back, and then I need to work on the compromised joint as it has been immobile or supporting weight in an odd way. Simply relaxing into a 'comfortable' position feels like it causes additional stress and pain by asking these places like skin and joints to work like normal, despite depriving them of precious resources in the blood (like oxygen).
 
That is definitely the most I've ever used the word "blood" in one sitting...

If you're being bound and a significant portion of your body (an arm, a leg, your hand) falls asleep - STOP NOW. Untie the harmed part and make sure blood flow is restored before moving on. It takes roughly 10 minutes of lack of circulation for cells to start dying en masse - definitely not enough time to finish whatever fun you want to have and take everything off.
 
What I'm talking about is the restriction of blood to an area. You have a bunch of blood vessels, capillaries mostly, that carry blood around. They're hard to see, on, say, your arm, but easier to see on the shaft of your dick. Ropes pressing against the skin using even modest pressure will stop those capillaries from delivering blood to surrounding areas and restrict blood flow, but your arteries and veins should still be able to deliver the blood they carry to and from the heart. Places where blood flow is restricted become colder, respond poorly to stimuli, etc. This pretty much always happens on skin, though holding a joint in a difficult position for a long time can cause the same kind of pain and difficulties. Once the ropes are removed, blood rushes back to these areas with stagnant blood in them, and some of the blood vessels have shrank due to poor blood flow.
 
This all combines to cause a symphony of discomfort, especially if you rush it. I've learned that the best way is to force my body to hold the same position I'm in when I'm relaxed against the ropes. Typically, my shoulders are further back as my hands are bound behind my back. When the ropes are removed, I hold my shoulders in that position. There's a bit of discomfort as blood comes back, and then I need to work on the compromised joint as it has been immobile or supporting weight in an odd way. Simply relaxing into a 'comfortable' position feels like it causes additional stress and pain by asking these places like skin and joints to work like normal, despite depriving them of precious resources in the blood (like oxygen).
 
That is definitely the most I've ever used the word "blood" in one sitting...

Yeah, my legs start shaking when I get close to cumming. The noises I make then are definitely more guttural. I always thought they were growl-y, but a couple of people pointed out that they're more "dog-y" and that's how I got into puppy play. ? ?

Having been tied up dozens of times, I know that feeling of pain-as-blood-returns-to-an-area that he's "ooh-ahh'ing" through. Something about it nice though, or I wouldn't keep coming back.

Although in the near future there may be no treatment for some bacterial STIs due to antibiotic resistant strains:
 
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4555895/

For most of us, $2500 would be 3-4 days...

An overnight should definitely involve 6-7 hours of sleep for the entertainer & the entertained. Arrival at an an agreed time in evening; an hour of play & shower, 1.5 hours for dinner & conversation ; some lone time for the both should be included and desirable; an hour of play; cuddling & sleep for 6 to 7 hrs; wakeup and a morning play ; Breakfast & departure and of course I would think that any extra time spent beyond 12 hrs depends on the entertainer and extra tips will depend on the entertained. I think this is a realistic scenario for both.
 
Of course as others said earlier, a discussion and planning must be done prior to the appointment and an overnight is best with one whom you have seen once or more earlier

It all depends what you work out with your guy. Typically, an overnight will start early evening and go until morning. The exact times, what you do, what you want, his expectations for sleep, etc., should be clearly communicated with the provider before you schedule.
 
I do overnights with a regular because I hate feeling rushed. Mine usually start around 6PM, we have a glass of wine, make out, have some fun in the bedroom, shower, eat, more making out and fun, sleep, wake to some more fun, shower, breakfast, and he leaves.
 
Again, each provider is different and has his own idea of how many hours defines an overnight. If you want an entire night of “fun” you need to communicate that as well upfront.

Echoing this. Gonorrha and chlamydia are specific to the hole the bacteria have infected. I just want to be doubly clear: you need to get all the holes you use tested for all the STDs (edit: limited to localized infections, like gonorrhea, chlamydia, trichomoniasis, etc.). I had a doctor (a friggin' doctor!) argue with me once that my throat/anal swabs were unnecessary because if I had anything it would come up on the UA.
 
Excuse me -- how would bacteria in my throat find themselves all the way down in my urethra? Same question for anal bacteria. People, man.

Yeah, my legs start shaking when I get close to cumming. The noises I make then are definitely more guttural. I always thought they were growl-y, but a couple of people pointed out that they're more "dog-y" and that's how I got into puppy play. ? ?

Yeah, my legs start shaking when I get close to cumming. The noises I make then are definitely more guttural. I always thought they were growl-y, but a couple of people pointed out that they're more "dog-y" and that's how I got into puppy play. ? ?

Yeah, my legs start shaking when I get close to cumming. The noises I make then are definitely more guttural. I always thought they were growl-y, but a couple of people pointed out that they're more "dog-y" and that's how I got into puppy play. ? ?

I'm quite a verbal top when the bottom gets me into the mood, but I cannot help myself but moan and growl and grunt when I'm getting fucked. I've started filming myself as part of developing content for my OnlyFans and sometimes I can't help but cover my face when I get to moaning.
 
I've found that it's pretty much embarrassing to the person who does the moaning, but other people, especially the person's sex partner tend to get way into it.

Yeah, my legs start shaking when I get close to cumming. The noises I make then are definitely more guttural. I always thought they were growl-y, but a couple of people pointed out that they're more "dog-y" and that's how I got into puppy play. ? ?

Yeah, my legs start shaking when I get close to cumming. The noises I make then are definitely more guttural. I always thought they were growl-y, but a couple of people pointed out that they're more "dog-y" and that's how I got into puppy play. ? ?

When I first got into the business, I had a bunch of acquaintances judge me when they found out. I dropped those people, and ended up making friends among other providers. I eventually found other people (mostly younger than me) in my third place that I befriended. To the last man, not a single one of them bats an eyelash at my side hustle.
 
I think it's a generational thing.
 
I did once have a single member of the new friend group bring me aside and explain to me that he saw me as more than just a sex worker. I appreciated where his heart was at, but I can't imagine him having the same conversation with an accountant, or a bartender, etc. ?‍♂️

There does not appear to be any means to opt out of using the RM Messenger feature.
 
I'm honestly just flabbergasted that such an easy process that virtually all other apps have mastered (sending push notifications) is actually impossible for this app. If it could do that reliably, I'd have very few complaints. As it stands, I'm frustrated every time I see that green chat bubble light up with numbers under it. Yet more people I need to shepherd away from the IM feature.

I'm surprised I hadn't commented here. Just wanted to toss in my experience: That app is garbage and no matter what configuration I use, it never sends notifications to my phone, so I'm always telling people (which is included in my ad) to text me don't use the RM messenger.
 
It's terrible. Even if it weren't terrible, I still wouldn't use it as I have no guarantee that the messages aren't stored on a server somewhere waiting to be turned over due to legal requirements. At least if I'm using SMS it's only my carrier and the client, and if I'm using WhatsApp (or your preference of really secure messaging apps), it's end-to-end encryption so only me and the client can read them.
 
PLEASE do not use the RM messenger unless you feel you absolutely have to.