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With talks about social injustice and race being more frequent, I couldn’t help but wonder myself. Sometimes I wonder if the way the Black community is portrayed and stigmatized, has a direct affect on how things in the hired gay sex community may differ between a White escort and a Black escort.

 

A common scene in many American cities (especially disenfranchised or towns of great wealth disparity in Midwest and south), you go to an inner city area. Oftentimes you’ll see a person of color (or Black, to be more specific) in a seemingly down on their luck position, holding a sign. I also overheard today, in Kansas City (a town in my opinion is Sadly stereotypical and eagerly segregate themselves in the process) what sounded like a heated outdoor argument at a nearby car wash. Of course, it had to be with Black congregating ??‍♂️

 

Then you have the protests. I seen sometimes the comments on articles, about how “Blacks will start looting” and such. With everything going on, I began to wonder if the headaches I deal with some days is a by product of how people stereotype and view the black community.

 

I often get a vibe that when a White guy is escorting or has a sugar daddy, they’re viewed as smart and lucky. Yet when a Black guy does the same thing, they’re viewed as lazy and can’t do nothing better with their lives. Double standards so to speak. Then some of our clients who support us, end up harboring some of the same mindsets, and then no wonder why lately, so many appointments get cancelled, flaked, no shower and no reimbursed.

 

I wish there was an easier way to change it. Sometimes I wonder if clients understand we aren’t all the same. There was a White escort who once asked me, “do you think you deal with more flakes than other people?” And I said, I probably do. I probably do. The same White (or non black) guy my caliber is probably dealing with far less nonsense and tripe than your Black escort of the same caliber. And I think it’s a lot to do with the constant negative connotations put out, whether its being “ghetto” or “poor” or “dangerous”. And I think it has an effect that we may not always be aware of. What’s obvious, a good majority of “our” supporting clients aren’t usually of the same ethnicity. However I did notice on my last trip to DC...I went from having only non black clients, to having a bit more variety. But the overall amount of white clients was noticeably less.

 

Fact or Fiction?

I don't think it makes one bit of difference.

I don’t think he was wrong to charge for the time you spent socializing. After all, escorts are paid for their time. It doesn’t matter what you are doing in that agreed upon time. He could’ve not charged you for it...sure! But he’s certainly not obligated to not charge you for that time.

Sometimes escorts are enjoying it and sometimes escorts are not enjoying it, but if you get a really great escort, you’ll never know the difference.

you just made the point about why some unfortunately would say on here they used to escort. Many have claimed that, I believe some are honest about it while others aren't.

 

I should be grateful of your opinion? You joined a few months ago, let me read your opinions and I'll tell you if I'm grateful or not. I do know posters who used to escort and I also love hearing the stories of working guys who are my friends.

 

I certainly won't ask any kissing tips from you because while escorting you didn't like kissing ? ?? and you didn't suggest how to improve the bad kissing skills of most of your clients.

 

 

 

Escorting is not for everybody or most would do it. Agreed! Unfortunately some have jobs they don't like and they get paid less then an escort's fee.

 

 

 

Communication matters! and don't you forget about the talent of getting it hard and keeping it with someone you're not attracted too.

I got about one paragraph into your response before I stopped reading. It was already too annoying, I had to skip the rest, and hit the ignore button. Sorry, no offense.

I usually only wear underwear. Sometimes nude, No pajamas.

A bowl of fruit. Either blueberries, honey dew, or watermelon.

I wasn't confrontational but you're not the only claiming to have escorted years ago.

No one said you were being confrontational..you were, however, being annoying. Why would someone “claim“ to have escorted previously if they hadn’t?? What is the benefit?? We dont get paid to say it....We don't get anything back, so what would be the reason??? You should be grateful that someone who has been on both sides of the transaction is giving their perspective. After-all, since I and others aren’t in the business anymore, we can answer forum questions honestly and share what we know from our experiences.

Some working boys that are escorting currently, avoid answering certain topics on the forum out of concern that if they answer honestly, some of their answers will turn off clients. Those of us no longer in the business can be honest and answer anything we want, since we have absolutely nothing to lose by answering these things honestly.

I hire now, but when I was a working boy, I wouldn’t say I fell in love, but I was smitten with a client. He was a good looking actor and very sexy, but he had a girlfriend, so I kept that crush I had in check.

I love hiring guys for overnight. I have a regular I do this with. Dinner, we talk, play games, get in the hot tub together, watch tv, cuddle, sleep, we have breakfast the next morning. He goes back home. I love it!

According to Trump, anyone who wants a vaccine should be able to have one by April, so it looks like your event might go off without a hitch.

Easier said than done. I be wanting them to reimburse for the expected earnings and lost time. It’s like, how would they feel if they were expecting to do a job for someone, and they fucked them off.

 

Every appointment that is flaked, is lost earnings that I may or may not recoup to pay important things I may have. And in the case of this week, it’s now costing me extra, that I don’t even have, on top of the lost sessions flaked on.

 

So now I’m in double trouble.

Dude, it really is that simple. I know because I used to do it myself. If they flake a second time, you just don't book them again. Simple. That's how you will weed out the flakes. But flakes are inevitable. Unortunately, its a part of that business. If people flaking gets to you that badly, then at a certain point you need to seriously consider if you want to continue in that business. It may not be worth it to continue if it gets to you and makes you unhappy or perpetually frustrated.

I wasn't confrontational but you're not the only claiming to have escorted years ago.

 

Btw you're still youngish at 40. You should say maybe you still escort. ? ? ?

I haven't escorted in over a decade. I have a finance and asset management company that I own now, but thanks though. I'm no longer in the biz so I have nothing to lose by answering honestly. Whereas someone who is active in the biz may either not respond to things or not answer truthfully out of concern it will turn off clients.

Exactly! Escort can also tutor us and vice versa on many things. Communication!

 

 

 

Did you try teaching them how to kiss?

 

Were you a member of the forum while escorting? Any reviews to validate you used to escort? Just out of curiosity.

Did you try teaching them how to kiss? No, I didn't offer to teach them how to kiss.

Were you a member of the forum while escorting? Maybe I was, maybe I wasn't

Any reviews to validate you used to escort? I beg your pardon?! I don't need to "validate" what I used to do for a living years ago while in college. For what?

That’s a good way to do it. However some just have a knack for doing it again.

If they do it a second time, then just don't book them again. Problem solved.

I used to escort. If a client flaked, I didn’t say anything right then, but i made a note of it saved in their contact info in my phone. When they contacted to schedule again, i reminded them that they flaked on me the previous time, and if they flaked this time, I would no longer reserve any appointments with them. That worked for me.??‍♂️

Actually I sympathize with this former escort. In many ways deep kissing is more intimate that getting fucked. Kissing actually takes more talent than spreading ones legs. LOL

Exactly!!! And many people dont have that talent. Enjoying kissing is one thing, but being any good at it is quite another.

I don't want to sound harsh but I think it's good that you retired. Why keeping a job you don't enjoy?

You misread my post. I never said I didn’t like escorting. I enjoyed it. What I said was, I didn’t like kissing the clients generally (with few exceptions) because most were bad kissers. I can speak honestly about it since I'm no longer in it and also because I’m speaking anonymously. I hate to break it to you but a LOT of escorts don't really like kissing clients when the clients are bad kissers, but they do it because it’s part of the job. Even people who aren’t escorts don’t like kissing bad kissers, so do you think it's somehow different for escorts just because they are getting paid??

I did it. For about 18 months. I will not repeat.

I'm curious as to why?

OK we understand that can happen but not a phone call or text to your supposed client to let them know? That shows no regard or respect for your client. It's as if the client doesn't matter. It's all about the $$$. That's a complete turn off for me.

Yes, it’s all about the money, the escorts don’t do it for charity. With that being said, they should definitely contact someone to cancel if there’s already a scheduled appointment.

Retired escort here. I kissed clients only when they asked. I didn’t like doing it To be honest because most were bad kissers (with few exceptions) but i did do it upon request.

A big tip and repeat business

Cant wait

clarify that last sentence: so joe and Kamala aren’t going to do anything pro sex workers, is that what you’re insinuating? (Not agreeing or disagreeing, just making sure I’m not the only one skeptical lol)

 

that said, re: traveling providers. Let’s not make assumptions. You say escorts who can “afford” to travel. Versus locals who charge less. But sometimes it’s not about an escort who can afford to travel, it may be their current market is so depressed and dead, they are forced to travel to make ends. Or on a lesser extent, make up for lost time.

Have you seen Kamala’s record on sex work??? Hate to break this to you but unfortunately she is not on the side of sex workers. Not by a long shot.

I also love Noahs Arc: Jumping The Broom!!!

I think Boy Culture is an under-appreciated movie.

 

It really is well done. Beautifully shot, great plot, realistic, a fun watch, great soundtrack. Just great all around. I can't count how many times I've watched it. Definitely a fav!