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Honestly, I wonder that there's not more, considering the attraction of easy money potentially getting a few hundred dollars a pop. RM in NYC only lists 870 which seems paltry for a city of 8.4 M. The discouraging factors push down the numbers considerably. RM's near monopoly in the US for escort listings is an interesting factor. The downtier sites like mintboys have a much different mix of guys and there doesn't seem to be much overlap with RM. I'm guessing mintboys got most of the guys looking to make a quick buck after the demise of Backpage and Craigslist.

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It definately bears takeing due caution and seeing how this law gets used. I'd expect to see some publicity seeking sheriffs start setting up sting operations targeting johns. I'm not sure how'd they use it to harass providers on RM, but if it's intended to target pimps you might see an AG try to go after the site or try to charge providers under some interpretation of that part of it. Somehow I doubt the intended purpose of helping people being trafficed into sexwork will translate into any enforcement actions end up doing that, except where they incidentally find some victims of that in the course a sting.

It depends what you do to set it up, and how you promote it. It also depends on how your family and friends use their computers and phones with social media. If you promote your OF account on other social media like Twitter, it increases the odds someone you know in your private life will stumble across it. You should consider using a completely different email account to set up an OF account and any other related accounts. You might also get a separate phone from the one you use with family and friends so the social media algorithms are less likely to connect it to your private life. If you use Twitter to promote your OF, consider not posting anything that shows your face clearly. Don't post anything from a location they'd recognize you in, either. Even then, there's always a chance someone is going to find you somehow, so if that possiblity is too scary for you then you should avoid doing OF until you have an appropriate distance from them.

I think OP mentioned he was in Tokyo, hardly far from the maddening crowd, lol.

I think it's mostly for EU compliance, since they require photo ID with a note to validate certain transitions for providers (to avoid charge backs). Since they collect the info, the EU requires a policy and disclosure. They don't request info from clients except for certain transitions, but the policy probably had to cover the entire site. I'm not particularly concerned.

It seems pretty straightforward. He might be saying he doesn't pay to discourage the guys on A4A that act like they are looking to hook up but then want "gas money". It's a contraction for you nonetheless. Either way, since you've discussed rates and how to set up a time, you can tell him he's got all the information he needs and to get in touch with you when he's ready for a meeting. If he messages you about anything else, respond asking if he's setting up a meeting and don't answer more. If she's a time Easter he'll get the hint.

Several years ago, a theater in my area offered a special presentation of the extended versions of the Lord of the Rings trilogy, each movie shown with a break in between each film to go out and get lunch or dinner nearby. The whole run must have been about 14-15 hours. It was truly butt-numbing by the end, but I enjoyed the event. These days I don't avoid long movies, but I rarely buy drinks at the concession.

I never chose being gay, any more than a typical heterosexual man has ever chosen to desire women. My choice was not bow to the social and familiar pressures to hide in a heterosexual relationship or live as a celebate because the church said so.

Good to know, I was going to ask if he put the gravy on his mashed potatoes...

Imagine if someone suggested that providers charge extra for ugly clients.... The whinging would go on for pages and pages.

As far as I know, RM providers can't look up clients by area, but he could have found your profile if you reviewed anyone else in your area. I think it's happened to me once. I can't think of any reason a provider should reach out to someone who hasn't looked at them, since there's a high chance it would be seen as crossing a line.

I think the OF/JFF/etc sites have evolved a lot over the past couple years as the legal landscape has been shifting as they became more high profile. They don't want to be associated with illegal content, revenge porn, etc, and they rely in their content creators to comply with applicable laws such as 18 USC sec. 2257. I believe now most performers on these sites favor openly filming because they get a superior product for lighting, sound, camera angles, etc. That would be harder with a hidden camera. I do think earlier on there were a number posting content where their partners may not have been aware of being filmed, but the sites have cracked down on that. In 2021, Xtube had to shut down primarily because they had so much user uploaded content that was either copyrighted, non-consensual, or just illegal, and were being sued on a number of fronts. OF and JFF definately want to avoid that, so they are trying to keep the uploaded content above board. I'd be more concerned about the hookup or escort that isn't an OF/JFF performer these days. The performers are filming for content that they can post and monetize, they actually have a reputation to maintain. It's the guys who aren't performing I'd be more worried about.

I usually suspect that they signed up to test the waters at some point in the past and let their profile expire for a while for some reason. Sometimes they come back in a new city. I usually figure they're doing it on a casual basis and going active when they need some extra cash or don't have other things going on in their life that would conflict with escorting.

I agree with your assessment that there might be a post holiday surge. I booked a massage on the way to the airport last year after several days visiting family. It felt so good to have some "me" time before getting on the plane home. I can see that being a pretty common urge.

I'm pretty sure those are terms associated with "findom" types. Tribute would be the cash offered, drain is the act of getting cash out of the target's account.

Not a provider either. It sounds like you had a hire who didn't engage with you well for whatever reason. It happens, unfortunately, and it's best to just look for better prospects down the road for next time. Using this forum and the reviews on RM can help find guys who'd be a better fit. You also mentioned you realized, a bit after the fact, that you really wanted a more intimate time than a purely sexual session. Going forward you can look for guys who advertise they give intimate or boyfriend experience sessions. You don't have to script out the entire hour, but you can tell them you are looking for someone into kissing and cuddling before or after the sex and they be able to accomodate. Also, there are a lot of guys who are open about race and enjoy being with Asian top men, but unfortunately there are going to be some who aren't. One thing you can do is look a the usernames of the RM reviewers, since there are often some that imply they are Asian clients. If they give a positive review, it's a good hint the provider will work well with you. You can even send them a message to ask about their experience with the provider, and some will respond.

First, I'm not sure if his new rates are in line with the Bay Area market or not, but given it's a high cost of living region and with this year's inflation, it might be reasonable. If he found he could ask for more and have a sustainable customer base, then good for him. I'm not sure what you mean by his response to you telling him you would take a raincheck. You say "he didn't understand that, for he wrote back a favorable and encouraging response." Did he make a lower offer? Either way, if I felt his asking rate was too high or just out of my budget, I'd just politely say I'd take a pass like you did. If he came back with a lower offer in my range, I might consider it depending on the context.

I wouldn't think it rude to ask, if they have other plans they can decline. The only thing I'd consider rude is to be difficult setting the time and place. I can see some guys trying to get a session on some tight schedule or after some event that's likely to run late. That's true normally, the holidays just makes it more so.

I love porn where the guys give good dirty talk. It's not that often you have guys who do it well.

It's a fairly particular thing, but I doubt you'd have trouble finding guys who'd indulge it with you. It's something you'd just have to discuss up front for a bit, but it doesn't require much in the way of effort or risk. You'd probably have the best luck talking to guys who mention "role play" in their profiles. I imagine you'd be supplying the materials to be used.

@Milo Janus Didn't you post pretty much the exact same topic several months ago? I get guys wearing fingernail polish is not your thing, but if it means that much to you you should ask if the provider has unpolished nails before engaging them. If I were a provider that agreed to an appointment and rate, showed up on time, fresh, and ready to perform, and the client picked on some arbitrary factor and cancelled the session without any prior discussion I would want my entire fee on the spot. Full stop.

The scary thing is this guy had a RM ad up shortly before he found his victim, and he messaged me after I viewed it. He was casting a very wide net trying to lure someone to him.

Escorting is the act of getting paid for companionship for a period of time, wherein sex might occur (for the purposes of plausible deniability in places where exchange of money for sex is officially frowned upon). A boyfriend experience is a type of escorting session where the time spent is intended to be more relaxed and intimate, more like a date or comfortable evening at home, as opposed to a more sex forward session.

It looks like the mods merged the threads.... Brady posted a standalone thread in the Spa forum and I suggested the mods move it to the deli.