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Wait a sec. I must have been “wining 🍷” when I read the original post and missed something. I didn’t see where you said he originally asked for cash app, and you said you don’t have it…and then he asked for the gift card. I thought the gift card was the only thing he asked for. In Europe, many of the lady providers do this because it preserves client discretion. At the end of the day: one can’t always “prove” beyond a doubt that someone is a scam. Except if it’s a blatant “engineer from Canada living in Nigeria” type of scam. I know for me, people likely get scared off when I mention deposits. As much as I understand and hate to lose business, I can no longer operate without them. In fact, even clients who do send deposits, some of them still cancel/change up at the last minute. Without deposits, having an ad up is basically getting scammed on the DAILY in this current market. RentMen and Masseur have become the new Craigslist ads: people talk about meeting but not actually doing it majority of the time. I think too the problem in America (and especially being an independent and running your own biz) is, too many believe anybody doing any kind of business with money “upfront” is a scam. But what people don’t want to admit is: most of the frauds are not coming from the businesses. I had a client last week who called me, asking to come over, in a town I was visiting. I told him about my deposit, and he was like: “I don’t do deposits, but THANKYOU”. He must have slipped past my blocked list, because a previous message last year showed he was “catching an Uber” to my hotel, and never showed up or replied. That just reinforced why I need to stick to them. If you weigh my credentials (reviews, pics, website, business card) versus theirs (can’t host, no pic, no reviews, just a phone number with a sprinkle of interest), the one who should be worried about a scam is me, not them.

I can see that idea working great at some point, but I do have to chat with them to arrange a schedule. Namely because I travel between 2 to 3 different cities throughout the course of the month. If I can separate calendars location, that “could” work. But peoples schedules tend to be a bit flighty too. I almost had an “8 or 9 a.m.” appointment today that someone booked yesterday, but after a few minutes corresponding, it was postponed because of a miss-sight with his schedule. Because of the location he was, it’s not something I can do on short notice or even at all, unless I have a booking. So, the deposit part is in part necessity. However, I’m seeing it’s already been a hard time doing business where I am now. It seems like very few want to do deposits. I’m so over the old school way of thinking some people have: they want us to host, and be ready. Or get in a car and drive way out to wherever they are, and they want the option to back out or change their mind. Leaving me either with the expense of a hotel, or having given out my residence address to someone who doesn’t even show up. It makes me wonder what kind of mentality these people are fostering. General consensus being: they want someone who’ll give them the opportunity to fake book a couple of times before actually going thru with it. Not on my dime, or time. I know, because I see it when I haven’t done so.

Thanks. Unfortunately it just seems to be the way the cookie crumbles. However, I think beyond that is just things are really different right now. I wrote to RentMen today, they need to do something about the quality of clients we’re getting. It’s been getting worse. I know (a big) part of it is because my area, but I asked if RentMen had plans to bring back rates. They also should recognize the guys with lots of reviews, and label us differently from the pop a profile up with a camera phone types who come and go. No shade, everyone starts somewhere. But I feel it’s muddying up the market a bit. I’m seeing new people pop up, and be gone by the 1st ad renewal. Especially in the area I’m in, they’re reaching out, but they aren’t paying anything. Just playing games and wasting time. There’s people I know personally, browsing the RM sites and admitting that they never pay for ***. Then why the F are you looking? There’s tons other sites and apps, why you looking here? That’s why it became imperative to get my website running ASAP. So I can at least have it in writing, making it clear before they step to me, I am not 1 for BS. Have the money, when you contact me. Gets rid a lot of the gamers upfront. And when I look at past messages, the ones who immediately have a problem sending a deposit or stop responding, are those who have given me the run around in the past. So, I’m not losing much except tire-kickers. It sucks to hear in the news there’s “shortages” of workers in nearly every industry, thinking there’s a huge demand. But it’s certainly not the case in our biz. And if the job market is so great, why are so many posting on RentMen, even though there’s more than enough Rent guys in most of these cities as it is? Most medium sized cities can probably only handle having 3-5 escorts working at a time…to be able to keep a full schedule. It’s kind of like dancing at a “go go” boy bar. You can do good if there’s just 3-4 dancers. But you put 10: nobody is going to make enough money. Now it’s like 10, 20, even 30 guys in these markets, and it’s not worth it. I was in a “smaller scale” medium city couple months ago. I pulled 1,000 in 2 days. I was the only guy posted in town. Hard to do that in many other markets, because it’s 10+ guys and they get erased and replaced every few days. The clients and regulars just wait around for the new ads, and snap them up. I know because whenever I go away from KC or St. Louis for a month or 2 and come back, everyone wants to hit me up the 1st day I arrive. But then when I’m here consistently, nobody can get around to meeting. Perfect 😒

Just to be clear: there’s only 2 separate people in these exchanges. The “3rd one” is simply a continued text from the 2nd one. But yeah absolutely. Even though the 1st guy showed up ONE TIME, he’s a pain in the ass, and I told him officially to not contact me again and that he’s being added to the bad client database. He’s contacted for appointments before, but it’s always something when trying to schedule. The other one does seem to be trying to work things out, but if he doesn’t get it together before my next tour, he’d getting chopped too. Earlier he said he’s “working on it” (trying to schedule a session with me because he “really” wants to”. But if it’s that hard to find the time, to me it feels like either they’re out in the scene being messy, or just taking me for granted. Or both, neither which is good. That probably why some 1st time clients end up being blocked by providers. Maybe other escorts have experienced a similar trend, guys who come by the 1st time okay, but then become prone to flakiness after that. I don’t personally subscribe to that, it’s just a possible reason.

I sense a hint of sarcasm, lol. Funny. But what I meant by the quoted text, is there were some times for me that weren’t quite convenient, and I took the booking anyway. Someone would usually reach out with something like “I’m horny now and can come in less than an hour”. However, if I said something like: I’m tied up right now, can you come at 3 instead of 1:30?”, they would usually say how “it doesn’t work for them” and it could be another week or 2 before I heard back. Sometimes MONTHS later. Like I say, I used to be okay working that way…and actually did just the other day when I was visiting a city with a return client. Which was fine because I only had about an hour and a half to check out of the hotel. But it’s not something I can accommodate all the time, and when I’ve done it once for someone: they make it a habit and next thing I know, they’re booking me on short notice EVERY time. That’s when I say, okay they’re only doing it when it’s good for them…but since there’s 2 people involved, the other person has to be considered as well. On the contrary: I have clients out there who don’t mind arranging things where I at least have SOME say in the planning. Yes, clients are going to contact when they feel they want: BUT, it’s a difference between coordinating my availability, versus TELLING me when I need to be available for someone. Like the guy above “tomorrow, 1:30ish?” Umm…are you a psychic to be able to predict when I’m free, or you just tossing out a time and expect me not to have anything going on?

It really is! I explained to one of them: I don’t expect to text him out the blue and throw in a “hey I want to come to YOUR HOUSE at xx:xxx time” without any sort of coordination. Why they think it’s productive to do the same to me is so inconsiderate. Idk why they can’t get it thru, that I don’t have that option right now. Can’t just name a time, and expect me to actually be able to do it. Idk if people think because they’re paying, they can boss us around and say when they can have access into our residences. I used to see clients like that, when I had my solo place. But those were also the type of people I could never plan anything ahead with. I could predict they would contact me at random during the early afternoon, but never knew which day. On top of that, they would rarely book more than the session offered…so if business was slow, they never really booked anything longer than the 1 hour cum and go. That’s why I let go of my condo in Denver a few years ago. I had regulars, but they only came around when they felt like it. But were never available when I really needed them. It’s good to have regulars you can call when you need them too. Even though this may be a business, you can’t always define the laws of courtship. The Top shouldn’t be bossed around by the bottom lol. The bottom should be willing to submit to the Top 😆

I say “regular” because they come around “regularly” over the phone…but never able to compromise on the time. It’s all about what works for them, not what I CAN make work for them. If you can’t book them EXACTLY when they want to meet (which is usually mid-day and for us to host them), they’ll claim to can’t make it, and then try the same shtick a few weeks later. Here’s 1 example below from someone who booked a session last summer. Since then, he’s made 3-4 appointment attempts and couldn’t make any. I’ve previously informed him I have to coordinate things, he always tries to book the same 1:30 times that I’m not usually able to accommodate. Then when I am free, he act too busy and he lives right down the street These are 2 separate examples below (I’m in blue, they’re grey). then another pesky guy who can’t seem to get his shit together either: and then more drama: It just almost has me thinking, is my rates too much for this area? Maybe they really only trying to find somebody who charge $100/$150 or something. Idk what it is. I’m starting to wonder if there’s too many guys out here doing stuff for much lower rates, and that’s creating an issue. I already experienced that where an Asian guy only charged my client $80 for massage and f**k (he has a regular FT job so it’s just play money for him). But my client always gives me $250. Both of these are in Kansas City and Saint Louis, and I’ve said before this is been one of the worst markets I’ve had to work. Can’t get enough regulars, all the new clients only call once and flake 9/10 times.

Does anyone get these? You know who they are: they show up 1 time, and then after that you can’t ever get them to go thru with an appointment, even though they seem to always have an interest in doing one. Either they contact too short notice to coordinate anything, or they seem to only be available when they want to be, never when I can make availability for them. Or they just flake on the next or subsequent sessions, never to be heard from again. Why. Why do they do it? I just had this issue with 3 people this week (and all 3 have been reported accordingly)🤦🏽‍♂️

That’s probably facts. However, I do also take my work seriously. Though I do believe scheduling a time “window” can be less pressure than “if you’re not here sharp at xx:xx, you’re cancelled”. That doesn’t mean not taking it seriously. I recently had my windshield replaced, where the guys come to my place and do it. They didn’t give a specific time, but rather a sort of time window. That’s perhaps how some guys should go by…when it comes to outcalls. Especially in big cities where traffic and getting places can take longer. I’ve even gotten my hotel accommodations close to where my outcall of the evening will be hosting, just so I don’t have to worry about being delayed. I do agree slightly when I am hosting, it’s easier for me to be on time when I’m already wherever I need to be.

Your intention sounds good, but this can come off a bit bitchy. Because: if I make these same sort of requests from clients, they don’t even respond at all. Also, “continue my evening without you” just automatically comes off like the escort is unimportant. And if you meant “more than 30 minutes late for any reason”, that’s very uncompromising. This is a good strategy. And yes, I’ve suggested to clients as well to leave buffer times when arranging appointments. Some people try to squeeze in bookings too close to other plans. I had a scenario last month in Seattle (one of the reasons I’ve implemented mandatory deposits for ALL new clients), where the client specifically said he’d be available “after 7 p.m.” on Friday evening in our original booking texts. However, he failed to inform me that he conveniently and without my knowledge “made plans” after our session, probably within 30 minutes of our 1 hour session. However, he decided to change it to meaning he said AT 7 p.m. Well, I was taking care of something that ran me past 7 pm. by about 45 minutes. He got up the ass attitude about it, and rudely cancelled on me. Fucker didn’t even give a deposit or cancellation fee. It was an outcall so, it wasn’t like he was waiting in my hotel lobby. If he had even a bit of integrity, he should have told me the moment he decided to add plans to his evening, and asked me if that would be okay. And if I had known, I would have better adjusted my schedule to ensure “after 7 p.m.” meant “at 7 p.m.” I’m one of those “occasional late” types, BUT the way people define late is often in a way that implies “my time is more important than yours, so don’t be late”. And that is where I have to draw the line. It also depends on the context of being late. If an escort is traveling to a client, in some cases cross state or country commuting…there needs to be some buffer time as @BuffaloKyle stated. I’ve had times people book sessions with not ample notice, and expect timely arrival. Well…I didn’t really know said appointment was happening so, I may not have the necessary awareness that I need to adjust my time to coordinate. The other thing too is: When you spend a lot of time running around on a daily basis, it’s hard to stay organized and on time. I know people who are on time to everything, but their organizational skills are in chaos. They’re busy being on time for everyone else, but neglect their own self responsibilities. Some people have to understand that when you’re trying to do multiple things at once in a different element, it’s not always going to be on the dot time. I also periodically require some time throughout the day to routinely “decompress” especially if I’m switching between activities or have commute to a client. Even a 1 hour session with a client, can actually take up 3 hours of the day when you factor in getting ready, driving there, driving back, stopping at the store, getting gas etc. I also have had friends, especially GAY friends who do things very spontaneous. Or, they had plans for it first, and then run it by me after the fact and expect me to be able to make it happen as soon as they can. No, that’s not fair. They get a head start in the activity, because they planned it already. If I’m truly supposed to be on time, inform me at the same time the idea for the plans is being coordinated so I can have a say in the planning. Not AFTER the plans are already made.

I did a somewhat increase of my sessions, by 50 across the board. But, I didn't in reality. I kept things to what I been already getting, but I've decided to not offer sessions under about 200. Because of my commute, a typical 1 hour session can add up to about 3-4 hours of my day (or evening, which often means reserving the entire part of that day). Even to host requires a bit of coordination. So things like $150 introductory sessions had to be bumped up.

I just can’t see this tread continuing. I think prices are going to max out, and then BOOM 🤯 recession, and everything goes back down. That was the light in the tunnel of Covid, but seems like they always have to turn around and make back up for it. Gas in Missouri is usually 1 of the lowest amongst the states. It’s averaging $4 a gallon right now. Business here has also been devastatingly bad. Makes me want to leave…ASAP.

That’s like saying: “at least nobody was killed during the hurricane/tornado/car crash etc. yes, nobody was killed but: whoever is living still has to endure the circumstances that happened. Granted that’s a bit dramatic example but, it goes to show. flaked and ghosted is still just as bad as a client canceling a session in a situation where someone made concessions to coordinate them (and the amount of times I’ve done it is untold). Any client who thinks they somehow are doing charity by “letting me know” they are essentially flaking out, is still not considerate unless they pay for the session cancelled I take it as a “no guarantee” on both sides.

I agree: not responding at all can be messy and rude, especially considering many in the gay community communicate that way. I’ve come across untold amounts of gay dudes who prefer to just slip away and stop responding to messages, versus just being real. However, the context I made was not “admitting” to neglecting or responding to clients by any means. I was simply giving examples of where I may not even have realized the message ever came thru; likely because I was communicating with someone else at the same time (in person or via text), or was away from the phone when the inquiry came thru. That doesn’t happen all the time, but over a course of dozens of texts and hours/days, even weeks of traveling: it’s bound to happen some point or another. I see this in real life all the time with my barbers. I text them, and may not even hear anything back for an hour, day or more. I know to still call and show up regardless. I’ve had people cancel sessions because they texted me early in the morning to “reconfirm”, and because they “didn’t hear from me” for a short time (despite confirming previously and/or the session not being for later in the day)…assumed I wasn’t on anymore. Which once again, is another universal reason why I’m only seeing new clients once a deposit has been made.

lol I luv turtles 🐢! Though I would not let it roam around unattended as reptiles are expert Escape artists (ask me how a creature with no legs manages to pop out of an aquarium, and climb itself up on a curtain rod 🤦🏽‍♂️ You’re making this too easy for me. C’mon, you’re talking about COWORKERS. People you’ve actually met before, and people you probably…aren’t trying to fuck or have sex with. A random TEXT from a complete unexpected stranger can’t be compared to a coworker who knows what your business hours are. However, it’s a good point you do mention business hours because I had to recheck yesterday that I clearly put that in my ad and my website. Many escorts are not going to have “business hours” per say because it’s just not a whole lot of room to convey that. Bingo Bingo and Bingo Bingo again. Example: During the week I have hobbies I do which usually require me to be engrossed in a project and I absolutely CANNOT be distracted. I’ve done that many times, engaged in chat with clients, only for them to turn out to be on bullshit and waste my time. Leaving me more annoyed and frustrated than already on the task at hand. This is real life photo (the first one lol) of me with part of my engine removed to change spark plugs on my V8 engine. During a project like this, unless a client is going to meet me in my garage and suck me off: don’t bother 😆 So, eventually I would leave my work phone out of reach and ignore and “dings” until I was done. But being I couldn’t resist, I find it better to just remove my number and require all new inquiries to pay and arrange a consultation to reach me. I was in 💯 agreement with everything until you said “messy”. Maybe they just didn’t notice your message? There’s been many times I thought I replied to a client, and got distracted. 2 weeks later I scroll through my phone and can’t recall how the fuck I didn’t notice the message. But again, this is also the benefit of me now asking deposits/consultation fees and not displaying my number any further. I get to better focus on client texts, versus just getting miscellaneous inquiries that eventually fall on deaf ears (like literally, sometimes I hear my phone but because it goes off so many times a day, sometimes my natural focus mechanism just ignores it). Nobody is saying you’re a bad guy. Let’s clarify that. We’re just saying your expectations based on your actions, are not conducive. You’re doing the same routine, and getting the same results. Texting at 10 a.m. First of all: the part time escorts are likely at work, and the full time escorts (like me) are likely just starting their day, or getting ready to check out of their hotel/moving to the next city. If you text me at 10 a.m., and I’m staying in a hotel, planning to checkout at noon: you’re going to get 1 of 2 answers: hurry up and get here by 11 a.m. (so I can **** you for an hour, and have an extra 30-60 minutes to checkout LATE). Or, you’re going to say you can’t get there soon enough, and can I meet at 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 and I’ll say: I’m not able to extend an extra day unless I receive a deposit. And people do this day in, day out…the same way you are: and wonder why I have to reinvent and strategize regularly.

Don’t tell me the dog licked the cum too 🤮 . I prefer guys leave their pets in another room. I didn’t sign up for bestiality, and the only time I am okay being watched is on video or a (male) client’s partner. I had one guy before was like, “my dog(s) will want to sleep in the bed with us tonight, he always does”. I got up and checked into a Sheraton at 2 in the morning. This is not 3way dating with the dog.

As amusing and accurate as you are: this has been my reality the past couple of weeks. It’s really just becoming ridiculous, and it’s proving more and more each day why I can no longer leave my phone number up in my ads. Yesterday I had 2 “clients” epic fail attempt to arrange a session “tonight”. One I didn’t reply to because it sounded fake right off the bat, the other contacted at nearly 10:30 p.m. for an outcall at “a hotel” (no name) 20 minutes away. I replied less than an hour later with complete details: no response. It didn’t seem like either one read my ad. It’s like just looking at pictures, seeing a city and scrolling to number. I don’t know what has happened to the concept of booking things in advance, but at least in small market middle America 🇺🇸: it’s dead. It’s been like 2 weeks straight: I’ve had nothing but same day/short notice booking requests and have only gotten to meet 1 out of them all. When people do book in advance, they’re like “how long are you in town”. That’s not booking in advance. Then most of these people, I take time to respond to them with the necessary info, and they don’t even reply back. Some just want to throw me a text, tell me where they are and me to just say YES, I CAN COME NOW/TONIGHT. No questions/proof asked. It doesn’t work like that. I am not UberGrindr.com. This mentality nowadays is inefficient/distracting and I have to deal with it by requiring everyone to schedule a paid consultation first. Just like the person above said, “I give a guy half an hour to reply and I consider this to be EXTREMELY generous and even then sometimes I'm unable to secure a meet up.” I just can’t tell if this mean: “the escort can’t secure a meet up for me”, or if it means “It’s not fast enough to secure a meet with me”

Let’s turn the script around for a minute: The escort inputs their available now green light in the morning. Any client who doesn’t contact by say: 3 pm hotel check in or 12 pm checkout time, misses their chance. Or, I contact all my regulars and ask if they can meet “today”, and if they don’t respond in a generous, lengthy 30 minutes, I’ll book another client and they’ll miss their turn. Even though; I reached out to them saying I’m available. You don’t have to answer because I already know what it would be: likely not. Most clients who expect us to be available at drop of dime, are generally never are themselves when the escort reaches out of the blue. I texted 2 clients this week about sessions that they reached out to me for. Neither one has replied and it’s been over 24 hours. One requested to meet today, I’ve not heard nothing back since Tuesday. At the same time: I understand the dynamic is different and at times it’s necessary to arrange things on same day notice. But we’ve already heard several examples of providers who don’t show their phone numbers or do same day visits. How do they get clients in a “moment’s notice” culture? I think at the end of the day, it helps to know escorts are people just like clients. Having an ad and phone number on the internet is no guarantee of availability. Even on free sites: nobody is really ever available when you want it, unless they’re on drugs or it’s late at night. Dates just don’t work that way. I feel if someone regularly approaches with that mentality, they may be more off seeking fun at a bathhouse where everybody is already ready. Speaking of Ludicrous and minute men: lol

That’s always a good way of doing it. I’ve also at times passed out my biz card, which mentions nothing of prices or sex work. It’s almost just a “this is title and way of contact”. I’ve been able to gain some bookings from it that way. However, I find the app to be a bit more work and rejection than I’m willing to add on to from the other sites. Sometimes if I’m in a gay open minded/wealthy/limited area market that I know guys are more open to pay, I may do so. But I’m finding sadly Adam4Adam is losing its market rapidly, to where it’s barely functioning to get clients anymore. On a recent tour to several cities, I probably only got like 1 or 2 A4A clients show up.. out of maybe a dozen ago inquired. And many like to do the not give out phone number thing, and I don’t book anyone from it without one. Mainly because the ones who don’t, usually don’t show up. So I might need to retap into the Grindr/Scruff market myself. Especially since RentMen and Masseur can be fairly non existent in many areas. That’s the thing, often it is someone who’s an occasional hire or need a degree of hand holding to get to the point. I also do feel compelled to offer a discount of some of my rates considering it’s free advertising. Plus people don’t tend to have the same rate there as the other sites. I was looking at a site, googled near me called “escort alligator” with takes to various sub sites. I went on there, and I only seen (questionable looking) guys offering stuff for like 100/150. Even though some see that as a comfortable rate, that’s not sustainable Full time escort rate.

This is a good gesture on your part. I also own a couple vehicles, and not only is gas expensive but my commute to clients can generally be pretty far. I either travel between cities or have to drive to neighborhoods/areas of town where clients are more common. Which has often meant going clear across town. Which I don’t mind…but it adds up day to day, and a nice gesture is welcome. Yes, between that and reviews, it too is a welcome gesture. But I must say: that does assume an escort is frequenting said area often enough to “be back in town”. Some areas I do visit every few weeks/couple months, but others I may not tour again for a year or 2. Or in the case of my last tour: places I haven’t been in years. Unless an escort is consistently hitting the same locations for a regular period of time, it’s often that the same clients won’t be available when they’re back. With that being the case, it doesn’t hurt to add a bit of extra thanks at the end. Don’t wait until “next time” to show extra gratitude, it can be done while the time is present. I’m glad I didn’t even notice this. Way back in August lol. This person sounds like a regenerated troll, based on his previous posts. I hope everyone has enough integrity and common sense not to feed into such vile, discouraging, hating, spiteful, and lack of decency and inconsiderate language. People like this, will likely suffer later in life for how they treat people. If they aren’t already. In fact, the very fact this person claims I “always have problems” is in itself a giveaway of what perception this person holds. Which is a shitty one. All I was doing was describing a circumstance that I encountered. The negative commentary was very unnecessary, childish, and petty. Get a life, Seriously. The world is at war, people are getting sick and dying everyday. People are having a hard time just trying to get by day to day. Nobody has a right to unprovoked negativity and nonsense. Keep that shit to yourself, where it belongs Now that’s addressed, back to the topic at hand 👏🏽

The “poster of this thread” doesn’t sound like a provider to me. But if you’re referring to me, I suggest maybe you be less condescending and judgmental about how someone chooses to do biz. Some people think just because we put boundaries in place to create a more workable relation with clients, that somehow it equates to not being right for the business. I have a right to run things the way I choose to, and I’m choosing to based on what the current trends have already proven. And what’s proven is: unless I want to have my time wasted day in, day out: I can’t operate the same way I did before, it takes evolving and having the courage to believe I can. And if anyone else think it’s just me, someone reached out to me earlier and informed me this: hi, I know a provider who so far had 3 NO shows this year, a total record, he also says the amount of teasers has increased dramatically. So yeah, it’s where things are right now. If someone thinks I need to find another line of work: in that case everybody in it needs to find another line of work.

Good call. I’m 6’2…and hover around 205-210 pounds. I generally plateau at about 212-215 pounds. I’d have to be in the gym almost daily and eating massively to get beyond that. The guy pictured would be more like 225 pounds.

I hear you wholeheartedly, unfortunately this is just the way I have to do things. I am tired and fatigued of people contacting me and not being serious. I’m not even talking about people with genuine interest, just randoms. I know there are still good clients like the old days, but now it’s just too much games and BS. I can’t count how many times I get inquiries, often wanting stuff short notice and then I interrupt to accommodate, only for them to stop responding or come up with some last minute excuse: ” my son came home early “my coworker just walked in ”I got Covid “My wife just walked in ” sorry I can’t meet in 45 minutes, that’s too late ”can you meet now? ”Can you (drive somewhere an hour away on short notice) I’ve been doing this for 12 years. At some point, the realization comes that my ad has more than enough details for clients to make a decision before they reach me. Many inquiries are commentary or fantasies that don’t hold much weight. They’re hoping to get something with minimum effort and commitment, which was fine for Grindr/Craigslist, but not when I’m paying $79.99+ to be on a site. I’m paying upfront to advertise, buy supplies, have a phone and transportation + accommodations: therefore I need people who are going to invest something off the bat, not just speculation and false hopes. As far as being available for the day and time a person is looking for: that’s what a consultation is for. To be available, I have to coordinate that with the client. The consultation/deposit for the initial setup still applies. If the time doesn’t work for the person, they just have to use that as a token towards a future visit. When I have made exceptions and not taken deposits/consultation fee, some have still fell thru. The ones who don’t are likely to fall thru/change their minds last minute anyway. I went thru my phone yesterday and unblocked all the numbers (something like 30-50) stored on my phone. Something I try to do every 6 months to give 2nd chances. I was looking thru messages and seeing what might of prompted me to do so. Even when I was easy and “user friendly” (like someone on the forum described), they didn’t follow thru. Some I gave my address to, or arranged sessions with, and they couldn’t be bothered to show up or even give me a response. So now, I have to play hard ball. Being high demand can be a blessing and a curse. You have to take what you can, but limit the access people have.

Don’t get me started on California. The hotel rates are exorbitant. San Francisco was reasonable the week I went, but Palm Springs, and places I wanted to go to like San Raphael and Napa were above and beyond. Sometimes I feel hotels purposely make themselves expensive for the sake of keeping cheap and undesirables away.

Yeah hotel rates and their corresponding deposits for the budget companies have been a bit higher since post lockdown. I usually always strive to stay in decent accommodations, even if it’s not Marriott or Hilton. But a budget hotel can easily end up being $200-$250 if they charge an extra deposit. I try to book via the hotel as much as possible nowadays, not really doing 3rd party discount sites unless its a city that has a lot of mid and high rise hotels for reasonable prices.