barullo

He’s meatball Mike from LA. I wasn’t being secretive on purpose or anything. I’ve heard only but good things about him

Good luck with your guy, @barullo. Besides the “per diem” idea, which I find excellent, I would suggest giving him some alone time for himself everyday.

he's a nice guy; I predict you will have a wonderful time!

I'm hoping for that too!

I've never met him but we've had video chats for a year...and we've grown not close, but at least familiar. He's cute. We'll see what happens!

He’s meatball Mike from LA. I wasn’t being secretive on purpose or anything. I’ve heard only but good things about him

He’s meatball Mike from LA. I wasn’t being secretive on purpose or anything. I’ve heard only but good things about him

I hired someone for a 3 day weekend at the end of last summer who I never met. He's a member here and made a really great impression with his friendly interactions. We started a private conversation and he was just as friendly and outgoing in private as he is on the public threads, so I asked if he'd be interested in spending a weekend with me if I flew him out. We easily agreed on the terms. He wasn't looking for a deposit since he felt my purchasing his ticket showed good faith and that I was serious. It was one of the best weekends I've spent with anyone. I enjoy longer sessions and having a connection with someone. We texted and chatted on the phone several times leading up to the weekend. It provided an opportunity to get to know each other and discuss our interests. I'm convinced it was such a success because he was open to communicating and we built trust in each other. Those three days flew by. Six months later and we still text each other to check in and see how the other is doing.

You're welcome. The per diem idea works well because it removes the dependency factor in a subtle way and the whole experience becomes more boy friend rather than transactional in tone. Of course I'm a great one at self delusion. LOL

That’s scary. A few weeks ago I had a hookup who fainted in my bathroom (with the door locked). I did call 911 but in the end he came to and got up on his own. He was quite young, too. I think everyone needs to learn about harm reduction because drug abuse is inevitable and you just need to learn to see the signs.
 
Good on you for putting things on hold. It’s the wisest thing to do.

ok ok lol

I look forward to hearing it! How far from you does he live?

Thank you all for your answers! This turned into a lively discussion that did help me ultimately decide not to do it. I think the uncertainty of these times actually tipped the balance towards no, because if I had more of a certain outlook on when we’ll meet again, I would hesitate less.

Thank you all for your answers! This turned into a lively discussion that did help me ultimately decide not to do it. I think the uncertainty of these times actually tipped the balance towards no, because if I had more of a certain outlook on when we’ll meet again, I would hesitate less.

thank you all for your replies. it gave me a good idea. @marylander1940 I agree with you, I prefer something face-to-face but I was looking for something to tide me over until that's possible )

In your opinion, what's the ideal amount (USD) to pay for an online "experience"? Let's say one hour.

I do, but not everyone replies

I wouldn’t be mad at a quick message to say thank you for visiting my profile. It opens up a conversation which I might have been too shy to start.

Agree completely. Questioning whether an escort's compliments are sincere is WAY overthinking. When you hire, you're getting an experience for your money. Part of the experience is compliments. Why ruin what you've paid by overanalyzing it?

Is that sarcasm Kevin? Sorry but sometimes feelings don’t translate well on message board.

Well I don’t expect someone super public to cop to “faking it” but maybe if they had a second profile or an anonymous user they could add something to this conversation.

If you're working in a service industry role, building some level of rapport and comfort helps insure repeat business, tips, better reviews, etc. Depending on the context, some flattery is an easy way to lower some barriers. So it makes sense for an escort to stroke your ego as well as your body.
 
An escort who can find a aspects of a client who isn't exceptionally attractive and engage with them in a way that doesn't feel like executing a contract tends to earn a better reputation. Some banter or regular conversation when not in bed would be part of that, and a compliment or two helps with that.
 
Is every complement you give a customer, coworker, or family member 100% sincere? Probably not, but it helps people get along better.
 
Of course, any good thing becomes a negative in excess. A light compliment about a coworker's outfit helps smooth a conversation, but effusive gushing about it might get you an HR complaint. Same thing in escorting, less can be more, and the good guys have the emotional intelligence to know if they're crossing a line.

“The first duty in life is to be as artificial as possible. What the second duty is no one has as yet discovered.”
 
(Oscar Wilde)

I had a really enjoyable two hours with an escort whose compliments were overdone, but he was otherwise great company and the end result was great. So, I can tolerate insincerity if the guy does everything else right...and he did.

The ability to receive, and also give, complements (whether true or just socially expected) is a hallmark of a true gentleman.