CuriousByNature

I think I can see how this scenario could happen. Since the reason given by the provider for not staying longer involved his wife, perhaps the poster thought it would be worth trying another attempt at getting together on an evening when the wife would not be a factor? Despite the provider's cold demeanour, I could also see how someone might wish to give a provider the benefit of the doubt and hope the next time would be more satisfactory. But that's just my thoughts based on what has been written. Please do not refer to yourself that way - beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there will certainly be people who behold you as attractive, even if it may not seem that way to you.

My grandfather used to have an assisted shower every couple of days. In the care home.

Wow - that height, definition, chiseled features, amazing and well-balanced proportions. Absolutely stunning. Gaudi was definitely a genius.

I've known people in their 20s who act like they're in their 60's, and people over 100 who also act like they're in their 60s. So many factors come into play - genetics, environment, financial resources, luck. Hard to find anyone in their 90s and beyond who didn't benefit from at least a couple of those factors. When I was young I thought that 60 was ancient, but that might be because back in the 80s older people acted older than they do today. Hairstyles, clothing, activities - it seems like they wanted to fit the image of a senior. Not today - octogenarians posing in Playboy, more people able to access anti-aging procedures, and maybe most important - the general erosion of respect that younger people once paid to those who are older may be another reason why many seniors try to stay as young as possible. Old age was once something that was attained and embraced, but now it is shunned and forced into the geriatric closet.

Having been reading posts here for the past few years, I've noticed there are always some providers who request a donation for their time that seems exorbitant to many on the forum. While inflation may be part of the reason why a provider increases their donation amount, I think it goes beyond inflation or even supply and demand. Somebody who is seeking a donation that is nearly twice the 'customary' amount, may be doing so to concentrate on clients with the deepest pockets. Just like others who request a photo before seeing anyone, I imagine a provider can use their donation amount to filter prospective clients as well.

Are you getting hit up by providers, or RM members? Is there a way that people can search for/see client profiles, because I was only aware of the search function for finding providers... but I'm also a bit technologically challenged. LOL

Elderly? Absolutely - if we were living in Europe back in 1349 and trying to avoid the Black Death. Mind those rats, now.😂

There can be a lot of negativity, but there is also much levity. The key is to scroll past the negative and focus on the topics/posts that interest you or catch your attention, I think. I have unfortunately been dragged into longer-than-necessary discussions that go absolutely nowhere, but eventually I realize I don't HAVE to keep responding - which is not easy for me... LOL. But I do try to keep it as kind as possible.

Please don't get me wrong, I definitely did not mean that you should have reported him. I'm thankful that the experience did not have any negative effects on you, and whatever anyone might think, you are not responsible in any way for anything he may have done to others. That is on him, as an adult who should have known better.

Even if you knew or even set the situation up, this still objectively constitutes sexual abuse by that doctor. You may not consider yourself to have been harmed in any way from a subjective perspective, but the act itself constitutes sexual abuse according to objective legal standards.

One can only wonder how many other patients he sexually abused

If clumsiness is a sign of autism I'm completely beyond the spectrum

Could you ask if they have cots available? Or a room with a sofabed?

Wouldn't it depend on the level of activity a person engages in? 600 calories may be sufficient for someone sitting on the sofa all day, but perhaps not for those who have physically demanding jobs.

I doubt anyone on this forum is as late a bloomer as me. I don't even have any buds yet, let alone blooms!

I just assume I won't be answered, and if I am, I get that nice surprise 🤣

Quite the shillelagh too

I consider Middle Aged to be anywhere between the Fall of Rome and the Renaissance

I doubt you are turning any stomachs, being 57 and attracting conversations with attractive 31-year-olds. His loss, right?

You're a courageous man and a generous soul - thank you for sharing. May your confidence only continue to grow and be a blessing to others.

I completely agree. It is a sad comment on human nature that people have an inborn tendency to fear, reject or alienate those who are different in any way.

I'm not sure it is fair to include those harmed in this way as a victimhood cult. Real pain and suffering have been experienced by people as a result of the bigotry displayed by those who have used religious reasons for denouncing identity - though in a twisted way those bigots may honestly think they are 'helping' non-straight people by being so harsh, mistakenly thinking a person can change how they were born. In any case this is much more serious in terms of consequences (self-harm, suicide, self-hate, etc) than other examples of modern victimhood, such as having to work a full shift, not being able to buy that pair of pants you want, or not receiving a participation trophy. Those things might be considered part of a cult of victimhood perhaps, but becoming isolated and disowned by those closest to you because they believe your lifestyle is an abomination is true victimhood by my estimation. Ultimately this is all subjective because what victimizes one person may not victimize another, but on the balance, many of the sexually other have suffered greatly due to the opinions, words and actions of others. And not only the sexually other, but those who are wrongly assumed to be sexually other. While things have generally improved, in parts of the USA and Canada the struggles of the sexually other are little different than they were decades ago. Perhaps we need to put ourselves in others' shoes to understand things better.

People will use anything convenient to mask or justify their fears about people who are different than themselves - whether that is religion or any other cultural/social characteristic. And a person can spin almost anything to make it seem like their views are supported - ultimately, I think it is insecurity in their own opinions that causes a person to do that. People are targeted if they are different than the majority, and it has always been that way. But it doesn't have to be, and I think it is possible to counter this by simply putting others first and truly loving our neighbours as ourselves - even in instances where they might seem to be our 'enemies'. Not an easy thing to do, but very worthwhile.