CheckCar

Send this to marginalized sex workers you know who are struggling right now and circle back to me with their reactions.

Minimum wage workers can file for unemployment. Minimum wage workers qualify for a stimulus check. Writing a resume IS simple, but point escorts in the direction of the slew of companies who will be hiring soon. Come on. What about all of the escorts, many of which are undocumented who have not filed taxes? I’m unsure how you’re trying to counter argue when I hear the struggles of my sex worker friends daily, many of which have not a single solution at hand when all many of you have to do is file for unemployment and ride this out, whether you’re making minimum wage or not. You’ve been furloughed? Tough shit, you and the entire nation. Some escorts have absolutely nothing rn. I am extremely grateful to not be in this position and my heart goes out to everyone during these trying times but “the struggle” isn’t quite the same.

you’re still butthurt about the “staying in shape” thing huh? Sorry to hear.
 
you are correct, but the topic at hand is SEX WORK, and I feel this message is substantially more important for those in THIS business (specifically those who have been doing it awhile). There is a difference between being exhausted saying, idk, waiting tables or teaching children, to survive, in contrast to having to fuck to survive. Apples to oranges champ. Additionally those who do it many years full time have no resume. I’m sure you have a resume in the event you wanted to part ways with your current career. If you want to start “How is Covid affecting your business” (the blue/white collar version) in The Lounge, by all means. But this is “Ask An Escort” and we are discussing the logistics of sex work and Covid. Be safe, wash your hands.

Which is why I find it so disheartening when I read comments made about benefiting from potential discounted rates and stuff like that.
 
It also makes me more aware that social distancing, which I do believe is necessary, is still a luxury that not everyone can afford. I think of other parts of the world as well, where it is a necessity to go out every day to get food and water. Social distancing, as necessary as it is, just isnt a viable option for everyone. What bothers me is when people who can afford to stay home and take the experts' advice choose not to.

For almost two years, I saw a guy here in Houston whose sessions followed this pattern:
 
Upon my arrival, we would sit in his living room, where he would have waiting for me a bottle of water. We would sit and casually talk for a few minutes. The topics varied widely. He was shirtless at this point and might be wearing shorts, sweatpants, or just a towel. I will say he had an incredible lean, muscular body, long flowing black hair, and a killer smile with a charming gap between his two front teeth. Latin and ex-military.
 
Next, we would go into his massage room. As he set the music and lit the candles, I usually stepped into the bathroom and peed, leaving the door open, as our conversation continued. I would emerge, disrobe, and he would tell me whether to lie face down or face up. Then he would remove his shorts, pants, or towel. He was a smallish guy, standing about 5'7", and proportionately endowed; cut, and with low-hanging balls. Very little body hair, but just enough.
 
Every massage I received from him was different and there was always something unpredictable. He seemed to love introducing new techniques to me or letting me be his guinea pig. He was very strong and had excellent skills. He interspersed sensual and erotic elements throughout the therapeutic ones. Depending on the amount of time I had, the massage would last anywhere from 90 minutes to two hours or more. Happy endings were more like happy 75% of the way through, because after I climaxed, he would bring me down gently and tenderly to the point of pure bliss.
 
Then he would go into the bathroom and turn on the shower as I laid on the table and waited until he told me it was ready. I would go into the bathroom, he would pull back the shower curtain and hold out his hand to help me step over the edge of the bathtub (no, I am not elderly, infirm, nor handicapped; this was just his style). And then he would step in behind me and close the curtain. He would shampoo and condition my hair, rinse it, then bathe me all over with a soft washcloth. He paid so much attention to my genitals and asshole that I would achieve another erection and often cum again. He invited mutual touching and I often brought him to erection, but never saw him cum.
 
After my shower, he would hand me a big fresh towel and continue our conversation as I dried off and got dressed. We would always share a nice, affectionate hug before I paid him and left. He never once told me how much I owed him; he always just said, "What ever you feel like paying me. I enjoy this as much as I think and hope you do." So I'd pay him $120 to $150, depending on how long I'd been there.
 
I usually didn't hear from him at all between sessions, but one evening he texted me saying he needed to buy a new washing machine and wondered if I might help him out by purchasing a package of three or four massages. So I agreed to this and bought three @ $150. The next day, I took him $450 cash and we set up three appointments spread out over the next eight weeks.
 
This was going along fine and I had one remaining pre-paid massage. The morning of this appointment when I arrived at his house, where his car was parked under the carport as usual, he did not answer the door. The door was also locked, which was not usually the case. I texted him. Nothing. I called. Voicemail. I waited in my car. I drove around the corner and filled up with gasoline. Texted again. Called again. Nothing. I went to my remote office and emailed him. I drove back over to his house. Status quo. So I went back to my home office and proceeded with my work day.
 
A few hours later, he texted me, apologizing, saying he had overslept because he'd fallen off a step ladder the day before and injured himself and had taken some pain pills that knocked him out. I said OMG, I was so sorry to hear this, hoped he was okay, suggested he might go have an X-ray, and that I wished he had told me about his accident and we could have rescheduled because I had spent a couple of hours wondering, messaging, hanging around his part of town thinking I might hear from him. Well, he didn't like that at all and proceeded to tell me what a dick I was for thinking only of myself. He said I could redeem my third pre-paid massage but that would be my last and we would part as friends. Then, no, he said, you are a total jerk and I gave you more attention than any other client EVER, so fuck you, you arrogant asshole.
 
I was simply floored.
 
It's now been one year. Interim research about this guy revealed that he did indeed serve in the Navy, was honorably discharged, and suffered PTSD.
 
I have not had a better overall massage experience with anyone else before or since, and I have thought about reconnecting with him. I certainly do miss all that was good about him!
 
So, yes, I have had a shower with a masseur.

I don't know whether it's "a thing" or not; however, just in the course of conversation with some of these guys--once I've seen them a time or two and we've become somewhat familiar--I've mentioned my profession and offered to edit or even write copy for their ad(s) and Web site(s), if they have the latter. The best of these deals lasted for two years. The masseur had terrific skills and also offered "manscaping," at which he was superb. He was hot as a firecracker, too. I wound up creating a new resume for him and it helped him land a new job in the oil-and-gas industry. Fortunate for him and unfortunate for me!

Amen to the above. Pics that do not look like the masseur are awkward. One provider asked me for a review. Answered all review questions on RM honestly - and he was very offended that I said his pics did not look like him. It was AWKWARD....
 
I don’t mind travel pics - but a clear face with a smile is minimum requirement for me. I have noticed a ton of unkempt bearded faces. Def not my type - but then I’ll see here sometimes where someone is asking about a “hot” masseur, I click the link - and messy beard guy shows up. I am reminded not everyone is into clean cut like me.
 
The LA providers are guys I can usually spot before looking at location. While often beautiful, most look like they are only here because the acting thing isn’t working out. Glamour shots usually indicate someone is not well trained. Not always, but I have a good track record at sorting them out:)

For me it will be when the rate of new infections has gotten low enough, so that even if I were to get it (or transmit it) from any circumstance - whether a massage, or out to dinner, etc - I would not pose a risk of over-burdening the health-care system if I happened to be in the small minority of people who require hospitalization. We're not close to that point yet - if we're lucky, maybe in 6-8 weeks?

good question! I am so eager to get a massage and be touched again!

As most have mentioned in this Forum, they have curtailed getting massages due to Covid 19, myself included. My last massage was in mid-February, almost 2 months ago. I had thought I would start again after the crisis had "died down", but with the more we learn, the more conflicted I become. I realize there is no "end date" on Covid 19 "going away." It is not as if we know that on July 5th, 2020 it is gone forever, for example. Until there is a vaccine (12-18 months away)....or a treatment to prevent/stop/slow infection, we will be living with this for a long time. So we are not talking another month or two.....but much longer. The CDC is now even saying that just speaking with someone can spread the virus because it is airborne. Then throw in the wild card of the very large number that are and stay asymptomatic but still spread the virus. So for myself, I will only feel comfortable returning to get a massage when there is either 1) a treatment that prevents/stops the virus or 2) A vaccine, which hopefully will be out in about a year. Until that happens, I feel getting a massage with the super close contact is risky. Hard to relax and let go with a massage when in this environment. What is your criteria to begin receiving massages again?

Does anyone know of masseurs who are now turning to webcamming, Onlyfans, or other revenue streams? Since we can’t see masseurs in person, I’m wondering if any of them are making themselves available virtually. Any leads will be greatly appreciated.

Yes, Simply Adam has reached out to me and is offering "virtual coaching". I haven't pursued to find out exactly what that means but his offerings run the gammit. He has his own personal website.

I knew 2 such guys and dated each for several years. Both were as @ezlvr described his guy - masculine, handsome with ripped, muscled bodies, personable and terrific in bed.
 
The first guy was dark (Italian/Spanish mix). In his early 30s, he had a tremendous physique - the most symmetrical body I’ve ever seen: V-shaped torso, tight waist, perfect pecs, 8pack abs. I met him at a group session a friend had organised, and as he was a skilled cocksucker I made sure to get his phone number. Tho he was very masculine (str8 acting, as he put it), he turned out to be an eager bottom provided he was first dominated. Further dates revealed how he loved being tied up and fucked, sucking all the cocks at a party and swallowing loads etc. He had a big cock himself but rarely climaxed; he became especially enlarged when used by a group of men. He never advertised and only took referrals. Strangely, tho he always wanted discretion, he didn’t mind being photographed when he was naked with an erect cock in his mouth or his ass.
 
The second guy was a blond Englishman, early 20s, a dedicated gym-goer from his early teens. I met him in an AOL chat-room; we shared an underwear fetish. I offered to buy him some sexy new briefs and he came over for a date. Tho he wasn’t into older men, he loved to get fucked hard, preferably for a long time and in various positions. We agreed on a regular rate for regular dates, and after I’d pounded him for long enough, he was happy to suck my cock to completion. I was fascinated to discover how readily he swallowed my load and licked my cock clean. He confessed to a strange sexual desire: as my cum hit the back of his throat, he would always climax without even touching his own cock. He only had an ad on Rentboy for a month or so, and he took it down once he had a small group of regular clients. He also was not camera-shy.

I've been in contact with Eli a few times and was interested in meeting with him
But he would never give me a definite answer to my questions and wouldn't commit to a rate amount
 
He was friendly and personable in all his emails but just could not seem to pinpoint a rate

I don’t see prior threads on him, so any info on this gentleman would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
 
https://rent.men/ElliotJons

For whatever it’s worth, https://rentmasseur.com/ChrisGoesDeepNYC gives a great massage with nice sensual elements. He was also very charming and easy to chat with afterwards, and I didn’t feel rushed as with some others out there. He’s worth a try, IMO.

I'll second that @CheckCar. Chris is excellent!

For whatever it’s worth, https://rentmasseur.com/ChrisGoesDeepNYC gives a great massage with nice sensual elements. He was also very charming and easy to chat with afterwards, and I didn’t feel rushed as with some others out there. He’s worth a try, IMO.

Thankfully, places like this exist. I unfortunately did not know about it before I hired Alex/Blake/Whatever He Goes By Next, but at least I can help others avoid the same mistake.

Fact. Imagine the animosity between black escorts dealing with internalized racism, it’s a blood bath.
 

 
Counterintuitive validation from someone who is very likely not viewing him as an equal, but ironically, as a prize also.

Not sure how I only saw this thread now. But to answer your question, in my short experience as a client? YES. In fact when I reach out to a provider about a potential booking, I always mention my race early on. And again I'll confirm/ask if my race isn't an issue after the session is booked. I'm a very observant and quick learner, and since diving into this world of "companionship" I've noticed a lot of the new providers and ones around my age are treating the business like Grindr.
 
The whole reason I got into the hiring scene was that after the Craigslist shut down the other options out there (Grindr, Cruising) weren't working for me. In fact since stepping over into the M4M, LGBTQ+ community a few years back its torn me down mentally, ripped whatever self confidence I did have before stepping over and now has me looking to seek some form of therapy in the near future.
 
I'm in my 20s, healthy, workout, good teeth, with a high sexual appetite. But so far in my few years the inclusiveness that's often promoted in the community is a big farce IMO. But anyways that's for another thread I've been thinking to make for some months now but I've held back for the potential pitchforks that maybe thrown my way.
 
But YES I always ask providers if there's any issues with my race. In fact I've passed on 3 providers (2 during my recent USA east coast trip) because they were subliminally obvious they weren't into guys of my race. Last year I reached out to a popular couple (who are also members on here) about a potential booking. When I was speaking with one of the guys and mentioned my race he said he's only into caucasian guys.
 

 
Where I live, Asians are pretty much equal majority with white people. In the M4M scene that's pretty much all they're after in my observation. It's W+W or W+A.
 

 
Yeah I find that hilarious. I feel they're the last (and should be the last) to scream "discrimination", considering they do the same and are very blatant about it in public spaces (again just off my personal experience).
 

 

 
I guess it depends on location, but again in Canada, in the usual hookup spaces, they're loved by the white guys they praise.
 
 

 
Pretty much. That's the feeling I get, especially when trying to book providers around my age.
 
 

 
I've been shying away from Grindr but in recent times, I've removed my race from my profile. It's hilarious how many more messages I'll get when my race/photos are removed.
 
 

 
The world needs more guys like you. <3

Using an enema before a massage, even a therapeutic one, is a good idea. One of my go-to masseurs confided in me that he hates massaging some of his other clients who are not very hygienic “down there.”

Using an enema before a massage, even a therapeutic one, is a good idea. One of my go-to masseurs confided in me that he hates massaging some of his other clients who are not very hygienic “down there.”

Using an enema before a massage, even a therapeutic one, is a good idea. One of my go-to masseurs confided in me that he hates massaging some of his other clients who are not very hygienic “down there.”

It's hard to keep your name private if you do in-calls (easy address lookup, name around the house, etc.). And thanks to intrusive apps like FaceBook, I've inadvertently gotten the names of some providers (they try to get you to friend anyone who you call). I prefer to pretend I don't know anything, and keep using preferred names, and ask the same.