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For my fellow lactose intolerants, this dairy-free ice cream brand is pretty good. EDIT: I actually buy those ones made with cashew milk, so I can’t vouch for the coconut milk offerings.

The comment before yours claimed that Ken was “beefier/less tight or defined than in his pics.” Would you agree with that assessment?

Has anyone seen Jayce outside of the Adonis NYC parties? I spent some time with him at an Adonis nude party and am curious to find out if he sees patrons at other times. It’s probably best to PM me with any insights you might have, in order to honor Jayce’s discretion. Thanks.

I’m not looking for Fire Island crazy or PTown crowded, so this might be a good option for me. Thanks for this feedback.

Does anyone have recent experience with Gunnison Beach in NJ? Previous mentions of Gunnison on this site are pre-pandemic. What days tend to be more crowded, what days are more chill, what kind of vibe to expect — insights on any of these will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

(1) Select a city (2) Tap the icon for filters (see attached pic) (3) Scroll down on the filters page and select the grid option at the bottom right (see attached pic)

The new site does have a grid option. I use that since I, too, prefer the grid over the large ad option.

https://rentmasseur.com/Healandrelax This one has had a few names over the years. I saw him under a different name and had one of the dullest massages ever. It was the first time that I knew without a doubt that the masseur had no interest in being there with me. I remember getting dressed after the massage in total silence since he turned his back to me and barely responded to my attempts to chat, after a disconnected and underwhelming massage. Given his name changes, I’m guessing others have had underwhelming experiences as well.

Trust me, this version gets interesting in ways that the prior versions could not have imagined. For example: Episode 4.

Thank you so much for sharing this! Your post makes me wonder if this site should have a “memoir” forum where we can collect our own oral histories. You CLEARLY have historical memories that need to be documented!

This resonates deeply with me. I do most of my hiring outside of my home city in an attempt to distance that private part of my life from the more public parts. But there’s still a chance that someone in my more immediate social or professional networks might find out someday about my hiring practices. Through glimpses into local LGBTQ+ activist spaces, I have seen open and intentional compassion toward, as well as advocacy with and on behalf of, those involved in various levels of sex work. I also have noticed a decided lack of compassion for those who hire. While I have no desire to share that part of my life in community-based advocacy spaces, I can’t help but wonder if and how room could be made to acknowledge the complexities surrounding why I hire, rather than writing off someone like me as a predator and exploiter.

This is a great question. It seems like LGBTQ+ folks can find ourselves occupying “elder” status under unusual and confusing circumstances. When I came out in my sophomore year of college, I quickly became “Papa Bear” for the closeted folks around me. I had barely started to learn what it meant to be gay when I suddenly found myself positioned as the go-to for gay issues on campus. As I looked for mentors to support me, I realized the gap created by the AIDS epidemic. Many of my would-be mentors were either gone or were scared away by the intensity of the epidemic in the 80s. I was forced to become an elder way before I was ready to. And then there are those who come out later than others and experience what a gay male social worker friend describes as “delayed” gay adolescence. This is the 30 year old with a job, home, and other trappings of adulthood whose sexual and romantic experiences—to no fault of his own—are equivalent to those of a typical 17 year-old heterosexual. Is it fair to expect that person to play an elder role when he has had so little time to experience gay life for himself? As I type this, I realize that I still have some baggage from prematurely becoming a gay elder!

I identify so intimately with the series of before/after’s you mentioned. It’s a big reason why, as a near-50-year-old, I struggle at times to figure out my role in the present day. For instance, I can appreciate the affordances of online dating, especially for those who don’t have ready access to vibrant in-person queer social spaces. I also feel a sense of loss, however, as someone who came of age at a time when I had to go to gay bars or gay community centers in the big city for any kind of gay social life. In those spaces, I found older queer folks—sometimes only a few years older than I was, sometimes significantly older—who taught me how to navigate the world as a young gay adult. They taught me how to distinguish safer from riskier social spaces, safer from riskier dating prospects, safer from riskier professional and financial decisions, etc. By contrast, I became an informal mentor to a gay college senior a few years ago after he had just come out. When I asked him what his coming out experience was like, he told me that he had downloaded Grindr and had met his first “boyfriend.” The thought of Grindr being this young man’s initiation into gay life—revolving largely around hook-up culture without nurturing connections to mentors and community—saddened and alarmed me. I embrace the opportunities that have emerged through professional and some social networks to be the nurturing gay mentor with no sexual interests in younger mentees (I had a few bad experiences in my earlier years that taught me how difficult it is to mentor someone you want to fuck). But with the increasingly homophobic and transphobic sociopolitical landscape surrounding us, I worry that I’m not doing enough. I have a good job, ample savings, and lots of security in my life; I can afford to take risks that might be harder to manage for others. But I’ve been disconnected from in-the-streets activism for quite some time (which helps to explain my professional success and stability). I don’t see clear pathways for someone like me to get involved in political spaces where the white-collar, “assimilationist” gay male professional seems to frequently be identified as one of the problems that needs to be solved. Perhaps I just need to enter some of those spaces and hope that, with time, my potential contributions will become apparent.

I really appreciate the thoughtfulness of your response. In addition to personal mentoring, are you involved in—or do you see yourself becoming involved in—collective organizing and advocacy efforts? I’m increasingly feeling that the mentoring and professional role modeling I do for younger queer folks is not enough. Also, I suspect that I might have more opportunities for mentoring if I were to become more active in collective organizing. I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this, if you’re willing to share. Thanks.

For those of us who identify as older members of LGBTQ+ communities, how are we imagining and enacting our roles as elders in our communities? Note: I am not assuming that everyone on this forum sees themselves as older individuals, identifies as members of LGBTQ+ communities, and wants to play a role in those communities as elders. For those who do, this thread is for you. I’m around 50 years old, and I’ve fought some battles over the years as a gay man. I have some insights on how to survive and thrive that might be helpful to share. I also have a lot to learn, especially from younger members of our communities who’ve come of age as queer folks under a significantly different milieu and, thus, have insights into current times that may elude me. The barriers to queer cross-generational connection and community-building are many, but the ongoing and forthcoming attacks on folks like us warrant efforts to overcome those barriers, pool our insights and resources together, and fight for our dignity and rights as LGBTQ+ people. I’m feeling a renewed urgency to do more to improve our lot as a queer community. For those of you who see and carry yourselves as elders in our communities, how do you do it? What types of organizations or networks do you participate in? What types of contributions do you make? What types of challenges do you find yourself negotiating?

I hope you’ll reconsider. While no TV show can represent everything, this reboot has afforded me new insights into where some younger queer and trans folks are coming from. With the ongoing and forthcoming attacks on our communities, we could use more cross-generational connections to sustain us for the fight.

I’m on episode 5 of the reboot, and it’s growing on me. It’s definitely a departure from the early 2000s reboot. This time around, the cast is a decidedly more diverse group of trans, queer, disabled, gender non-binary, and people of color-identified characters. Episode 4 explores queer crip sexuality in ways I’ve never seen before on TV. There’s a millennial and Gen Z sensibility to the show, and the storylines reflect the concerns, desires, and experiences of a more diverse queer and trans community. Bottom line: This is very different from the early 2000s reboot.

I saw him recently. PM for details.

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In the thread linked below, @dutchal mentioned the following about MasonXL: ”Ad is almost two years old--must have been in another city to have escaped NYC notice for that long. Reviews indicate price for an hour is $200-$800. Reviews and dates match this guy so seems to be a name change: ” There’s a link in that thread to another thread on what appears to have been MasonXL’s former name, MasterLion

Jayce and AJ were much hotter in person than in the pictures that were sent prior to the event.

Just curious: Did former venues have more private spaces for lap dances, or has the party always had just one separate space where all the lap dances take place side-by-side?

Do you recall the name?

Anyone have experience with https://rent.men/hassanxx ?

Last night (May 28) was my 1st NYC Adonis nude party. For those who’ve been to others, was last night typical in terms of the number of attendees and the number and variety of dancers? Just curious if I need to adjust expectations each time, or if I can consistently expect what I saw and experienced last night. Any insights from more experienced attendees will be greatly appreciated. Thanks. 🙂