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Yes this is very real. Just look at some Grindr profiles. I'm Black and when I find an escort that doesn't have any racial hang ups I'm so surprised. On several occasions I'v been turned down or ghosted when they find out I'm Black. I'm a successful put together clean cut guy and I've still had a door closed in my face by a provider. When they ask my race in a text I just think to myself oh no here we go again. Sometimes they're ok with it and other times they're not. I'm pretty fair skinned and one time I just sent my picture to a provider....we met had a good time and after it was over the conversation about my race came up. The whole time he thought I was Hispanic or "mixed". He kinda looked disappointed like I had tricked him into fucking a Black guy. I just flat out ask if they have an issue before I even try to make plans and waste my time. If you don't want my Black dick then you won't get my green dollars.

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

There's a difference between refusing service to someone who is smelly, gross and unhygienic and discriminating on the basis of race.
 
Clients who are larger need to be realistic about physical possibilities (for example, a client with a large belly may not be able to top effectively) but an inability to perform with overweight clients is going to not only lessen an escort's potential clientele but flies in the face of the whole reason many people hire. Same with racial and ethnic preferences. That is why I say people with such preferences shouldn't be escorts in the first place. It's like being hired to working in a cafeteria and insisting you won't touch dirty dishes. (I had the pleasure of working with someone like that in college.)

31 posts so far, yet not one escort/masseur has responded.
 
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I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

This is a reality, and I’m not necessarily sure if I have a problem with it, as escorting is a very “personal” service.
 
Whether it’s social or morally right or wrong is another discussion. But in an Industry where it’s requried for someone to touch, taste, prod and maintain and erection, preferences do come into play.
 
I haven’t had escorting services yet, but tons of massages and I always make it clear that I’m black. Some guys don’t like black guys (their reasons aren’t important to me), and that’s fine.
I’d just rather know that up front and discontinue the conversation, rather than have an awkward moment on the table, or weird communications.
 
As I’ve stated in another post, I’d encourage all service providers to actually state their preferences (race, age, body type, etc.) and would hope they wouldn’t be judged on it either. I’d rather not waste my time in engaging with anyone who does not like me.
 
I’m not saying bigotry is acceptable. I’m saying that the rules are a bit different in the sex industry.
 
Now housing, banking, education, and employment should never involve these factors. But in who one will have sex with is a grey area, regardless of how vile racism (or any other “ism”) is.
 
And quick funny,
The first experience I had with a masseur who didn’t like black guys was actually black... lol....
 
Go figure....

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

Been to him, and the one department in which he comes up short is that the massage is quite light, it's soothing but not therapeutic. Other than that, you're right, he fits all the other bills, although his learner's English limits the conversation somewhat.

And maybe a “play” date with the client, too.

Damn, I'll take a massage like that!

I have global entry, but I always end using the mobile passport. Typically the people I fly with don't have GE so I'd be waiting for them anyways, but MP almost never have a line. So we all get through pretty quickly.

Yep, same here, I saw this guy before but he used someone else's pix back then. Competent masseur and ok massage but zero interaction, in fact, careful avoidance of any interaction. Clearly uncomfortable being naked with you (some American guys have this hang-up, as opposed to the Russian/European hang-up also known as "now-can-do-it-yourself"), I'd avoid.

On my last couple business trips, I knew I had the intention of hiring an escort or at least a masseur. I generally fly with my manager and one or two of my co-workers. I'm also the only guy on the team, and all the ladies typically ask for the rooms to be near each other. So I be a gentleman and let them each check in before me, once they're headed up to their rooms, I politely let the front desk know I don't want my room near theirs. The clerk's reaction is usually pretty funny, but they get it. I even had one clerk message me on Grindr but we never hooked up.

I have all three. If you're not an international traveller, global entry probably isn't worth it, Mobile passport is a free, not widely known about alternative to get through US customs pretty quickly. TSA pre check is worth it. Clear isn't available at all US airports, it was great during the govt shutdown when not as many TSA agents were working.

I've inquired with other escorts about off-clock play, and gotten a yes because they found me mutually attractive
Hired other escorts (not often, a few times when traveling)
I've asked escorts for off-clock play, and been turned down (no more upsetting than being turned down anywhere else)
Played off-clock with other escorts I first connected with via a client who put together a group session (so, so hot)
Turned down escorts I've met in a client-organized group, who were convinced by my in-session acting/performance that I was super duper into them when I wasn't really (awkward)
I've been contacted by other escorts for off-clock play, and turned them down because they're not my type (some get really offended I'm not automatically into them, which is hilarious)
Hooked up with guys, then later found out they escort, then worked together

All sorts of scenarios happen. I would love to date another escort, active or retired, because sex work is a barrier to dating the kind of Ivy League/military "I work a desk job" boy next door type I'm drawn to. But I wouldn't date someone who's not my type just because he escorts too.
 
Very few would turn down a free hookup with a guy they find really hot.

You know a dentist probably sees another dentist for dental work. Just curious if escorts do that too. Maybe for market research? Or for training? Or just checking out the competition?