MidwestCoastal

I would encourage you to cast several lines into this pond.
 
My best success for these situations has always been the 'dating/hookup' apps such as Grindr and Scruff. State that you want Friends with Benefits in your profile and see what happens.
 
I would also encourage you to lay out exactly what your 'must haves' would be. Are you exclusively a top into vanilla? Are you a bottom into leather?
 
You also need to be prepared for a 'partial breakup' situation. What if you start out with the mindset of having a FwB relationship,but the sex just doesn't work - are you prepared to say "I think we're best off just as friends"? Or the reverse, the sex is great, but the hanging out part just doesn't work, are you comfortable with a FB? And as others have recommended, be up front about the 'What if one of us starts dating/gets a BF?'
 
I also found getting the sex part under your belt early on tended to be best for all parties. If the sex was great, working on the friend part was easier, for me anyways, because lets be honest, sex is a huge motivator here for the other person's company.
 
I believe all relationships - family, BF, FwB, FB, friends - have a better chance of success with open dialogue and expectations. I think this type of relationship specifically needs a bit more communication up front.
 
Just my two cents...

I would encourage you to cast several lines into this pond.
 
My best success for these situations has always been the 'dating/hookup' apps such as Grindr and Scruff. State that you want Friends with Benefits in your profile and see what happens.
 
I would also encourage you to lay out exactly what your 'must haves' would be. Are you exclusively a top into vanilla? Are you a bottom into leather?
 
You also need to be prepared for a 'partial breakup' situation. What if you start out with the mindset of having a FwB relationship,but the sex just doesn't work - are you prepared to say "I think we're best off just as friends"? Or the reverse, the sex is great, but the hanging out part just doesn't work, are you comfortable with a FB? And as others have recommended, be up front about the 'What if one of us starts dating/gets a BF?'
 
I also found getting the sex part under your belt early on tended to be best for all parties. If the sex was great, working on the friend part was easier, for me anyways, because lets be honest, sex is a huge motivator here for the other person's company.
 
I believe all relationships - family, BF, FwB, FB, friends - have a better chance of success with open dialogue and expectations. I think this type of relationship specifically needs a bit more communication up front.
 
Just my two cents...

I would encourage you to cast several lines into this pond.
 
My best success for these situations has always been the 'dating/hookup' apps such as Grindr and Scruff. State that you want Friends with Benefits in your profile and see what happens.
 
I would also encourage you to lay out exactly what your 'must haves' would be. Are you exclusively a top into vanilla? Are you a bottom into leather?
 
You also need to be prepared for a 'partial breakup' situation. What if you start out with the mindset of having a FwB relationship,but the sex just doesn't work - are you prepared to say "I think we're best off just as friends"? Or the reverse, the sex is great, but the hanging out part just doesn't work, are you comfortable with a FB? And as others have recommended, be up front about the 'What if one of us starts dating/gets a BF?'
 
I also found getting the sex part under your belt early on tended to be best for all parties. If the sex was great, working on the friend part was easier, for me anyways, because lets be honest, sex is a huge motivator here for the other person's company.
 
I believe all relationships - family, BF, FwB, FB, friends - have a better chance of success with open dialogue and expectations. I think this type of relationship specifically needs a bit more communication up front.
 
Just my two cents...

I would encourage you to cast several lines into this pond.
 
My best success for these situations has always been the 'dating/hookup' apps such as Grindr and Scruff. State that you want Friends with Benefits in your profile and see what happens.
 
I would also encourage you to lay out exactly what your 'must haves' would be. Are you exclusively a top into vanilla? Are you a bottom into leather?
 
You also need to be prepared for a 'partial breakup' situation. What if you start out with the mindset of having a FwB relationship,but the sex just doesn't work - are you prepared to say "I think we're best off just as friends"? Or the reverse, the sex is great, but the hanging out part just doesn't work, are you comfortable with a FB? And as others have recommended, be up front about the 'What if one of us starts dating/gets a BF?'
 
I also found getting the sex part under your belt early on tended to be best for all parties. If the sex was great, working on the friend part was easier, for me anyways, because lets be honest, sex is a huge motivator here for the other person's company.
 
I believe all relationships - family, BF, FwB, FB, friends - have a better chance of success with open dialogue and expectations. I think this type of relationship specifically needs a bit more communication up front.
 
Just my two cents...

#NotReallyNine

Ah...but when they really are.... they are truly a find.....

Checking in...
 
First... thank you to everyone who took time to respond. As always, this community has really provided much needed support for someone who doesn't have it 'in the real world'.
 
I've spent years being depressed about single. I always thought I would retire to somewhere with a partner. I have decided I need to potentially get comfortable with the fact I may never be partnered, so I'm trying to sample what that life could be like.
 
I don't know what I will do in the community I ultimately settle down in. I'm a loner right now who has focused years on trying to maximize my 'earning years'. I thought sampling a social life in a few places now may be a good idea.
 
I don't own a home and only have $650k saved... I'm starting to panic that I won't nearly have enough saved to live in a major city, so I'm thinking mid or small town. Many of you bring up valid concerns, I may end up miserable and alone and stuck in a small town with no theater, museums, shopping, etc. but I'm worried I will run out of money in a 'metro gay mecca'.
 
I'm contemplating leaving this job a year and a half from now after I get my full 5 year vest and last big bonus. I may not find a job with equal income or equity. I've always wanted to try to work for a start-up for a few years then maybe head back to school and teach at some small college until I actually retire, hence my interest in college towns.
 
The holidays will afford me some time to think. I will continue to look for advice here. Thank you again.

I live in Philadelphia and tend to import from NYC. The train ticket is $110 roundtrip and quite a few guys don't appear to mind coming down.
 
I tend to go for athletic hung aggressive top types.... and haven't found any local talent.
 
I have heard good things about Blaze Austin - https://rent.men/Blaze_Austin

https://rent.men/LeoXXXL/
 
Mmmmm.... those cock pics look...... suspect?

Oh but I'm very aware of that! If there wasn't a market for him he wouldn't be advertising. Just sad how low some people's standards have become! Like why pay around $300 for a "Happy Meal" that costs around $3 when for the same $300 one could get some of the best Gourmet Food with elegant service and ambiance? Yes there is a market for Happy Meals and many love them, but they go to McDonalds to get them for about $3! Jeez, I never thought I'd have to overexplain a simple obvious point, but such are the times we live in.

Checking in...
 
First... thank you to everyone who took time to respond. As always, this community has really provided much needed support for someone who doesn't have it 'in the real world'.
 
I've spent years being depressed about single. I always thought I would retire to somewhere with a partner. I have decided I need to potentially get comfortable with the fact I may never be partnered, so I'm trying to sample what that life could be like.
 
I don't know what I will do in the community I ultimately settle down in. I'm a loner right now who has focused years on trying to maximize my 'earning years'. I thought sampling a social life in a few places now may be a good idea.
 
I don't own a home and only have $650k saved... I'm starting to panic that I won't nearly have enough saved to live in a major city, so I'm thinking mid or small town. Many of you bring up valid concerns, I may end up miserable and alone and stuck in a small town with no theater, museums, shopping, etc. but I'm worried I will run out of money in a 'metro gay mecca'.
 
I'm contemplating leaving this job a year and a half from now after I get my full 5 year vest and last big bonus. I may not find a job with equal income or equity. I've always wanted to try to work for a start-up for a few years then maybe head back to school and teach at some small college until I actually retire, hence my interest in college towns.
 
The holidays will afford me some time to think. I will continue to look for advice here. Thank you again.

Arriving on Sunday morning, leaving Monday night.
 
Looking for a nice piece of huge top cock for some afternoon hotel fun.
 
TheLastViking is there.... who I have always been interested in.... just wondering if there is anything else available.

Arriving on Sunday morning, leaving Monday night.
 
Looking for a nice piece of huge top cock for some afternoon hotel fun.
 
TheLastViking is there.... who I have always been interested in.... just wondering if there is anything else available.

Dump your video service and get better internet.... then add internet TV video services...Hulu, Netflix, Prime Video.... YouTube TV is just as good as cable TV. There are a ton of new advertising based TV services as well... Xumo, Pluto TV, IMDB TV that are free (with ads).
 
Cable companies suck, but keep in mind, Disney/ABC, NBC, CBS, and all the other 'channels' keep increasing their rates to cable companies. They are just passing those increases on to their consumers. Some cable companies will actually start losing money on their video businesses because of the increases.
 
You're paying hundreds of dollars and paying for channels you never watch.
 
Sports are tough. NFL, NBA, NCAA, etc. also keep charging more and more....passing those increases to NBC, CBS, Fox, etc.... who then pass it to the cable company.... who then pass it on to you.

You met with him?

Just curious.... How many people spend Thanksgiving alone?
 
I had the option of going to 'Atlantis' this year with my sister's brood.... Not my ideal vacation.... so for the first time in my life, I will be alone for Thanksgiving. I have lied to my family and use my fictional 'other city' friends....
 
Not sure how I feel about the being alone part.... Holidays, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas, hold little value for me.
 
Planning on being 'productive' on the actual day.... maybe go for a long walk.....

Just curious.... How many people spend Thanksgiving alone?
 
I had the option of going to 'Atlantis' this year with my sister's brood.... Not my ideal vacation.... so for the first time in my life, I will be alone for Thanksgiving. I have lied to my family and use my fictional 'other city' friends....
 
Not sure how I feel about the being alone part.... Holidays, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas, hold little value for me.
 
Planning on being 'productive' on the actual day.... maybe go for a long walk.....

Just curious.... How many people spend Thanksgiving alone?
 
I had the option of going to 'Atlantis' this year with my sister's brood.... Not my ideal vacation.... so for the first time in my life, I will be alone for Thanksgiving. I have lied to my family and use my fictional 'other city' friends....
 
Not sure how I feel about the being alone part.... Holidays, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas, hold little value for me.
 
Planning on being 'productive' on the actual day.... maybe go for a long walk.....

Just curious.... How many people spend Thanksgiving alone?
 
I had the option of going to 'Atlantis' this year with my sister's brood.... Not my ideal vacation.... so for the first time in my life, I will be alone for Thanksgiving. I have lied to my family and use my fictional 'other city' friends....
 
Not sure how I feel about the being alone part.... Holidays, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas, hold little value for me.
 
Planning on being 'productive' on the actual day.... maybe go for a long walk.....

Just curious.... How many people spend Thanksgiving alone?
 
I had the option of going to 'Atlantis' this year with my sister's brood.... Not my ideal vacation.... so for the first time in my life, I will be alone for Thanksgiving. I have lied to my family and use my fictional 'other city' friends....
 
Not sure how I feel about the being alone part.... Holidays, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas, hold little value for me.
 
Planning on being 'productive' on the actual day.... maybe go for a long walk.....

Just curious.... How many people spend Thanksgiving alone?
 
I had the option of going to 'Atlantis' this year with my sister's brood.... Not my ideal vacation.... so for the first time in my life, I will be alone for Thanksgiving. I have lied to my family and use my fictional 'other city' friends....
 
Not sure how I feel about the being alone part.... Holidays, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas, hold little value for me.
 
Planning on being 'productive' on the actual day.... maybe go for a long walk.....

I feel like hiring has made me feel lonelier than usual lately.
 
47 and beginning to wonder if I will ever be able to be in a normal relationship.
 
Curious how many people feel loss of interest in hiring and loss of interest in life in general.

I feel like hiring has made me feel lonelier than usual lately.
 
47 and beginning to wonder if I will ever be able to be in a normal relationship.
 
Curious how many people feel loss of interest in hiring and loss of interest in life in general.

I feel like hiring has made me feel lonelier than usual lately.
 
47 and beginning to wonder if I will ever be able to be in a normal relationship.
 
Curious how many people feel loss of interest in hiring and loss of interest in life in general.

I feel like hiring has made me feel lonelier than usual lately.
 
47 and beginning to wonder if I will ever be able to be in a normal relationship.
 
Curious how many people feel loss of interest in hiring and loss of interest in life in general.