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What's a "launch"? Gman

Just looking at pictures -therightmassage and Logan are not the same guy. Gman

I'm glad he was good for you. I tried to meet up with him towards the end of his escorting time, and I think he was getting tired of the whole thing. I could tell it wouldn't be a nice time. So I told him I hoped he had a good time in Seattle. And didn't hire him. Gman

Is there a reason you asked that? Gman

I'm just admitting/observing what is there. And admitting I like people who for the most part act averagely -both males and females. Not admitting to or denying central tendencies when they are so obviously there is not going to make them go away. And you seem to be changing your statements some. Initially you were, "There is no such thing." Now you are "Ok, it's there. But it's not right. So we should ignore it. " Gman

I'm not disagreeing with most of what you've written. But these central tendencies do exist. In most cases, I'd say, since they are repeated time and time again, I'm assuming they are biologic with an overlay of culture and tradition. And pointing out outliers or how broad the spectrum is doesn't negate the central tendencies. Gman

Let me ask a question out of the blue. You meet a guy. It's a semi formal occasion. He shakes your hand. The hand is for the most part totally flaccid in yours. Assuming you know the guy does not have a neuromuscular disease, how does that hand feel inside yours and what's your mental reaction to that type of handshake? If you've never received that type of handshake from a man, then please state as such. Gman

I don't get the "What's Wrong" remark. It seems out of place to me. Gman

The cross tattoo on his shoulder seems to disappear in some of his videos. Gman

Testosterone is present in much greater quantities than estrogen in normal males. Normal females show the reverse. You persist in looking for the outliers. No one rejects that there is a spectrum. But you ignore the central part of the spectrum as being relevant when a majority of cultures fall within it-and have for a very long time. Gman

I'll agree with @quoththeraven about the disdain. I disdain overly feminine males. I also disdain overly butch females. I don't want either of them as sex partners. Give me NORMALITY!!! Gman PS. Of course I also disdain overly macho males -but I might consider topping them.

And yet testosterone is given to female to male transsexuals, and I believe it's supposed to do more than just change physical characteristics. And likewise with estrogen for male to female transsexuals. Gman

PS After thinking about what I wrote above-I still believe it's true-of course my belief and $3.25 will get you a grande caramel frappachino at Starbucks-what probably would be even more interesting than the original question I posed would be the percentage of prepubertal boys with effeminate traits who grew up to be gay vs those who went on to be straight and prepubertal girls with masculine traits and so on, so on so forth... Gman

Note that I said there were cultural differences. And yes there is a spectrum. But there is a general overarching theme for masculine and feminine behavior. You only have to look at the animal kingdom to see that. It's not really that difficult to surmise that some gay men-apart from any specific trying on their part- considering that all gay men like things that are 'biologically' on the feminine side of things- might have 'qualities' more on the feminine side. And vice versa for some lesbians. I'm not saying all gay men or all lesbians. But the tendency has to be there. It's been noted since antiquity. And I just have trouble believing it's all acquired acculturation of people putting on an expected role-esp considering the animal kingdom. And yes there are outliers. As humans with larger brain power/reasoning, and skills/society, there are lots of times we don't follow the paradigm in the animal kingdom. But it seems to me instead of the fact that there are outliers-which if I'm understanding is your main point-the more important point is that there is a general tendency that we follow the paradigm in broad measures. What I would wonder about -and since these things are society specific I'll talk about middle America-the percentage of effeminate straight guys vs effeminate gay men. Because if there were more (percentage-wise) straight men with these traits we consider feminine, that would do more to support your argument that these traits don't occur more frequently in gay males. Gman

If it was for finding out about your partners, wouldn't you have to dip first to find out? Gman

I wonder if they are really construction workers or if it's just their shtick? Gman

What if you were the last client he kissed? It would be quite a feature in your cap. Gman

He says he's 'muscular'. I'll agree he has muscles but he's not quite what I think of as 'muscular.' Gman

I'm sorry. I didn't understand. Your teacher was one what? Gman

I'm Jewish and was circed as an infant. I prefer the look and feel of circumcised tallywackers. But if for some reason I had never been circed as a child, it would take a lot (ie some major medical reason) for me to have it done as an adult. Gman

Does anyone think that shot of his backside doesn't go along very well with the pictures of his front? What I mean is that his front side looks muscular, and his backside looks more slender than I was expecting. Gman

I disagree. Without standards/classifications things can't be measured or assessed. Gman

I once told a guy I was chubby, and he blocked me. Gman

There are usually societal standards of both masculinity and femininity. They aren't intrinsically "good". But as opposed to the way some people feel on here, they aren't intrinsically bad either. They also aren't static as they can change over time. Nowadays with the emphasis on self and with media, I'll bet they may be more in flux than in many other eras. But just as the traits themselves are neither good nor bad, liking those traits in a prospective bedmate or partner is not a bad thing either (assuming both partners are of legal age). There can be minor variations in what people feel/think/consider appropriate masculinity/femininity on a societal basis. But unless someone has some problem with emotional perception, I think most average people of a society can at least recognize what the standards are even if they can't consciously recite them. The situation is analogous to the the former definition of porn where the judge may not have been able to define it, but he knew it when he saw it. And then there are those who either consciously or subconsciously have rejected being attracted to the societal standards or who like the standard but have also have broadened what they find attractive outside the standard. Gman

I like what I consider 'normal'. I don't want a guy with a lot of feminine mannerisms. On the other hand I am not interested in an overly macho guy whose every other word is a 'cuss-word' and who is overly abrasive. Gman