Gar1eth

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My go to is athletic muscular guys. And I met a lot of guys in good shape. Right off the bat the two that I remember best would be Skye Woods and Matt Miller. Matt was in a bulking phase, so he wasn't cut at all. But he was definitely big (as in muscular). But come to think of it, his tallywacker was no shrinking violet. The meeting with Matt went better than the meeting with Skye. Skye was a nice guy, but his interests really did revolve mainly around the gym and getting massages. We weren't a good match that way at all. Also sexually it was a better time with Matt. He was really into kissing-Skye not so much.

I'm sure you know, but just in case you don't, my understanding is that if the hook-up apps and/or dating sites realize someone is advertising, they will delete the profile. Of course the providers will often make a new one, but that's why in general the apps don't have more professionals advertising on them.

Yes, but if he doesn't answer back a request on the same day then the client never has a chance to be seen on that day.

As a strict top who doesn't even like a fingertip, I have the deepest admiration for those who bottom. https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1ED4BnNzoz/?mibextid=wwXIfr

I'm a bit confused on whether you think his fee is justified or not. So please for clarification- Did you mean that you see no reason NOT to pay such a high fee for a relative unknown-or did you mean that the high fee GIVES YOU A PAUSE-and you aren't sure the escort is worth it? Thanks

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One thing to keep in mind with texting although maybe it was just a mistake on my part that wouldn't happen to anyone else. What happened was years ago I was arranging an overnight with an escort with a stellar reputation here on the Message Center and/or the long dead Review Site (may it rest in peace) who was planning to visit Dallas from DC. So we texted details, and everything was going fine. I would have been fine with stopping the communication at some point. But then he'd text, and I'd feel as if I was supposed to respond back. Then in the course of these texts, I said something which he took amiss. He became very upset-said I had been texting him way too much-was taking up too much of his time-and canceled our overnight. I texted back that he kept texting me-and that I was only responding back to answer his texts. Well he calmed down after that, and we resumed our previous plans for the overnight-possibly the potential loss of income helped get him past his snit faster. But after that incident, I always tried to keep in mind how many texts some of these escorts get-and tried to be reasonably succinct.

While not the subject of this thread-I have to give an update since things didn't go the way I expected. I can't go into why. But I did think it was the end of a relationship. I'm a bit concerned he may be more into me than I am into him. On the other hand maybe not as I am in deep like. In any case we had an in depth talk. I broke down at one point because I thought things were over. But for now it looks like I was wrong. The relationship continues. And if it sounds like I don't know my own mind, I probably don't. I'm in my 60's. And this is really only my second relationship. I mean I've had a few "buddies" in the past (probably less than 7 over 24 years of being sexually active and all but one of those occurred during a fairly short span between 2012 to 2018). But except for one moderately deep relationship of maybe a year's duration 8 or 9 years ago-I've never had anyone I could count on -on a routine basis. And the current relationship surpasses that one by a mile as I was fairly sure back then that as much as I liked the guy, due to circumstances and compatibility, I didn't feel we were a forever couple. I can't tell y'all how relieved I was when I realized that we weren't breaking up whatever it is we have. Thank you all for your kind indulgence of letting me update my situation. And now back to the subject at hand of loss -how to deal with it and the feelings surrounding it

I think that's really nice that you do that Rod. It's that kind of attitude and attention to clients that always makes me a bit sad that we never met in person. We would have but (at least once I really knew what I was doing) I didn't knowingly hire strict tops. Some of the members on here sometimes go overboard in defending their favorites. I don't think I was ever one of those. And I'm especially not now as I'm no longer hiring. And in this case I've never even met @Rod Hagen in person, but only interacted with him here on the Message Center. Even with this limited knowledge of him, I'm going to have to respectfully disagree with @ApexNomad. To my mind this is no different than a husband or boyfriend needing to jot a reminder of a birthday or anniversary. @Rod Hagenknows a lot of people. He'd need an eidetic memory like Sheldon Cooper to be able to remember personal details about all of them. The fact that he cares enough to try to personalize the experience speaks volumes to his care for his regular clients.

Loss is usually very emotional. @BlackSheep-it appears from what you wrote that you've carried the loss of your friend inside you all these years. I think I'm a lot like you. I don't get over severe losses easily. Saying you should move on is very easy to say, but in your case (and mine) may not really be easy or even possible to do. I'm most likely going to experience a loss in a relationship on this coming Tuesday. I've been dreading the discussion I'm going to have to have. I'm not willing to explain why on here. But I've been getting teary at the thought. The relationship is only a few months old. But I thought it might deepen. And this may be the last romantic relationship I ever have. And it's only my second ever. I'm not even sure of the best way to do it. I wish I had an answer for you on getting over loss because then I might have an answer for me too.

Actually I just went to HideMe, and the box was still there.

Ok I did try that on my iphone. But it made no difference in the way the site looked nor did it help me read the Reviews on HideMe. There was definitely a box there. You could pick the country of the server you wanted to try if the default (possibly The Netherlands) wasn't working for you.

Unless maybe you meant use the desktop site on an actual computer. If @likembbbig, that's what you meant, I don't currently have a computer to use for that. All I have is my phone.

That didn't work for me. I wonder if it's a change in RM, HideMe, or both.

Using Chrome, and possibly Safari, on my iphone, I've noticed lately on Rentmen.eu that HideMe no longer lets me see the reviews. It will show the review page momentarily like this. But will then flash to this.

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Did I do that?

I wouldn't call it dating quite yet.

You are definitely correct. I misspoke... errr mis-wrote. We are. We've even met each other's mothers. And I, somewhat inadvertently, last Saturday (including his mother) met about 10 people of his extended family. His mother came in to town last week. And he invited me to meet her and go out to eat with them. Well unbeknownst to either A or myself, it was a surprise party for his birthday at the restaurant. What happened was- he let his mother and me out before parking the car. His mother says-we're having a surprise party for A-and walls into the restaurant to look for their party. I wait outside for A. I tell him his mother went inside to get a table. We walk in, and he sees his family. It was a bit awkward-just because I wasn't expecting a family party. But I managed to behave myself. I'll even say more about this. First background-my immediate family (Mom, sibs and sibs's significant others.) are accepting although I've never had a boyfriend before. I don't know if that would cause any stress (I have a very conservative niece-in-law who is a lovely person. But I'm not sure if I ever had a boyfriend if he'd be welcome at my nephew and niece's house). I have no idea what my nieces and nephew or my cousins know about me. His mother knows he's gay. But she's from a smaller town. And has lived in small towns most of her life. She would rather not think about the fact that A is gay. A and his mother had a contentious phone call weeks ago about him being gay. And my name came up -and the fact that we were 'making the beast with two backs.' (My euphemism not his). So his less accepting mother knows about us. But I didnt tell my more accepting mother about us although Mom is pretty bright. I'm sure she suspects. But *this is the first time I've ever introduced anyone I was having sex with to my family. So a big milestone for me at 65 when it probably happens for most people somewhere between 16 and their early 20's. * Eight years ago I had something probably between an fbud and friend with benefits. It actually was more of a friend with benefits now that I think about it. I would have gladly introduced him to my family, but this was when I was in Washington state. And none of my family was around. I definitely wouldn't have been able to introduce him as more than a friend as he was married (to a man). But they were open (I had seen his husband's profile on a hook-up app-so I know they were). In fact I'm not sure if they were much more than roommates at that point as they ended up getting a divorce after I moved back to Texas.

Apparently he is out to some people whether he wants to be or not. In the spirit of full disclosure since I started this thread, I probably ought to reveal the number of partners I've had over the last two months or so. As I recall there have been 3. Let's call them A, B, and C. A is an 'fbud'. I met him from a 'meet-up/hook-up' website last October. We've been seeing each other on a semi-routine basis over the last several months. It's been nice. I've only ever had one other fbud relationship. And that was 8 years ago. I wasn't sure I was ever going to be lucky enough to have another one. We don't just have sex. We watch TV together and have been out to eat several times. Last night we watched TV, held hands, and kissed a bit. B is a 'suckbuddy' that I met off of Growlr about 2 years ago. We finally met about a year ago. We've only met for 'Clintonian' sex. In this scenario (in case anyone is curious), I'm acting the part of Clinton, and he's Ms. Lewinski but in a totally masculine way (hoping that's not TMI). With him, while I wouldn't mind seeing him outside the bedroom, it hasn't happened. We were seeing each other fairly regularly (once a week) for about 6 to 9 months. But due to his schedule/life we've probably only seen each other once or twice over the last three months. The last time I saw him was the last part of March. C is a one night-possibly a two-night stand (one night now and one long ago). It happened last week as I was leaving a friend's house after having dinner with him and his partner. He lives about 30 miles from me. After I left his house, I started checking the apps because occasionally I've had good luck with the guys in his area. Well, I ended up checking the apps for about two hours. I was finally getting ready to shut them down and go home when this guy texts me on Scruff. He was kind of cute. So I decided I'd meet him. I get there. Things proceed as they do. He asked me if we had met before. I told him I didn't think so, but on the other hand, I had met someone in the area most likely before Covid for a one time meeting. While I didn't remember what that guy looked like, it's possible it was him. But if it was, it was a very unsatisfactory meeting back then. He basically got off and didn't do a lot for helping me. I left "unfulfilled" And if it was him, history repeated itself. We started with a Clintonian scenario-again I'm Clinton. He then proceeds to tell me he was drinking all evening before I arrived. Basically he was all 'eff-ed' up. He was developing 'the spins.' As things hadn't really progressed that far, I put on my clothes and left with neither of us 'fulfilled.' If this was the same guy I met years ago-and just because of circumstances I'm going to assume it is-he now has two strikes against him. I don't plan on giving him an opportunity for a third strike. And that's my current "like-life."