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On 6/26/2023 at 2:43 PM, GTMike said:

I don't know whether there is a one size fit's all for "preferred options". You will find a very very wide range of folks on that site and will have very different ideas as to what being a "SB" means.

I will comment that I haven't explored or looked for "personal assistant" type situations from there but over the years I have come across quite a few profiles whereby the SB specifically state that they're interested in part-time work such as small house jobs, opportunities to network within specific industries and would take assistant roles, internships, and/or run chores as an assistant etc..

I can't say from that population if they really mean it or had other motives and/or would ultimately do it proficiently and satisfactorily etc..

Point being that some do say that's what they're interested in.

In my experience, a blue-haired mid 50ies lady is a way better personal assistant than a hot jock/twink.

Any experience with this gentleman?

Here are some thoughts based on my rich history of hookups and various fwbs/fbs.
Sometimes sex with Asian guys goes as usual. They usually bottom.
I had several encounters with Asian guys that were somewhat odd. It sometimes starts in foreplay, and sometime it starts when I start fucking. The oddness is in a way they touch me. It's a combination of pinching, grabbing, and tweaking various parts of my body, including earlobes. While it was not a complete turn-off, it's not the experience I dream about every night.
I had no so great experiences with non-Asian guys, but mainly due to a lack of interaction in foreplay.
I did not mean to generalize these findings, so you interpret that as you wish.

On 6/28/2022 at 12:57 PM, The Big Guy said:

I realize he is not everyone’s type but I always thought he was adorable.  Several years ago, when he was located in the Columbus Circle are in NYC, I reached out while I was there on business but sadly got no response.  I hope he is doing well. 

It is hard to describe what I feel towards him. I am definitely grateful for all the videos he made. I feel sad that he became HIV positive and now has to live with it. You can see from his videos that he is a kind and cheerful guy.

I had a guy who actually liked when there is some shit on the condom and it smells - reminded his of his earlier sexual experiences and experiments in his teenage years when it was a normal outcome.

I wonder if any of the providers were ever paid in prop money, something they use in movies. As I understand the transaction is usually quick and has some awkwardness. Or it may be dark, or a bill on a top may be real but others are not.

So my question is what you did (or would do) if you you were paid in prop money? Contact a client? What if they block you? Contact the police?

Gay sex can be messy because of lube and other substances. What's your solution to keep your bed in order - changing sheets after an encounter, use specialized water-resistant sheets, put a towel under "working parts", have sex in a standing position?

Anyone has recommendations for Fargo-Morehead area?

On 11/30/2021 at 6:59 AM, cokimstr61 said:

Hey gents. I’ve been hiring escorts and masseurs on and off for almost 20 years now. 

I’ve had a rough last 7 years after an accident and subsequently a break up with a long time partner. 

Now 5 surgeries later on my neck and shoulder and one pending on a torn hip muscle and lots of depression. I get regular medical massages and PT 

I’m a 50 year old bear. 6’ 235. Well groomed and clean with what I’m told is a decent sized tool. Because of the medical issues and some trust issues I choose not to date or hook up right now. It’s easier for me to hire for intimacy. 

When looking to hire all I’m looking for is a couple of hours of ME time. A sensual/erotic massage naked with mutual touch…2 hours of relaxation and pleasure. It doesn’t need to be a true therapeutic massage just intimacy. I am not very fond of most anal activities and it’s sometimes a real turn off to me. I enjoy just being touched everywhere and maybe some oral. I don’t think that’s very much to ask.

Every time I contact to hire I explain my situation and tell them exactly what I’m looking for.  My issue is that out of about 20 different guys I’ve hired over the past year only 2 have given me what I ask for. The rest have either come up short and most of them end up sitting on my cock so they can get fucked when I explicitly said that’s not one of the activities I was looking to do. 

I know a lot of you might think that I’m getting more than I ask for but it’s not what I want and once I’m inside him it’s difficult for me to say “hey. What are you doing. Get off” so I usually finish. 

So my question i is. How do I get a provider to give me what I’m looking for and not what they want? 

I hate to beat a dead horse. Communication?

On 11/18/2021 at 4:13 PM, Rand said:

Hey y’all. 
So I’m asking providers and everyone else. 
Yesterday I had absolutely terrifying experience with one of the providers and wanted your opinion on how to resolve this situation or what to do, or maybe just put it all behind me. 
 

We chatted nicely for some time and he sounded like a nice sweet guy. Exchanged some pics in the messages and both were excited. I decided to take a chance and meet at his place. After spending almost an hour to get there, he opened the door. He was standing behind it and I walked in (why I did it explain later). I saw a guy with about 15-20lb extra (old pics 🤦🏻‍♂️), candy wraps, trash and cigarette buds everywhere on the floor, stained walls and sheets. He was holding a cigarette in the hand and immediately closed the door. It smelled horrible in there. Within a minute I decided to leave that hole but he just locked and blocked the door and started being agitated. I tried to move him away from the door but he said “You don’t want to fight me”. My first thought was “I’m gonna fucking die in this hole”. I said I don’t feel save and want to leave right now. When he asked why, I just pointed him at all that mess and said I can’t be here anymore. He was looking high or on something and started saying that he spent time on “cleaning his place and waiting for me” so I suppose to pay him anyway. I said that I spent 2 minutes (would be seconds if I had access to the door) in his place and not gonna pay $300 for that. After some arguing and trying to calm him down I said I’ll pay him $50 for “his time”, sent him money and ran out of that apartment. Can’t find words to describe how awful I felt on so many levels! He was texting me afterwards that he has a big dick and asking why I left. My first impulse was to explain why and what, but I decided to just ignore all that. Didn’t see the reason to explain obvious things and waste anymore time on that person. Big dick doesn’t mean you can be a dick and people will suck it willingly in this shithole. Maybe some that are desperate will but I’m not amongst them!

 I’m sharing this a day later because I wanted to my emotions so set and relax. 
 

Now about why I entered apartment without looking at him carefully in the first place. He does look like on pictures. I didn’t notice that pics were outdated right away. He has a lot of good reviews on Rentmen with only couple of them negative quite some time ago. And he actually a member of this forum.

I’m not posting his name because I don’t know what to do with this situation. At least not decided should I leave a terrible review or just leave it all behind. 
 

Have you been in that kind of situation? What did you do?

Peace to everyone ✌️

I am very sorry this happened to you. Generally, behaving in unpredictable way is a good strategy to turn the situation around - screaming, pretending to pass out, opening a refrigerator and throwing things on the floor would disrupt his way of doing things - which I am sure were done before. However I completely understand if you just froze.

There is also one pattern here. Messy apartments are more likely to indicate that your experience won't be the greatest.

54 minutes ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

I’ve already put a notice in my profile and will be sending a screen shot to every client who contacts me. STOP 🛑 Don’t proceed without reading! $25 Payment due within 2 messages!

 

A useful thought exercise for you. If you are a client and you want to hire, how would you interpret this message ($25 Payment due within 2 messages)? What does it tell you about the provider?

Second thought exercise. Try to compare and contrast experienced/novice clients from the first exercise. Additionally, account for probability of being hired by these categories of clients. 

Finally, the third, most challenging. Estimate the impact of this strategy on your monthly earnings.

So, one of my dreams come true. Austin L Young started proving services (although I cannot find his profile). Here is his Tweet about his not so great experience:

I always liked the kid and his videos. Even not so much for his look - although he is very cute - but for his commitment to what he is doing. You can tell - and he speaks about this in some of his videos - that he likes what he is doing and authentically wants to be there. watching the world around me, especially service/retail industry, that is a rare trait. I would probably sign up for non sexual encounter with him.

Anyone saw his profile or had experience with him?

  More on the story (disclaimer you may cry if you are are emotional)

https://twitter.com/AustinLYoungXXX/status/1414356220161323010

https://twitter.com/AustinLYoungXXX/status/1414406210757951488

https://twitter.com/AustinLYoungXXX/status/1414406502916399107

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Same story, same industry, different character. It's incredibly sad, but it's not unexpected.

 

It's a shady as fuck business that attracts good looking, immature guys who are given a chunk of money and usually develop a lot of bad habits. The few who have done well I commend. They're definitely in the minority.

 

Porn will continue on the same track as always because no one expects better from that business aside from studios putting out hot content.

 

I've always felt that people who get into porn should first be given personality/mental health tests to see if they can handle the rigors.

Yes, it's a known phenomenon. And there is an interesting, new trend happening when guys make good chunks of money using onlyfans like Reno Gold. To me, it looks like this path protects them from early deaths. What do you guys think?

Pretty much every big school has tons of good-looking young men. I'd say some of them can be intellectually curious and it adds to their hotness scale.

My 2 cents here. I have decent size, about 6 inches cock. It's think and straight. Several times on Grindr after seeing its pictures and being open about its size I was rejected for the reason not being big enough. With three guys that rejected me I hooked up later not showing dick dick (I probably lied about size, these details escaped my memory).

In all three cases guys complained that it is painful and they cannot take it any longer. So I had my revenge.

The guy looks gorgeous.

I just cannot forget "rosebud" I saw in one of his videos.

I wish I could have unseen it and move on to hiring.

 

since he's very affordable and you guys are getting along, can you just tell him, in a casual/friendly way, what you'd like him to do/say and, somewhat unrelated-y, tell him you'd be delighted to compensate him at a higher rate??

 

or did I get this wrong??!!

Somewhat right. I guess I just want more for the extra and he is already doing everything I communicated.

So, I met a guy on Seeking Arrangement and he is becoming my regular. We normally meet for a fixed amount, have dinner, fun, and spend a night together. I am thinking to propose some alternative model where he gets rewarded for doing things I like without being prompted (like call me by my first name, cuddle after sex, wearing underwear I like, etc). I will add a certain amount for each checkpoint that he met. The reason I want to try this that is that he is super affordable with his base rate (he is very inexperienced) and I would to bring an element of fun/game into our interactions.

Has anyone tried to have different compensation model for the guys you see based on their performance (I know some people tip escorts)? How did you communicate it to escorts?

For the guys in option 2, what happened? Did they take up your offer? I’m not sure i would offer anything for someone that had “nothing special”...

They said they are not interested and expected something different. I asked how much they want and they never gave me an answer.

Need advice here. I try to video chat with guys before I meet them. At some point, we have a conversation about how much I am ready to pay if we meet them. I tried two scenarios.

1. Ask them how much they want. One said a grand per meeting on top of his travel. He lives in a different city and I would say he is average looking. I said that the most I can do is $200. He vanished.

2. When a guy asked how much I would pay, I gave them the number. In one case I offered 200, in another case, it was 100. I understand that this is on the lower end, but when there is nothing special (cute face or muscles or great personality and presence) I am not ready to pay more.

What's the best way to handle this? Not bring money at all?

For those that use Instagram for hiring - can you share your strategies?

I have used a strategy suggested by someone previously - paying $50 just to meet for coffee and chat and just had my first meet. It was great! The guy was nice and pleasant, showed me a couple of good places to eat and I had overall a great time.

Now we are moving towards more intimate things, like spending a night together. I have never spent a night with an escort before, but I want slow sensational encounter. Any tips from the pros how to make it happen in the best way?

Has anyone tried pad account there? Is it possible to download any videos with paid membership?

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I started account on Seeking Arrangements. I had several chats with guys from there. One of the steps I do "behind the scenes" is finding their profiles on social media and any traces they left on internet. The purpose of this "stalking" is to confirm that I am talking to a real person, and not being catfished and see if they are not lying. And I noticed an interesting phenomenon. I am interested in guys 18-25 yo, who belong to generation that is more cognizant on what they put on social media. You know who is less cognizant? Their moms. For two guys I chatted on SA, there were only few clothed pics on their Facebook pages, but their moms had tons of pics of theirs sons (including shirtless, sport events, family gatherings). If only they knew.

That the vast majority of the men I’ve hired over the past 25 years or so (I’m very picky) are intelligent, honest, thoughtful and had a sense of direction. Granted, a few were not quite so focused, but I’ve met some great guys and I’ve remained in contact with them and trust that they’ve benefited in some way or another. A few are still in the business, some have retired, some went into various fields, etc. I have given serious thought to writing a book one day about my adventures.

You must have a rare gift of finding guys who are in that zone where they need a little support (financial or advice) and it gets them on a path where they can live a happy life.