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If I understood @badger correctly, he understands that it's ok, or desirable, to be explicit about what he wants -- but he is too shy/inhibited to express himself directly (something I understand from personal experience). Sharing porn that illustrates what you lust for is one way to deal with that shyness. Another might be to phrase things a little obliquely, along the lines of "I saw a porn scene once that really turned me on. They were [fill in the blank]." Or, a little more directly, "I sometimes find myself fantasizing about [...]." Absolutely! Some escorts will naturally push you to explore; others hesitate for fear of scaring you or turning you off. Letting them know that you're open to new experiences is important.

yup...I love dark and seedy and (therefore) the old Johnny's. For me, darkness and seediness are compromised once women are part of the crowd...which is also why old Montreal appealed much more to me than new Montreal

what he said

Been a couple of years since I've seen him, but back then I would have rated him ***** for sexiness, customer service, and overall nice-guyness.

Merci!

That makes me very sad. He was always friendly and gracious to me, starting from my very first trips to Montreal when I had zero experience with strip clubs and their etiquette. If you have a link to an obituary, I'd appreciate your posting it.

I would take it as a compliment...would only get pissed off if he persisted after I told him "no"

Check out Molly Katzen's web site. I love her original Moosewood Cookbook recipe (which may be on the site; if not, google it) and there is one called something like "Lentil Soup with a Hint of Fruit" on the web site.

Hardly minimal over the past 22 years...though I will readily admit that the scenarios I described are much less common nowadays

I was there a couple of days ago. Even with timed entry, it was uncomfortably crowded. One of the glories of the "old" Frick was how you could have a whole room almost to yourself with unhurried time to linger. I'm hopeful that things will get better once the novelty of the re-opening has passed. Still one of my favorite museums, right up there with the Norton Simon in Pasadena.

Arm over your shoulder? What about those who start massaging your shoulders? Or even better, the ones who sidle up to you at the bar, strike up conversation, and begin tweaking your nipples or groping you? (In my experience, the latter fall into 2 groups: the ones trying to con you into lap dances who deliver practically nothing once you agree; and the ones -- often the younger twinkier types -- who enjoy flirting and foreplay. The latter are almost always good value in the booths.)

I've been the client in this situation once or twice. And one time I actually went home without paying (the bliss😁!) without the escort's saying a word. When I called a few hours later to apologize profusely and make arrangements to pay, he laughed off my apologies...he said he knew I would eventually figure it out. Talk about trust!

This is pretty much what I do as well. The key is "regular poster" -- I don't share with random folks who reach out to me. I'm happy to do this because I've benefitted many times from replies to my own queries here.

There *are* high schools that offer Chinese as a language option...I've met a few college students over the years who entered with 4 or more years of hs Chinese.

Has Campus gotten more lively in the afternoons? Used to be my go-to afternoon place, but for the past several years it's been dead at that time...essentially no dancers.