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"Generous" , "G4P" (gay for pay) were the codewords that connected amateur providers with clients on Craigslist personals. We need to come up with and popularize new codewords to use on the new media and help break Rentmen's monopoly. Any suggestions?

Welcome. The dialogue that takes place on this forum is an excellent example of the good side of the internet. I dont recall how i found this forum a few years back. Google search algorithm must have suggested it from the sites i frequented (rentmen, jock2go etc). Is that how you found it? If yes, everyone please note that Bard AI has learned about the connection between those sites and this forum.

The gay context here is about finding an advisor who is not surprised by a grown man who can not confidently talk about terms such as annuity, equity, money market, asset class etc and does not take advantage of the situation to push investment products that benefit him more than me. I do have a woman's intuition though. When financially savvy macho men were dancing on the rooftops about their crypto portfolio and NFTs a couple years ago, my intuition told me that there was something fishy about this. I stayed on the sidelines and that saved me some heartburn later.

I am gen x gay man. I started investing in my early thirties - mostly in ETFs, IRAs etc. My elder brother was my advisor. He is straight and financially savvy. In last 8-9 yrs he stopped advising me as my money grew. I work a tech job and make more than he does. I have always maxed my 401k contributions and have IRAs. As a left brained person, I have zero interest in financial matters. I would rather play piano, watch a movie or do something else than doing spreadsheets. If i were straight, I'd be the wife who leaves all money matters to the husband. But I am gay and on my own. I am getting increasingly worried that I am not managing my money well. Over last 5-6 years i have relied on robot investment advisors like WealthFront and Betterment. Can someone here recommend a gay friendly financial advisor who understands my situation (unattached financially unsavvy gay man who makes a decent income but is not a superwealthy guy) . I live in Northern California.

These are usually made at home by local women who themselves deliver it. I tried once. The meal was ok. Not sure what cleanliness standards are followed in home kitchens.

I am gen x and in my younger days i used to have negative opinion of gay men who got married to women. When i came out in the 90s to my parents, my own father suggested that I should marry a woman for stability and to follow the societal norms and play with men on the side. The twenty-something me soundly rejected that idea. Now i think i am more mature and understand breadth and depth of human sexuality and the choices people make to survive. No negativity from me. I hope you find some friends in your area.

He is a sweet guy. Slow in responding, into haute couture and expensive fast cars. But smart and friendly. Go for it. He admits the pic in the ad is a decoy and sends you his real pics when you message him.

I have met him and posted about him in another thread. He is real. He is highly unavailable, selective and not very enthusiastic about new business. I suspect this a side-hustle for him that he does whenever he fancies.

I say the same thing when i buy my groceries.

The tabletop antennae are not good enough. I have tried those in many configurations and types. One does need a rooftop antenna for the best coverage.

About a decade ago I cut the cord, cancelled my expensive cable service and joined a streaming TV service that was cheaper. I tried Sling, YouTube TV, Sony (defunct now), Hulu with Live TV. All had crappy user interfaces that were slow. Eventually all raised their prices and now cost same as cable. I am not handy enough to climb the rooftop and install a good antenna to get broadcast tv. But after getting tired of climbing streaming bills, endless ads to forward through, crappy programming, I finally decided to cancel my streaming TV. I haven't truly cut the cord. I will still get news etc via regular YouTube and other local TV free apps on my Smart TV. But for now, it's goodbye to linear TV.

That's Sean Cody model named Addison. Story at the link below: https://www.advocate.com/crime/2012/02/06/former-sean-cody-porn-star-pleads-guilty-murder#toggle-gdpr

Here is another one in the same genre, but more international and gruesome: https://nypost.com/2023/08/08/daniel-sancho-bronchalo-arrested-for-murder-in-thailand/

Another question: I work for a well-known company with a global footprint and liberal company policies. Do you guys think using my employer provided insurance for my PreP would jeopardize my employment in any way? The political and social environment in the US is currently seem to be turning pretty hostile toward sexual minorities.

I live in the suburbia. Originally i chose a PCP based a recommendation from a friend and because of her prior work with HIV and the gay community. But last year she half retired due to some health issues. They assigned a new PCP. The practice and the new PCP does not seem particularly oriented toward gay men and their issues. Once, my original PCP was out of office and I had something I thought was an STI. When I told the nurse practitioner about it, it seemed like it was a scandal around the office. The NP did a urine test in the office and the aides gave me dirty looks. That practice is used to family patients. I interpreted the dirty looks as them saying - you cheating bastard or something to that effect. So for PreP, I would rather seek someone who is familiar with the gay lifestyle and is non-judgemental. In San Francisco there are practices like that, but the suburbs around SF are very family oriented. A friend of mine, who is a bttm and HIV poz, told me his boyfriend, who is a top, gave him HIV. He said his bf got it from getting oral sex. Although i know the chances of getting it through top oral sex are miniscule, I get paranoid after every meeting with a provider. Lately, I am also enjoying getting deep-throated and a lot of guys, because they think i have a good dick, love to suck on it very deep. In last few years, i am topping (protected) quite a bit. Before that i rarely got into insertive anal sex in any position. Finally, one of these days, I do want to experience bareback topping..since i have never done it. I want to enjoy sex at least once as nature intended. So i decided PreP is in order to get some peace of mind and perhaps explore bareback at least once with someone trustworthy.

I am considering going on PreP. I have health insurance through my employer and a regular primary care physician I see. But i dont want to ask her to prescribe PreP. I checked with my insurance provider. They cover Truvada generic for $0 and Discovey for $50. I have read the thread on Truvada vs Discovey. To get the prescription, I am considering Mistr or Nurx. Given Mistr is a Florida outfit and they offer initial testing for $0, I am a bit suspicious. Nurx seems to have better reviews. What are your experiences? Would you recommend one vs the other? Or someone else altogether? Another thought is..I have been hiring for last 22 yrs. I am an oral and anal top. I always use protection if i top a guy. I haven't caught anything serious yet. So, may be the practice I follow is sufficient and I don't need PreP ? Would appreciate feedback from other folks here (except Nurx, Mistr marketeers, if any here).

Previous discussion on him does not paint a positive picture : https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/141815-411-on-professionalman-nyc/#comment-2113798 and https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/132621-411-jerrydeepmasseus-in-nyc/

Through my somewhat chubby kid --> chubby undergrad -> toned and out grad -> thin late twenties -> in good shape thirties -> beefy forties , i have never felt comfortable in my own body. After weed became legal and easily available in California, I had my first edible and an out-of-body experience where "I" clearly felt separate from the "body" and felt like "I" should get rid of that body and enter the body of a hot smooth-skinned muscled boy from Instagram and fly away to exotic destinations. I think when i hire a hot provider, i am trying to enter him in more ways than two😀 .

I dont think VR will ever be able to simulate warmth of a human body and the scent of sex.

I am too not worried about when my time is up. With a plane, my biggest irrational fear was about those few seconds / minutes of sheer terror as it fell out of the sky. Imagining what the passengers of the Alaska Air flight 261 went through in 2000 when the plane crashed into the Pacific ocean just northwest of LAX used to give me night terrors. It took them 12 minutes to crash. For the last few minutes before the crash the plane flew upside down (like in the Denzel Washington movie Flight ).

None of the stats and above arguments will help @sync with his irrational fear of flying. I can vouch for this first hand as a fearful flyer with a job that required me to travel until my mid-thirties. More than my job the flying part was a challenge. I read all kinds of books, learned stats, understood the technology behind how modern jets fly and navigate, how turbulence impacts a jet etc. Nothing helped. Inside a plane my fear was so obvious that sometimes the flight attendants would offer me a glass if water. Then my doc prescribed xanax and it changed my life. It completely killed the fear. Now severe turbulence feels like a roller coaster ride and i look forward to my travels (except the deteriorated overall flying experience) .

Is it odd that in my middle age i want to go bar hopping and have this strong urge to dance to Kylie Minogue's "Padam Padam" or Troye Sivan's "Rush", go back to my hotel room at 2 am and hire a hot provider? I suspect this is a symptom of a mid-life crisis? In my 20s i did not enjoy this kinda life. I was too busy looking for love in all the wrong places, too sad when my friends got numbers from other guys and i didnt, too jealous when my crush danced with another guy, feeling too fat or too thin, too much job/career/college anxiety. Now i dont care and am ready to let my hair down!

Thank you all for chiming in. This has helped me schedule my next trip.

What city in the US other than West Hollywood (and the Castro district in SF) has a block or two of a variety of gay bars to hop around?

That Ramada is awful, but affordable. I once stayed there and hired a provider from RM. He just had to walk from his room to mine.