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Yeah one of the pix appeared in the TommyEighteen profile that appeared for San Francisco last week. RM deleted it for being fake.

Rentmen kindly deleted the profile.

It's a fake profile. A reply to the ad was responded by https://rentmen.eu/AndrewSuperFit . I think it's Andrew (if he is real) himself from years ago. Andrew says 23 yrs, but the male pattern baldness showing in Andrew's pics at 23 seems somewhat unlikely. Seems like a couple of gay4pay str8ish guys traveling in a pack.

He flaked out on me too last year. Told me he was outside my hotel, but none showed up. I think this is a prank profile.

I met him in LA a year or so before the pandemic began. Not a particularly memorable experience. Also, despite my well-in-advance request, there were hygiene issues in a certain area that turned me off. It seemed a bit odd the way he talked . May be there was no good chemistry. So despite the good looks, it was not worth it.

Flat butt..pass

Sorry about your experience! Would be great for our peers if you posted a starred review on Rentmen.

I met him in Denver last summer. The experience was not particularly memorable. But he was friendly and professional. Pics are a bit dated.

I saw him recently. He is a nice guy, and will do the job as promised, but he is probably 10 or more years older than he lets out. He will send a face pic via Snapchat since those messages disappear after a while, but that pic is likely him 10 yrs ago. Body is defined, but not the kind that a late twenties guy would have. At 400/hr he is overpriced for what he has to offer.

3 yrs ago I switched jobs. I had worked for the previous tech company for almost 13 yrs. In the new company almost everyone was younger than me and in tight jeans and speaking in acronyms that I did not understand. That's when it all dawned upon me. I wasn't the cool kid on the block anymore. I quietly logged on to my 401K management and turned my risk tolerance levels to a lower number. As a single gay man with no kids or any other younger relations around me, I never got accustomed to being the village elder.

Does asshole count?

Yes they have. However, as a timid , overly self-aware, and someone who finds it very difficult to strike a conversation up with a stranger, I find a cell phone a useful device when I venture into a bar out of sheer boredom. I read NYT articles half-heartedly to appear engaged and not be a lonely loser nobody pays attention to.

I recently met a guy from RM and we were chatting about he got into the biz. He told me it was his gf who started with Seeking Arrangement where she would set up 'dates' with older men, ask them to pay for gas to meet for dinner, get a free dinner, and then ghost the person. Apparently many college kids use the trick to get free fancy dinners. She got him to do the same thing ..and that opened him up to seeking more opportunities in the "biz" as he realized he could monetize his youthful good looks.

We crave what we can't get our hands on. I have had my share of disappointments when an escort who showed up at the door did not look like the pics I saw. I set up an appointment with this guy, didn't have high expectations, was waiting to meet him at a public place. A guy went past me and I could see his back. That perfect form, nice legs, bubble butt, the hair made me wish why I never get to meet a guy like this. Turns out he was the escort I had set up my appointment. Dream come true! Strange request: An escort asked me if I wanted him to come over with a butt plug lodged in place as he traveled to my place. Super hot!

Moreover I find Russian and eastern European escorts lack passion when it comes to intimacy. Very cold matter-of-fact approach. I may be stereotyping, but I have had this happen with almost all of the ones I have hired.

My father passed away at 86 last month. He got the Delta variant in April 2021, survived the infection. But it impacted his heart . In early Jan he got Omicron, survived that too. But by the end of Jan his heart gave away. My mom is still alive at 86 and survived two Covid infections. All my life I had dreaded the moment when my parents would start passing away. But when my father passed, after the initial bout of sadness, I was alright. Having seen so much death and turmoil over the last two years, I am glad he passed away without suffering too much. My hope was he would live for another 2-3 years, the climate of fear and anxiety would pass, and he would pass under happier circumstances. But now I am glad he did last month. With talks of world war III and the nuclear threat, I was wrong about happier days returning soon.

I was visiting Denver and reached out to multiple providers on RM to get rate quotes to figure base price for the city. Whoever was on the other side was able to figure I was using a Google Voice number and that I had reached out multiple providers. Then I realized those multiple providers were probably being handled by a single handler sitting somewhere with multiple phones or Burner app numbers or multi-SIM card phones.

Eros was my first experience with a gay sex club when I moved to California in mid nineties. I stayed mostly a spectator, but as a fresh out of college naive mind back then I remember being surprised by the variety of ways, tools, and games men use to have sex with other men. I was also surprised how the club got busy after 5 pm with commuters to the city trying to get some action before heading home (to their wives?) . Now, 23 years later, nothing surprises me anymore. Not sure if that's good or bad.

I have a theory based on a small dataset. Those who like celery hate cilantro and vice versa. I am in the latter group.

Before I gave up on casual Internet dating and started relying entirely on providers for fun, this kinda thing happened in normal dating / Grindr hookups as well. From behind the mobile/computer/voice mails screens worst of human decency comes out. This used to bother me to end and would make me mad. Now, as I aged, as many have said above, I am zen about it. This is a part of the lifestyle ...even outside the provider-client interaction. I understand it hurts more since this is how you earn your living, but don't let it bother you and don't make the mistake of accepting business from this guy.

I totally agree that providers are performers and meeting them is more transactional than anything else. However the fact that they are available (as long as I have a phone, a place, and good bank balance) is equivalent to knowing there is a well stocked grocery store in town in case I am starving or need something. ( Some of you may recall even this was hard to come by in the early days of the pandemic). You are lucky you found a long term companion and are enjoying your time with him/her. But some of us are not that lucky because of various reasons. Even with friends, a companion , and family there is nothing sure as you yourself saw when the pandemic began. Real family is one thing, but a lot of us from the pre-gay-marriage era thought of close friends from the 20s and 30s as family (Friendsgiving is how we celebrated Thanksgiving) . But those friendships evaporated fast as everyone aged or found greener pastures. A few lasted, but pandemic and the political divide last summer took them away as well. I will find new friends..may be even a LTR. But knowing and having a "well stocked store" nearby will always be reassuring.

MaxOcean seems to be the Russian model Roman Dawidoff living in LA. He has been discussed many times in this forum. This YouTube video shows him from 8 yrs ago

He doesn't send a face pic (that's a clue). When I decided to cancel because I couldn't make my mind up due to lack of a face pic, he was nearly abusive in his messages. Again, not a good sign.

As a gay man, in my 20s, 30s and early 40s I thought being single with providers taking care of the carnal part and other single friends to rely on for the social/emotional support part would be a good model to live a happy life. But in late 40s and early 50s the friend network dispersed and due to the pandemic it nearly dissipated. Provider quality deteriorated. That, in addition to waning interest in carnal pleasures, rising costs also caused the carnal side of my life to become unstable. Now I dig stable, loving companionship/ partnership. But I know I won't be happy with that arrangement either..given the freedoms I have grown accustomed to. Most likely I will die alone. But the memories of hot times with beautiful sexy providers will keep me company forever.

I texted him when I visited NYC mid Oct. He responded he was not in town several days later. Seems like a benefactor is paying for the RM ad, because he is definitely not much interested in getting the business. Or perhaps it is just a channel for driving clients to his Onlyfans.