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I have a theory based on a small dataset. Those who like celery hate cilantro and vice versa. I am in the latter group.

Before I gave up on casual Internet dating and started relying entirely on providers for fun, this kinda thing happened in normal dating / Grindr hookups as well. From behind the mobile/computer/voice mails screens worst of human decency comes out. This used to bother me to end and would make me mad. Now, as I aged, as many have said above, I am zen about it. This is a part of the lifestyle ...even outside the provider-client interaction. I understand it hurts more since this is how you earn your living, but don't let it bother you and don't make the mistake of accepting business from this guy.

I totally agree that providers are performers and meeting them is more transactional than anything else. However the fact that they are available (as long as I have a phone, a place, and good bank balance) is equivalent to knowing there is a well stocked grocery store in town in case I am starving or need something. ( Some of you may recall even this was hard to come by in the early days of the pandemic). You are lucky you found a long term companion and are enjoying your time with him/her. But some of us are not that lucky because of various reasons. Even with friends, a companion , and family there is nothing sure as you yourself saw when the pandemic began. Real family is one thing, but a lot of us from the pre-gay-marriage era thought of close friends from the 20s and 30s as family (Friendsgiving is how we celebrated Thanksgiving) . But those friendships evaporated fast as everyone aged or found greener pastures. A few lasted, but pandemic and the political divide last summer took them away as well. I will find new friends..may be even a LTR. But knowing and having a "well stocked store" nearby will always be reassuring.

MaxOcean seems to be the Russian model Roman Dawidoff living in LA. He has been discussed many times in this forum. This YouTube video shows him from 8 yrs ago

He doesn't send a face pic (that's a clue). When I decided to cancel because I couldn't make my mind up due to lack of a face pic, he was nearly abusive in his messages. Again, not a good sign.

As a gay man, in my 20s, 30s and early 40s I thought being single with providers taking care of the carnal part and other single friends to rely on for the social/emotional support part would be a good model to live a happy life. But in late 40s and early 50s the friend network dispersed and due to the pandemic it nearly dissipated. Provider quality deteriorated. That, in addition to waning interest in carnal pleasures, rising costs also caused the carnal side of my life to become unstable. Now I dig stable, loving companionship/ partnership. But I know I won't be happy with that arrangement either..given the freedoms I have grown accustomed to. Most likely I will die alone. But the memories of hot times with beautiful sexy providers will keep me company forever.

I texted him when I visited NYC mid Oct. He responded he was not in town several days later. Seems like a benefactor is paying for the RM ad, because he is definitely not much interested in getting the business. Or perhaps it is just a channel for driving clients to his Onlyfans.

Personally my demand is up (fueled by Covid loneliness, shattered/dispersed social connections in Covid aftermath, and a hi tech wfh job that paid well, and stock prices that went up), but lack of quality providers makes me wanna not spend. You pretty see the same providers seasonally visiting USA from LATAM roaming around the country. Each city has 1-2 good providers, but they usually don't bother to respond to text messages. Local str8/bi guys after a quick buck don't have a Craigslist-like mostly anonymous ad platform anymore. Mintboys ads are mostly scam and women-only ads ..with an occasional authentic ad with a standout provider. World's oldest profession..won't die out, but not sure what new form it will assume.

If a provider comes over, asks to use the bathroom for #2, you have a small apt and you can hear everything going on in there...would be a total buzzkill for me!

I met him last week. My experience with him was not spectacular. Asked for pics just before heading over. The meeting was very mechanical. Wasn't friendly. He is a big guy, some muscle, but not ripped. Hustles you if you want "extras" which are really not extras for most escorts charging 400/hr. Occupied the bttm bunk well for me though.

Staying in Manhattan for a few days. I know there have been many NYC provider recommendations and discussions before. But fishing for recos from the new post-pandemic scene. Looking for someone under 35 toned with thick legs preferably. Avid rimmer here.

Same - got it today. Looks like a spam bot figured RM IDs and sent bulk messages out.

Now Blane Johnson: https://rent.men/BlaneJohnson

This is a rename. Search forum for KyleJeffs for more info. For example, this thread:

May be my point did not come across well. I gave examples of situations which I personally experienced that led me to leave at least partly fake reviews because I had no recourse. So, this could be the reason why some people leave fake reviews. It is also possible that competitors in a shared market leave bad reviews for each other.

You assumed the communication was not on the RM messenger. It started there and moved to texting via phone. RM did accept the review..but to fit it within the options they provide, some parts had to be faked. Because if I choose 'meeting did not happen', RM generally does not accept the review.

Unfortunately RM provides very limited review options. Some providers are just rude communicators ( e.g. a provider I contacted responded 36 hours later and said he did not do same day appointments. I reminded him I contacted him almost 2 days ago. His response was , he will pass ..the conversation was polite, but I felt his attitude was very condescending. How do I review this to alert my fellow John's? ). Another one set up a meeting. We met outside the hotel lobby, and he had my stats and all other details ( including 'other' as ethnicity) before the meeting. When he noticed I was not white, he said he was taken aback and did not want to go forward. This was waste of my time . RM does not allow me to review such situations. So that could be the reason some clients post 'fake' reviews. They are 'fake' because the actual meeting did not take place, but a lot of things can happen outside the actual meeting.

I met hm. His pics are legit and real. His massage and related services are amazing. He may not have model type looks, but the body pics are all real. He is very creative and polite.

I think that response from typically the provider's handler means the provider is not available.. probably does not even live in the area. If you are willing to dole that kinda of money out he could even be flown in from elsewhere. But since the handler knows most won't pay as much, may be advertise the provider's OnlyFans content which the provider may have produced for the handler a while ago with no regular updates. This is a new business model.

As you can see in the attachment, on the escort contact page MintBoys states to be cautious about sending gift cards and advance deposits. Most MintBoys free too-good-to-be-true profiles are similar scams.

Yes, tried it for a month or so when it was rolled out. Didn't work for me.

Wants $$ sent beforehand. Perhaps MO to San Quentin 😃 .

With Craigslist and Backpage gone and the pandemic forcing them to stay home with wives/girlfriends, local str8ish guys, or college students after a quick buck are not reachable either. I checked RM in all major cities ..no particularly tempting options. Many RM profiles showing an 'available' green light don't respond, many same traveling profiles (Brazilians dominate) in multiple cities simultaneously - most likely just testing waters.

Yes, some of us do love ass for acts other than ploughing.

Isolated and distraught through the pandemic, this forum became my refuge. Although I do not know anyone in person, just reading through comments, discussions gave me a feeling of being connected with a community. When the site disappeared for a day, I missed a heartbeat. Like I lost someone to the pandemic. So glad we are back now. Heartfelt thanks to those who made it happen.