Kinky Boyfriend

When doing watersports, it's always important to pay special attention to hydration for the 24 hours beforehand.

As mentioned, it should be clear.

Do you prefer Tupperware or Rubberware?

Rubberwear is a lot more fun to play with!

If secure communication is a concern - one should be using an app such as Signal/Telegram or an encrypted email service such as Protonmail.

Text/Phone communication is not secure.

Using the above options are a bit more secure but only when both parties communicating use said services every time.

Oh - those are pretty normal questions - I'm surprised that you're not receiving a response based on those questions.

Hey there!

I know that for me personally if the questions dive into too explicit a territory or ask for the specific series of actions will take place during our time together - I draw back as that makes me uncomfortable for a multitude of reasons, not the least of which is the legal aspect.

What sort of questions are you asking / what details do you need to know?

I prefer between a week to a month in advance, though 24 hours in advance is my minimum with rare exception.

Schedule it like you would all other appointments.

I find that last-minute/on-call appointments tend to be less fulfilling for either party than appointments that allow time for the excitement to build up.

During a 1-2 hour session, that's a huge no.

With overnights/days/weekends, I believe there's a reasonable expectation of LIGHT phone use, but that should be discussed beforehand along with all of the itenerary for extended bookings.

Checking emails/texts once a day is a reasonable guideline - to make sure there's not something going on outside of the time together that needs his attention --- friend/family emergencies come to mind, but admin work as well.

Phone time, daily routine, sleeping expectations should be discussed along with the rest of the itenerary.

That being said, checking while in bed is just... Rude and tacky.

I've written about sexual orientation and sexual activity orientation before. So, I'm not going to get into that aspect of this scenario. Instead, I'm going to touch on the perception aspect, since that's what this is really all about. In other words, many of us have a thing for "straight guys" because of cultural and social expectations around masculinity.

 

For me, I have a thing for "straight guys" because my preference is for a masculine guy with a confident cocky attitude. I like "bros" and grew up around many military guys, so that kind of buttoned up yet intense confidence coupled with "guy" attitude.

 

That leads me to guys who market themselves as "straight," "bi," or "ask me." I'm slowly branching out, but haven't found a "gay" professional who pushes my buttons. I'm sure I'll get there one day.

 

Please remember, I'm talking about how a provider markets themselves because it's entirely possible for guys who identify as straight to engage in same-sex activity, depending on their sexual activity orientation and the incentives/pressures involved.

I think this discussion would be illuminated if we had teens and 20-somethings weigh in. Are their any on the forum?

 

At least for me, they seem to be on the frontier of re-thinking labeling. Two of my friends have children who just will not define themselves as gay, straight, or bi. One of them will also not identify themself by gender. As they describe me, I'm a "man (because I choose to identify as such) who has sex with men," period. They see that as a descriptor more than a label. It's a refreshing POV, respectful of each of us as persons who own our own bodies and the words/concepts we use we identify ourselves.

Another 20-something chiming in:

First and foremost, as gender is a spectrum, so must sexuality be.

Sexuality is fluid.

Sexual attraction can stem from one's appearance, body parts, behavior, identity, or even such arbitrary things as one's occupation (firefighters, anybody?)

What turns you on is based on your life experiences and interactions, so as you have more experiences -- your potential for arousal changes.

What we as a society view as "sexual" is socially constructed - it can very much change across cultures and time periods.

It's sexual because we decided it is - think of all the sexual activities that one can do that don't involve penetration or even orgasm

(especially when one dives into the Fetish/BDSM/Kink world.)

As @LivingnLA referenced, the attraction to straightness stems from our society's stranglehold on / relationship with masculinity.

In reference to men who have sex with men, they are seen as the golden calf because they are theoretically unobtainable and represent the desired male role from mainstream society's standpoint --- what men who identify as gay are often ostracized for not being.

The fetishization of straightness has at its core internalized homophobia.

My favorite intimate interactions have been with those who explore beyond strict labeling when it comes to intimacy.

My Labels

- Queer

- Homoflexible/Pansexual with a preference

I’m not the best at blowjobs but I have been doing my best to improve. I just don’t get the sense people enjoy how I give them and I have never been able to make anyone cum. Any suggestions on how to be better at it?

 

To be honest I’m a bit embarrassed to ask but since bottoming is not possible for me anymore I’d like to find other ways to please my guy.

Due to the very individualized nature of this question, it sounds like something to ask your favorite/regular hire during a session or even book someone who does Skype sessions to talk about techniques

What escorts are into this?

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wet_and_messy_fetishism

I've had several enjoyable experiences with someone who was really into it.

What does BF mean? Does it include anal. Does it include kissing?

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.

However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.

 

For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

There's been a couple threads on this over in the Ask An Escort forum - above is what I feel best describes what BFE can mean.

Further reading: https://m4m-forum.org/threads/a-true-bfe.139729/

Also - treating sex as pretty much anything other than an explorative conversation about connection and affirmation that we're having using our bodies and psyches is doing ourselves a disservice, in my opinion.

I think one trouble in answering this question comes from the idea of "actual sex" - that itself means different things for different people.

What people seek from a sexual encounter varies person to person.

Soft intimacy, naked cuddling, bound and gagged, fisting - these are all activities that tap into one's sensual, sexual self.

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.

However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.

For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

Why do I get a feeling a would-be-client asking that is not a good thing?

 

How would you answer?

I find "Do you have any limits?" a bit of a red flag versus a much more appropriate "What are your limits?" --

Main issue is that safety doesn't appear to be a priority and harm would be likely to occur.

There's a bit of a dismissal of the provider as human - because I guarantee that just about every person has limits and theoretical client is just not recognizing that aspect of the provider's humanity.

(Not saying that *consensual* objectification/dehumanization can't be a fun avenue to explore... But only after a trust dynamic has been established)

For me personally, this would also indicate that the client hasn't read my site as I go into great detail about my interests/limits on there

IMO, it all depends on the escort - on average, I imagine there's likely to be some form of up-charge.

Skilled

Why thank you @Keith30309

In the S&M rules, besides consent, can someone clarify what is the stance of drugs during play? (I'm pretty sure I read it's "no", but I want to double check).

Seconding @honcho re: drugs impairing one's ability to judge when damage occurs.

Some don't carry out scenes if any party involved has a drop of alcohol in them.

General guidelines for kink/BDSM play:

Keep everything

- Safe

- Sane

- Consensual

Incorporating drug use into a scene ticks none of those boxes.

That being said, many of those who seek a rougher playstyle / have more "intense" fetishes also often use drugs as a way to either distract from pain or to tap into the darker/intense headspace.

I find it preferable when people are able to tap into those spaces without the use of drugs, not to mention the safety/health/legal aspects.

I'm east of Atlanta. But don't mind traveling anywhere in metro area. Or can host. I'm looking for someone who enjoys or would enjoy playing the doctor in a doctor/patient role play. I look forward to hearing from you.

Hey @zatchoo - I'm based in Atlanta and open to role-play scenarios - quite enjoy crafting them actually.

Wouldn't this post be better suited in the "Lounge" section? Or perhaps "Fetishes" - eavesdropping could definitely be considered a kink

(Unless I'm missing its relevancy)

Congrats! Your first time is always memorable!

@JudasKane (AKA KinkyBoyfriend) in Atlanta is both a sweet and passionate kisser :D:D

D'aw shucks, thank you @Keith30309

I think kissing is essential to experiencing chemistry

This is one of my favorite things to do!