I’ve pursued working exclusively as an escort and never ventured into porn for the simple fact that I do not require the validation most young men seek from filming. I’ve always felt one pursuing a career as a porn actor wants the accompanying visibility, access, the “fame,” the attention. I feel the escort, who works exclusively as an escort keeps himself at a slight remove from the vortex that is the porn industry. That is not to say that escorting is less treacherous territory by any means, but I certainly do not feel gay men, already susceptible to mental health issues, benefit any from being a porn actor. Consider all of the unfortunate suicides that have occurred in the industry.
I do not look down upon porn actors but I do feel those who escort bear an exclusive element that no porn actor can ever obtain once his first film goes live. The world over has digitally fucked you once you’ve had sex on film. Escorts can say, not everyone has access to them, nor has everyone had them (digitally), and they, we, get to choose who has access to us. Our privacy is still very much in our hands. There is still exclusivity, there is mystery, and the only expectation the escort has to live up to is the one a prospective client has created in his mind, not one that is meticulously crafted and that can be streamed on PornHub innumerable times until the allure is gone.
Has nothing to do with resting on one’s laurels when the porn runs dry, and while a valid point, everyone’s reasons are individual. I think porn actors look down upon escorts because it requires a skillset they do not have. And if this forum is to be a receipt, reviews of porn actors are usually less than stellar. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.