nycman

My end game?...my "end game"...is the door hitting him in the ass on his way out empty handed. It's a two way street. I have no problem with a provider having a "payment up front" policy. I personally would never agree to it and would never meet someone who had such a requirement. Nonetheless, I support the right of any business man to conduct his business any way he chooses. Waiting until your in my hotel room to reveal your "requirement"....gets you quickly but politely shown to the door. I used to give escorts a chance to "back down" from their request. Even those that did...I regretted it. They still were crappy escorts....so now I just ask them to leave. Period.

Overall the rules aren’t that hard to abide by and for the most part management seems to side with “freedom of speech”, which being an occasional wisecracking loud mouth.... I appreciate. Open discourse is the crux of any civilized society. Nonetheless, we have to remember this isn’t our house and we are all “guests” here. None of us has an unalienable “right” to anything in these forums. Not even free speech. Not even a “fair” application of the “rules”. Not even a voice in how things are done.

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Honestly, I find this fascinating. I assume you can get off solo when you’re alone? If so, that pretty much rules out your plumbing as the source of your problem and points to your brain as the “problem” organ. I’d suggest hiring one of the older and more experienced escorts listed here. Ones that specialize in sexual health and/or healing. You need someone who’s willing to take the time and effort required to get your cock out from under the control of your repressive brain. As we’ve seen here...sometimes painfully....the cock is always the stronger organ....if he’s given 1/2 a chance. I predict once you manage to get off with another man 2-3 times...the “issue” will gradually solve itself. It’s going to take long hard work...both mentally and physically ....but come on....it’s the most fun homework assignment you’re EVER going to get!

I don’t think anything guarantees Derek will show up. There will always be others with bigger, better, or more treats. Derek will obviously choose the biggest fish he can catch at that moment. He knows full well that the fish he cuts bait on....even without notice.... will bite again another time regardless of how poorly he treats them. But truth is, no one here can claim any longer they don’t know what they signed up for when they contact Derek. He might show up. You may have an ok time. You MIGHT even have a really good time. But the odds are not in your favor. Only a loser goes to a casino that gives really crappy odds....then again....Vegas wasn’t built on winners.

Life’s full of tough choices....ain’t it? - Ursula from The Little Mermaid Client handbook....Rule #45.

Hey, you gotta pay extra....for the “two-tone” model.

I’d be willing to take a chance. Those tats would be easy to pick out, and even easier to call the dude out if it’s not him. So true. This needs to go in the “Client Manual”. I suggest Rule #18.

Your “negative” is my “realistic”. I was trying to use humor to help you understand that your making a bad decision and more likely than not you’ll end up with a wasted night in Vegas. Obviously, you’re an adult and you’re free to make as many bad decisions as you want.....have fun.

Sometimes you feel “nothing”. Sometimes the emotions come later. Sometimes they don’t. Breath, and be...that’s all you can do.

Seriously....how much more information do you need? Please make sure you post when you’re all alone at the bar in Vegas after he’s stood you up and you’re crying into your drink saying, “I should have known better”. Yes, you should have....and that makes your salty tear taste all the sweeter!

As a caveat.....I’ve never met the man. But it reminds me of a time a somewhat famous young man on whom I had a mini-crush decided to transition. As usual, he was not what one would call a classic female beauty. I lamented to a good friend...”but he was such a beautiful BOY!” To which my friend calmly replied...”he was never a boy”. It was an eye opening moment for me.

Thanks for the update. I hate when people ask for advice...and then we never hear anything. Kinda like someone ripped the final chapter out of a book we were reading. Glad you found someone who was right for you. When the chemistry is right, it’s priceless.

I keep rereading that NYTimes review of the new cast.... It goes in circles and I still can’t figure out if they liked it or not. Isn’t that the definition of a poorly written review?

He hasn’t had the easiest life. I wish him well.

No, because your only 2 posts ever...are in this thread. Welcome to the forum....Brian.

As someone who had a thing for the “Gotti” boys from the early years of reality TV.....that sure was a disappointment. Talk about a body covered in bad decisions and regret..... and that’s coming from someone who LIKES tattoos!

Don’t bother. Unfortunately, he’s a mess. Feel free to PM

Damn...I want that gig! I’ll fuck ya for a nice bottle of wine....no problem! Grin

I’ve had a few give notice and say “goodbye”. It’s always been appreciated. Even a “whammer” like me gets attached sometimes and it’s nice to have closure. Most have just drifted off, which is certainly understood and ok as well. Never had someone be a “jerk” about it. If they were I certainly wouldn’t entertain seeing them again under any circumstances. As you experienced, the “magic” is ruined and it will never be the same. To date, any of my “regulars” who have “moved on” would be welcomed back with open arms. It’s just never happened so far.

Wait....I’m supposed to provide drinks and snacks? That wasn’t in the manual..... Just when were you fuckers planning on telling me??. Jesus! I’ve been doing it wrong for years! Grin

I would imagine it’s a lot like most bachelor parties I’ve attended. The “crowd” is everything. 1-2 “stick in the muds” and it’s a disaster. 2-3 “partiers” with a willing posse and it’s the time of your life. In my experience, the younger guys always look to the older guys in the group to set the tone. As I’ve grown older I’ve tried to be cognoscent of my responsibility to have some fun and let the younger guys know it’s ok to cut loose a little. I mean, come on! You're on a boat, with booze and strippers!.... you came here to have F-U-N!

To each his own. Looks dippy to me and has kept me from hiring him for some time. My loss.

What did we learn? If you’re going to be more than 5 minutes late....let the other person know. In today’s world....it’s so easy. Back before cell phones....I remember waiting over an hour at the base of the Empire State Building for a date from Long Island to pick me up. Don’t ask me why....but I just KNEW he would show. Happy ending...he did. An accident in the midtown tunnel had him stuck. He was frantic and couldn’t believe I waited. Kids today have it soooo easy!

By “in”...he means “only”. It’s fun, and packed Fri/Sat nights, but it’s a typical medium size town gay bar. Everyone knows everyone. A few nice strippers, but nothing spectacular when I’ve been there. Amen. I usually go with straight friends and hang out with them. It’s a fun, but not particularly “gay”, town. If you must hire I’d suggest doing tons of research first and only hiring well known and well reviewed men. The fake/flake/hustler to real/fun/hot ratio is incredibly high and you will get burned....a lot. If you’ve got the time and money, your best bet is to import men from the West coast. Most of them love coming to Vegas and it’s a short fligh.