I had a buddy unexpectedly die who wasn’t out to his family.
We lived on opposite coasts. I had to call his best friend (who
was straight and in the dark about his best friend being gay),
and ask him to go into the apartment to straighten it up.
After the initial shock, he handled it remarkably well, other than
being really upset that his best friend didn’t trust him enough to
be honest with him.
It was mildly humorous when he later called to asked me, “did you
know he had a thing for big dick black guys“? No in fact, I did not.
So we all learned something new that afternoon.