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Just now, WilliamM said:

@J.Applegate

 

When did you because a hall monitor here? Members frequently refer to members prior comments.

So they do. It still made no sense. :-)

10 minutes ago, WilliamM said:

Read my comment again.

I was referring to Ethel Merman needing voice lessons. By the way, I saw Ethel in "Gypsy" twice,  encores would have been at odds with Jerry's direction. (Jerry Robbins).

I read your comment a number of times, and somehow expected, or hoped, that your reference to the composers did relate back to encores. Because the quip about Merman and voice lessons really has nothing to do with this thread lol. It doesn't matter what jeezifonly said once, it has nothing to do with the conversation. :-)

I would hope we all know that "Jerry" referred to Robbins. Did he let you call him Jerry? :-) I'm also not sure what Gypsy has to do with Cole Porter or encores at all. I also think that by the 50's, even planned, written encores were not so much a thing anymore. (One of the only examples of planned encores I can think of after that was the 60's revival of "The Boys from Syracuse," that has 2 short encores for "Sing For Your Supper" in the score. And of course the meta-joke in "The Drowsy Chaperone" where the song "Show Off" has a written encore built into the show that starts with "I don't wanna encore no more...")

On 8/7/2021 at 3:02 AM, jeezifonly said:

I appreciate that European opera audiences have so much love and just can’t help themselves, and are not sated without encores.

I hate encores in a staged performance. It dishonors the composition.

I also hate a curtain call after every act. It dishonors my bladder. 

 

I tend to think encores in a comic opera (especially a "numbers" opera such as La Fille Du Regiment or Don Pasquale, etc) are perfectly fine - the composers most likely were open to this as well. In more dramatic operas with a tauter musical fabric, I agree with you. I'm also not fond of putting in extra endings or stopping the score in places that weren't written in that way. (the artificial stop at the end of "E lucevan le stelle," for instance, drives me nuts). Much as I understand the "historically informed"  desire to encore "Va pensiero," I don't like it - it doesn't really serve any dramatic purpose, in an opera where keeping the dramatic through-line going helps the piece tremendously. 

I've never liked the curtain calls mid-opera either, but it's not a bladder issue lol, more that for me it takes away from the "suspension of disbelief." It's one thing to have an intermission, but I don't like seeing the singers step out of character at those points. 

Having bene musical director for a number of the G&S pieces, it's amazing to look at the old Kalmus orchestra parts to see the word "encore" written in so many places that we today would find ridiculous. (Most often today, the patter aria may get an encore, but that's about it.)

11 minutes ago, WilliamM said:

Gershwin and Berlin and Porter disagree with you

Huh? 

Generally, any "encores" in a musical theatre piece are planned and written in as part of the show. 

Also, are you talking about the same Porter that had to cut one of his own songs in Anything Goes because Merman herself insisted on an encore of "I Get A Kick Out Of You?" 

(And of course none of this - meaning your post, William - has anything to do with opera, or jeezifonly's comment.)

I wrote him once to try to find some of that out. And I got back A VERY VERY LONG FORM-LETTER TYPE ANSWER, ALL SHOUTED IN CAPS, AND NOT PARTICULARLY FRIENDLY OR HELPFUL. 

I passed on this one. 

1 minute ago, lonely_john said:

Unfortunately there is nothing on the Rentmen reviews system to signal that one provider could be good at this. This is why I will always read the reviews to find some insights about the provider.

Speaking of which - it used to be possible, with a VPN, to read any specific client comments on the RM reviews, but lately that doesn't seem to be working for me. Does anyone know if that's a change on RM's end, or should I just try a different VPN? 

On 8/2/2021 at 2:47 AM, xax said:

Just to clarify, I was not thinking of hiring an escort to talk through my breakup. I have a therapist and friends for that. I would be hiring for a sexual reason, but more in the hopes that it would be somehow emotionally healing for me vs simply fulfilling a carnal desire. 

I tend to think it would not be emotionally fulfilling in the long run, though it might well be in the moment. But I'd say if you put too much expectation in it, you could be setting yourself up for more depression afterwards. If you can simply enjoy the moment for what it is, that's great, though. 

I couldn't get past the gay skinhead puppets during the prelude. I'm very interested in listening to this, but I don't think I can watch it. 

7 minutes ago, tsgarp said:

...and he's gone.

My! People come and go so quickly here!

2 hours ago, Merboy said:

There was a trans guy at a college I saw once and my god did this guy have girls crawling all over him.  He had this Alpha God thing going on.

I would wonder - did the girls know? (I imagine it's a bit of a delicate dance to come out as trans to a prospective date, even moreso than coming out as gay.)

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

Escorts are good at fulfilling sexual needs but the profession is not designed to take care of the emotional. That's what your friends are for.

I think some escorts are glad to meet for all sorts of reasons outside the bedroom. And some may be good listeners who are glad to provide a sympathetic ear. Friends are wonderful, of course, but sometimes people do feel the need to turn to someone else - maybe someone impartial, someone new, etc. 

I've told the story out here of the guy who has been my only "regular," who I also consider a friend even though I do hire him as an escort - and the time a few years ago that he made a last-minute visit to help me through a very emotional time. He was incredible to me, and helped in all sorts of ways beyond the usual. (And no, we didn't have sex that day, though he did offer a therapeutic non-sexual massage, which was awesome.) Yes, he's someone I knew previously and had already established a nice relationship with, but he still didn't need to help me the way he did. I couldn't be more grateful. 

I think that if one is looking for a session that is more a cuddle/talk/get your feelings out kind of thing, just tell your escort of choice that's what you're looking for, and if they feel they're up for that kind of meeting, why not? And certainly if you're just looking for an hour or two of wild sex to put your energy into something other than grieving, that's perfectly valid too. As long as you know that you *may* find yourself just where you left off afterwards. But that doesn't mean you can't enjoy the time fully. Carpe escort. :-)

1 minute ago, jeezifonly said:

Once transitioned, does the shift in hormones change (soften…) the overall strength of scent/flavor of the puss? I’m more fascinated by the topography than ever as I have developed an understanding of other interior…designs.

I'm probably not the best guy to answer as I have never been with a cis woman - but I will say in the trans experiences I've had there really has been no particular scent I've noticed. As far as taste, I sense a bit of sweetness when I really get my tongue inside, but nothing really around the clit/labia area. 

To be more blunt, no fish. But then again I've been told that that's more of a myth or at least not something to be expected if the area is clean. 

I would bet, though, that a guy used to cis females might be able to make a better comparison. 

@xax, the original poster - may I just say that no matter what you decide to do, know that you have all of us out here that feel terrible that you're going through a bad time. We've all been through bad breakups (I will assume) and we all know that feeling you describe. We can give you advice on whether to see an escort or not, but I think more importantly we can tell you that we have your back, and that we wish you the best. 

I have hired a few, mainly because yes, as a very orally-centric guy, I do have an interest in exploring "down there" but never had with a cis woman - but I really liked the idea of trying it with a trans guy. (As I've told them, I really like the feeling of the male presence, even with the female parts.)

It's been fun. All three of the trans guys I've met have been very friendly, very sensual/sexual, and very eager to help me broaden my experiences. 

There are two trans guys currently advertising on RM in Boston, one I met recently and the other I hope to hire in the near future. The one I met, a few weeks ago - I told him that not only would I love some more experience (with some friendly guidance as well), but that my real dream would be to be able to bring a trans guy to orgasm. He told me (as the others have also) that just oral probably wouldn't be enough to do that. But guess what - I wound up giving him a clitoral orgasm, which he seemed very surprised about. That made me feel really special, lol. 

I am sure I will plan to continue hiring trans guys - I'm glad that they are more visible than they used to be. 

1 minute ago, Wanderoz said:

So, anybody naru'ed with him?

Ha! And did if you did, did he get bird?

I guess I'm out of the loop. Never heard of "Naruto." I thought maybe his name was "Naru" (as in "Naru to get bird?") Ah, well...

What's with the name? 

I've only had limited experience with CBD in general (it was an escort regular and friend, who used to post here, that actually suggested it to me to help with my anxiety when I was going through it a few years ago), and unfortunately I don't think it did much for me. I won't say it doesn't work, and it could be a case of YMMV, but it does seem to me that CBD is being advertised as a cure-all for just about everything at the moment, and i wonder how true the claims really are. 

What I have been told, and tend to believe, is that CBD is not harmful (my GP who was also treating my anxiety told me it would be fine to try and he didn't expect any side effects from it), so I suppose it can't hurt to try it (no pun intended in this case), but I also wonder if it really does do all the things people try to say it does. 

5 minutes ago, WilliamM said:

Eddie said "Mrs Cleaver, what a beautiful dress, and Theodore  has improved his grades with that C-."

But imagine the things he could have said. “Gee, Wally, you’re really looking handsome in those new swim trunks…” 🙂

56 minutes ago, WilliamM said:

When I was a teen, I dreamed of taking a bath with Tony Dow, (Wally Cleaver).

Now I am Facebook friends with Tony Dow.

Now THAT's funny, lol. 

I'm still attracted to what I like to call the "Eddie Haskell" type - the guy who can turn on the charm but always has something mischievous going on underneath. I always thought it would be hot if Eddie tried to put the make on Wally, lol. 

1 hour ago, hwic04 said:

What a great thread! Thanks to all above who have posted such well informed incites. For those in the know, I have a question. Any idea on how much the “casting couch” contributes to the success of good looking actors? From what you’ve heard, how many hot guys (appx %) are asked for sex in exchange for being cast in a role? How many of today’s successful actors fall into that category?
 

I can't really address things in terms of today, but I can speak from experience with one actor - someone who played a lead role in a Broadway revival, who then came to do a summerstock production of the same show in Boston about 8 years later - I was rehearsal pianist and in the orchestra. I wasn't aware of the goings-on until the intermission on closing night, when one of the chorus girls was crying inconsolably backstage. It seemed he had made all sorts of promises to her in exchange for you-know-what, and then essentially blew her off. But it gets better - it seems he had been making his way through the whole ensemble - supposedly the boys as well - with similar promises of getting them to Broadway, etc. But of course he was all full of shit. I also understand that when they went to clean the room he had been staying in, they found condom wrappers all over the place, etc. 

There have also been common rumors for years about someone on the production/casting side of Les Miserables on Broadway and for the national tour, who was essentially a casting couch for the young men playing Marius and his understudy. I do know at least 2 actors who were young at that time and who told me they were propositioned by him, so I tend to believe the rumors. He's still active in NYC. 

I tend to think that since "me too" has been a much more active force, incidents are probably much less. But I think we can be sure they do happen. 

On 7/4/2021 at 4:30 PM, WilliamM said:

The Sound of Music on Broadway had so many twists and turns, it needed a much loved star who was also famous for Peter Pan on television.

I'm assuming you didn't really mean this verbatim - but - what did you mean? :-)

F-L-A-K-E. Flake. A flake and a ghoster. That is all I'll say. Not worth it. 

1 minute ago, FreshFluff said:

Fish tacos and corn elote.

I'm just discovering elote - not as part of Mexican street corn, but as a spice on its own. Yum!! 

1 hour ago, jeezifonly said:

What makes dark humor work is that both performer and audience mutually and silently agree the act/behavior/thought at the center of the joke is heinous, so much so that we KNOW the laugh comes from the absurdity of talking about it in a banal or sarcastic tone.  

They took a gamble that part of the audience did not know about the agreement. And that they would equate “convert” with “rape”.

That explains it really well - thanks! it's like, say, going to see The Book Of Mormon or Avenue Q - you're assumedly in on the joke from the beginning, so you know the kind of comedy you're looking at - and also what the truth behind the comedy is. 

However, it's not necessarily equating convert with rape, though yes, that's possible too. Just the idea that a gay man could influence the sexuality of a child is a prevalent myth as it is. (The idea, of having an openly gay teacher is not maybe so much that he'd try to seduce anyone in the class, just that he would have the ability to turn them gay. Silly or not, I think there are people that still believe that.)