Monarchy79

Great points made in this interesting discussion. I think that a lot of times, people tend to define one’s irritation with “effeminate”, “catty”, extreme behavior as homophobic, but thanks to @gymowner’s comment stating that women don’t even act this way, it finally daunted in me what I would consider it: TOXIC FEMININITY. For me, I realized this once I was in my gym locker room and two gay guys were talking in the language that was just discussed. A lot of “yass bitch”, “gurl”, and other things. And when I think about it, it is somewhat toxic, and here’s why: 1.) just as toxic masculinity places a smear over the true characteristics of what makes a man alluring and respectable, toxic femininity almost disrespects women, and turns the image of femininity into a caricature, almost a mockery. 2.) it’s behaviors doesn’t develop or enhance any charater traits at all, just as toxic masculinity doesn’t. 3.) toxic femininity creates unrealistic standards of behaviors, and perpetuates stereotypes of gay men, just as toxic masculinity goes for straight men. 4.) As a lifestyle where we are supposed to be welcoming and inclusive, toxic femininity is actually polarizing, as it baffles, turns off and offends so many people. It actually works in direct opposition with what society is supposed to be moving towards with LGBTQ Acceptance. 5.) It never seems natural or authentic. I truly believe that guys who behave to this extreme aren’t behaving “organically”. It’s entirely too much.

Please don’t call ghosting a “norm”, that gives the impression that it’s acceptable, and it’s not.

The whole “ghosting”, thing is just foul, dissmissive, and cowardly. It shows such a disregard for others. Ironically, those who behave this way, cry the hardest, when Karma comes in and serves it back to them triple-fold. Hopefully more people will realize that how you treat others is your way of telling the universe how to treat you.

☺️.... I agree, but I wouldn’t classify this as the traditional definition of racism. These beliefs and actions teeter along a fine line, as in circumstances like this, the customer didn’t have bad or hate-filled intentions, and his methods of “seduction” probably worked in some instances. Exploitation based on negative stereotypes happens commonly with a lot of interracial sex and dating, and my antennas are usually “on”, to ensure that if someone is interested in me, it’s because of “me”, and not the idea of some fetishized novelty, created in a scene in a porno. I think overall, we try to identify with people of other ethnicities in ways to make them comfortable, but then wind up making the mistake of using stereotypes from bad sources, which wind up looking stupid and offensive. At the end of the day, we are all humans, and should focus on what turns each other on by our sensual and metaphysical responses to sight, touch, smell and energy.... and have fun doing it☺️??

Right. I’m soooo waiting for him to respond back, with details that involve his luring of the black man with such temptations and trappings as: 1.) weed 2.) a bucket of fried chicken in the case of the post-smoking “munchies”, 3.) an available Sony PlayStation console 4.) the alluring sounds of rap music blasting in the background, to provide an ambience to make him comfortable 5.) and a pack of magnums and a bottle of Hennessy on the nightstand to set the mood. Smh.... Nothing more entertaining that fetishizing someone based on archaic stereotypes, isn’t it?

Hey, great post ?? Please share more details on the methods you use to please a black man. Your insight may help us all. Kind Regards, M

Just had a massage with Eli, Everything that was positively stated is true. Best massage I’ve had all year. Strong guy, who worked out every knot and kink. Even used his knees to glide and massage my back and hamstrings. The Thai stretching was excellent. He’s a cool guy, and he’s has a cool sense of humor too. You get a real massage, which I love. If you like a good thorough massage, Eli is your guy. I’ll let others discuss the other aspects of massage that you may be curious about, as I don’t want that to take away from this man’s skill. He’s exceptional, and I feel great!!! He’s on my “holy grail” list.

Me too!!! ???????????

I just got hard, wet, and the chills just seeing his name.... that’s one sexy, intense man!!! Whew!!! I’ve never left a massage so worn out, drained, spent and relaxed!!!

What you’re looking for is extremely hard to find, and one specific reason is that those who receive massages in formal spas that go beyond therapeutic understand the critical nature of confidentiality in this matter, and will never ever tell. I have a professional massage therapist, in a high end spa where I live and the massages always go beyond therapeutic. He specifically has told me never to tell anyone about this, and my lips have been sealed shut for the past two years. I’ll never mention him here either.

Most people do not deserve forgiveness, as they rarely apologize or atone for their wrongful ways. I’m my life, people who have wronged me either: 1.) don’t apologize, and expect “time”, to run it’s course and make everything okay, or 2.) give a half-assed-slap-in-the-face “I’m sorry you feel that way”, types of apologies. In my younger years, I’d seek revenge. Now, I forget and forgive myself altogether (yes, forgiveness is about YOU, and freeing yourself from the stress of animosity, not the other person), move on, and permanently eliminate the person from my life. You can forgive without involving the culprit in your life again. You don’t need to step in shit twice, to know that it stinks...

You just stated the perfect lesson in LIFE. ?????

Thanks for the reminder. I guess every single poster to this forum is in violation, as we ALL have exercised an idea of free speech with every single comment posted here, including yours. So either we all are wrong, or we all are right. But what I will not accept is any commenter being singled out or targeted because his opinion of beliefs may not be the popular opinion. There should be a general mutual respect among members of any group. Point blank.

First of all, I don’t whine, bitch or complain. Also, I’ve NEVER been a victim. I clearly say what I feel, and I don’t disrespect others who have their opinions. What I don’t appreciate is bitchy assWHOLES who attempt at annoying me with snippy comments, insults and comments. This is a open forum, where ALL opinions should be respected and regarded. And before you ever address me again, I would suggest you hop off of those raw penises you regularly sit on, and review my posts and properly READ and COMPREHEND them, before posting uniformed, snippy, bitchy, insulting comments. One thing I don’t do is disrespect others. Yet, here you are, using profanity, and “attempting”, to call me out on my “shit”. Well let me call you out on your shit: 1.) you’re a blasphemous hypocrite. You post commentary on an escort’s barebacking choices, when in fact, that escort has the SAME ideologies on sex practices as you do!! Yet you judge him. 2.) Your initial post is flat out contradictory in every sense of the word. The fact that you prefer bareback actually had no relevance to the story until YOU decided to include it. Then had the audacity to confront me for making a comment on MY practices. Again, your lack of comprehension clearly was displayed, as others on the same forum addressed this. 3.) You should have listened to that “inner voice”, that told you “that’s his right” because it is my RIGHT, and I will always excercise it. So for future reference, watch your tone, and be more respectful. Maybe you’ll learn something one day. Warm Regards, Your Sincerest Reality Check. ?

Thank for such a warm invitation. ?

Yeah, and you just exercised that “ liberty” when you posted your comment. Fellow fundamentalist...... ?

I guess many people missed it, as I’m not the only person who commented about barebacking. Yet, you didn’t address them, and they responded directly to you.

I won’t debate with anyone today. I’ll jusy say this: I’ve been a condom user for 22 years, and I’ve never contracted an STD and am HIV negative. Judge me if you like, and call me silly and “old fashioned”. Gay guys see PrEP the same way that straights see the birth control pill. They’re focus is on protection from ONE thing, and the others are ignored.

https://www.modernhealthcare.com/safety-quality/prep-use-linked-increased-std-risk-study-shows

http://www.hivequal.org/homepage/study-finds-increase-in-stis-after-starting-prep

Preach!!!!! ??????????????

You’re not old fashioned. You just have common sense ???

Also, if you don’t mind, I’d like to pick your brain, explaining your accusations of homophobia and sexism, in a separate private PM, as we both have “smart ass”, tendencies, and don’t want this to turn into a pissing match of posts...

Ok..... but calling my observations homophobic and sexist, really isn’t a “challenge”....but more of a “delusion”. ??? ?????