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    Adam4Adam masseurs

    in Spas & Masseurs

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    Hi, curious to know if anyone has booked a masseur who advertises of Adam4Adam in the Los Angeles area and if you had success finding massage therapists who are trained?  It’s easy to spit the posts who are just looking to hook up, but not sure about some of the other posts. Typically use rentmasseur or masseurfinder, but curious to know about A4A. 

    Were you in a college fraternity?

    in The Lounge

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    12 hours ago, dutchal said:

    I joined and it was one of the best decisions of my life.  Not only did I end up with dozens and dozens of really good friends, with many of whom I'm still in touch, but all the different committees and activities and programs and such taught me invaluable practical lessons about how to get things done in a group that I have used throughout my career, lessons you'll get in no classroom.

    One of the guys who was a senior when I joined (and on whom I had a minor crush) later died of AIDS.  One of my pledge brothers came out in his 30s I think it was.  Other than that, don't know of any who were gay or bi out of about 150 who I knew while in school, but there must be more.

    No one identified as gay in my chapter but it was pretty clear (thanks to Gaydar) who actually was. One guy was discovered because he ended up with nude layouts in Blueboy, Men and some other gay magazines. I ran into a few brothers at gay clubs after graduation. This was in the early 90’s. 

    Were you in a college fraternity?

    in The Lounge

    Posted

    On 3/29/2022 at 8:04 AM, Epigonos said:

    This thread brings back many wonderful memories.  It all seems like yesterday yet when I add up the years it is actually nearly 60 years ago.  Damn time flies.

    Over 35 years for me. Still on the Alumni mailing list…and still getting hit up quarterly for donations and dues. Lol :)  Too be honest, I would be puzzled when the alumni would come around to hang out after graduating over 10 years ago….  

    Unconscious bias

    in The Lounge

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    I’ve been with my current company for 35 years and feeling the need to pursue something new in the near future if my work environment doesn’t improve. I am 58yo and wondering if there might be hiring biases due to my age and closer to retirement than a fresh face out of college?  
     

    I work in retail and have had many assignments working my way up the ladder. I’ve been in leadership assignments for the last 20 years and have a current team of 250 employees and 23 leaders. I have also been a buyer and planner for 10 years which was an amazing job but a crazy travel schedule. 
     

    It would be a big change for me considering I’ve been a loyal employee for as long as i have and wonder if I would be a viable candidate at my age for positions similar to what I have experience in?  I’ve always wondered if employers steered away from those closer to retirement age? I know labor laws prohibit age discrimination, however I’m always concerned about hiring biases that might be unconscious and not given a fair opportunity? 
     

    I haven’t started any steps in seeking employment other than my LinkedIn profile and available to recruiters. When I did not post a salary requirement, I was getting bombarded by headhunters. When I included my current salary (and then lowered it by $15k), I have not received any recruiting inquiries. Im not feeling inspired working with my current VP and looking for some options (or hoping she gets a new assignment soon - unlikely) 

    Adonis LA

    in Male Strip Clubs

    Posted

    Yes, I do get all of Matt’s emails for both LA and NYC. I really do hope that fubar reopens. It’s odd that no one has taken over the space and it still has the Fubar name on the awning. A lot of fun and action in that little place. Not sure where all the other promoters moved their parties too

    2022 Palm Springs Weekend

    in The Lounge

    Posted

    13 hours ago, Pensant said:

    I don’t know what it’s like since work from home, but the 91 then 60 eastbound can be a parking lot from Yorba Linda to past Moreno Valley.

    The 10 and 210 east are not much easier from the 57 until you get close to Redlands!

    Overwhelmed and in a rut

    in The Lounge

    Posted · Edited by Antonio1981
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    Not sure what I’m expecting by posting here, but wanted to sort my thoughts and feelings out in writing. I would typically feel like someone who is in control of life and can handle obstacles. Lately, circumstances have changed significantly and I’m beginning to feel slightly overwhelmed by a handful of things. 
     

    My father had a stroke almost 2 years ago and is in an assisted living home. He is physically disabled due to the right side of his body losing function. He has been going to physical therapy since his stroke. He goes 4 days a week - I take him one day a week so he doesn’t need to take a Van. My 20yo nephew takes him one day a week and my sister meets him for his sessions twice a week when he takes a Van. I know my dad enjoys seeing us and it keeps him involved as if he were physically at home. He wants to come home and is determined, however it will take some time since my mom cannot take care of him. They are both 81yo. 
     

    My mother is in the family home and my nephew is living with her. She is hearing impaired, stubborn and unadapted to any form of technology. She still functions as if it were 1995 and it’s very challenging for us when we can make things easier. She still balances the checkbook instead of allowing us to do online banking. She won’t use a smartphone and wants a new landline phone with answering machine. Many more antiquated things I won’t bother listing. I feel horrible for my newphew who should be living the life of a 20yo college student. I know he is getting irritated and frustrated with having to live with her (he grew up in our parents home because my brother was a single dad. He passed 2 years ago when my nephew was 18…a few months afterward, my dad had his stroke).
     

    I work and have a team of 200+ employees which is a whole other animal. My commute is 40 miles each way thru the LA Valley. I leave for work at 7:00am and get home around 7:00pm. My days off are tending to my parents and checking in on my nephew - I’ve been worried about him since his dad passed and watching for signs of depression, etc.  With all this responsibility and people relying on me, I feel like I have lost my sense of self. On top of this, it was recently brought to my attention from HR that some employees had concerns about my leadership approach so this is another issue that I’m going to have to deal with. This came to my attention a few days ago and I was caught completely off guard and trying to wrap my head around these perceptions. I feel like I need to loop my manager in and give her a heads up since I’m sure it will escalate to her. She’s a tough one to speak to because she comes across and intimidating and rehearsed. 
     

    Lastly, I have a provider who bothers me every week to see about getting together. I have told him that I’m super busy and don’t have time (or mood) to see him at the moment, but he won’t stop. The last thing I need is another “commitment” when I can barely fulfill my current ones. Like I stated, I haven’t been able to do some of the simple things I’ve had time for in the past - going to the gym, taking weekend trips to Palm Springs, socialize, have flexible scheduling for doctor, hair or any appointments. My plate is full. I need a break. But I’m a giver at heart. My dad told me I should take time and enjoy life. I looked at him like he was insane.  I don’t share too much with others so I dont expect him to understand all of my commitments. I have worked hard since I was 16, missed family occasions, milestones, etc and always put work first. I now realize that i needed more balance, but my family is very driven. At 58, I’m experiencing burnout.  I feel like I’ve been stuck the last couple of years. I’ve wanted to move for the last few years but haven’t. I have wanted to buy a new car, but always feel like I could lose my job at a moments notice with this boss that I report to. I have been with this company for 35 years and worked for my current manager for 4 years. 
     

    I have wanted to see a therapist, but that is another commitment I can’t squeeze into my schedule. I want to workout since it’s been about 3 years since I’ve been in a gym. I used to workout with a trainer - that got me to the gym since I was paying for the session. He since moved to Arizona and I haven’t hired another one - but that would be another commitment to add to my full schedule. 
     

    I’m overwhelmed. I don’t know why I can’t seem to take the first step to get out of this rut. And to be honest, this employee complaint is wearing heavily on me right now which is why I’m probably feeling out of control. 

    411 on Armond in Los Angeles

    in Spas & Masseurs

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    10 hours ago, LaCapGuy87 said:

    Booked him. Had on the shortest of shorts with a t-shirt. Sweet ass and bulge, but nothing happened. Massage was above average, but would've been perfect had it come with extra. Didn't book again. 

    What a bummer. Short shorts on fit guys are my weakness. Especially when they fill them our perfectly front and back. 

    Escort “pestering”

    in The Deli

    Posted

    I have a provider that is borderline stalking me and it’s getting a bit uncomfortable.  I get a text once/twice a week, consistently for the past 2 years ask if I’m coming over on Sunday. Without fail. He has asked many times if I can commit to a weekly meeting. Even though I have said NO and have met him once a month or so, he has not let up. When I do see him, I get the guilt trip. Then he will ask questions that makes me think he’s googling my name and looking up any info on me.  Asked if my dads name was Alan. Asked if I lived on Alfred St, etc.  I don’t know how to break free without this turning into blackmail or drama. 

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